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Love is a powerful thing. So when a loved one calls or emails, saying they’re in trouble, you’d want to help, right? If they ask you to send cash immediately — should you follow your heart?

The short answer is: no. Unfortunately, scammers pretend to be someone you know to trick you into sending money. They might pressure you to wire money quickly to help with an emergency — to get out of jail, pay a hospital bill, or leave a foreign country. 

In the rush to help, you might not stop and think: does this make sense? But even if the story sounds legitimate, take a minute and run through these steps:

  • Stop. Don’t act immediately, no matter what they say the crisis is.
  • Check with the person who seems to be in trouble. Use a number or email address that you know is right. Check out the story. If you don’t reach the person immediately, check with someone who might know his or her situation. If the caller says not to tell any other family members or friends, that’s a sign of a scam.
  • Don’t wire money to anyone who asks you to. Wiring money is like sending cash — once you send it gone, it’s gone. The same goes for prepaid debit cards. Nobody ever needs to be paid in prepaid debit cards.

If you think you’ve responded to a scam, report it immediately to the FTC or call 1-877-FTC-HELP.

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Thanks for the valuable input.
But the FTC is unable to render any help despite the facts even if the all the information/profiles of the scam ester are provided?

I sent my complaint into the BBB.

You can also file a consumer complaint with the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) at it's important to submit a formal complaint because investigators from all over the country access the FTC's database and these complaints could help in their investigations.

I have been scammed big time!

We recently had an (80 yr.old) lady in our neighborhood who responded: not once, but twice !!! to the tune of $3,000 each time to a frantic call from her 'granddaughter' whom the caller stated that she needed bail money. The elderly lady didn't do any of the (above ) and was out $6 grand.

I am a real Investigator who is investigating this group of scammers. I need phone numbers of the scammers.

The FTC's Consumer Sentinel Network provides civil and criminal enforcement organizations immediate and secure access to identity theft, internet, telemarketing (including do not call), and other consumer related complaints. If you're a member of law enforcement, read more at the Consumer Sentinel site.

i have both phone numbers of the scammers - it just happened to my father this evening.

I got someone saying they need money to get their inheritance and it sounds fishy, we've been friends on fb for a year and she's constantly trying to get me send money he she tried to get me to open accounts with capital one and American express and PayPal, anyways I'm still getting more info but if you wanna check this out her number is 331  and the name on facebook is angel br from Chicago but she has an elgin Illinois address I think it's 309 W avenue Elgin Illinois 60123 I've checked yellow pages for that address and there is no records of her anywhere but the address is legit

Sounds like the girl I'm talking to

well I don't have a phone number for him but I have his name on Facebook. He is a military soldier and he have been talking on Facebook for about a little over a month. He asked me to send him some money so he can apply for vacation and come home. He wanted me to send it to his agent and then his agent will sent it to him. His Facebook name is Rodney Scott and I want to know if he is who he say he is

FACEBOOK! Ohhhhh just hearing your words makes me want to cry. This is where I met a young white army guy thought I looked pretty or some crazy something. Well, such remarks always make me think SCAM! I will chat a bit and not be rude, but always end up blocking when it becomes blatantly obvious, which many times has been within that first conversation.

Well, I'm deeply hurt to realize I may well have fallen for ONE of these guys. They always have some military affiliation it seems. Tis very likely they have never been in the military in any way. If they promise to visit you, don't expect them to show. If you question events, they will get quickly irritated and/or explain your concerns away.... they do not divulge details of anything you question either. My guess is that's a no no!

And it would APPEAR that they are more than willing to invest a good amount of time in convincing you they are sincere and love you and oh so many other mind & heart manipulations you will get dizzy tryin to keep up..... until at last you accept that you have truly met your soulmate.

Honey, if you use Facebook, you SHOULD know that ANYone with internet access can create an account (or SEVERAL) and use absolutely any name they like... even legit accounts. I don't use MY real name on there. People who KNOW me are aware of that. You can report them, as I have done, but they will either create a NEW account or just use one of the others that have not yet been reported.

I've found that most have next to nothing on their wall. A few profile pics and maybe a handful of likes or even a couple comments - either by potential family members or others they have been scamming. And if their story is convincing enough, even Facebook does nothing about it.

I could say so much more, but at this moment I am in heart break pain. more than 4 months and I was finally convinced... today I felt I had reason to check it out more and found this site. There IS a specific "Facebook scam" at LEAST in Africa.......... I called him on it early on and he admitted it, but then he swore on everything right that he would never lie to me again......


The same has happened to me! I fell big time for a bloke who said he was a petroleum engineer. His profile suggested he was middle aged and respectable. I didn't send money thankfully as alarm bells started to ring but I have been left heartbroken by this man as I fell for every line!
You're not alone!

What was the bloke's name and contact info? What site were you using? Sounds like you should report his profile to the site. Terrible scam, sounds like the same profile an older woman I know fell for and lost out big time. She is ashamed she fell for it now, but she wouldn't listen to anyone at the time, she was so in love. Just heartbreaking. It's a shame there is no recovery and no punishment for these scams.

oh my I am currently on hangouts with a military guy also fallin for him Has asked for money to send to a company we should see if he is the same guy

Hi I have had several guys from Words with Friends who have “fallen in love with me” lol. Is your guy named Novic Damir by chance?

I too fallen for Army guy on Hangouts and on Two he has asked me for ITune to still talk to me and now in West Africa wanting new iPhone Max for his birthday Foster Dennis Young 46

A guy sent me a friend request who says he's a contractor on an oil rig in the Gulf of Mexico and he wants me to send a fee to his agent so he can get a vacation leave to marry me...all after less than a week of talking on FB Messenger and Hangouts Messenger. His Face Book name is James Morgan and his agent's email address is tyler morrison 1471@ Please beware!

Dear mr. Robert My name is Christina , I has been scanned by the guy name Finn Pham ( it's not his real name) his phone number is 646 844 5146. He creates his new face book goes by Michael Nguyen ( the one in red shirt and holding his iphone, I know this photo is not belong to him, he stole someone photo to use as his. I still have information of the deposit happened in July 2015...thanks mr. Robert

I was proposed to ny ariko terry yellow rose and blue flower profile nothing about him at all he kept twxting son larry 14. orphan and widower.agent walter natty alias ogban marvellous and godbless eko guy says combat engineer on ship 57 14 stone he looks 40 on webcam and really slim about 11 stones.hes a liar wanted 1.200 for flight home told him i had to rest for a month hes stopped texting im a widow of 1 year its heartbreaking to be scammed after 35 years wed.a

Did you get your money back? I was scammed by a guy named Daniel N Le. His phone numbers are +1 (201) 293-7532
319-343-8038 254-300-1340 He claimed he is a civil engineer and his office is in Gambrills MD. He has multiple fake Facebook accounts, bank accounts, courier shipping website and many things else to convince you that he is real. Look up his fake listed business LE construction LLC., Gambrills, MD. It is all fake. Inlr ay he will get caught soon. It is $412,000 usd wired transfer, $138,000 credit card and $4,500 gift card. I felt like they casted a spell on me.

The number given as of 09/30/2016 809-914-8797

Someone just call my grandma saying it's was my brother he in DR 8298153877 stuck n needed $ to come back home to send it to adam white. Im glad my grandma call me cuz he not in DR like the caller claim. Had to tell my brother to call her so she can relax n not think the worst has happen to him cuz he was in a car accident. This just happen today 11\10\2016 at 1157am Florida/NY

I got scam for love $3000.00
His name is Sandro Giovanni 44-759-420-3376
a person played as a shipping company
Douglas Jones 313-437-8701

My mother was almost scammed out of $800 by a caller who said he was her grandson and needed money to get home. She was to wire the money to a Ryan Wilson at 18292289518. Thank goodness she called me to do it for her and I called my nephew. Hope you catch this scumbag that preys on old people.

Same guy got my mother-in-law yesterday for a total of 11063.00 she is elderly and didn't call me until it was too late!

My mother in law just fell for this scam big time wired initial money to Dominican republic get of jail money for 908.00 then sent 9000 cash to an address in NY I have addresses and phone number!! 829-228-9518

I'm a recent victim of a scam he asked me to send the money to dhl or money gram but staff there warned me about it. Sad thing us that i've sent photos and even my address to that person who told me that he is from US military and now assigned in Senegal. He has sent me some photos which seems to be real but i read his messages to me again and found out that there is something wrong with it, specially when it comes to grammar and spelling. I still have his email messages and his number including his friend whom he wants me to send the money to. He wants me to send an amount of money to his friend for him to send the package to me since the money he gave for the posting isn't enough and according to him he's in the training zone now. It doesn't make any sense.

if you could send me what the name was or any information I believe my mom was scammed by the same person.

just scammer my son and deposited altered checks in his account and now is threatening my son. I have pictures and phone number and facebook of this Ricky White.

Hi i met sumone on a dating site awhile ago, hv been talkin for a while but hvnt met in person. We got into a relationship and so she asked money for carious things and said things like she was in hospital or needs to leave where she is and move. Stupid me has sent her money and now im stuck, because she says she works in an modelling agency and therefore i hv a contract with them, where i hv to send a crrtain amount of money to them a week. The reason i cant leave and stop is they hv threatnened me, by using my family and says bad things will happen if i do leave. Also i would be breaking the contract they said. Its killing me finacally and emotionly. I dnt know what to do

If someone is threatening to hurt you or your family, you could talk to the police near you, or where the other person is.  If they say you have a contract and you have to pay, you can ask them to show you the contract so you can have proof that you really owe money. You can show the contract to someone you trust. Ask them if the contract looks legitimate.

I have been conned out of a lot of money. I have 3 numbers and I can go back further. 202-601-5841 202-999-1307 202-407-9517 larrydave87 wendylarry123

I’ve been scammed big time. To the tune of Rm110K. Keeps getting into trouble and the latest is he has been detained at the airport in Cambodia. Forsee him asking me for money to bail him out. His name is Thomas Burdette. Phone: +‭44 7593 772402‬.

+27634030099 this says his name is HANS and he needs money to get his cargo transported to storage

I think this is a guy scammer in Nigeria he uses this number +234 907 872 8573 to message or call. I have never gave him my money but he has asked me to go to western union or money gram and pickup money from someone in USA then send to a guy in Nigeria that he is staying with a coworker his name is Mark Arbogast hes on Facebook that where he started talking to me from.

robert. tyer I have some questions that I would like to ask. Thank you

8457315669 is a Pearl RIVER New York Verizon landline he is using say he is Army now in West Africa but wants ITune card and now asking for new iPhone Max 1249.00$ I haven't got address yet working on it.i reserve searched pics shows original and Army I'd original it says.but can't talk cuz speaker on computer isn't working I Believe he was live video but not sure if it was taped Beautiful Solider I'd love to know the Real Sergeant Foster S.Young 46 birthday Sept 14,0r 11 th.and also goes by Foster Dennis on Hangouts and Instagram Fostermorga46,and on Two @Foster Young 46 Atlanta Georgia.supposed to be from Cape Coral,Florida I have pics.. Eyvette G.

Do you have a picture of this guy bc I think I may be getting scammed too

I need help in getting scammer thrown in jail

I’m a victim of this type how can I contact you

+1 573-340-3116
I'm pretty sure this person is a scammer..they gave me a check and then asked me to send some to a third party on PayPal..

What happens if they have a throw away cellphone not only that, I gave this guy all my information, photo id,bank account, social security number, and whatever else and he's had everything for 2 years now, and never did anything with it and we still chat

I would never send money to anyone, cause I don't have it and im barely getting by, myself

I keep getting calls from 800-880-2116 to call Med Core at 866-716-2588. This does name a person or reference number, etc. I have not returned the calls or corresponded in anyway. ???????????? Thanks!

If your calls are coming on a cell phone: block that number and you will prevent them using your answering service.

Sign up for Check with your phone company to block the number. If you use a mobile phone, check for a reputable app which has the ability to block numbers. If all else fails, you may want to consider changing your number.

It does nothing at all.
There is zero actual enforcement, as in you will never, ever meet anybody that has been punished by the do not call people, if they actually have people.

Local law enforcement does nothing; the banks do nothing.

The only way to stop scammers would be a "redo" of the internets IP system to include physical router addresses of originating messages/call requests. That won't happen. Non-U.S. messages/IP Calls should be segregated from U.S. ones; but that won't happen unless/until a European country insists on it for their citizens.

i had a very amusing call from young man saying he was my son and needed bail money in Mexico. I strung him along for a while before I told him I didn't remember having a son. Needless to say, he didn't get anything out of me!

Good for you, Sally! Sometimes these calls can be a form of entertainment. Also, a number to watch out for is: 202-213-6569, and the names: Steven Smith, Steven Bradley, or Brady.


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