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Image of cupid and heartNot everyone using online dating sites is looking for love. Scammers create fake online profiles using photos of other people — even stolen pictures of real military personnel. They profess their love quickly. And they tug at your heartstrings with made-up stories about how they need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Why all of the tricks? They’re looking to steal your money.

As if all that isn’t bad enough, romance scammers are now involving their victims in online bank fraud. Here’s how it works: The scammers set up dating profiles to meet potential victims. After they form a “relationship,” they come up with reasons to ask their love interest to set up a new bank account. The scammers transfer stolen money into the new account, and then tell their victims to wire the money out of the country. Victims think they’re just helping out their soulmate, never realizing they’re aiding and abetting a crime.  

Here are some warning signs that an online love interest might be a fake. They ask you to:

  • chat off of the dating site immediately, using personal email, text, or phone
  • wire money using Western Union or Money Gram
  • set up a new bank account

Did you know you can do an image search of your love interest’s photo in your favorite search engine? If you do an image search and the person’s photo appears under several different names, you’re probably dealing with a scammer. And if the person’s online profile disappears a few days after they meet you, that’s another tip-off.

Here’s the real deal: Don’t send money to someone you met online — for any reason. If your online sweetheart asks for money, you can expect it’s a scam.

Unfortunately, online dating scams are all too common. There may be tens of thousands of victims, and only a small fraction report it to the FTC. If this happens to you, please report it at — click on Scams and Rip-Offs, then select Romance Scams.

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Money & Credit


Sounds familiar.

Is he French?

Is he French? Did he say his kid needed peronal items because he left in a hurry and didn't leave enough for his son to get supplies?

At to his point I've had no less than 10 men try to pull something similar to what I'm ready by in these threads. Latest one, Finnish, into gemstones wanted me to invest money with him to buy me some. When I said I'd need more info he said I didn't trust him and started saying all kind of mean things. Said I'd never find anyone with my attitude. And this was only 3 days into chatting with him.

I really wish someone would share photos with me so I can find out if this guy is the same guy I've been talking to. different story but it sounds like he looks the same and as I said before I'm sure they change their stories all the time so I was just like you check it out I mean how can we go about this? please!

Sounds like one I just blocked works as a surgeon sounds black just got transferred to Nigeria retired feb 28 and needs money to get to Arizona he got me for 1100 in steam cards

Hi i meet someone recently with the same background, same with a daughter actually sending me message how happy she is and convinsing me to say yes to hes message proposal..the description you said on how he looks seems the same person , can you send me hes pic to confirm if hes the one...

Don’t talk to this man please! Sounds like the man who ruined my life. I just recently within the last two weeks quit speaking to him and he is making threats to me. I gave him more than 10, 000 that I didn’t have over a years time. He ruined my life. Exact same story different city.

Never mind I figured it out for myself

Your story is similar to mine. My guy goes by name of Robert Henrik Jonas. Says he is 57, from Netherlands, widowed, has 15 yr old daughter, Sofia, in boarding school in Oregon. His daughter emails me, telling me how happy she is that her dad is in love with me. He works on offshore oil rig in Norway...says he is supposed to get vacation soon but keeps saying his vacation has been delayed due to work. He started telling me he loves right away, sent me pic of engagement ring, proposed to me. Always asking me for ITunes cards. Calls me on Hangouts almost every night.

Same thing... I have. Guy named Gordon Borban. Requested me as a friend on linked in. Asked a bunch of crazy questions. Tells me his wife, father and brother are late... has a 12 year old daughter named Aubrey. I told him I was married. He didn’t mind much so I played a long with it for a couple days...
I’m not sure what he’s after?? But probably similar.

Does any one no soner hill sounds so familiar all these story’s I hate been scam but I never sent money just my heart

This one poses as a doctor
Send you is so called banking details pin the lot. You open his bank and photo appear with all his Bank account balance.
He ask you withdraw everything.
10 minutes later bank ask your bank details with a heck of a fee you must pay.
If you don't pay scammer cry.
Lol I gave fake bank details
Mister still begging me

He is still trying to get me to pay

Hey Nunnu, I think someone is trying to scam someone I know. He sent his bank account info and she opened it and said there was almost a million in it and she had to take out the money and transfer it to pay for something for him. And it sounds kind of real to me, but I'm not sure. He said it was bank of Germany or something. What was the fee they asked you to pay?

I have been talking to a doctor is is on an off shore rig by Russia made me a beneficiary of 5.7 million dollars with ussr global bank which I cannot find first this fsa told me I had to pay 1700 to get the activation code first not its 12000 his name is dr Jeff bezoar from Egypt wife died has a daughter we talked about the Bible a lot I told him that it was a scam he told me it was back wages anyway I blocked him and got rid of hangouts and BBM he emailed me I won’t answer

I’ve been talking to the same man same story exactly

Hi I just started talking to a man who also asked to transfer money from his account to mine and very rich as well

I just had the same thing happen. He asked me to open his bank account and transfer it to a man in Texas. It was over 2 million but he wanted to send $120,000 to him for goods he needed for an oil refinery job in Cape Town, South Africa. His name is Richard Wilson. Says he lives in Wilmington, De. And has an office in NYC

Yes I no him I was taking to him just a few weeks back he is asking me for iTunes cards iv stop.takj g to him now

Did he say he was a Dr. working in for the UN in Syria.Was from Sacramento

I have been talking with a man who claims to be a neurosurgeon working on contract with the UN in Syria. He says he is from Austin Texas. His name is William Logan.

Oscar harrison on my words 2 game. Surgeon from Dallas now in Syria. Blocked and reported to Word2

I’ve had a doctor from Sacramento talking to me but he says he’s in Afghanistan
Need money for a book to stuffy for a promotion

Please I'm so sorry to bother you but I'm trying to post to see if I'm being or trying to be scammed,just need help,thank you

I just got scammed too. Dentist, Sacramento, little boy. What did he say his name is?

It would be helpful if all of you sent a picture of the guy so we all could verify ours

How do we attach a photo?

PLEASE ladies (and gents). If someone you have never met asks you for money, why are you even thinking of giving it to them?
If the stories here sound similar to yours, regardless of the name they have given or even their photo, then it is likely to be a scam.
You DO NOT need a photo for comparison. BLOCK them and keep YOUR money in YOUR pocket/bank. PLEASE, do not ruin your life.
Of course, if you have plenty of money to just lose......
Keep safe.

I’m chatting with a guy, Dylan Connor, has fake IG account under Dylan Williams with Italian model photos, not very good ones. Lives SF currently working on a contract in Italy.

That guy your describing sounds like mine. Loves me very much and wants us to be together forever. Got all of that after chatting for a week.

Same here

There is a new guy i am chatting up with, and he been loving and telling me he loves me and i am the type of wife he is looking for, so far he never asked for money from me or anything at all, except telling me his bank card cant be use now, and the bank block his card, and couldnt unblock it, and will get alternative ways to sort it as needs to pay a shipment that is stuck in customs. I was waiting for him to ask me, but he didnt.. can i get some feedback if this is also a part of the scheme?

Don't and I mean do not trust this person. Get out of this now!!!

I had the same kind of scam but slightly different stories. Always a man , says he's madly in love w/me, asks for iTunes and Apple cards etc.. then asks for money which I never send, and gets mad when you don't send it! I've had several "cat fishers", it hapoens all the time, 3rd world countries try to steal American wealthy or everyone's money to help their families. Very sad all thge way around.

Can you send me a pic. Talking to someone now , same situàtion

Is he telling you the shipment is gold stuck in shipment? Coming to you? Is he 6’4 very good looking.

Yes that is part of their scam. Be careful!

What name is he using? Is he an architect?

Yes he says he is an architect with own business. Calls me his Queen, his love and that I am the world to him. Met him over a month ago..will share more, once I have had the last test of trust on him.
Tall handsome Italian heritage born in Africa, lives USA, widowed, 12 yr old son left with Nanny, while he abroad with business in Turkey, mum sick, couldn't access account from Turkey and asked me to send money for mum medical checkups !!


Please reply here. Help eachother. Stop scammers!

The guy I talked to said he was an architect, widowed, young son, nanny, and sick mother. He pretended to leave out of the US to do business in another country.

He sent me pics of a very handsome man (dark facial hair/beard) in "his" office.

Hi I think we have the same guy. Could you send me a photo if i give my email address?

Sounds like a guy I have been talking to
Architect but now project manager ... originally from Norway
Lives in Tampa but now in Cyprus to complete project
Had me transfer $ from his account from bank in Bermuda to Cyprus customs.. bank appeared valid with picture.
Went through .
Just doesn’t make sense .
Picture doesn’t show on reverse look up

Connie... Does me claim to have a translator?

Sondra, I would love to know this guy's name and where he is. I am pretty sure we are talking to the same guy!!! Would love see a picture of him. He is very handsome, claims to be successful and has a lot of money. I'm very curious.

MERCEDES AND SONDRA please lets exchange details about this guy.
I am hesitant to give hi name here, anyway I guess he gives different names..When replying please type my name in capitals. Thank you!!

I AM OUT....was he born in Sweden? Has he sent flowers? Does he have a translator?

Watch out for the name AUBREY GRAHAM, says he is oil rig engineer on the rig in Scottland, had VO officer by the name of George Scott. From Maryland, divorced, one daughter 18.
Will ask for $$ for chopper ride of rig to come see you, then $$ for replacement officer, then iTunes cards, next iphone sx 10m
Get's very mad when you don't do these things. Says your his queen, going to marry you, send romantic songs and pictures. Don't be fooled.
I did not do any of the above, when I showed him he was on the SCAMMERS list. He broke all ties.

Hi I think I am dealing with a scammer. Architect, 49 years old, travels a lot, currently working in Africa. Was supposed to visit me but claims that he was robbed in Africa because he left his laptop in his luggage. Very handsome, dark hair and facial hair with greying. Please can I compare pictures with someone on here.

Hi Sondra, what is this guy's name? Sounds abit like a guy I have been chatting to for a while now.

This guy it's been talking to me send me a video from the gym as yours send me a video of a night ride with a very loud music, tattoos , American flag an eagle , he is bold , very nice looking and said he is from Virginia and it is stationed in Bermudas .


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