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Image of cupid and heartNot everyone using online dating sites is looking for love. Scammers create fake online profiles using photos of other people — even stolen pictures of real military personnel. They profess their love quickly. And they tug at your heartstrings with made-up stories about how they need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Why all of the tricks? They’re looking to steal your money.

As if all that isn’t bad enough, romance scammers are now involving their victims in online bank fraud. Here’s how it works: The scammers set up dating profiles to meet potential victims. After they form a “relationship,” they come up with reasons to ask their love interest to set up a new bank account. The scammers transfer stolen money into the new account, and then tell their victims to wire the money out of the country. Victims think they’re just helping out their soulmate, never realizing they’re aiding and abetting a crime.  

Here are some warning signs that an online love interest might be a fake. They ask you to:

  • chat off of the dating site immediately, using personal email, text, or phone
  • wire money using Western Union or Money Gram
  • set up a new bank account

Did you know you can do an image search of your love interest’s photo in your favorite search engine? If you do an image search and the person’s photo appears under several different names, you’re probably dealing with a scammer. And if the person’s online profile disappears a few days after they meet you, that’s another tip-off.

Here’s the real deal: Don’t send money to someone you met online — for any reason. If your online sweetheart asks for money, you can expect it’s a scam.

Unfortunately, online dating scams are all too common. There may be tens of thousands of victims, and only a small fraction report it to the FTC. If this happens to you, please report it at — click on Scams and Rip-Offs, then select Romance Scams.

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Money & Credit


I met the guy from san antonio texas his 35 years old asian american guy ... his very love approach and ask for itunes card, he told his engineer oil & gas current reside at australia for contract and now his in bolivia ... this person seem scammer but pretend to be a real person as victim

He is a SCAMMER , his picture is on scammer sight nationally know and several pics. He told me same, didn't ask for money right away. But needed money to get off rig, then money for a replacement. He will get mad when you don't send money, cards then he will ask for iPhone , gets very mad then he will stop sending you love songs, flowers ovet the net... NO MONEY

This is a man that tried to get me to pay for copter to get him off a rig, said no then wanted me to pay for replacement$14,000. NO, THEN ask for iPhone 10 xs, NO he use to srnd love songs, very romantic sayings, kisses, called me queen, dearie and wanted to get married. Sent pic of ring said we said we are married now. I laughed and told him he was a SCAMMER of course he said he wasn't. I told him I turned him and his so called VO, vacation officer to the federal and govetment agent, guess what he stopped contacting me.
He goes by the name : Aubrey Graham and his VO: George Scott of which I think is the same person.
Brown, gray hair, blue eyes. He is using some one else's picture.
He get mad at you real eady and says: you don't love your man? Or is this the way you will treat me in person?
Beware!!!! You can pull him uphe is noted as National SCAMMER.

Is there a photo of this man?

Nathan Anlon?? Italian looking handsome 60's . Wish I could post a pic of him

This Nathan has about 10 different names, his names were George, James, Nathan, Michael etc ,met him on words, ask me to open bank account after talking to him for 9 months,itune cards. I told him he is a scammer and didn't send anything, funny how he fell in love in a week. Please be careful

Hello I wanna be sure from this but I met this girl name Jennifer mcmackin through Instagram and she is in the military in Afghanistan and she wants to send me money and needs me to buy her a $50 steam card so she can activate her phone and now also to start a bank online

Sounds like the same guy I’ve been talking with almost 2 yrs, he goes by the name Jason, J, jasonBri, Jason Brian. He an oil rig mechanical engineer. Met on WORDS. looks for middle age ladies, after 8 months started hitting me up for more info, then said I’m falling in love/having feelings for you. He is from the UK. Fell for him; hook, line, sinker.. I was all alone and then asks to add : HANGOUTS so we can have proper chats.
Then asking iTunes for books.. next it was I google and the STEAM CARD. Worth more in UK.
Story: Loss my wife to brain cancer, my only son died in accident, has his elderly mum w/caretaker while he’s working on oil rig in UK. Mid to late 50’s. He’s playing at least 8-10 women at a time. After asking for bank acct n cred card info I was out of his life so fast

Yes it sound very familiar but his name is Casey Jones and has short blonde hair.

I have been talking with a guy on an oil rig, wife died 2 yrs ago, has a son in Spain in the airforce. Just asked for $4k. He has beautiful blue eyes, grey hair, five o'clock shadow, gorgeous. How can we exchange pictures?

My guy is on Facebook, David Marcus Billy. He has lots of Indian guys applauding his photos. "Good one!" etc. He says he's from Barcelona and currently lives in Santa Ana. Has a daughter in boarding school. Would love to know if anyone recognizes him.

Hi snnokie i have the same problem with a guy he told me from ur uk under name danny but he told me i was buying for u a nice shoose and bags from brands i see the pic its download from a site Dannywalter49 but i didnt confirm the link in the mail. So the order not complete i ask him te send me western union if u want bank account hahahaha he block me he told me i wana put all ur pic online i ggoogle him he have many profile on romance scammer website

Sounds familiar.

Is he French?

Is he French? Did he say his kid needed peronal items because he left in a hurry and didn't leave enough for his son to get supplies?

At to his point I've had no less than 10 men try to pull something similar to what I'm ready by in these threads. Latest one, Finnish, into gemstones wanted me to invest money with him to buy me some. When I said I'd need more info he said I didn't trust him and started saying all kind of mean things. Said I'd never find anyone with my attitude. And this was only 3 days into chatting with him.

I wonder if your guy with the beautiful eyes is the same as the one who contacted me. This guy is sitting at an office desk. His eyes are almost gray. Really handsome middle aged guy.. I already told this guy that I knew he was fake and he’s still trying to play these games.. Lol

I really wish someone would share photos with me so I can find out if this guy is the same guy I've been talking to. different story but it sounds like he looks the same and as I said before I'm sure they change their stories all the time so I was just like you check it out I mean how can we go about this? please!

Sounds like one I just blocked works as a surgeon sounds black just got transferred to Nigeria retired feb 28 and needs money to get to Arizona he got me for 1100 in steam cards

Hi i meet someone recently with the same background, same with a daughter actually sending me message how happy she is and convinsing me to say yes to hes message proposal..the description you said on how he looks seems the same person , can you send me hes pic to confirm if hes the one...

Don’t talk to this man please! Sounds like the man who ruined my life. I just recently within the last two weeks quit speaking to him and he is making threats to me. I gave him more than 10, 000 that I didn’t have over a years time. He ruined my life. Exact same story different city.

Never mind I figured it out for myself

Your story is similar to mine. My guy goes by name of Robert Henrik Jonas. Says he is 57, from Netherlands, widowed, has 15 yr old daughter, Sofia, in boarding school in Oregon. His daughter emails me, telling me how happy she is that her dad is in love with me. He works on offshore oil rig in Norway...says he is supposed to get vacation soon but keeps saying his vacation has been delayed due to work. He started telling me he loves right away, sent me pic of engagement ring, proposed to me. Always asking me for ITunes cards. Calls me on Hangouts almost every night.

Same thing... I have. Guy named Gordon Borban. Requested me as a friend on linked in. Asked a bunch of crazy questions. Tells me his wife, father and brother are late... has a 12 year old daughter named Aubrey. I told him I was married. He didn’t mind much so I played a long with it for a couple days...
I’m not sure what he’s after?? But probably similar.

Does any one no soner hill sounds so familiar all these story’s I hate been scam but I never sent money just my heart

This one poses as a doctor
Send you is so called banking details pin the lot. You open his bank and photo appear with all his Bank account balance.
He ask you withdraw everything.
10 minutes later bank ask your bank details with a heck of a fee you must pay.
If you don't pay scammer cry.
Lol I gave fake bank details
Mister still begging me

He is still trying to get me to pay

Hey Nunnu, I think someone is trying to scam someone I know. He sent his bank account info and she opened it and said there was almost a million in it and she had to take out the money and transfer it to pay for something for him. And it sounds kind of real to me, but I'm not sure. He said it was bank of Germany or something. What was the fee they asked you to pay?

I have been talking to a doctor is is on an off shore rig by Russia made me a beneficiary of 5.7 million dollars with ussr global bank which I cannot find first this fsa told me I had to pay 1700 to get the activation code first not its 12000 his name is dr Jeff bezoar from Egypt wife died has a daughter we talked about the Bible a lot I told him that it was a scam he told me it was back wages anyway I blocked him and got rid of hangouts and BBM he emailed me I won’t answer

I’ve been talking to the same man same story exactly

Hi I just started talking to a man who also asked to transfer money from his account to mine and very rich as well

I just had the same thing happen. He asked me to open his bank account and transfer it to a man in Texas. It was over 2 million but he wanted to send $120,000 to him for goods he needed for an oil refinery job in Cape Town, South Africa. His name is Richard Wilson. Says he lives in Wilmington, De. And has an office in NYC

Yes I no him I was taking to him just a few weeks back he is asking me for iTunes cards iv stop.takj g to him now

Did he say he was a Dr. working in for the UN in Syria.Was from Sacramento

I have been talking with a man who claims to be a neurosurgeon working on contract with the UN in Syria. He says he is from Austin Texas. His name is William Logan.

Oscar harrison on my words 2 game. Surgeon from Dallas now in Syria. Blocked and reported to Word2

I’ve had a doctor from Sacramento talking to me but he says he’s in Afghanistan
Need money for a book to stuffy for a promotion

Please I'm so sorry to bother you but I'm trying to post to see if I'm being or trying to be scammed,just need help,thank you

I just got scammed too. Dentist, Sacramento, little boy. What did he say his name is?

It would be helpful if all of you sent a picture of the guy so we all could verify ours

How do we attach a photo?

PLEASE ladies (and gents). If someone you have never met asks you for money, why are you even thinking of giving it to them?
If the stories here sound similar to yours, regardless of the name they have given or even their photo, then it is likely to be a scam.
You DO NOT need a photo for comparison. BLOCK them and keep YOUR money in YOUR pocket/bank. PLEASE, do not ruin your life.
Of course, if you have plenty of money to just lose......
Keep safe.

I’m chatting with a guy, Dylan Connor, has fake IG account under Dylan Williams with Italian model photos, not very good ones. Lives SF currently working on a contract in Italy.

That guy your describing sounds like mine. Loves me very much and wants us to be together forever. Got all of that after chatting for a week.

Same here

There is a new guy i am chatting up with, and he been loving and telling me he loves me and i am the type of wife he is looking for, so far he never asked for money from me or anything at all, except telling me his bank card cant be use now, and the bank block his card, and couldnt unblock it, and will get alternative ways to sort it as needs to pay a shipment that is stuck in customs. I was waiting for him to ask me, but he didnt.. can i get some feedback if this is also a part of the scheme?

Don't and I mean do not trust this person. Get out of this now!!!

I had the same kind of scam but slightly different stories. Always a man , says he's madly in love w/me, asks for iTunes and Apple cards etc.. then asks for money which I never send, and gets mad when you don't send it! I've had several "cat fishers", it hapoens all the time, 3rd world countries try to steal American wealthy or everyone's money to help their families. Very sad all thge way around.

Can you send me a pic. Talking to someone now , same situàtion

Is he telling you the shipment is gold stuck in shipment? Coming to you? Is he 6’4 very good looking.

Yes that is part of their scam. Be careful!


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