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Image of cupid and heartNot everyone using online dating sites is looking for love. Scammers create fake online profiles using photos of other people — even stolen pictures of real military personnel. They profess their love quickly. And they tug at your heartstrings with made-up stories about how they need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Why all of the tricks? They’re looking to steal your money.

As if all that isn’t bad enough, romance scammers are now involving their victims in online bank fraud. Here’s how it works: The scammers set up dating profiles to meet potential victims. After they form a “relationship,” they come up with reasons to ask their love interest to set up a new bank account. The scammers transfer stolen money into the new account, and then tell their victims to wire the money out of the country. Victims think they’re just helping out their soulmate, never realizing they’re aiding and abetting a crime.  

Here are some warning signs that an online love interest might be a fake. They ask you to:

  • chat off of the dating site immediately, using personal email, text, or phone
  • wire money using Western Union or Money Gram
  • set up a new bank account

Did you know you can do an image search of your love interest’s photo in your favorite search engine? If you do an image search and the person’s photo appears under several different names, you’re probably dealing with a scammer. And if the person’s online profile disappears a few days after they meet you, that’s another tip-off.

Here’s the real deal: Don’t send money to someone you met online — for any reason. If your online sweetheart asks for money, you can expect it’s a scam.

Unfortunately, online dating scams are all too common. There may be tens of thousands of victims, and only a small fraction report it to the FTC. If this happens to you, please report it at ftc.gov/complaint — click on Scams and Rip-Offs, then select Romance Scams.

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I just recently was scammed by a person going by the name Kid Rock. This person saw that I liked and commented on Facebook about liking the singer and sent a private message saying he was kid rock. Used his real name Robert James Ritchie and same birthday 1/17/71. Ask me to go to google hangouts to chat gave me a phone number and email address. This continued on for several months. Then asking for gift cards started and using PayPal bitcoin and cash app. Then I was told to use my credit cards to purchase cards and link my bank account to the PayPal and others. I became overdrawn at bank and credit card balances grew but still told me he was in love with me and would pay the bills. Then he opened an American Express card up in my name and wanted cards on that. $20,000 to be exact. Then the final straw was he applied for unemployment benefits in Texas and had the checks sent to my bank. The security stepped in and I was in deep trouble. That’s when all this came down then he switched it to navy federal credit and I had to contact them as well. Since then which was only 2 months ago I have filed fraud and scam charges against this person giving everyone as much information as I could. I have gotten my credit cards straightened out and all canceled. I hope and pray no one ever has this happen to them. I was in fraud for over $50,000 total. Never again will I do that. I almost lost everything.
I have him blocked every which way I can but he still is trying to talk to me. He had a way with words that would sweep u off your feet. But in the end I almost lost everything

Hi has anyone heard of Michael Anderson?
Claims to be working in India. Comes from Malaysia. Needs me to be his beneficiary to accept funds from the uk. This to complete a project he is working on. Also declared undying love and marriage and all
Very weary.
Please help

Please watch out for someone who goes by the name of Lucas Ericsson originally from Denmark who says his home of record is now Boston. He says he has an 11-year old daughter who lives with her great aunt after he lost his wife to cancer about 4 years ago. He spins a beautiful web of romance around you very painstakingly over a period of months using text and phone calls. I once called him on his cell and my cell phone did show a charge for calling Dubai. He says he's a business owner working in Dubai planning to retire when his latest job is complete. After a time, he tells you he needs 10k to be able to get freed by the government there to leave due to unpaid taxes. Then he needs another 10k. Then he goes for the big money 50k. All the while assuring he will pay you back ASAP. Loving words, many pictures of himself and his daughter. He sends poems to rope you further into his scam. And he will even propose marriage. Stay away from him - he's an excellent scam artist who will turn on you when you tell him you can't wire him money. Pure evil, he is. He's so good he will literally break your heart.

What does he look like? Sounds like a man I’ve been texting. Around 62. Dark gray hair. Wears glasses. Tall.

Talking to a guy in who is a doctor in Romania, goes by Mihial Derek, has 2 IG accounts under different versions of that name. Been talking for a while, going through a nasty divorce, has a young daughter, says he loves me, just asked me to help him with some people that owe him money and he needs my help with it, haven't gotten any details yet about that.

Anyone heard of scammer working in Dubai on a project that has gone southward and needs help?

I had been texted and emailed by Thomas Roland went to Dubai needed $10000 to get larger vessel for his oil shipment. He sent me copy of his passport. State Department said it was not valid.
Connected on LOVEANDSEEK last November

Has anyone had dealings with Gabriel Thompson 37 with a 16 year old daughter. She is in boarding school while he works on an oil rig in charge of the drill. His wife sadly died in a fire 5 years ago.

Anyone heard of scammer working in Dubai on a project that has gone southward and needs help?

Hi Tulip ..what is the mans name?

I have someone that has ended when I created profile in KoreanCupid.com. Under the profile name Jeongil, Kim, Ileuy, age 51/52 contract working as Manager/Director/Construction/Trade. It was some big time contract. He said he is a "Big Man", very rich with a ton of money of $18,217,000 in an trustshoreonline bank. His mom needs surgery, but his account is frozen because he is having a hard time accessing it. Wanted to me transfer it to someone in Seoul, Korea by the name of Hwun kan-Sun: 324 Gangnan daero, Gangnan-gu, Seoul So. Korea. His Korean, smooth talker, would love to retire someday to US, or Uk with his money to invest in restate. That if you go along with him he will be done with his contract i 5 months to be with you. He'll condition you, and then manipulate you for money, bitcoins transfer to his wallet, credit cards, have you open up a bank account to transfer money for you. Anything to get you to help him, and guilt trip you too. Are you getting this story now. Does it sound like the same guy doing a contract work from Dubai? Let me know I have alot of evidence he sent me. Did the reverse image nothing came up for. But he did send me his Korean driver's license, passport and that trustshore bank with login/password. He proposed to me with message board via email, and flowers, but all dated earlier than the time we actually met. I told him about the date on his picture but he said his cell was an old one, and it wasn't in sync with the date. I thought that was odd. He might even kakao video call you like he did me. Let me know if we have the same man her.

I also met him on KC. Same name and background. Said his wise died 18 years ago. Has a way with flattering words and sends romantic songs. For being an engineer he has hard time taking selfies. Has not asked for money yet but im sure its coming. I searched the name he used and now know its a scam.

Would like to know his name too.

Have any of you had contact with a General Stephen Bold. He is supposed to be serving on a peace mission in Afghanistan with a daughter in boarding school. He has been if contact with my elderly mother for several years and I can not convince her he is a scammer. He has for money a few months ago because his daughter lost her debit card and need some food. His account was frozen and he was in a bad area and could not handle it right now. He even sent her a picture of a young girl with a broken arm laying in a hospital bed telling her he was worried about his daughter Michelle because she broke her arm. He has sent her pictures of him sitting behind a desk with a uniform on.

Anyone know Reagan from Facebook. He tried to meet up with me and insisted I bring my kids?

Has anyone heard of the name Daniel Shaw/Shore

I have heard of a Daniel Shaw / Shore. He seems to be trying to convince my friend he is in love with her and wants to marry her and needs £16k wiring over before he returns back from work in the Ukraine. Any of this sound familiar - i believe he's targeted her on a dating website called ourtime as she is a widow.

Ive been talking to two different guys both are working on oil rigs. These are the new scams. Ive been asked for £4 ,000 & £7.000 there jokers.

I thought i feel in love with a linda smith. She is defiantly fake and is using photos that belong to a porn star. I unfortuently lost a lot of money and cant get it back. I cant even get rid of her because shes got a ton of numbers and several emails. So if somebody emails you wanting to chat name Linda Smith no fall for it

Well I found a new scammer, his name is Steve chamberlain. He friended me in an app called you version. It’s a Bible app. He claimed he was in a wreck working on soldiers that are injured and was about to retire in three months and would like to chat with me as often as possible because he is lonely. So I decided to drop his face into the Google search bar and he or his identity picture has been stolen several times seven to be exact. Thank goodness for my IT skills. Ladies be careful. Be sure you block them from the app and block them from your email but before you block them report them.

Will do..my guy is FAMOUS as well as rich...but begging for $$

I have been in contact with a Neurosurgeon who says that is on a mission in Yemen for almost 3 years, window died just before he went to the mission left son in dormitory school as he doesn't have anyone else. He asked me if I could help him to send a parcel to me as he was relocated to Somalia and he was afraid that something could happen. I gave my address details he sent me a receipt of posting. This delivering company name global logistics first said that the parcel is on hold in Instanbul airport with yellow label and for them to prepare the necessary documentation I will need to pay them 7700 euros but them this doctor said why you don't offer what you have and tried to see if they accepted. I only had 1300 euros so I have sent to them that amount with the agreement that they would issue that document and then I would pay the rest on the receipt of the parcel. Two days after they sent me a new email saying after a lot of negotiations with the customs they are now asking for more documents and I would need to pay them within I working days the amount of 38950 euros of the parcel to arrive safely to me. I have fallen in Love with this guy it seems very honest, but I don't know what to do? He is just messaging me crying saying that his life is finished because all his doctorate certificates are in the box and he can not access his frozen accounts in USA without them. The name of this doctor his Dr Michael Tomas Davis Jr, I met him through Facebook can anybody help me with this? Can someone tell me is the same guy that you had experience with? His Facebook account is Davis Mich Jr . Please help Urgently. Thank you

Talking to this guy who says he lives in same state as me and is a widow has a son. He to started say he loved me within a week. He said he was a engineer working in Argentina needs me to open a PayPal account or a green dot account. Anyone else think this is a scam??

What if the man says he's a Korean actor?

Its a SCAM....

I met someone under the name oscar theodore.. apparently u.s military currently in Syria.. has a profile with pics of himself and two kids.. very believable.. i fell but not after reading this.. he has now asked me for money to send to an account to the united nations for him to go on leave so we can be together.. hes very pushy and gets rather aggressive verbally with any delays in obtaining money.. he wants a reply soon if i got bank loan.. clearly stolen identity right no one would put their own face or that of their families on their Instagram profile..

OMG same! But his name is Harry D Wilson. He is in Norway, working on an oil rig with no access to bank. He offered to send $11k usd which I didn't ask him to do. At first, I have doubted him already since he mentioned he has a son and eventually changed it to an 11 yr old daughter. He said that he'd like to invest in fisheries in the Philippines, and the reason why he sent the money was to pay partially for the land, and give $5k usd to me in which I didn't ask him money. Then he sent a code via GMAX Logistics, he said that he placed the money inside a box together with his docs ( I don't totally need), then someone called me earlier an Indian guy which is demanding $400 from me to pay local charges. Then this Harry Wilson insists me to pay for the amount in which I didn't since they gave me an account number which is under a person's name and not under GMAX Logistics. I also called the courier, and the number on the website is not working. Plus the social media links are broken. Harry was being very sweet to me and offering me lots of stuff in which I don't believe. That only thing that bothers me is that I gave my true contact number. Be careful of these scammers, they are everywhere, and he added me from Linkedin.

Also, not being racist here. He said that he lives in the US and works in Norway but writes in broken English. I should have believe my first gut feel. Anyway, lesson learned. Stay safe everyone.

I actually met a guy on Tinder named Daniel Bosch, Biomedical Ingenieure from Seattle. Originally from Belgium. Pictures from him and his son, very nice. I was talking with him over 7 weeks. No chance to meet because of Covid. I am in Canada. He told me he need to go to NY for delivering health care supplies. I really found a Daniel Bosch with a health care supply company.
He called me from NY every day. Very flirty after a while but he reached my heart. The he told me he had to fly to Istanbul for a delivery of HC supplies. He called me from Turkey,( be careful I saw a number from Istanbul and when he called me in the evening while he was walking, I heard the sound of a city and the Muezin singing from a Mosque. All sounds real. After 2 days he told me about problems. They have stolen his computers and programming files, made me the first time a bit suspicious. Next day someone tried to hack his bank account and the bank closed his account. Then he told me he need money to pay the custom. But I always told him to go to the US ambassy they could help him. But he always was talking about he got a loan from his Mom and one from friends to pay the custom. I never told him, I can help. At the end he told me he need only 10.000,- and next day he was able to secure 6.000,- to another friend and now he only needs 4.000,-. I started to play with him, because I was so frustrated, how this people are playing with my feelings. Super bad. At the end, he texted me over Whats App that he is super disappointed about my behavior and it showed him, what kind of person I am..... haha. I wrote him back he should send me an aktuell Foto of him in Istanbul to prove his identity. Of course nothing. Then I told him, I don’t want to talk any longer to someone who is not real and maybe sitting in Afrika and having fun with me. Then it was over!!!!

This sounds a lot like charles luke who is now going by the name of Tom is Patrick white he said he lived in California he on classified gems he had to go to Istanbul Turkey to buy gemstones. Once he was there the government seized his gemstones. Then because I fell for the scam supposedly he had money the gemstones for shipped but then they were holding his passport. He had to pay some thing like $30,000. Then supposedly he ended up in the hospital and they were holding his passport because he had to pay the hospital. It was ridiculous. He is a huge scammer and liar. Watch out for charles luke, but now if you go to classify gems you can see that he’s changed his name to Thomas Patrick white White

Ladies beware of Matthew Sparks Andreas and Gorden Brooks.
They will give you quite the story of loss and will be in need of money.

Kentucky military base.She calls hers Ashley. Wants men to send her iTunes or other cards.

I met man playing scrabble. I think all to men on that site are scammers. One I have been texting calls himself bryan. A vet in Ohio with one son I. The army. Wife died of cancer. He has sent several pics Some with his son. Unable to confirm. He’s ow supposedly in Sri Lanka working for the Dominican Republic. He may be real but it fits the scam-profile. He is around 62 dart graying hair, brow eyes. 6’1. Anyone else being scammed by someone with this description please let me know so we can compare photos. .

Your description sounds very much like a man I’m communicating with - drop dead gorgeous, 6’1” - said his birthday was the 3rd of this month so he would be 62.

He is a widow, daughter attends university in France which is where he grew up after moving at young age for the States.

Do you have photos to confirm if they are the same person please? He has not asked for $$ and I want to trust him. Well spoken, writes beautifully. Has LinkedIn profile but concerns me as the story of having to go overseas within a few weeks of us communicating, before we had the chance to meet concerns me. Now he would like me to accept a parcel for him (no money asked as of yet) as the private vault in London is laying off due to CV19 and they have requested removal of valuables. He provided letter from company.

Do scammers go thru so much trouble setting up various websites, where do they find all the photos. The work ID? I want this to be real and not a scam.

Your guys sounds very much like my scammer charles luke and he’s now going by the name of Thomas Patrick white he’s 61 has a daughter grew up in France then moved to the states he went to the very elaborate lengths of a linked in profile his own website for his business and then about two months into the relationship he pretended to be in the hospital and even had a heart machine monitor you can clear it going in the background he went to elaborate links for the scam I don’t believe him don’t trust him if he asked you for anything he’s a scammer and if he happens to be charles luke or Thomas Patrick white is definitely a scammer.You mentioned that he was a beautiful writer charles luke sends love poems every day every single day called multiple times a day and texted multiple times a day.

Beware. Package will get stuck in customs and you will be asked for money to get it released. You will get an email with a fake document showing tracking information.

You’re a scammer sounds exactly like my scammer Charles Luke. Charles Luke said he was half French and a half American and yet when questioned about French words he didn’t know any. His pictures were gorgeous he went to elaborate links to establish who he was. He showed a bank account and letter from the Turkish government, and other paperwork. He went to elaborate links to pull off a scam and I was dumb enough to fall for it. In my heart of hearts I knew he was a scammer but he still want me over. He would call 20 times a day text 100 times a day. He said he had a daughter that he was estranged with. He supposedly had a granddaughter. And his passport had been confiscated by the Turkish government. The story was ridiculous and there was no way it was true and yet I still fell for it. He sent left letters every day by email. And now I find he’s going by the name ofThomas Patrick white or Patrick white you can go to the classified gems website and it talks about all the different stones that he deals with and gives his contact information. Prior to using the name of Thomas Patrick white or Patrick white, the supposed owner of this site was Charles Luke a notorious scammer and that was the name he used to scam me.He is 100% a scammer.He faked illness, he faked financial need, and when I didn’t do what he wanted he question my character. If you search through all of this consumer information on these pages you will find many references to charles luke who now goes by the name of Thomas Patrick white or Patrick White

Anyone being scammed by a bryan russell?

William Owen is asking for $200. Dollars from me so he can Wi-Fi where he is. And I've told him no several times. Then I've blocked him but he finds his way back to me. I don't know how he does it but i would like for it to stop. I've unfriended him. But... He's comes back. He's on Messenger. Please don't use my real name. Liz Horne

I meet a man in Instagram, then he told me to move to hangout
He post many pictures , of a white man with a gray hair and he said he work in a oil rig in the united kingdom. He told me he is from Texas and have a daughterOne day he ask me about and Itunes card. He said he love me. Today July 2020 I discorver he is a scam
He sent me to whastapp and I do. I told him I dont believe me, and u are not going to playing with me. . I requiere to call me by video chat and he doing. I see my pic in the my mobile, but not the picture of him. I claim him, I dont see you in the screen. i want to see you right now. He said let me turn the light on , when the light on I see him. for my surprise he was a black man, young man, never the man in the profile. I save all the pictures what he use in my mobile. He use the name of John Thomas

I am currently talking to a Person who claims she is in the Army with the 83 Civil Services 247 somewhere in Syria as a combat medic. We met on Christian Mingle and we got talking and her profile is now gone. I have gotten multiple pics of here and a voice recording in skype. I told her alll about scamming and how I would not fall for it as I had a girl (supposedly) try for 7 days before hand. Supposedly the unit will come home end of August because of Covid 19 and being safe. Never asked for money I have made a point of telling her the Army provides everything she needs. We talk everyday and sometimes the text is broken but that could just be google chat. Name is Sharon Johnson if anybody has heard of her.

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I was scammed by James William Richard so call, he persuaded me I can put in $500 as initial investment on bitcoin account.he will tempt blackmail or threaten that your profit and your account bitcoin will be lost if you don’t put in any more money in from usd 300 up to $3000 . By the time you are suppose to get my profit he asked for$ 9000 Or my profit will not be transfer . There is a gang that will non stop aping ne that they trust James and showing that they just put in for him to invest and recieved how much Profit they earned.

I am a teacher I saw a post on FB saying you can be paid 300 pound sterling for a 45 min class 、then lady who posted the app will messaged me and manager will give you an interview . Then I ignore James. As I said why don’t you refer me to students but then he has his ways. I capped all his account and deposit slips and all messages. I know is my stupidity and not expecting any return of my funds .

So look out everyone

I know all about the military men snd so. I met this man on you tube. I know the picture is him. I usually donate a few bucks to you tube channels. This guy is bombarding me with Love. Sending messages every few minutes, trying to call me. Telling me he loves me. He is on all my social media. I donated $20. Now he says I should donate $50. More I said no way. I am now trying to get away from him. Wish me luck.

just had a week conversation with this certain guy named Williams Chang, he was a petroleun engineer from manchester, he first add me on my Ig account, then after we chat there he asked me if we could chat at hangout so I made a fake account..I was highly suspicious that he is fake so I ride on...then 1 day he said he brought me gift with iphone,macbook jewelries etc...and he put a money inside the package but I need to pay the clearance tax...the ff day he was persistently calling me and ask me to pay the tax right now...but I just ignored him...until I read this thread..so girls beware...be vigilant

Ladies this is my 4th comment I have written. The more of these I read,the more I wanna warn all of you. 2016-2017 I met a guy on POF. Very good looking,smooth talker,tells you what every woman wants to know,calls you his queen,falls in love after 3 weeks,wants to marry you an it goes on. I wish I knew more about these scams back then an knew about this site. This man took me for probably 100-150k. I won't go into the long story,but his name he gave me was Harlan Cecil Fred,but I have found on Facebook he may have several other names. Harlan Freddie,Harlan Frederick's,Frederick Harlan,Harlan Frederick's ,Freddie Harlan,Harlan Fredel,Fred Harland,Harlan Fredenburg so please watch out for any combination of these names. I'm penniless because of him an was clueless at the time. I had no idea this kind of thing went on. Im financially ruined an don't see how I can recover. My kids don't know,but soon I think it will have to come out. I would rather die then to tell them an see the disappointing look on their faces. Also he claims to be an independent contractor of gas an oil. Shut him down quick! The other name David Jamee Thacker or any combo of these names,bad guy. He tried a scam on me also,but I had nothing an was on to him. I met both on POF,they are also on Facebook an LinkedIn,could be other networks too. If I could get half of my money back,I would be grateful,but I don't think it's possible. I have made out a report an alerted POF. Told pof to alert the other dating sites also. Thanks for listening.

I have the most involved, nefarious story ever. An older man, 57, but very handsome, started texting me via Messenger. I get come ons all the time but this was different. He paid me a compliment and I didn't hear from him for two months. Out of the blue, he contacted me again. He never asked me to go to any other app to communicate. He told me he was an architect and went to the University of NC. We spoke on the phone and texted every day. Eventually, he said he wanted to meet but could never find a free weekend. Eventually, he supposedly went to decommission an oil rig to make it a man made reef. Of course, he promised he would see me first before he left but never did. Long story short, he is totally off the grid. You cannot find him anywhere; public records, tax records, nothing. His phone number is from a VoIP service so it can't be traced. Keep away from someone that calls himself MARTIN K JUNKER (pronounced Yun-ka). This is worse than any romance scam. He offered me money before he left for his project. He was supposedly a millionaire. He had sent photos of the inside of his house. He proposed marriage. He cried a couple of times when we were talking. He isn't real. Like I said, this is serious. It has to be some internation espionage or something.

I've had 2 if them so far. And I love messing with them. They both ask for money and I don't send it. I found the real person of the second man, and sent him some pictures of what he was sending me. Asked him if her ever talked with me and he did no. So I did was give him the scammers info, and boy he got into big trouble. So he stopped texting me and hasn't talked to me since then.

Anyone been scammed by a David Xhaka? Works on an oil rig off the coast of California? Similar story. Very sweet we’ve talked for six weeks even on the phone but no video calls. Then said he needed help with equipment and the transaction. He would give me his bank information to help him. I said absolutely not. He’s from Sweden supposedly very attractive, nice accent. But convinced he’s definitely a scammer

Yes, I was conversing with a David Xhaka. He stated he was working on an oil rig in California and was original from Switzerland. We met on Hinge back in May. He also asked me to transfer money into a fake bank acount. I did a reverse photo lookup and the photos are those of a guy from Spain. He is a scammer.

I am writing from Turkey. On Facebook, a lady sent friendship. We continued to talk from whattsapp. He is 35 years old and is a nice lady in his paintings. He said there was a military nurse in the Camp on Military American. Only we writing, I was invited to Turkey. Document was sent from the Internet for Urgent Leave from me. I sent from Msn, I asked $ 1,700 for 1 month leave, $ 3,000 for 2 months. I said it wasn't ethical. I said send a passport and ID picture, he says it is forbidden. I do not want to be defrauded, can you choose some options ...

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