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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: ftc.gov/complaint • Federal Bureau of Investigation: ic3.gov. Learn more at ftc.gov/imposters and aba.com/engagement

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

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hes a scammer
November 16, 2018

In reply to by Helena01

everytime hes coming to you something happens - example his visa expired, hes thrown in jail and detained, he's sick has a fever, hes robbed, or he gets arrested for not paying medical bill - there is no medical bills in Ghana and you always send money to his driver am I right? stay clear from him and report him
SlapAScammer
December 15, 2018

In reply to by NNM

Richard?? What is your Richard’s last name? The one that has been scamming my widowed MIL also goes by this name!!!
Tricked
May 10, 2019

In reply to by Scared

Yes his name was Richard. And this guy said that he was a widow, and had a child and that he worked on a ship as an Engineer. He said he lived in the US, but worked on the ship a lot. We had a good and I mean sweet online relationship until he managed to ask me for money through a 3rd party. Once he did that, as the Bible says, with Adam and Eve, my eyes were opened to what he was trying to do to me. I was so disappointed with him, and still am to this day. I also said to myself, hes just an ignorant fool, because I could have been a good person for him, little did his greedy, dishonest self know this. But soon he will get caught and as the old saying goes, what goes around comes around. Just glad I didn't depart with any monies. And hes also very charming and very handsome, if it was him in the pictures. Beware ladies..
Kisses
October 26, 2020

In reply to by Tricked

Pls. Send me a picture he scam me ealier richard john maxwell because i thought hes a good man and god fearing yhen he said he send me a money 17kdollar and the item bag shoes accesorries he want to build botique he said i dont need pay anyting ealier some of cargo message me want to pay me tax before i get the item then 2hrs after called the cargo he called me then he send i need to produce the money for paying tax he pay back when arrive in turkey because he on ship then ill try to borrow my cousin 15,550 peso then after i send the money 1hr. Ago before i send the cargo treasure jenny ann salceda i send the money then after 1 hr. The cargo they send me a email they said i need to pay my penalty because they saw a dollar on item then they want to pay me 40 000 peso to pay the same name jenny ann salceda but i realize i dont believe she always message me the cargo fakes name first trust logistic the police they imbisitigate me to the money laundering i dont believe im not send it i call the police then richard john maxwell angry i tell him your scammer and the girl also .... for now im so dpress because the money i send it i borrowing ...but i tell the lord he guide me and he give me a fight
Tlingit35
January 22, 2020

In reply to by SlapAScammer

Richard Larson works oil rig in either gulf of Alaska or north seas.
Nori247
December 19, 2018

In reply to by NNM

I've been chatting with some by the name of Richard also, who is a supervisor on a oil rig station near Dallas Tx., never gave him anything and will not give him a penny. What is the last of the Richard you have engaged conversation with..
BillyBob
December 28, 2018

In reply to by Nori247

I am also talking to a Richard. Different location. Do you have any photos?
Scared
February 12, 2019

In reply to by BillyBob

I do, send me your email and I will send his picture to you.
Getting scared!
June 29, 2019

In reply to by Scared

OMG! I have been texting with a guy named Richard. We spoke on the phone once. His texts indicate an accent. His voice has a heavy accent. He told me he lives in Rhode Island, is a widow, and has an 18 year old daughter who goes to Providence College. She has also texted me. He has sent pictures of them together & she has sent me pictures as well. He is handsome and she looks like him. Recently he asked if I would buy a $250 Visa card for her. He cant because he is currently in Dubai. He says he is a personal investor in oil. Very early, he started to express some very strong feelings for me & would hope to get married. Please help! I met him on pof.
Fooled4three monthsk
August 08, 2019

In reply to by Getting scared!

Hunny he is talking the same to me and I have pictures and he marrying me to, lol he's a scammer look up Paul hollywood. British baker pictures and more he uses them! He scammed me for 27,000.00 he's threatening me now
Doiammamad10n'…
August 14, 2020

In reply to by Fooled4three monthsk

How is he threatening you? I just blocked Earmon Amman and I’m worried because he has my address
Hinge
November 18, 2019

In reply to by Getting scared!

This is happening to me, he says he's an underwater welder and they are short on supplies want me to send money to an "agent" to help. Do you have photos or can I send a photo
TGG76
December 05, 2019

In reply to by Getting scared!

I too have been chatting with a Morgan Richard... sounds eerily similar to your story.... I have pics to confirm if it's the same guy... Ps. I think he's just about to ask me to purchase his flight tix to go see his boys for Christmas who are boarding in Sweden.... apparently you cannot purchase online if your on n offshore oil rig...
Sk2222
January 01, 2020

In reply to by Getting scared!

Richard rihlan aoil rig contractor been stuck on the rig for2 yrs..contract 1 million dollars..from dallas tx..dad was killed..mom died on cancer..has 2 boys matthew maybe 12 greg 25 living with nanny..has house..boats..cars.truck..got a loan from the bnk for contract..63 yrs old handsome..wants gift cards..first it was 10k to pay helicopter pilot and a guy to take his contract..now 5k to get a helicopter bck to tx..has check in hand but no $..going to.mke me his wife! Dont think so..heavy accent to..phone broke cant take pictures..cant take pictures on the rig..fire hazard every excuse
Pegjean
June 07, 2021

In reply to by Getting scared!

Do you have the photos? I think it the same guy I'm taking to
AuntieA7
August 09, 2021

In reply to by Pegjean

Do you have picture? Pretty sure it's same man about to cause my aunt to lose everything she has!
rachel
January 31, 2020

In reply to by Scared

Please I’m talking his name is Richard too , he work in a oil rig in Alaska , pleas send me his picture
Protector of m…
June 22, 2020

In reply to by Scared

Good day, my mother is being (I believe) scammed by a person with the name Peter richard Larsen goes by Richard larsen. By chance did you obtain a picture? If I sent you a picture would you be able to confirm if it's the same person? I would like to protect my mother before she starts sending this guy her life savings
ace
August 14, 2020

In reply to by Protector of m…

I too know of a lady who is sending money through bitcoin to a Richard Larsen
Protector of m…
June 22, 2020

In reply to by Scared

I believe my mother is being scammed by the same "Richard Larsen" can I share the images he sent her as well?
Smartgranny
February 24, 2019

In reply to by NNM

I was friended by a guy named Richard on Jackpot Magic slots. After a few days of small talk he asks me to sign up for an acct on KIK so we can talk more privately. Once we started talking I found out his name was Richard Coffman. He was a 60 y/o widower of 5 yrs as his wife died from cancer. He is from San Jose, CA, with two teenagers, 14 and 16. He claims to be a petrochemical engineer in Dubai waiting on contract he will be able to retire after. He gets the contract, so he is now stuck in Dubai for 6 wks to compleye the job. He is looking for his new soul mate, and we seem to have a lot in common. He wants to talk to me and get to know me better, but he needs a specific phone card and he can’t get it in Dubai. When I ask what it is, he tells me an iTunes card. He asks me to get 2 $100 cards for him. I told him he could buy it online from Apple and it would go directly to his e-mail. He informs me it won’t let him buy it, and his e-mail is messed up. I said, sure, I’ll go get it and proceeded to block him, delete him, etc. I know a scam when I see one as I’ve had something similar happen before!
Getting scared
June 29, 2019

In reply to by Smartgranny

Omg! Sounds like the guy I met two weeks ago on pof. Help!!!! How can I contact you?
ishefake
February 11, 2020

In reply to by Getting scared

My sister met a guy on POF I’m trying help her figure out if he is real or not his name he says is Tyler virgin and he is in the navy deployed right now
Help me
June 25, 2020

In reply to by ishefake

Can you please respond back about Tyler virgin? I met him online too
DLKB
March 13, 2021

In reply to by Smartgranny

Sounds like a guy I’m talking to from POF. Wife died 5 years ago, has a 29 year old daughter in the UK. Currently in Ukraine on last job then he’s retiring.
Not buying it
December 27, 2019

In reply to by NNM

I met a Richard Mitchell on a dating site last October. He just received a contract to work on an oil rig and was going to be gone five weeks. I looked into Hochglanz his company and it showed pics. Looked very authentic. Than the more I looked into this company there were the same pictures with different names under them. Here it is Xmas and he still not home. After three months I called him on his catfish lies. I never sent any money although he asked for it just be aware. They are so convincing and they love you so much! Ha ha
Dee
March 10, 2020

In reply to by Helena01

Yes he is a huge scammer! All the scripts sound the same. Do Not send anything! Nothing! All he wants from you is money. I get multiple hits on Instagram and listen then tell them to get new material. They get mad and run. Now I just delete. I have been hit upon with a few of the oil rig scams the Dr scams and the military. I laugh and block.
Pegjean
June 07, 2021

In reply to by Helena01

Please tell me are there oil rig in the Philippines? This guy met on a dating site, said he is an oil rig engineer. That his daughter has a nanny taking care of her.
Peter... Hmmm!!!
November 20, 2018

In reply to by Nassau2018

Hi, Iam currently chatting on- and offline with a man called Peter XXXX... from (supposedly) Dallas, Texas and after two weeks of conversations he started also to ask for money as he supposedly went abroad to Singapore as a contractor. He said he was mugged and has no access to his bank account. Interested in showing each other some photos of this guy?
sunny
November 30, 2018

In reply to by Peter... Hmmm!!!

lol, my guy is in Beijing, says he is a civil engineer. he was mugged also. His POF account is Mike Lee5401. Been working me for over a month. I have turned him in, but doubtful anything will be done. Got me for $200 yes. He thinks he's getting $6,000 from me, but he is not getting it. Another guy on POF, his name is Dylan Vittorio. He is supposedly working in Istanbul. First time he asked me for money, I really let him have it, he acted shocked, I had to laugh.
Zelda
March 09, 2019

In reply to by sunny

Been scammed by a man named Raymond Dylan. Works onoil rig in Gulf of Mexico. Lives in Dallas Texas. I sent money Lost 4000$.
NotFallingForIt
April 04, 2019

In reply to by Zelda

So this guy Roland Clivan, asking me to send him an itunes card so he can add airtime to his phone. He is on an oil rig, send me pics of his bank account, had the ip address on there, looked it up and it was from Africa. When I asked he said well someone tried to scam him. Then telling me he wants to be with me etc. We actually video chatted which is really a different approach than most. Most send pics only, but he actually got on video. Now he is upset because I wont send him an itunes card. His attitude changes tells me I am mean, he will not be able to speak with me for a week, and now he doubts he can get his money out of his account because he doesn't have a phone to call them. I replied use a land line when you get back to the mainland. If you really have that much money, the bank will take a collect call. I wish we could just scoop these guys up and throw them all on a deserted island so they leave people alone.
Mandalay May
June 11, 2019

In reply to by NotFallingForIt

Currently a guy who claimed himself to be a petrochemical engineer staying in New York and who is now in Texas for oils drill is asking me to help him with money. First time I took a risk sending $1000 and now again asking help for $2000. I said no and now he is making me feel guilty for messing up his project payment requirement cash. Sent me his photos but don’t believe they are really his photos. Same situation he claimed love to be a weapon to approached me.
Enviornmental …
April 23, 2020

In reply to by Mandalay May

I was contacted on POF in early Feb 2020 by a man who sent his picture right away with hisc1stcmsg. (A way of deleting his profile from the site) He looked professional and had kind words. I hadn't given out my email or phone # except on a rare occassion. This man named Christopher was a charmer. He said he was an enviornmental engineer on a project that was his last job on an oil rig in the gulf of Mexico. He was very polite and sent me poetry almost daily. He said he had moved to my state just recently before this last job. We sent messages daily and talked frequently. We laughed and had alot of fun getting to know one another, so I thought. It was his way to gain trust to fall for his BS that he was falling in love and couldn't wait to meet me! He said he lived in Norway then moved to New York then recently Seattle. He then about a month or so later told me the Chineese raised the price of their chemicals that he needed to finish his job. He asked for a loan of $20,000 to be sent via his agent in NY. I told him I didn't think I could because of the situation of the Corona Virus etc. I was stunned by his request! I then told him about lots of grants & loans and he said he would pass them on to his agent. He then called with good news and said he got a grant and he would now share what he was going to make off this big job with me, ya right?!! Not long after he asked for money again and I said I didn't know him and couldn't do it. He then kept sending nice poems but it seemed like a way to avoid conversation but build a love connection. He woukd usually call early in the morning or late at night, that seemed suspicious. He then called and said his daughter in law was going to lend him $5000 so he just needed $5000 from me. Well, after declining again he became angry and didn't text as much or call. I questioned why and he said "how can you care so much for me but let me rot here." I've let my entire family down!" He also accused me of "tearing his heart out"!!! I told him that I was not responsible for his problems in so many words and he apologized. I didn't hear back so for closure I told him I suspected his intentions and said he must have been terribly spoiled or angry at women. I told him I wished instead of another target I could have been a friend as a source for becoming a better person. My friends thought that was too kind...it was closure for me. So beware, and fortunately I didn't send any money however I have to admit I believed he cared a great deal about me at first, it was part of his scheme!
Enviornmental …
April 23, 2020

In reply to by Mandalay May

Sounds similar to the guy who tried to scam me. On his 60's though...Was his name Christopher or Jason?
TessDon't use …
December 21, 2020

In reply to by Enviornmental …

So was his name Christopher Ross. Did he quote the Bible and pray a lot? Dis he talk about his only love as having committed suicide? Was he from London. I can’t figure him out talking for months enjoying all then starts with requests. Sent him 2 100 dollar amazon s said no more. Took two months requested 1500 us told him don’t have it. Another. 2 months on contract for BP in Malaysia. Wants to live forever with me. pS is 49 yrs old doesn’t mattter I am much older. Like fine wine. Gave me WhatsApp business phone is in London. ???? So confused.
JenD0823
May 22, 2020

In reply to by Mandalay May

What happened? I met someone with a similar story but was an engineer from New York who was working in Germany.
Bloodyfool
October 08, 2019

In reply to by Zelda

Does the name Stijn Sebastien Twichell Colassanti sounds familiar to anybody? He works with corrosion, crude oil. Hero’s currently on a oil rig platform on a 90 day contract. His wife betrayed him, was a drug addict and finally died. He moved to Canada and is starting his own business. He looks gorgeous, says he vocês me more than anything in this world, Says he has no one. His mother was an orphan who was rejected by his father. She moved from Brussels to the US. She passed away. He said to finish his job he needs to rent a machine and is short of money. Asked to borrow me 9000 dollars. I feel so stupid. Does this person/ story sound familiar to anyone?
NoScamYet
October 30, 2019

In reply to by Bloodyfool

There's a guy with exactly that name on Words With Friends right now. Fits your description exactly. He mentioned he had to let go of someone who was an addict in the past. Has not asked me for money or anything else but I have not given him an opening at all as I told him I am happily married.
Bloodyfool
October 31, 2019

In reply to by NoScamYet

Are you sure? Is he still using the name Stijn Sebastien Twichell Colassanti?! Please be aware! He is a monster! And a fantastic actor! Don’t fall into his false words! Report him!
Les
January 12, 2020

In reply to by NoScamYet

I met my scammer on WWF. Ex wife a druggie and divorced her. 15 yo daughter in boarding school. Working on oil rig. Wants to come see me. Get a place and marry.
ABG
January 28, 2020

In reply to by Les

Anybody heard of Newman Harrison? Working in the Gulf of Mexico on an oil rig, has a daughter in boarding school, divorced his wife of 20 years because she was a druggie and cheated on him? Gorgeous man! Needs $500 in eBay gift cards to turn them into cryptocurrency to pay for his internet. He can only make payments in $500 increments. Of course he loves me and wants to marry me! Started to chat on Words With Friends then Google Hangouts.
TANDon't use y…
May 06, 2020

In reply to by Les

Exactly same Story here. He said he was a doctor. He was very charming, loving words, he get in touch every day. Spoken of great love and the future. What name did he use? He sent pictures, fully tattooed arms. The pictures are from someone else.
Angel
December 07, 2019

In reply to by Bloodyfool

I'm in this situation now... he is an Oil Rig Engr. named Dannie Newton had 2 kids he caught wife and bestfriend in relationship got divorced and wife died. we are communicating everyday via whatsapp sweet talks and god fearing ...but later on he had problems from site machine broke down and needs additional $ asking me to send some cash...
Whiskers 44
January 05, 2020

In reply to by Angel

Sounds very similar to man that friend request me through fb then wanted to WhatsApp. God fearing. Contractor on oil rig. America santa barbara. Born in Italy. Wife died giving birth, both parents passed away. Name Mark Lawerence! Pictures of bouquet flowers and very charming. He was sad and confused. Insurance company looking after his valuables contacted saying end contract. He didn't know what to do as won't deliver to the rig. Alarm bells rang straight away. Asked if I could help pay extension fee I said no he kept on I know you want to bit your scared etc etc. Was very good looking short grey hair ovely smile and eyes