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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: ftc.gov/complaint • Federal Bureau of Investigation: ic3.gov. Learn more at ftc.gov/imposters and aba.com/engagement

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

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Funny you should ask. That was another reason I was suspicious. The pictures he sent without my asking, were of a really good-looking "older male-model" type---too good to be true!

I was scammed for a lot of money similar stories. Guys in turkey. Name justin Allen Martinez. Met on pof

Similar stories with Mathew Walter, Mike Wood and Frank Milne. All from a dating site. All had lots of photos, handsome men, texted in a foreign kind of accent. Wanted iTunes cards. I had a son that was in a hospital and needed money to help cover the surgery he needed. One needed to pay his overseas hotel Hill so he could get back to the US. All crap. And when I called them out, they wanted to argue with me. Never talked in the oh nevermind it met in person. All via dating sites or texts.

Sounds like my story only mine had a son...

Sounds just like my guy. What was his name and where was he from?

Sounds very familiar,he friend requested on Facebook and said how he lost his wife,son , daughter in law and granddaughter in an accident.Had a son in boarding school! Didn't take me long to block "Micheal Jespersen" when he started to ask for money. Said he works for bisso marine.

I have had only bad experiences with Christian dating sites. Met foreign speaking men professing their undying love and then asking for money or even iTunes cards. Sorry to hear your sad stories but at least I know I am not alone. Of course I did not comply with their requests. Better luck to all.

That sounds like what happened to me I was on a dating site and a female sent me a message we got to talking after about an hour she told me to delete my account then we started talking and after 4 or 5 days she told me she loved me. She told me she lived in Atlanta Georgia she wanted me to send her a $100 so me being a sweet person I did when I saw that the duction in my bank it said it went to San Jose California so I called the pay pal I was able to get my 100 back then she told me she was going to be a nurse and part of her certification was she had to go to Columbia for 3 weeks we are still texting back-and-forth then she asked me to send 200 to Ghana West Africa I did and they rejected it but they took the money out of my account so now I have the way 3 to 5 days to get my money back if any of you come across this scammer she is going by the name of Sandra ham

Oh my I am talking to a guy on an oil rig in Ghana I’m about to send money to I would give anything to know for sure that he is real we’ve been talking for over a year and yes twice he was coming to meet me both times something happened. Someone help me please

don't send him any money hes conning you - he sitting in a hotel in Ghana getting women to support him - hes never leaving Ghana he a catfish

everytime hes coming to you something happens - example his visa expired, hes thrown in jail and detained, he's sick has a fever, hes robbed, or he gets arrested for not paying medical bill - there is no medical bills in Ghana and you always send money to his driver am I right? stay clear from him and report him

If shore oil rig? Name if Richard?

Richard?? What is your Richard’s last name? The one that has been scamming my widowed MIL also goes by this name!!!

Was it Richard Maxwell??

Yes his name was Richard. And this guy said that he was a widow, and had a child and that he worked on a ship as an Engineer. He said he lived in the US, but worked on the ship a lot. We had a good and I mean sweet online relationship until he managed to ask me for money through a 3rd party. Once he did that, as the Bible says, with Adam and Eve, my eyes were opened to what he was trying to do to me. I was so disappointed with him, and still am to this day. I also said to myself, hes just an ignorant fool, because I could have been a good person for him, little did his greedy, dishonest self know this. But soon he will get caught and as the old saying goes, what goes around comes around. Just glad I didn't depart with any monies. And hes also very charming and very handsome, if it was him in the pictures. Beware ladies..

Richard Maxwell??

I've been chatting with some by the name of Richard also, who is a supervisor on a oil rig station near Dallas Tx., never gave him anything and will not give him a penny. What is the last of the Richard you have engaged conversation with..

I am also talking to a Richard. Different location. Do you have any photos?

I do, send me your email and I will send his picture to you.

I was friended by a guy named Richard on Jackpot Magic slots. After a few days of small talk he asks me to sign up for an acct on KIK so we can talk more privately. Once we started talking I found out his name was Richard Coffman. He was a 60 y/o widower of 5 yrs as his wife died from cancer. He is from San Jose, CA, with two teenagers, 14 and 16.
He claims to be a petrochemical engineer in Dubai waiting on contract he will be able to retire after. He gets the contract, so he is now stuck in Dubai for 6 wks to compleye the job.
He is looking for his new soul mate, and we seem to have a lot in common. He wants to talk to me and get to know me better, but he needs a specific phone card and he can’t get it in Dubai. When I ask what it is, he tells me an iTunes card. He asks me to get 2 $100 cards for him. I told him he could buy it online from Apple and it would go directly to his e-mail. He informs me it won’t let him buy it, and his e-mail is messed up. I said, sure, I’ll go get it and proceeded to block him, delete him, etc. I know a scam when I see one as I’ve had something similar happen before!

Hi, Iam currently chatting on- and offline with a man called Peter XXXX... from (supposedly) Dallas, Texas and after two weeks of conversations he started also to ask for money as he supposedly went abroad to Singapore as a contractor. He said he was mugged and has no access to his bank account. Interested in showing each other some photos of this guy?

lol, my guy is in Beijing, says he is a civil engineer. he was mugged also. His POF account is Mike Lee5401. Been working me for over a month. I have turned him in, but doubtful anything will be done. Got me for $200 yes. He thinks he's getting $6,000 from me, but he is not getting it. Another guy on POF, his name is Dylan Vittorio. He is supposedly working in Istanbul. First time he asked me for money, I really let him have it, he acted shocked, I had to laugh.

Been scammed by a man named Raymond Dylan. Works onoil rig in Gulf of Mexico. Lives in Dallas Texas. I sent money
Lost 4000$.

So this guy Roland Clivan, asking me to send him an itunes card so he can add airtime to his phone. He is on an oil rig, send me pics of his bank account, had the ip address on there, looked it up and it was from Africa. When I asked he said well someone tried to scam him. Then telling me he wants to be with me etc. We actually video chatted which is really a different approach than most. Most send pics only, but he actually got on video. Now he is upset because I wont send him an itunes card. His attitude changes tells me I am mean, he will not be able to speak with me for a week, and now he doubts he can get his money out of his account because he doesn't have a phone to call them. I replied use a land line when you get back to the mainland. If you really have that much money, the bank will take a collect call. I wish we could just scoop these guys up and throw them all on a deserted island so they leave people alone.

Currently a guy who claimed himself to be a petrochemical engineer staying in New York and who is now in Texas for oils drill is asking me to help him with money. First time I took a risk sending $1000 and now again asking help for $2000. I said no and now he is making me feel guilty for messing up his project payment requirement cash. Sent me his photos but don’t believe they are really his photos. Same situation he claimed love to be a weapon to approached me.

Sound like my scammer Morgan Sullivan works as a contractor in a ship going to
Singapore, lost his wife in an accident r4 years ago, has twin kids, lives in Dallas, TX? I have been talking since January 2019. He has not asked me for money but I know is coming after reading all of this, yesterday he told me his 14 year twin kid broke his arm and doesn’t know if health insurance will cover. I stared looking websites and saw this this, thanks God. Don’t know how to send you pictures.

Hi,
was his name Terry Peter Wong aged 43? I also chatted with a guy who claimed that his parents had died in the hurricane years ago. And he is planning to relocate it to Singapore. Now he is currently in an oil rig in Indonesia. He also started to press me to ask for money to pay for oil rig items.

Was his name Terry Peter Wong aged 43? Did he mention that he lost his parents during Hurricanes years ago and was brought up by his grandma. He was intending to move his firm to Singapore. I chatted with this guy in mid-Jan 2019 and he started to ask me for money after two weeks of chatting and pestered me to join Hangouts when he claimed that he is now at an oil rig in Indonesia and has no access to internet.

I think I’m being scammed to by a guy I met on tinder . Says he was based at lakenheath base and we exchange numbers this was a couple of months ago when I said about meeting up he suddenly had been posted to Scotland. He messaged me ever day and night saying to me how much he loves me and wants to wed me ? Witch I was like yeah right and we’ve never met , he sent me pictures of him and videos of him at the gym and I’d ask him can we talk on the phone as we only ever whatsapp but he comes out with all different excuses like he’s not allowed to talk in the phone due to his military job . And I’ve tried to ring his phone but it says number is not recognised?? He’s asked me to pay for him to fly back to Norfolk where I live so he can b with me as he’s left his credit card at lakenheath base and he will give me the money when he gets here . He says I can book his flight for him . I told him I don’t have the money at the moment to do that but maybe after Xmas .. then last week he asked me for a I-tunes card . Well alarm bells started ringing as I’ve heard all this before . I told him no as I think he’s scamming me and I reported him on FB for having a fake profile witch he went mental at me when he found out . He swears he’s not fake and not scamming me but I really really don’t know ?? Only when I read your story about u waiting at the airport I’m now thinking this guy is fake .. please give me some advice as I will b proper gutted as this guy is gorgeous

Post pics. They all change their names but they will use the same persons pics

No one deployed overseas in a hot spot should be using a dating site. Violating security protocols. My would be scammer asked me to let his bank wire his money into my account to save it from being confiscated. At least I recognized that as a variant of the Nigerian scam. Wish they could be caught half as easily as they seem to catch their would be victims.

I also met this gentleman on the TAGG website, who calls himself Johnson Smith. He is in the United States Marine Corp,deployed to Egypt. We chatted for a little while, and he suggested a different website (Whats App) to continue talking. We talked for about two days, before he gave me the story about bad food over there, and he needed money to buy American food, and it was expensive. He asked me to send him $700...which I have not done. First he said send it Western Union,then he said no, send it through Money Gram. This should not be happening. I decided to Google scams, and found this site.

This is the same individual that tried to scam me just recently on hi5 he uses the name “Johnson s”. He asked me to add him on what’s up app and he gave me the same story about bad food in Egypt and he was deployed in Egypt. He tried to ask me money $300-$100 for him to buy American food . He said he works for us marines and he wanted me to send him money through money gram. I had deleted my hi5 and tagged accounts for my safety and to let other know so this does not happen to them!

Oh my God. Someone posing as a hot white girl named Linda did the same thing. She says she was in love with me and said that both she and her mom had lost their home in America and had to go live in Gauna where her mom was born, but she wanted to come back and live in the US with me and needed $300 to help pay for her plane ticket to come back to the US.

I have been talking to the same girl Linda S Parker living in Accra Ghana has taken over $5,400 from me and I'm sure it's the same girl long black hair very pretty and very large breasted it is what it is it just ended like 2 weeks ago so it looks like you're the next victim

Did you send it?475-328-2202

Do you have pictures of this low life?

Her name is Linda Parker and she has gotten rich from this game

Can you send me a pic of her, I think she's trying to scam me 559-977-3695 too

For sure ,she is a scammer.

Does anyone have pictures of this Linda scammer?

She was thrown out of the United States for not having a valid passport and being an illegal immigrant and she got more than upal she got a bunch of us

Sounds like a girl named Alice.

This guy called Peter Yandle said hi to me on my Instagram. He said he was from the the states but having business in the UK. He’s oil investor and is working in an oil rig offshore. We soon changed to talk on WhatsApp. About a month later, he said he made a private deal and got millions of dollars. He wanted to send it to me because it was easier for him to do some investments in China. Anyway the so-called private courier company informed me that the ‘package ‘ was on hold by Turkish custom. I paid 1,850 via Western Union and then just as I expected, ‘they’ said I had to pay another 7,750 to have the package released. This guy is still luring me to do the second payment and keeps saying things to make me feel quilty... After reading so many comments about the experiences the victims shared here, I finally understand I am scammed! How stupid I am !

Ya know you'd think these people that work on oil rigs would have plenty of money as it is a VERY well paying job my friend works on one off shore in Texas. But yea they a re definitely liars

I have similar story. A guy who said he is now in Houston, Texas for his oil drill project approached with beautiful words and long story shot that he needed $1000 to send his agent in Turkey for his machine purchasing and now again $2000 for the machine to reach the oil rig.
I refused to help again and now making me guilty for he will mess his project up unless he gets the money by this Friday. I was a fool to felt sorry for some scam.

I have talked to this Johnson guy. I blocked him after about three days. He asked for money because he was sick from bad food. Right??? Blocked

Is his first name Andy. Oil rig company working on an offshore project? Complained about getting sick, paying taxes, can’t pay workers , blah blah blah! He got me good...15k.

I’ve been talking to a guy supposedly named Antoni Maddox who is supposedly from Texas and now is supposedly on an offshore rig out of Edinburgh Scotland and he supposedly loves me and wants to marry me when he gets back sometime in December. He says he is sick from the water and needs me to send money to his corporate so they can send bottled water . He supposedly has a daughter but wife died from something. He got me to download Hangouts so we could talk without others knowing . Long story short, I’ve been talking for about a month and I caught on when he claimed being so sick he might die and needed water sent. I’ve been a fool.

I just got a request from a woman claiming to be a marine stationed on a peace keeping mission in Nigeria, she said she needed money for food lol

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