Has an online love interest asked you for money?

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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: ftc.gov/complaint • Federal Bureau of Investigation: ic3.gov. Learn more at ftc.gov/imposters and aba.com/engagement

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

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I am ending a scam "relationship" in which I truly believed him. I'm out several hundreds of dollars in iTunes cards,for his cell phone. I learned that ITunes can't be used for phones!



Bridgett is there anyway possible to verify a shipping of Gold Bars for. James Hudson in Dubai. I have been helping him with shipping costs and I am so scared that now it’s been a scam. The shipping company is Flagstarexpress express. I know they have several locations in Dubai. New York . Please help me. You can reach me at
My name is Ruby and I have sent a lot of money. I just want confirmation that’s all nothing else. Please help me.

You can contact the Attorney General in New York to ask about the business. You could ask the person you're talking to for more information about the business. You can stop sending money and block communication.

If you gave personal information or your bank or credit card information to someone and you're worried it isn't safe, you can protect yourself. Contact your bank and credit card company and ask how to protect your accounts. Read these warning signs of identity theft and if you notice clues that someone is mis-using your information, report that at IdentityTheft.gov

This idiot scammed my not so bright cousin out of thousands. She lost everything including her life because she did not have money for her medication. SHE SENT IT ALL TO HIM! He brother let her live in a house of his rent free so she would have some money for groceries.

I was scammed out of over $38,000 first off he hacked a friend of mine's Facebook page and I believe he was my friend I even asked him a personal question which he answered! I was then led to believe that he (my friend) got a grant from this person and he wanted to know if I wanted to try and see if I could get one after many questions and the verification I decided to try it $1,950 into that I realized the guy was a scammer and I blocked him, my friend had since disappeared off Facebook totally .
A couple months later I decided I wanted to give the guy another piece of my mind and I unblocked him and sent him a message and he messaged back thanking me stating that he had changed that I had changed him somehow and that he was trying to redeem himself. I didn't believe him but after talking with him for a while and by that I mean about 2 months I decided to give him a chance to prove himself and allowed him to pay one of my credit cards off that I had maxed out for him and for over a month and a half the payment was good I then started believing him and his story he told me he had told his dad about me and everything I asked him if he was a spoiled little rich boy and he said yes and that his dad had grounded him and took away his car only he wasn't so young he was about my age I believed him and started helping him to the tune of 38 plus thousand dollars then the reversals started coming every payment he made has been reversed my cards have been shut down my bank accounts being shut down yes my heart got broke and yes my life is screwed up yes I'm mad and I want everybody to know this guy was good he even told me his real name even sent me a copy of his driver's license he started out as James Weer and ended up as Hodge West Polochak. He has a Google number therefore it's not traceable even has a Google email that says it's not good but yet I've emailed it

If you used a wire transfer business to send money to the scammer, you could report him. Call the Western Union Fraud Hotline at 800-448-1492 or the MoneyGram Customer Care Center at 1‑800‑926‑9400. You could report him to Facebook. 

Hello everybody, Do you know love website safe please? I Loved woman an online we was talking videos everyday almost for more 2 years a go, she said she's Sargent in U.S. military and she said she makes to me my papers to lives with her in U.S. I sent to her money also... just last week I see her pics. She was in Jail.. & she's liar about me. she's not Sargent in U.S. military. She's big liar..

I’m a victim of online romance scammer via Instagram. Because of his persistence, persuasiveness I was lured into sending him via WU $10,000 from October - November 2017. He told me due to working on ship he had no way to help his 15 year old son with school fees, good, clothes, etc in Nigeria school. May I file a claim to get my money back via WU refund process?

The FTC settlement with Western Union allows people to file a claim if they sent money to a scammer between January 1, 2004 and January 19, 2017If you sent money outside those dates, you are not eligible to file a claim.

Beware of a Army romance scammer names Adam Scott Sprain. I was seduced by this scammer beginning 1/26/18. His poorly photoshopped Army ID and suspicious FB profile were red flags, so I played along and he asked me to Western Union or Moneygram him $400 (to a friend of his commanders with the name Moreno Patrick Mofokeng) so he could come and visit me before his tour was over in 3 months. He said he would videochat me from the airport. I confirmed with a woman who had "liked" one of his Facebook pictures that he is a scammer and reported him to the FTC and the FBI and Facebook. SHe said she had sent him money and reported to Facebook but they hadn't taken down his profile yet. Every military person has a mailing address (APO) no mailing address? It's a scam.

How can you find a list of names for scammers? I met this person on a dating site and we have been talking on the phone for weeks. He went to to another country to work for two weeks but my head is telling me its a scam. But where he says he lives is very close to me.

Is there a way to run a background check? to tell if its a scam or not?

I meet someone Canadian living in London civil engineer went to Nigeria three week’s ago. We had arranged to meet up in London in March. The site he was working at doing rock blasting 4 people died. He said police told him to attend his embassy or pay compensation to the families which he told me had. He now has no cash to pay his hotel bill to get himself out. He asked to come off the dating site parents are dead. Pictures he sent look ok he even faced time me same person as pictures. Why do I still want to believe that we will meet in London and he will be real. The guys name is Michael J Carlos . Has anyone else met him

Guess what now because I have not transferred money radio silence. Please please anyone out there do not fall for this guy. He is white good looking. Could not believe he would do this to anyone

My problem is that I transferred money from his checking after he gave me all the info to send "tuition" to his kids school. After refusing several times. He was very convincing. But last night there were one too many red flags & I am doing the moneygram. What do I do with the money? I called the credit card & they can't reverse the payment. If I pay his bank back, then he decides he didn't authorize the transfer I am screwed.

Someone in the army says he's in Afghanistan. Asking for money in different ways. Pleading for me, I have not sent money. I'm still not sure of him. He says he has a security box in another country he needed my help to get by a letter. Not sure about it. I have been reaching him and can't find him. A little unsure.

Please do not send money! he is a scam artist. I learned that if service members need money they can get it where they are stationed.

please help me many poblem

Has anyone encountered a man by the name of James Hudson, Paul Hudson, James Guggisberg?

I come across these all the time, but they aren't doing it just on online dating sites. I have had them friend me on my Facebook messenger. I've never send any of my personal money, but I sure do got requests to pick money from western union under one name and resend it to the supposed friend/love interest through a different store or site using western union. I did it once and never will again. I watch for those who my show a picture in their profiles, but have absolutely nothing else listed even after you've friended them.

So you have came across a man by the name of James Hudson, Paul Hudson?

Seems most of the scammers are out for women. I am a male, relatively new FB user and have had two attempts by women trying to rip me off. Sounds like the same MO though. Oddly enough or maybe not I am a recent widower and they are good, almost had me, until the money (iTunes card) surfaced. Like to Whack all these soulless monsters.

A scammer pretending to be Johnny Depp ask me for an iTunes card. hahahah. Blocked.

Asking for money is a SCAM. An honest person will NEVER ask for money.

OurTime has a lot of scammers too.

Protect God from scammers.Thank you

POF is packed with scammers!!! They r all foreign and their English on the phone isn't very good. Their written English is full of grammar errors. I got hit with 8 in a row!!! Ask for their number, then google it
If its a LANDLINE in another state, u got yourself a scammer. They will.try to groom u before they hit u up.4 the ITunes card. They always work for themselves as " engineers" . One even told me he worked at the Syrian AF base that we recently destroyed lol!!! They have no friends in their FB profiles. They will promise u the moon. Always google their names and number. If u find nothing its cause they r fake!!!

I thought I knew better. We met on Bumble and I got lured off and surprised he got deployed. I got suspicious when he asked for an itunes card for $100. I did it by making a copy of the codes and we have been chatting via an app. Then he needs cash for internet use. He gave me his SS# & bank info. It's not just the Nigerians they are getting more elaborate and sophisticated. He got mad when I called him on it so I am reporting him. I just want the guy he is impersonating to be aware of the photos. What a fool I was.

Has anyone been scammed by someone claiming to be Sheikh Hamdan Crown Prince of Dubi?

I have been talking to a man that fits everything described. Widower, has a son in school, works out of country, unable to access his money, I have continuously refused to send money. He gets upset, not mean, then it seems to settle down and then starts up again with the request or a different issue. We have talked on the phone twice, but it was through an app. I have researched everything I can with the information he has given and questioned when things are off. I’ve even told him if I need to prove anything by sending money, then he can stop contacting me. He has not gone away. I’ve ignored his messages for a bit, but yes, I like talking to him about other things. Would someone say he’s a scammer?

How r we as woman who r being scammed but not one of us has wrote or said there name of the men that were doing this... I knw i just meet somebody in military and havent meet want same stuff ... Does Anybody knw this name... Richard Helseth from N.Y.

Has anyone been involved with a man named Andrew Mark says he’s in the army??

I had previously listed a blog on a man named Christian Buchanan, who at first, I thought was a romance scammer. I became scared thinking that I was being scammed out if money, which I didn't send, and quite honestly, forgot about the blog. It has been a number of months since this post, and Christian found himself on this forem. It was not fair for me to post if I was not sure, and I will work hard to have the blog deleted. Christian is a lovely man and father who does not partake in the scamming industry. Sorry for postin on a blog when I had no real tangential evidence.

I was scammed by the best rogue on the planet.He is on Facebook and now I cannot find him, fake name, fake address, fake job, fake country and fake mom dying of cancer. I gave him $25K over a period of 3 weeks. I am so duped and dumb.
How can I get help?

You can report him to Facebook and to the bank or wire transfer companies you used to send money. Call the Western Union Fraud Hotline at 800-448-1492 or the MoneyGram Customer Care Center at 1‑800‑926‑9400. You can report to the FTC at FTC.gov/complaint.

The information you provide to the FTC goes into a database that law enforcement agencies use for investigations natonwide.

My scammer uses the name Jacinto Oliver met him on OurTime and reported him. He has a fake french passport and uses the screen name Newtownfarmboi. He has also tried to scam others as there are posts on the blog. He claims he is in Dubai and needs money for Drs. bills and has a daughter names Helena 18 and a son Erik who works in Japan and has 2 grandkids that are homeschooled. He is a smooth talker and sends relevant and current pictures when asked. Please beware and report him ASAP.

What about a "friend" who asks you to change your phone service provider so they can buy phones and accessories so they can purchase THESE with their mooney that's supposedly frozen at the bank then sell them and get cash after reselling and shipping the phones to said purchasers.

Recently had a guy tell me he is a surgeon from the U.S, currently based in Syria, I started getting suspicious yesterday with some of the things he was saying. Sent me lots of pictures, asked me to marry him after less then a week, then proceeded to ask for Itunes cards so he can update his phone. Of course he told me video chat and calling is disabled for security reasons. Has a son being raised by a nanny, wife died 8 years ago. I googled his name and did not find anyone matching any of the stuff he has told me. I did not rush out and buy the cards as I was very skeptical and decided to look up iTunes card fraud before I did. Very thankful I found these stories and info before I lost out on money I can’t afford to spend

Has anyone heard of a scammer by the name of Robin Slot Jim? His business is Slot Construction. He claims to have been in Cairo Egypt building a new highway & bridges.

Robin Slot is Dutch, wife from England died, a son Michael in college in Michigan & a young son Alex who is with him. They had been living in US. Alex is American. Claims he owe Egypt a Clearance fee of $48,000, but does not have it, so they detain him in Egypt.

I gave him $57,000 and flys to Paris & gets detained because he owes Workers Union $60,000 to pay workers. He & his son have been in Customs Detention Center at Paris Airport & they want him to go back to Egypt to serve 3-4 years in prison.

Now he is asking for $35,000 to pay Workers Union & another fried gave him $30,000. Does this sound like a scam??

  • This story has many of the warning signs of a scam. The person claims to be a professional working overseas, travelling on business.
  • He says he is a widow with young children, and the children live in the US.
  • He has a sudden emergency related to work a needs money.
  • Although he is a professional, he has no one to help him, and his company won't help him, so he asks you to send him a large amount of money.
  • Then he has another sudden emergency related to work or personal safety or health.

Yes I would say this is a scam. This is currently happening to me. Of course, I fell for it. A person by the name of Carl M Abbey claims to be a veterinarian surgeon in Yemen. Says he's from Brazil on a six-month contract in Yemen treating service dogs with other Physicians. Says he will return to the states in April at which time he will reimburse me and would love to meet me for a full-on long-term relationship. Says he has two kids in boarding schools and his wife passed away 6 years ago. Not even 3 weeks into our communication via Facebook Messenger he all of a sudden wanted me to transfer $3,200 to a bank in Turkey to retrieve a personal box on his behalf because the security company was filing bankruptcy. He asked me for my phone number email and address, of which I reluctantly provided. He says he's been living in the states in Missouri since the passing of his late wife. However, I am unable to verify any piece of information he has given to me so far.

So now that I have wired through my bank $3,200 to this Bank in Turkey. They are claiming that they have not received the funds. Now this is as of today, they have not asked for additional funds just yet, but I fully expect that to be the next step.

I enjoy speaking with this guy we have become very close. However, he claims to be unable to send current pictures and is unable to communicate via phone. The only source of communication is either email or messenger. He has a normal Gmail account and the security company has a website it all seems legit but I'm pretty sure this is a fraudulent scam unfolding as we speak.

I have definitely learned the hard way. This is the first and only time I will ever entertain a handsome face on an app..

this sounds like a scammer who is also posing as robert haul.

I was scammed out of thousands of dollars by a man who was supposidly in Turkey. What I know now, I was used and all of the money I had is gone. I almost lost my home because of this.

I recently met a charming man via online dating site, he is Ukrainian and lives in NY. Name is Scotty or Scott Morgan. We communicate regularly and he is yet to ask for money or ITunes card. Believe me I'm more clever than he is as I research everything, so I'm just sitting back waiting for any type of scam flags. If it happens he will totally hear the worse cussing words ever. If not and all goes well I can say possibly I am that 5% of the real deal. Until then I've got my eye on him and ears wide open. I will keep you posted on how it goes, stay tuned....

Yes he ask for 5000.dollars supposedly for his son. But I didn't send it. He said he was in the Navy.

Thanks for replying but I believe we are speaking of 2 different men, he doesn't have children.

May I ask did Scotty send you pictures if so what distinctive feature do you notice about how he looks I want to know if it's the same guy?

Yes, I did my research you see their big mistake is sending pictures so I did a Google reverse picture search and Boom! Scott Morgan is a scammer most likely Nigeria. So ladies and gentlemen please shut off your hearts and turn on your brains. Hope this helps someone out there don't become a victim.


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