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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: • Federal Bureau of Investigation: Learn more at and

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

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Hi ladies,I think this happening to me,this man is in Scotland on an oil rig and has been chatting now for a while I think he has taken someone profile..this man is very nice looking age 50 a son 3yrs has been separated for three yrs and now needs money to fix machine his contract will end in December and will repay me then or any one I can borrow it from..talks to me morning noon and night...but I have not sent money..and will not told him I don't have it...say he can't access his accounts...anyone else been contacted by Dutton Lucky.. can't find him on fb...please let me know if you have as I feel it's a scam to.. so dissapionted to.. in myself for falling for this.

I think I'm getting scammed there's a girl in West Virginia says that she's in college I sent her $100 already in a card and iTune card now she wants me to send her $400 I asked you to send me a picture of her ID and now she won't show me a picture of her ID I showed her mine maybe I shouldn't have but I did I really don't know what to do other than to not talk to her no more I don't think it's right that she asks me for money and I have never met her

I believe he is going by Richard Pedersen, from Denmark, working off the coast of Turkey...also on an oil rig. Single father with a 7 year old son, both play guitar. Today his machine broke, supposedly needs to fly in a specialist by tomorrow. That was when I knew something was wrong. Loves to use the word baby after every other word, African accent, supposedly Jewish mom and Danish dad. Knows zero about religion. Scammer.

yes think this is the same parasite that scamned me out of money... but yses alot of alias's !!! .seen his face on several web pages as a fraudster . met on a dating web site.. Evil .

What happens if he asks this: Why you don't want to receive my cheque and settle some bills down the state? I believe that this is also a scam. He’s not asking me for money, if anything it’s just the opposite.

What does this guy look like?

I have one telling me he's in Egypt in a hospital and he needs money to pay for his hospital stay, x-rays. Mind you, he's been in this fictitious militsry hospital over a month now for a broken leg.

Same story. The guy go with the name Allen Lai and claimed he lived in Miami and working in a rig platform in Spain. Claimed his wife was cheating on him with his best friends and died from DUI when picking up his son. Then he asked money to fix the machine he was using on the rig so he can finish his contract. I mean, they really cursed their parents and families and kids , all passed away in his mouth.

Please don’t trust him. It’s hurt.

This guy has told me he's on an oil rig and needs money for repairs on hoses. Goes by the name of Joe Cross

do you have a picture or a name please we are in the same boat

Do you have a photo of this man?

He has also used the name Richard Langham. He also has 6 other alias. Do not send money. He is a full blown narcissistic individual who will do anything

Do by any chance have the other names, LOL this is similar to one i was speaking with on a fitness app - but did my investigation and am pretty certain i just busted him... no comment for a few hours so we shall see. He went by the name Jason Lambert

I was talking to a man from Zoosk who said he was from Finland and was importing gym equipment. He got off zoosk right away , so I don’t remember his profile name . Asked me for a loan. I didn’t send it (Zoosk couldn’t really do anything without his profile name. Went by the name Jack Petersen. Tried to do some reverse look up and couldn’t find him.
Just to let you know, you can opt out of the people search type of sites, so that someone can’t get your info. Also, many times those sites are wrong. Try looking up your wind name. Wonder if it was the same man.

Can you remember anything in his story on zoosk? He sounds like one I met on zoosk .. casually sweet ...but seems Pro scammer

I met the guy from Finland on Zoosk. He is 61 and got contract in Cape Town.

Do you know his other alias names he's using? I have been corresponding with a Richard James since early June. Says he's a marine biologist working off the coast of Scotland. Claims to have a 15 year old daughter and live in Sacramento, Ca. The daughter is really weird sends emails calling me ma. He's totally believable. Very smooth operator. Unfortunately I have been stupid enough to give him $2000 so far. Claims he bought me a car and now his agent needs $3000 for customs fee. Did a reverse Google search on one if his pics he sent. It's on a Twitter account by the name of Joe Cross.

Widow put me in touch with daughter who called me "ma" and "mother" -- exactly! Along with big contract to transport oil from Saudi Arabia to Turkey. Sent me pictures of him in DC pitching for the contract, then an appointment letter for $12 million contract for his company "Noah Collignon Ltd." -- he is supposedly French. Sent me video of the oil rig in Turkey. And a couple of weeks later a phoney Turkish customs certificate for $500K -- he hadn't budgeted that much. Had his daughter beg me for help -- she sent me image of wire transfer she made to Turkish bank of $170K, could I do a 'tiny favor' and send $140K?
Didn't get duped into the big bucks but did send $275 in Google Play cards for international calling while he was in Turkey. Feel pretty stupid about that. Was recovering from surgery and quarantining so was not up for meeting before he left for Turkey. Professed love right away.

I’m talking to a man I met on LinkedIn. He says he’s on an oil rig in the Gulf, daughter in boarding school in Canada, wife died 3 years ago. He’s asked me for iTune cards, and when I refused he went on and on about how I didn’t like him, etc.. I gave in, and now he’s asking for two more iTunes cards. He says his name is Vin Logan. He really seems legit though. Sent me photos of himself with his daughter, and several just of him. He has gorgeous blue eyes. Can someone send me a photo that they’ve received so I can see if it’s the same person? Thank you! I’m so upset.

I can send you pictures and we can see if he is the same scammer?

I think I am talking to the same guy! How can we share a pic?

Sound like a few I was texting. Gave me his daughters e-mail and she also called me mom. He pretended to be several guys and on a rig. I have caught lots of them using the same picture under a different name. I have one right now begging me to help him get out of his contract that ends next month supposedly. I was scammed once, so these guys can beg all they want
Not getting a thing.

Yes the guy I am talking to is on a ship tho. His daughter also calls me mom. His name is Gordon Smith. Says his wife passed away. Good looking guy 55 gray hair. He is asking for iTunes cards and money to get out of his contract. Also now he wants $3400 to get his lock box that has his "life savings" in it because the company is closing down. Supposedly the box has 3 mil in cash and gold! Not falling for that one!!

Talking to this guy right now. Probably not the same one, but similar MO. Daughter calling me 'Mom'. Asked for me to send her Steam Wallet gift cards. On an oil rig in the Gulf. Claims he's a mechanical engineer. Name given Mark Schmidt.

I have a guy from Finland in Turkey who is a architect . He is telling me he has a big job and wants me to send him iTunes cards. Same person?

I am in contact with a man from Italy who also had a big architect job in Turkey (in March)...what name does he use? We met in Christian Mingle.

I am korean i met him online dating tinder
Feb.2020 He lives in LA and his name is wang robert He was born and raised denmark and told me korean but i am not sure
April 2020 he needed redeem card(i phone) I bought twice reedem card I didn't doubt him and he showed me his accnt , asked me transfer money because of unstable WiFi
He went to kuwait for work about oil He told me works crane company so he had trouble with mud pump He demanded to send money because his bank black i sent 300$ money
Then i still contact me final game He told me he sent me package My family know about him it's hurt to me and my family
I really want to catch him but it really difficult so my heart is broken down Watch out •wang robert (1979.july.5) korean
His instageam @ wangrobertson

Repot the Instagram account, as scammer so he doesn’t not trick anyone else , I was in the same position he send me a present for my birthday

I have a guy right now texting me from a Michigan number can we compare notes?

Do you have pictures of this Robert Wang?

Same here. He contacted me on LinkedIn under the name Stephen Alexander. Said he was an architect and going to Turkey but the pandemic stopped him. First he needed money for his business then for the hospital. I did not give him any.

Hi! A man messaged me via twitter Oct 25, 2020. We went on with our conversations via whatsapp. He says he’s from the US, is separated from his wife and has a daughter who’s staying with her teacher. He’s a marine engineer and is in a ship right now somewhere in Italy. After about a month into our chatting (Nov.21), he informed me that he actually applied for a new job in our country and that the contract has been signed by the person concerned but he needs at least 400USD (converted to our currency) for the contract to be processed and he really wants to keep the contract. Wanting to help, I didn’t think twice and sent the amount to a name he gave me. The name is supposed to be someone who’s really from our country. He told me that the company he’s working for at present in Italy has been having financial problems since the pandemic started and what kept him holding on was the promise that by the end of this year, they would be given their salaries and he could finally leave. 3 days after I "paid" for his contract (Nov. 24), he presented another problem and this time, it concerns his daughter. Told me the last time he sent her money was on Sept and he promised to send her 600 USD for food and other stuff. Being a mom myself, my heart went out to the poor girl so I told him that I can send money but only 300 USD. Then he gave me the name of a man who’s supposedly living in another state. I asked him who’s the man and why is he in another state and not the same address with his daughter. His answer was that the man is the husband of her daughter’s teacher and that he’s working in that state, thus the address. After sending 300 USD, the daughter supposedly sent me an email thanking me and that she’s happy that she finally has someone whom she can call mom. Told me that her birthday is on Dec. 7 and she’s expecting a gift. I wasn’t sure though if the email really came from the daughter. On Dec. 6, the man got another problem. Said he promised to send money to his daughter for her birthday celebration ‘cause she wanted to have it in the orphanage and give something to the kids there. That he doesn’t want to disappoint her daughter. I even argued with him that her daughter would understand if she won’t be able to celebrate this year but he was insistent. The kind that makes you look bad if you don’t give in to his wishes. He even mentioned that they were promised their salaries on Dec. 15 so long story short, I sent the daughter 200 USD through that same person. Then after a week (Dec 13), he got another problem again. Said he needs at least 250 USD for his sustenance while in the ship. After a long argument, I finally sent 250 USD for his supposed sustenance. What I noticed was that he becomes extra sweet before asking for money and when the money has been sent already, he’s less sweeter haha! I thought that would be the last but I was wrong. Just yesterday (Dec. 21), he informed me that her daughter is confined in a hospital in one of the hospitals in the US and he needs at least 400 USD for hospital payments. I don’t believe him anymore. I’m tired of him asking me for money. What should I do?

Yes oil rig worker..different name, but part of something fealt organized

This man, Oliver Lindstrom73 has
Tried to scam me out of $4,350.00
To pay for Helicopter service to take him off an Oil Rig out in the ocean! Gave me the link to email this company. I received their prices for different fares!!!!!!
What he wanted to do, was cut his contract short, and fly from the "Ill Rig. To Houston, and take his money out and fly here to marry me right away!! Intuition kicked
In, And I had all these red flags!!
I flat turned him down. On every
Thing he wanted to do. Which were all lies! He was going to get that money and run like a Jack rabbit!! He got nothing from these old's country girl!
Once he could get the money, he went into a rage, calling me names, ugly ugly names!
Bye, Oliver ! Lover Boy!

I have a very affectionate follower who is on an oil rig as we speak! What a coincidence! My guy is Julian. We should compare notes! Too bad we can't bust him,

Yes wish we could compare notes and pictures

This sounds just like the guy my mother is talking to.
He's going by ths name Mark Edeh.
He's asked her for 6,600, then 3,500.
Told her to borrow from family, sell her car, home.
Wants her credit score, bank info.

He uses pictures taken off another person's website.

Says he is stuck on a ship in the Persian Gulf, he's from Germany, has a daughter Pamela in boarding school in the UK.
That he's a widower.
Owns a 5 bedroom home in Chicago and many cars.

His bank account is blocked and he needs my mother to send him money to reactivate it so he can hire a private jet to leave where he is.

When she told him she hasn't any way to get that much money, he has suggested and insisted she buy Amazon cards for him to pay his bank with.

But he also told her to give him her bank info so he can transfer money to her, then she can send it to him.

And she's falling for it and trying to come up with it.
Help if you can possibly give me advice on how to get rid of this person before he takes what little she has.

She can't even afford food or her rent but he doesn't care.

You tell your Mom it sounds like we are talking to the same guy except this time he is from NJ . Does he talk romantic and send lots of poems. He now in Turkey on a ship working as a Mechanic . He has 2 children boy and girl they are inboarding school his wife died 3 years ago. He was
asking for 5 grand because he is sick. I did not send him money, I got a text from the nurse on the boat he had a seizure they needed me to send them money so they could fly him in for treatment and test. Met him on Scrabble now on WhatsApp. If you want to share pictures gladly send one. Yea he told me to take out a loan.

I met someone from ScrabbleGo. I wonder if it's the same guy with a different scenario. I met this guy through ScrabbleGo. We just started chatting last week through WhatsApp. He's supposed to be a doctor who's lived in LA since age 7, and now in a Third World Country due to the Pandemic. He said his daughter is in a boarding school, and wife died 5 years ago giving birth to their second child. He wants me to send him iTunes voucher with instructions on how to send it to him. I haven't sent him anything, cause I had a feeling he's a scammer. I always ask him to send me selfies when we're texting, and he keeps sending me theses handsome pictures. I finally asked to talk or video chat instead of texting, he said it's not allowed where he's at. I told him I had my doubts that I'm being scammed, so he called, we spoke for a few minutes, and we got disconnected. For somebody who grew up in LA, this guy had a very heavy accent. I insisted on a video chat. He agreed, and on the screen is the handsome guy on the photos moving his lips so fast, and all he said to me was Hi, how are you?, and got cut off. I'm convinced that he is not the guy on the photos. These scammers have every way of doing things on computers, including that video call, just to lure us. I also told him to buy his iTunes card since he's a doctor. Don't fall for it.

I met this guy too on Scrabble Go, name of John Williams, but he wanted to send me money 80,000USD. Money laundering sprung to mind. Handsome doctor with daughter Princess in boarding school in Dubai. Could be same.

I have been chatting with a John Williams also, for the past 4 months. I believe he has stolen someone's identity and personal information. Would you have a photo?

I'm also chatting a guy now for almost a month and have the same name. And he's asking money for his son. Can you show me the photo maybe it's the same guy

Sounds exactly as the one I talked to , super handsome go to Social Catfish and put a picture of him , my result was a very handsome Italian actor , you just have to pay 5 dlls be careful he is a pro !!

Is the guy he sends with blue eyes ? Super handsome ? Go to social catfish and put his picture , I found out the real guy !!!

Do you have a photo of this blue eyed man? I think I’m being scammed too.

Sounds almost identical to someone I was talking to. He wrote poetry, but only had one son. This man went under 3 different names. Kept coming up with excuses as to why. He gave up in the end as I wouldn’t send money.

I had the same thing happen with a man named Harvey Benjamin but I caught on very early and warned him about my thoughts he was scamming but he just kept going at me. Until I flat refused to give in. All of a sudden I was a disgusting women but he slipped up and expressed that in Nigerian. Tell your mom to walk away right now!

Yeah he is something else I met him.... Well not met but he wanted me to be his wife but is a very foul man

Anyone asks you for iTunes cards, google play cards, Amazon, money or anything else like say a laptop, there is only one thing you should do BLOCK them straight away and never keep talking to them look after yourself you are number one not them.
If your gut and head is saying something is wrong listen to it these so call scammers live high and well on your money, there’s only one way to deal with these low life’s dump them without a word block from all contact .
You can’t be sure if any of these photos are the real person I had one photo was a white man on a dating site spoke off on what’s app his big mistake was showing the real self on cam He wasn’t that man in the picture i off the cam and blocked he never saw me or my expression in shock

No, I have a polish guy, who can't read Polish. Lol


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