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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: • Federal Bureau of Investigation: Learn more at and

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

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Anyone met an Irishman working on tanap project in Turkey. Called today and wanted 20,000.

I am talking to Bright Jackson,Originally from Paris France,Relocated to Austin Texas,He sent pics. Of his mansion,Caught his wife with his Best friend in their matrmonial Bed,Is raising his 10yr.old Grandson who's parents got killed in fatal accident on a trip to Germany,now He has traveled to off shore oil rig for work to the GULF IF MEXICO,Left Boy with nanny,He left his wallet at Airport now He wants $200 in itune card,Then he wants My Bank,So the co.can deposit money in my acct.for equipment they need and I can keep $500 for myself,I said no,Now He wants me to get Red card from Target for co. Deposits",A charmer,sent pic of Him and.10yr old Boy,Very Handsome..Said He told Boy about us,Grandson's name Henry,Wants me To Hurry up and send Red Card from Targrt,When He comes Home we'll get Married...Yea Right

I am curious if this is the same man I have been talking to. Please respond so we can compare. My guy goes by Jon Bach 52/53- gorgeous, white hair and beard. 512-593-1727 is his number

I have been scammed by a man called Steve S Mitchell. Among many things he claimed to be born in Belgium and he migrated here to Australia when he was 17 in 1975. He also claimed to be an engineer working for a container shipping company. From another of his victims I have seen his limo permit issued to an address in San Angelo Tx which looks genuine plus his US passport which states he was born in New York - almost certainly fake. I helped him out with a medical bill for his 26 year old student son and another to set up a bank account in my name which was said to contain several millions dollars - final pay from his work with the shipping company - both were scams. He is very clever at photoshopping false bank documents, driver's license, hospitals and injuries as well as his passport. Has sent numerous photos of himself with his beagle hound Sophie. The last photos were of himself in the Ampang area of Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. Photos appear to be genuine even to playing the organ in church. Has at least four 'agents' who allow their bank accounts to be used for deposits for him. I can absorb the AUD$2,500 he scammed from me but another of his victims took out a bank loan to help him and she lives in a poor country. Her family are unaware and she is devastated.

I just started on the dating sites in Feb 2018. I have met 6 that have professed their love for me very fast. All have asked for money in the form of gift cards. One sent me a check for $40K to hold for him until he returns. That one is on a ship. It amazes me how they get mad when you say you don't have it. Jerks. Luckily I have only lost $100. That was my being really suckered. And when they call you after they have scammed you or attempted to. Do they sit in a room like telemarketers and just work the computer scamming men and women? I would love to get my hands on them. Especially the ones that have taken people for a lot of money in the name of love. I am about to give it all up and stay single like I was. I will get another dog to love me.

I'm texting someone for about a year now we never met,she asked that I western union her some money
What should I do.

DONT DO IT! NEVER unless he sends you something valuable than what they request. Period.

has anyone encountered a Michael James?

What us the situation with ITunes cards!!??! And why do these scammers have you switch to hangouts?? I see this question has been asked but i haven't seen an answer yet.

My friends gentleman was on an oil rig as well went by the name Dickson Grey he moved very fast and asked her to send him itune cards so he could continue to talk to her since he had run out of text minutes. His phone number went to a strange call center and he had a little girl named Amanda. Well to prove to her that it was a scammer my friend and I got the same guy to talk to me and we payed it thick like he was doing to her aand as soon as he asked me for iTunes cards for minutes we called him out on it. My friend was heart broken but we had enough info to turn him in!

Hi I was scammed by a man named Gabriele Lorenzo. He says he works for jll construction. He's on a ship in gulf of Mexico. Getting ready to retire. He says he's sending me his retirement money. They wanted 2100 I only had 1100. He still talks to me says he's a Christian. I checked him out on been verified. All the emails don't exist. I'm so heart broken. Has anyone heard of this guy

I “met” a man named Scott Lorenzo when he sent me a friend request on Facebook. He said he was working on an oil rig off of the coast of Mexico, he was a widower and had two children that were in boarding school. Everything was going great, I really felt a connection to him, I could even say I was starting to fall in love with him. After about a month, there was an explosion on the oil rig. Since he was the contractor, he was responsible for the man who got hurt, as well as getting the replacement parts. I don’t have the money, but he still talked with me! He knew I was selling my house, so I believe he just strung me along, complementing me, professing his love for me, and promising me the life I always wanted!
I had doubts, and in the end I never gave him any money. He cursed me out, said I was wicked, and told me that I would be responsible for his death. I can’t believe he wasn’t real, he felt more real to me and some of the people I knew in real life. So, I’m heartbroken and sad that this person didn’t love me and was out to scam me from the beginning!

Hi I was scammed by Gabriele Lorenzo also he says he works for Jill construction. He is on sip in gulf of Mexico. He wants to give me his box full of retirement money. I lost 1100 2 years ago. He just started writing again. I will be blocking him. He's a scammer

Has anyone been conned by a guy with the following name? Sam Choi, Young Choi, or Sam Young Choi? His full name is Sam Young il Choi. He claims to be an attending physician in the pediatric unit in Boston Children’s Hospital and MGH. The American Medical Association has no record of his medical license and he pries on Women on online dating sites such as OkCupid. He asked for money but the moment you ask him to return the money he disappeared and refuses all communications. I want all women who have been involved with this person to report it. He has a shaved section on his left brow. This indicates Punk status. He golfs regularly but can pay anyone back. He does not drive his own car. Stop giving him money.

Yes he did it to my friend!

Hi. i have a same problem currently on-going. he states he moved from Boston couple months ago. I know his home address. is there any way we can coordinate together for media?
let me know.

I have not yet gave him any $ since it's very fishy.
I would like to report this guy so that no other girl go through the same thing... how can we report this guy and where?

Yes, we should report the guy. But how and where?

Has anyone heard of the name Robert Sebastian??

I posted a few days ago and mentioned that I think I am being scammed. Perhaps my comment didn't post because it was not seen as “helpful". I really want people aware of this, not because the guy was trying to scam me but because there is something that happens when you know it is happening but you try to convince yourself that there is a possibility that you are wrong. No matter who you are and what you look like we all want to hear compliments and told that we are loved. This isn't the bad part. All these things are true in a sense and deep-down people know it and that's why they continue to play into it. Where it cuts off is when you feel like you need to pay for these affections. I recently encountered an online love interest who was incredibly handsome and all his pictures were like model shots. We talked on the phone and I just kept telling him "I just want to be friends" I just wanted to get to know him. I fantasized just about friendship. He told me he was moving from Houston to Signal Hill and was just looking to meet people. I was cool with that. I planned to introduce him to my friends that worked in his industry that might be helpful getting him work and I told him we could workout together at the gym and that was it. He then began to send my pictures of him and asked me to send them back to him so i did. He complimented me on my looks and told me that he felt a connection with me. I continued to tell him "that's great but I just want to get to know you better and be friends first" One day he sent me a picture that was well a little hotter, not naked hot, but just him without a shirt on. At first, I was "Wow!" then relaxed and stayed focused with my intentions and told him "that's quite an inspirational picture, I can’t wait til you get here and we hit the gym together" as we continued to chat he kept getting frustrated with me and eventually began to tell me how I was the "one" for him and that I am already in his heart. Again, I told him that I am looking to be friends first. Finally, one day I received a text and he was asking me for a favor. In his text he said he needed a iTunes gift card. I told him "Are you telling me you NEED music?" He said yes, he needs music and movies. I told him "Do you realized how strange this request is?" That it’s weird asking someone you have never met to buy you a gift card? I said how much? He said $150 but not to buy it all on one card that he needed two cards one for $100 and one for $50 and to take a picture of the codes on the back and he would be able to process it. The next day I said "No" I don't feel comfortable doing it. He then said he understands and it was OK. The day after that I get another text that says "Have you decided to buy the iTunes card for me?" I told him I want to talk to him and called him a few hours later where he continued to tell me how I am "in his heart" and he needs the card. That night, after thinking about what to do, I then took a piece of paper and made a sign that says "Hi Andrea" (that was his name) then I took a picture of myself holding the sign in front of me and I texted it to him telling him that I wanted him to do the same and to make a sign with my name on it and hold it in front of him.........I haven't heard a peep from him since. So, what I am assuming is that the poor handsome guy that this scammer is using to trap others into giving him money has no idea that he is being "pimped" out. These photos may have been collected by the internet or from when he asks people to send him their picture. I just hope that he is not using my picture to scam a person.

That's the best way to find out the person your talking to is the same person in the picture

I also was scammed out of 2500. Same story as what I've read.on this site. Only his oil rig was off the coast.of Alaska and the money was for his daughter in Italy to take care of his mom who was in the hospital, sent me a pic of her on a gurney in a hospital gown. is Patrick Johnson but he spoke with an.Italian accent. He had me send money orders to his.'agent' here in Atlanta. My bank actually told me they would not release me and that this was a scam. I wished i would have listened to that Bank Manager. I left there in shock.
First he needed 10000. I told him I didn't have it and he's practically in tears and he doesn't know what he's going to do. Then he says 8000 and I said no. He finally begrudgingly settled for the 2500. I did tell him at the time if he was scamming me, I'd hunt him down like the dog.he was. He.laughed nervously and I've never heard from him again. I found.him on POF.

Patrick Johnson!!! He is at it again, Now he is trying to scam me. He needs 3500 and is desperate. Met him on Words with Friends and we are talking through Google Hangouts!!! I knew it was a scam once he said I will send your funds back to you. FUNDS???? I want money. So I have started telling him he has to Western Union the money if he wants back. He asked me to send a request for a leave to a google account!!! Not a corporate address!!!! robert willer12345@ . BE CAREFUL!!!!

MARK FRAWLEY. Extremely good looking. Claiming in Dubai working at an oil rig. Asking for $5,000. He said he is from Asheville, NC. Have two sons leaving with their nanny. He sounds from Nigeria over the phone.

Another scammer called Rich Wright, says from New York. Phone # 949-445-0809. Jerk says we met on LinkedIn last year. Ladies beware!!

Terry Travis Rivera
Samuel Parker
Dr. Scott Henry
Dr. Anthony Ford
Juluis Luis
Do any of these names ring a bell? All but Anthony Ford have tried to scam me for money, itunes cards, receive money etc. Still waiting to see when Anthony will ask. Lol Terry Travis Rivera says he is a marine stationed in Camp pendelton,CA. Scott Henry in Syria, Anthony Ford in kabul, Juluis Luis in Africa, Samuel Parker in fort hood South Carolina. Anyone ring a bell to you all? And no i did not send a dime.

If anyone is contacted by Robert Michael Weston do not fall for his line. Says he is widow of 5 yrs--grown daughter has passed away--and he is raising granddaughter all alone. He was on rig in Gulf of Mexico then got transferred to a rig off the coast of Nigeria. He claims to be a chemical engineer. Said wallet got stolen and needed iTune cards. $40,000 (of mine & my family n friends) later, he has expenses for repairs that I won't cover. So now that I won't pay, he is giving up and going home! With no money or paycheck. DO NOT FALL FOR HIM!!!!
57 years old...resides in Orlando FL...was a cardiac trauma nurse before he worked on rigs.

Just 2 of the scammers who tried to get me!!
Larry Stephen Adams or Stephen Larry Adams
Richard Ryan Vacek

Scamnot0125...did this man have short gray hair, a goatee, and wear wire framed glasses? He has a barrel chest and wears a chain of some sort around his neck?

Last November 2017 I have joined the Instagram to promote my Interior Design bussines. The man called Philippe Naval from Lyon(France) started texting me. He intriduced himself as avation constructor. After texting each other on Instagram he asked me for my email address and Skype Id. He provided his emai address, mobile number and Skype Id. I suppose to vidit him in Lyon ( I live in England)., but then he dsid that he had to go to Morocco to build becsuse of work and in January off he went. After few days he texted me and said that he had a carcacciden and needs some money. I refused at first but he was so convincing and I was thinking that I am halping a frend in difficult situation. To cut the long story short he got over £2000 from me. When he asked me for money in August 2018 I have asked him for ID and he emailed me the french ID card for Philippe Naval. I have few photos of him plus that ID card. How can I find out is Philippe Naval is real person or imposter?

Anyone ever heard of a certain Docor Scott Brian MD, you can find him on twitter.

To be clear, I didn’t give him any money.
But boy oh boy, he had a great story. I almost fell for it.
Beware of this guy...

Anyone know a Dr James Douglas working as a surgeon in Syria at a un army camp? Born in LA has a 14 yr old son....i fell hook line and sinker..

I met this dude on Whisper. We started talking and exchanging photos, and eventually started talking on Google Hangouts. He told me his name was William Stones, and that he lost his girlfriend to cancer, and was a single father to a boy. Confused he was in love with me within a week. Then, he started to ask for gift cards for his son’s birthday, and other things. Told me if I got him gift cards he would pay me back double. I called him a fake scammer and he showed his true colors. I am pissed because I sent photos and told him personal things I was going through. Whoever this scammer is he has to be using photos from a guy that posts or posted a lot because we exchange many photos. I never sent any money, but my feelings are hurt.

I met a beautiful Belgium woman on match 45 days ago, after 3 weeks of talking she was in love and wanted to share her life with me.
Now she's asking me for $$$ as a loan to conclude her businness, she needs $159k but she says anything I can give/loan her will help. She said she'll pay me back in 30 days with interest.
I've never seen her only pics.
I asked for a copy of her European passport, DL and address in San Francisco..she got very irritated she said if we are in love why do you need my passport, DL and address. She claimed to live in San Francisco and will move to my city in a few months.
But now based on everyone else's experience looks like she's a scam artist.
Thank you.

One scammer tried to get me from Instagram
Used this ID: Calvinharrisprivate
Later he asked me add him to hangouts
ID: calvinharris578 @gmail. com Be careful from this guy

Marshall Schmidt is a scam from Instagram. Profess love quickly. Lives in Palm Beach, wife died 5 years ago. Son and daughter with nanny homeschool, no friends both parents died, luggage stolen in Dubai need money for emergency passport. Block and delete immediately

Out of the more than 300 facebook girlfriends I have all but two haven't asked me for money, I feel at least 85% of the people on Facebook are just waiting to hear from a lonely old person, so they can jump on them and rob them. Sad isn't it?

Does anyone know the name Morgan Travis, a Orthopedic Doctor in Seria, daughter is Lisa 14 yrs.

I HAVE a man,that wants me to send iTunes card for music,and videos,well stationed,out of U.S. Could it be legit? Yes he wants a LOVE and a wife,who does not want to be happy.
THINKING OF doing it..It has to be tough,life..

I had a similar guy talking to me. Same thing. First he asked me to receive a check and send money to his cousin then he asked me to give him $5000 for his dad and then I gave him $400 in gift cards to Amazon and iTunes. Military that is deployed want things they can't get there like food or other things not gift cards.

I have had there scammers contact me, Kent Warren, who claims he is a contractor on a ship near Africa, got extremely angry when I wouldn't send him money, Arthur's David, who claims to be an orthopedic surgeon from California with a young son, and Dwayne Johnson Conner, who works for a government fraud agency (haha) out of the United States, but is based in Nigeria at the moment.. all asking for iTunes cards.. one asking me to get a loan for 10 grand so he can settle his fines and come here. They all have very nice profile pictures and are full of fake romance. I have not seen any of them money.. nor will I ever send them money. You can tell that they are not American by the terrible grammar they use in their messages. They all like to talk on WhatsApp or hangouts.

I am toying with a dude like that right now. He claims to be from Australia and to be an gemologist, stuck in Turkey. Supposedly from RI, but he can't leave his project and his CC and bank account is blocked for international transfers. First he asked me to help him pay equipment fees so the equipment isn't pulled off the project (14K bill), than he asked to login to his bank account and see if I can make a transfer to my account... (LOL, money laundering - thinking of reporting this to the FBI), now he just wants a $400 iTunes card to buy international calling card.
He has the worst Aussie accent ever, can't pronounce a "th" and refers to himself as a Kiwi... that's a total no, no for Australians, Kiwi's are from New Zealand.
It's just fun to reply with totally innocent questions and see what comes next.
I am a very realistic person, there is no falling in love based on text messages or emails. Any of that stuff is just an invitation to start playing.
This dude Riccardo Gassman is taking the cake and it's fun to take him for a ride.
A friend ran into a similar situation with a guy called Anthony Mastroianni.

Bless his heart, Riccardo Gassman is still hard at work...just another con man looking for love, wanting to know everything about you, and writing in English as a second language. Please don't take this fella seriously in any way!

Contacted me yesterday, cant talk to the site, immediately went to Hangouts. Red flag. Messages ridiculously over the top about how beautiful I am ect.. Same name, same story so far... Australian, In Turkey, Gemologist. I have already blocked him and reported to Match. Thank you for posting this, it helped me to confirm quickly and easily the suspicions I had.

I started talking to a girl.who went by the name.Donna Trudell on connecting singles. She gave me her cell #, we talked once and did Skype once but I could only see her and could not hear her. She sent me Just yesterday she said she was looking at setting up a beauty salon, and then today she sent me pictures of the place she was looking to rent + a copy of the lease agreement. She then proceeded to ask me for 7,000 to cover.part of the rental agreement. I told her no that i did have the money to give her.

found this site trying to find out information about what was happening to me ! ...
Some guy contacted me though Facebook Name Mathew Sparks we started chatting through messanger then he asked me to download hangouts so we could be in contact with each other on hangouts he goes by the name of Mathew Howard he says he's military 44 years old, wife died in fatal crash had a 10 year old daughter ask me to married him after two or three days I was very surprised of course I told him no !! was to soon we didn't know each other he didn't like that he also showed aggressiveness after that he apologize and started being very sweet after that, saying he was deeply in love with me and from there started asking me for iTunes cards at first I told him no he tried to make me feel guilty so I end up doing it I did it two times and was about to do it again tomorrow but after I read all of these experiences from different people I can say it looks like we are talking about the same person I can't believe it !!!!
P.S. I got pictures and phone number as well he has a (512 )area code .

My mother has been a victim of this....for over 2 yrs now. Guys name is Chris (Christian) Ambrosini. Sipposedly he was working on the oil pipeline off Alaska and bank would not let him have his money. He has scammed her out of at least 600,000. ....all of her retirement. He is good. She sent a large sum within 2 weeks they started talking.

I posted earlier about G.K. Forgot to say that I checked the date that he gave me for his BD and wife's death and they matched. He also sent me a photo of the "contract" he had with Egypt. When I thought he was coming home, I sent a picture of his changed, ticket to Philadelphia. He was very smooth.

Says his name is Phillip Wright, and that he’s on an oil rig in the Gulf of Mexico. Supposedly has a mother and daughter living in Key West. Says he’s sick (ulcer), was getting drugs, but medical won’t give him any more until he starts paying for them. Wants me to get an iTunes gift cards and send him the number so he can sell the card for cash, also needs $2,000 to get a piece of machinery plus himself off the rig. Those who work on oil rigs are paid a lot of money.

I have a supposed American who speaks with broken English claiming that I am his wife. He was going to ask me for $3000 for his dad which was down from $5000 and now wants iTunes gift cards from me for $200 to fix his cell phone while he is deployed in Afghanistan and he has been there for 7 years. He quickly called me his girlfriend and now he calls me his wife. His name is Alfred Mark Layton and he found me on Instagram and is listed as Alfred Mark on there. I am unable to find him on any Google or people searches and the broken English was a giveaway to me but I am in love with love so I opened up to him. Now he has my full name and address. His email was invalid to iTunes so they initially tipped me off to this as a scam. I hate that I am in love with love so that I can protect myself. My mistake. There went $400 though. :(


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