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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: ftc.gov/complaint • Federal Bureau of Investigation: ic3.gov. Learn more at ftc.gov/imposters and aba.com/engagement

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

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BMW61
February 25, 2018
I recently met a charming man via online dating site, he is Ukrainian and lives in NY. Name is Scotty or Scott Morgan. We communicate regularly and he is yet to ask for money or ITunes card. Believe me I'm more clever than he is as I research everything, so I'm just sitting back waiting for any type of scam flags. If it happens he will totally hear the worse cussing words ever. If not and all goes well I can say possibly I am that 5% of the real deal. Until then I've got my eye on him and ears wide open. I will keep you posted on how it goes, stay tuned....
blondie
February 27, 2018
Yes he ask for 5000.dollars supposedly for his son. But I didn't send it. He said he was in the Navy.
BMW61
March 02, 2018

In reply to by blondie

Thanks for replying but I believe we are speaking of 2 different men, he doesn't have children.
BMW61
March 02, 2018

In reply to by blondie

May I ask did Scotty send you pictures if so what distinctive feature do you notice about how he looks I want to know if it's the same guy?
BMW61
March 03, 2018
Yes, I did my research you see their big mistake is sending pictures so I did a Google reverse picture search and Boom! Scott Morgan is a scammer most likely Nigeria. So ladies and gentlemen please shut off your hearts and turn on your brains. Hope this helps someone out there don't become a victim.
Audshut
March 03, 2018
I was recently scammed. Thank goodness it was only a small amount. I was on the sight pink cupid and started talking to a woman Kelly Johnson who said she was deployed in Afghanistan and needed money so we could talk on a secure line. I naively send some and then she asked for more because it wasn't enough. That's when I got suspicious and realized I was being scammed. I feel stupid and heartbroken. It's hard to move on from this. Lesson learned I guess. I wish there was an online site full of pictures that could be searched to see if the ones I was sent were the same.
Met him on Pen…
March 03, 2018
I met the nicest man in the world, born again Christian and the whole nine. His name is Michael Steve. He is an Engineering Consultant who lives in Lagos, Nigeria. In the beginning I thought he was a scammer as soon as he said he lives in Nigeria. He assured me he was not and asked that I not condemn all Nigerians. (made me feel bad about it)We developed a very close relationship over a period of 2 months. Everything was perfect until he said he was awarded a Government Contract. The government only gave him 80% of the $950,000.00 contract. The job was to be completed in six weeks. After completion he was coming to visit me with the other 20%. He mentioned that he would soon run short on the money and needed more to complete the job and possibly needed to get a loan. He made up some story about the bank not being able to give him a loan because people were not paying their loans back. He then asked me to get a loan for him and he would pay me back after the job was complete. I told him only a scammer would ask me for money without meeting me in person first and I ended the relationship, but I'm sure he's going to succeed with the next person because he is REALLY REALLY GOOD AT BEING A SCAMMER. I really liked him. I thought he was my Soulmate. WARNING!!!!!MICHAEL STEVE WITH A GMAIL ACCOUNT...ENGINEERING CONSULTANT FROM LAGOS, NIGERIA...BE AWARE
zookeeper18
March 05, 2018
I have been affected by a few perpetrators over the past few years, and they are all after everyone's money, and you get nothing in return, but heartache and lots of grief. Stress, lack of money and independence, your health and well-being isn't worth these to anyone to deal with. Being incarcerated because of the bad deed someone did to you, is not justification. I empathize anyone that has had to go through this and it takes so much to be able to trust anyone. I am so torn by actions that men, as well as women have taken someone to the cleaner, just for their own personal gain. It's illegal and it needs to stop!!
DCG
March 07, 2018
I am 72 years old and I was scammed the almost $5,000 my entire savings. The scammer was on Facebook and he spoke of God and going to church and saying prayers and I believe here. after I realized what happened, I told him I was going to report him to Facebook which I did twice and I also am Gathering up my report for the FBI. I told him this also. I told him Facebook was watching him and you what he was doing and the next thing I knew he is cancel that account and it's on there again same picture but with different name. His first name was Evans Vincent. The name he is going by now it's Roland James Mathes. After I told him all this he blocked me. I contacted three other women that was on his friend page and I asked them had he asked them for money. One had just met him and he said he had not asked her for anything yet the other one he asked her to buy him a gift card which she did not because she did not have the money. I have all my receipts I have many pictures of him that I will be turning into the FBI next week. I really hope they get him. I don't want him taking advantage of other women like he did me. And checking back through his profile he has been on Facebook since 2009 and he is very slick I never saw this coming. Do beware if you see this man's name. he claimed he had a daughter and all three of us he gave different stories in different ages for her, I am believing he doesn't have a daughter at all. he wanted to get married to but I told him I had to know the person and meet the person before I would even know if I love them plus it bothered me that I was 20 years older than this person and he told me age is just a number. We never talk sex which I was glad and every guy and there were five of them at the same story all of them wives were killed in a car accident 5 years ago they all had a child that was really too young for their age and that was a when a bell went off in my head and the first mention of money I dropped them. You may fool me once but you won't prove me twice. I appreciate the information I have received on this blog and I plan to also report them to the authorities that I've been recommended. Thank you I hope this helps someone else. At first was embarrassed by but not anymore I am only human and I hate it has happened to so many people. May God bless everyone on this blog for having to learn the hard way.
December14
December 19, 2018

In reply to by DCG

I got scammed by this guy too. Did he tell you his hubby or birthday? Did he tell you that he is a Roman Catholic?
Lovelost1
March 07, 2018
I met someone online in california who shipped out to be on a nato contract in Afghanistan. It's been a couple of weeks since we met and it's progressed quickly. He had told me initially he would be moving to a active zone but yesterday he told me they would be moving next week and that the only way we could stay in contact was for me to sign up for the nato satellite phone one way access. When I received the email it looked official but the charges were high starting at 245$ for 3 months access. I reread the email the next day and saw some typos which he stated was nor a as the contract is handled by the Arabs there. So I responded with basic info and received another email saying I was approved and to send payment to his prior contract officer in manilla using a wire transfer. The whole thing seems shady he's upset saying I do t trust him. Has anyone heard of a scam like this? His name is Martin Houston
lucabela
March 09, 2018

In reply to by Lovelost1

Do not send payment! If the site is fake you have given up your credit card info. Talk to other service men and women. I think mostly they Skpe.
Miracleshappening
March 08, 2018
I only wish for those of us that have fallen in the trap of helping out others that were not sincere with their hearts and intentions that we heal and be blessed profoundly with abundance of every good thing and may these people awaken from the dream of the senses!
lucabela
March 09, 2018
I had an online dating guy I had not yet met ask me for emergency money for his business. I said "Sure, just send me a copy of your voided check and I will ACH the funds to you"...Of course he was not going to provide me HIS BANKING INFORMATION so that put an end to his pursuit of me when I refused to send funds any other way.
Wronged
March 13, 2018
If I block this person on Facebook, posts won't be lost will they? Am going to report person... Just thought posts are needed for investigation.
Stalking Jack …
March 15, 2018
Adams Collins...anyone recognize that name. Instagram adams_ col
Wend
March 20, 2018

Scammers are very intimidating pieces of scum they use decent peoples hearts and minds to break us to give them what they want.Im in uk s yorks and ive had scammers from dubai, states they try it yes my 1st was a dubai guy using names kenneth johnson another aka edwin johnson father american mother uk i was on chat oasis were he coaxed me off onto another messaging site dont get me wrong he does seem genuine until he called me via whatsapp they think we are stupid single people who needs love i learnt a few things hangouts if u click on contacts etc it gives u their email address

All i do is get as many pics of the person via screen shot and note their email address down before they realise its on view Go to google or safari Search for reverse image search It doesnt always show if they have zoomed in ect so checked similar images Same with email address search for reverse email check 30mins isnt along time not when u spend hours wondering why me crushed heart rattled head.Im playing a dangerous game of cat and mouse with kenneth johnson 8 weeks later ive been given bank info of 3 diff accounts UAE info im sponging every last info poss he cant hurt me hes a prat but while im keeping him chatting i know hes leaving others alone I hope this info helps u guys dont be a victim make them feel victims of mental abuse as thats what they are doing

ivs2018
March 21, 2018
Does Bruce sound familiar to anyone??? Has young son...wife died. He claims he lives in New York
ivs2018
March 21, 2018
Does Bruce sound familiar to anyone??? Has young son...wife died of cancer. He claims he lives in New York? He claims he is an engineer....He really had me fooled...
Sharzoo
October 19, 2018

In reply to by ivs2018

Engineer he lives in Harlem. He is right now on oil rig in Canada
Melkessler
October 20, 2018

In reply to by Sharzoo

The engineer I was talking to lives in McKinney Texas and has asked for 100 bucks in iTunes cards, big loans because his pump is down on his rig and the latest wanted my drivers license and copy of social security card. Which I did not do any of them. His name is George Kurt Wilson 55. Found him on match.com. Oh and he supposedly has a contract with ConocoPhillips . He is supposedly a contractor for them. Be ware!!!!
Tulip888
August 27, 2019

In reply to by Melkessler

Hi Melkessler, There is a man on a dating site in Miami with the name George Kurt Wilson & supposedly works for ConocoPhillips. We've just spoken on the phone & haven't met in person. The picture on the dating site he used shows him with greyish hair, 6'2", big build thick neck, close-cropped hair. I know you posted your comment in 2018, but hoping that you can confirm if this is the same person. Thank you.
Hope it's not …
July 25, 2020

In reply to by Tulip888

Help me out here ladies. Been talking to George Kurt wilson for 3 weeks says he's a good Catholic man. He found me on Zoosk . He don't ask for money just wanting that loving woman to spend the rest of his life with. He's oilfield contractor, from Germany has dual citizenship. Hazel eyes, 6'2" divorced 5 years ago we had a date set and he cancelled dug to pump not working. Has called me 3 times and text daily. I told him to meet me on duo, Skype or messanger for live chat.he said he would be home in 6 or7 days to have our date.
Hope it's not …
July 25, 2020

In reply to by Tulip888

Do ladies is there a way I can send you a picture and ask you if it's the same guy I'm supposed to be seeing??? If so I'll tell you where to find him.
Hope it's not …
July 25, 2020

In reply to by Tulip888

He says he's 56 and his birthday is January 20th
Bobbi
August 27, 2019

In reply to by Melkessler

MelKessler - he just recently did the same to me. I found your post after the fact. He tried to get $90,000 from me for oil rig parts. I reported him to the FBI so he’s still out there doing it. Of course he says that you aren’t real and he didn’t do this. It was competitors who wrote your post. Lying piece of .
Hope it's not …
July 25, 2020

In reply to by Bobbi

Why can't I post a picture to see if it's the same guy??
Hope it's not …
July 25, 2020

In reply to by Melkessler

Thin built, heave accent, wants to teach you German?? Dimples when he smiles? Like to call you babe? He's said he's in the Baffin island's he ordered parts for a broke pump that didn't work so he ordered a new pump should be back in Texas in 5 days but it's been 3 weeks gone so far. Not asked for a dime. Says comes are down a lot he's called me 3 times. Text daily but he is using a different number than he started with. Guys I got a friend that IS a directional driller and without good comms he can't do his job so I know that they have to have good comes on an oil rig.he sent me a picture of the other night with him standing out on the rig and according to what I looked up on the Baffin island's for temperature wise heat of freezing is body apart because you didn't have a jacket on or nothing just a shirt and pants. Please tell me this is not the same man. He told me he was born in Idaho and when his mom died when he was little his aunt took him to Germany to be raised so he has dual citizenship is any of this ringing a bell help me out before I get upset. The last thing you asked me to do is teach him how to hunt, he loves to travel. He likes new cultures and learning things all types of music , and he's a romantic.
Tymyshu
March 24, 2018
I was scammed! My scammer used the name Jeremy Linam.I was skeptical at first. Found him and Facebook and his story matched. Started a hangouts account. Said he was USAF. He sent pics, I was still skeptical. You can get anyone's pic from their profile. Then he sent two videos of himself and one with his kids. The videos convinced me. He said he was in Libya and had no family except for his kids. He wanted to send personal items to the states but needed help. I agreed and paid $4500.00. The box supposedly made it to the states. A diplomat from Fedex contacted me and said he had my box but he was held up at customs.. Paperwork was missing. Started with $500.00. I paid. Then another document was needed.. I paid half. Then I was contacted by FBI telling me diplomat would be arrested and box taken. The fee for the last document was $7500.00. At this point I blocked them. The name used for the agent was John Wood. The FBI name was Michael Richard. They showed me ID's. I'm out $7000.00. The soldier was very upset that his box was taken and insisted on me getting a loan. I did not. I'm broke now but it's over. Was a love scam and a box. I'd heard about money in a box but not personal items. Hope this helps someone.
words with friends
November 08, 2018

In reply to by Tymyshu

Unfortunately your guy is still out there using the same name . Hopefully I will be able to help stop his reign on cyberspace .
Stupidme
March 24, 2018
Anyone heard Muyama from Uganda?
ToTrusting
March 28, 2018
I fell for a man whos "friend" on match.com introduced us....I took loans out for him, as he said he was working overseas and was having problems...I was stupid...but I wanted to believe there are good people out there........
PoetKnows
March 30, 2018
Sad as it may seem I have one disguising themselves as a celebrity asking me about my bank account credit cards. He asked me for $7,000 and I did not send it now he's asking me about my credit card and I'm now waiting for his response when I asked him what is the interest he asked me for $7,000 and I did not send it now he's asking me about my credit card and I'm now waiting for his respond when I asked him what is the interest.
Bemused woman
March 30, 2018
Anyone heard off Michael wood in Syria is a mayor son been in accident Ghana needs money as son so sick after accident have feeling scam ?
Scammed in Mi
April 05, 2018
Like most who joined a dating site,I was hit also. Received a message from another women about a friend who wants my email to talk, he just saw something in my eyes,he needed to talk. (I had a couple of messages saying the same thing) all from Australia. He sent pictures, said the right things, texted and talked. Said he moved to New York when questioned his accent. Had a hard time understand him. Wants you to cancel your account right away and he would help you with it. Received his last contract before he retired. Had to make quick flight to South Africa to run a oil rig. I kept asking questions hoping for a slip up but he's good. Ask for different photos like a thumbs up on the plane and he sent one. Wanted to Skype,but he couldn't because of his computer not working right. Needed $600 in ITunesto fix the computer, when I questioned him about cards, the response was i don't know how it works there. After being asked 2-3 times a day I sent $200 in $25.00 each, yelled at because i was to get 2-$100 cards. During this time I spent more $ to do a search on him, again scames. Name, email, phone not found. Today he asked me to call a contractor to finalize information to ship machinery. He was in such a bind, would pay back with interest! Called the number and the area code was Atlanta GA yet after he gave me the amount of 19k i asked for a address he said his secretary would give me the route number. He finally gave it to me with a N.Y. address, a home on Zillow no less. With that I called ftc. On one hand I'm glad I'm not the only person, but how can one find someone safe and not being scamed. Is there a web sites to check the information being given? What about the pictures used? How do you know your info is not given to someone else????
sadwatcher
April 01, 2018
I have a friend who is currently being scammed by a guy “Phillip Peters”. Claims he’s on an oil rig in the Gulf of Guinea. Widower, has teenage son. Needs money to ship briefcase that has lots of money and all hs personal papers. Can'tget off the rig without it. This guy is smooth, It is impossible to convince these victims they are being scammed.
Mika
September 08, 2018

In reply to by sadwatcher

Hi there! Same here. Works in an oil rig. Wife died and has two boys. Actually, he sends me pictures of him and his boys. Asking for $5,000 now from me. Saying he has no access from his bank here in the US.
Mysterious1111
April 02, 2018
I met a girl in a online app her name is jelina kimberly , i fell inlove with her she said to me that she will claim the money but then she need to open a bank account worth 146 $ and she needs my help and also to sent her an itunes card... shes from michigan .. but im not yet sent her the money because im scared if shes a scam or just using me because of the money, then she said to me that when she claim the money she will visit me here in my country and she will pay me... i dont know what to do but i love her very much
harryo
April 14, 2020

In reply to by Mysterious1111

Tell her to send a picture of herself with your name and today's date on it. At least you will no if its the same person your talking to
SunflowerMom
April 12, 2018
I "met" a scammer on Words With Friends 2! He was/is using the name Frank Baker! He convinced me I needed to get an app called Viber so we could talk and text for free. Frank then proceeded to romance me and I fell in love (or at least I thought so). At one point, he begged me to get $500 worth of iTunes cards and send him "pix" so that he could buy a laptop for his son (who is supposedly 14). I gave in even though I suspected it was a scam. He changed my mind by telling me how HE had been scammed and had his "Facebook account hacked"! I was stupid enough to get $500 in check-advance loans and bought said cards with CASH! Do you know that NO ONE can do anything about scams if you use cash? I vowed then that if he ever asked for money again, I wouldn't give in. After he proposed, and I accepted, he wanted my banking info to "send money". I told him to use PayPal because alarms started going off in my head. Two days after that he came up with a sob story that I believed at first (again!). However, this time he needed $5,500!!! I "broke up" with him the next day despite him swearing to God that he wasn't doing a scam. Oh yeah; he is supposedly Catholic like me! Now, I'm determined to report this to you and Facebook and as many other places as I can! If you know of anyone who can arrest him (on foreign soil OR if he comes "home"), please tell me.
'AprilShowers
May 24, 2018

In reply to by SunflowerMom

My sister also met a "scammer" on Words With Friends 2. He's using the name Austin Luyu. A real charmer, that have swept her off her feet! Very romantic and convincing with promise of everlasting love and devotion. Classic scam/con artist - engineer on oil rig in Gulf of Mexico, wife deceased, grown daughter, Polish American, parents deceased, only child, has accent. So far he has asked for iTunes card in the amount of $100 or $50. She could only send $50. Since he has asked for a loan to pay some type of fee for a retirement contract which she can't afford to do. About $3000. I told her this was a scam and to beware. I showed her The FTC and she could hardly believe that she was about to become a victim. I don't know what she intend to do but she was very trusting of this man. He stole her heart!
Window Walker
April 13, 2018
has anyone been scammed after four months of consistent communication?
Target
April 24, 2018

In reply to by Window Walker

Some of these go on for yrs. they’ll definitely invest months if they think they can get money from u
My aunt got sc…
May 10, 2018

In reply to by Window Walker

It took less than two months for my aunt to send iTunes gift cards! These Nigerian scammers are good!
Twice
April 16, 2018
The first one goes by Lewis Roberts. Says he is from Edinburgh, United Kingdom and lives in Los Angeles. He says he is 59 years old. Widower with a 20 year old daughter. Wanted me to buy his daughter an iPhone 8 Plus. I told him that I wouldn't. He called me wicked and a bad person. Wanted me to send it to a person in Tennessee. The second one is Kirpal Sardar. Called Kendrick by friends. He says he is from Australia but lives in Dumas, Arkansas. He says that he is 55 years old. Very good looking man. He is in good shape. Says his wife was killed in a ghastly car wreck and he has an 11 year old daughter. He wanted me to send money to a person in New York to buy food for his daughter. I wouldn't do it. Beware of them. They contacted me on facebook.
gogi16
April 18, 2018
Daniel Hutchins approached me on Instagram. Developed a romantic relationship but never saw him. Said he's from Detroit but really lives in Rochester. Petroleum engineer. Won contract in Turkey. First he couldn't access his account and asked to get into his account to send money. Then asked for money and promised to visit me. Promised marriage. When he was supposed to visit but got a kidnapping text. His phone number is 3136815683.
JD longhorn
April 18, 2018
glad i found this site