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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: ftc.gov/complaint • Federal Bureau of Investigation: ic3.gov. Learn more at ftc.gov/imposters and aba.com/engagement

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

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People.....wake up!!! Every one of these situations are scams! Scams I was involved in went on for 2 years. First, I thought I was getting a bill consolidation loan...but I believed I had to follow their "instructions" to get the "loan.".....yep, even though I knew better I kept sending money. We don't pay to get a loan! Then, same year, I was swept off my feet by very sweet words, stories that seemed true, I fell head over heels in love with the characteristics of the person I believed I was"talking" to. Never actually heard the person's voice or saw them. But I fell soo deeply in love. And we were "planning" our wedding. Money? Yep I sent it...thousands. All was promised to be given back to me...double. Not. Now hear me. Do a reverse image search. Find out who the person is in the picture(s). Pictures I received were actually stolen from someone. My reverse image search revealed the true identity of the person in the picture...the person to whom I thought I had been "talking" to for about 2 years. Yep, I also supposedly was talking to a bone graft surgeon, born in Germany, working in Syria(thru United Nations/European Union) with our soldiers. Wife and young daughter killed in traffic accident. Son in boarding school in U.S.. Had travel and visa issues...supposedly. "Needed" money for visa. All lies! U.S. Embassy does help with these things(visa). People do not go to jail for 4 years in Turkey for overstay of visa. I never thought I would be a victim. Thought I was wiser. This can happen to anyone. Do your research. Check out everything you are told. No information I was ever given by "my king" was ever verified. Why? Because every word was lies. I almost lost everything. Please hear me and BEWARE!
I must say this though....not all lessons learned were bad. I learned just how deeply I could love. I also learned how strong I can be, and am. I learned how deep/strong my faith is. I've learned how to be committed. I learned signs of scams. I am very blessed. I'm rebuilding my life..stronger and much better. Everything happens for a reason. Learn from this and move forward. Be blessed.

Richard Jewels San Antonia Texas..wife killed in car accident..immediately told me he loves me..wants to marry me blah blah things were going great I spoke with him thru hangouts after leaving the site on his suggestions..he would never let me see him on viedo yet i was on viedo just my face thank goodness..today august 23 2018 he askedBabe ,I’m sorry to bother you with this but I got an urgent business overseas and need money to send down there ,I know this is not your  business and I shouldn’t be telling you this but you’re part of me now and should know everything.I am suppose to send a 25k to a business partner but have some issues with my bank and accounts are currently on dormancy so I was able to raise only 10k .But fortunately for me I can make online payments with my checking into a trusted person's credit card , so I was thinking of Making those payments onto your card so you can cash it out and send down to them for me.I want you to know that you can trust me a 100% with everything you have babe saneway I have come to trust you.I do not think otherwise about you babe unless you really can't trust me with that and I will understand you and not bother you about it.Your hear and love is all I need from you and not a dime and that's something you should know.its quite unfortunate I can't talk now but will call you when I can Guess I too am being scammed...Richard Jewels anyone here of him?

A co-worker is getting scammed by a person met on a dating site, but all conversations are via chat on LinkedIn. She meets the target criteria and he completely matches the scammer profile - off shore oil rig worker, never able to get back due to emergency, even his English is bad but supposedly he was born in the Ukraine even though he grew up in NY. She is sucked in and refuses to believe it is a scam. She has already bought him a satellite phone (has never called her). Fortunately for her she doesn't have any money so he's not going to get much out of her. Her heart will be broken unless her eyes are opened which I've failed at so far. Sad...

I met a guy on Facebook named Michael Black very charming and told me that he loves me . But after 2 weeks he ask me for $200 ITunes card then now he ask me for an Apple Watch and wants to go in my plans. Please help !!

I have a girl who wants me to send her money on a steam card, she claims she is from Texas but phone is from California. Telling me she's in love.

Torch. Hello can I ask what this person calls herself? It sounds exactly like Abella Fowler to me. From Texas but has numbers from Cali and Florida. Types in very bad grammar and always love you babe comments. First started with a hook up ID or a Daters Pass then on to the S.T.E.A.M. cards!!! I hate everything about steam cards now. I never knew what the hell they were before. Lost a lot of money due her and to these cards. If you have any other info please let me know. She is a wicked, cruel, lying piece of work and I’m not even sure it is a girl. Been going on for two years now. Thanks for your time!

I to met someone on hangouts very nice at first telling me he loved me and had loads of money in the usa but could;t use his card at sea then started asking me for money for his daughter and when i told i had none i was called all the names under the sun and then at the end before he blocked me he said he hated me with a passion lol

I met a man named Marc robbo Robinson from Australia -very charming - who needs money gram for a Mac book he’s supposed to be mining for gemstones in Istanbul
We’ll see right?

I have never been scammed myself but here is a word to the wise. Reading the posts here you can see the pattern. Working overseas, can't meet. Widow/widower ... Single and looking. The aged parent/child is to set you up to send money for medical/schooling expenses. The promise of a big contract pay out, to allay your reservations on sending money to them.
I had first hand exposure to the scammers as my ex husband called me one day saying he had finally found tenants for offices he owned in South Africa after looking for ages. Two weeks later his 'tenant' from Ghana was exposed on SA TV as a dating scammer. Ladies and gentlemen, there were 60 computers crammed into these small offices with all these people doing nothing but scamming all day. It was a business for them (when I asked my ex husband what he believed their business was he said they told him they were stock brokers) heh. The day after the TV program, they were gone. It is heart breaking to read how vulnerable and lonely people are sucked in by these evil gangs. These are just not real people. For those that have been scammed, forgive yourself for being human and wanting the happy ever after. But these people are criminals. Would you beat yourself up as much if you had been held up at gunpoint? Move on, a little wiser and more careful. Love is still out there for you. And remember this, as much as you have lost, you have also gained, as you have found in yourself a capacity to love someone else. Now get out there and share that love with real life people. Join clubs for things that interest you, choirs, volunteer to help others, and although it may not be romantic love, it will enrich your life. Learn to love yourself, because you matter. There is a beautiful Balinese saying "I am the miracle." Because you are, with all your perfect flaws. Namaste.

I have two people on badoo ask me to buy them gift cards iTunes. I haven't.

My comment about Peter Graham posted for a minute and then disapeare about 5 minutes ago.can you please repost it

Tony James is a huge scammer. Claimed to be in Istanbul on a contract. Typical scammer, car accident, medical bills, jail time, ect. needed itune cards, walmart cards....horrible human being and had an "attorney" who was a bully and played mind games with me.
I am now dealing with a man who calls himself Ferran Morcos. I am not sure what to think at this point. He lives in New York deals with Bitcoins, traveled to France and needs a Itune cards. When I said NO he was totally fine with that. Has anyone else met Ferran? Claims to be from Iraq, grew up in UK and educated in College in New York. English accent.

I met someone called Tony Freeman from Dallas, Texas. He said he was in special forces. He connected me on Linkedin in March 2017. On April 10, 2017 he also did a video call on Hangouts. He then went on a mission some times in June 2017. He asked for itunes cards in June 2017. I sent him. After that he made excuses about not being able to return due some issues. I also sent him some money to buy ticket. But he never made it back. He always had some or the other excuse. I stopped talking to him. But I got a message from his friend who claims to be a nurse in US army to send itunes card to Tony so he can connect again and make it back to US. I don't believe any of this anymore. I refused to sedn cards and she stopped texting as well which is just last week.

Well, I fell head over heels with an India:Korean mix national on online dating service. Within two weeks he was madly in love and we needed to keep our relationship between us until after we got married; then we would surprise everyone! At age 68 (me) and him (71), he convinced me life was too short to make it a lengthy engagement. Right after that he had a contract agreement that required completion in Canada before he could retire, and that he would be gone from New Mexico for several weeks before we could finally meet. In the meantime he asked me to check in on his 93 year old mother who lived in the UK with her sister. Within two days, frantic text message from Donald that his mother needed monies to help with expenses. Could I send her monies right away. Told him no, and mind you, this is the same person who professed to be a Christian, always prayed after we talked in the evening on the phone. Donald went ballistic on me .... wow! I never saw that coming from him. Evidently he calmed down the next day to ask me to buy him $50 in ITune cards to update his iPhone charge. How does an iTunes card update a prepaid phone? Once again I declined .... called me a wicked woman and that I probably contributed to his mother’s death the night before! Wow! I couldn’t fathom what was happening! To say the least I advised him that for all I was concerned he was a scammer .... and nothing more to me, and just revised the “Nigerian Scam” tactics to fit whatever his group dealt with online dating scenes. Extremely cautious now!

My scammers name is Donald Young Foster, professed to be from Albuquerque, NM (71). .... but of India/Korean descent, with son in Florida and two grandchildren

Has anyone had dealings with a Donald Paulson on oil rig in Mexico wanting itune cards to access internet

Please, please, please!!! Everyone put on your skeptical cap when dealing with anyone over the internet, dating sites, texting you out of the blue. I know it can be lonely, but it is better to be lonely and not scammed than lonely and poor. When I was on dating sites I downloaded an app "TextMe" or something like that and it gave me a fake number to text people from. My son is getting so many message from girls and they profess their love early, then ask for money, send photos (one we verified was lifted from an Instagram personality's page-she was notified). These men and women are VERY CLEVER and will use whatever manipulation they can think of to get you hooked. BE WARY! The right person will understand your being careful and not ask for money. Meet in a public place only after you've talked for a while and no money is requested.

I've been scammed by a Gabriel Edwin. Found me on words with friends. Right away he lived me and wooed me but I always had my doubts. He got me for $1055. $1000.00 for his daughter's new computer and recently for a iTunes card. Today he asked me for $17,000 to pay for a piece of machinery for the oil rig that is owned by Chevron. Everything he told me was a lie. I blocked him out of everything today. I'm putting this out there so you can see how these scammers work. My husband passed away a yr. Ago and I was very vulnerable. Lesson learned.

Hi I think I have been almost scammed, said his name Gabriele Riccardo - lots of poetry and God fearing called me his future wife and future Queen all the time said his daughter same age as my son needed an iPhone for her bday that she wants me to buy and send it to her! He works in Alaska in oil rig contract - went fishing right after we met and drowned his cell phone so no video chats. Phoned me once and call display said Michigan . Wonder if it’s the same one - said wife died of cancer 6 yrs ago

Levis Brown
Damien L Brown
Marron Brown
Uses hangouts and IG and FB
Have reported to IG and FB...loads of profiles...sob story given...varying lies...
Sad that there is a genuine marine with his pics being used
Have also reported to US marines
These people should be stopped....

Anyone met an Irishman working on tanap project in Turkey. Called today and wanted 20,000.

I am talking to Bright Jackson,Originally from Paris France,Relocated to Austin Texas,He sent pics. Of his mansion,Caught his wife with his Best friend in their matrmonial Bed,Is raising his 10yr.old Grandson who's parents got killed in fatal accident on a trip to Germany,now He has traveled to off shore oil rig for work to the GULF IF MEXICO,Left Boy with nanny,He left his wallet at Airport now He wants $200 in itune card,Then he wants My Bank acct.no,So the co.can deposit money in my acct.for equipment they need and I can keep $500 for myself,I said no,Now He wants me to get Red card from Target for co. Deposits",A charmer,sent pic of Him and.10yr old Boy,Very Handsome..Said He told Boy about us,Grandson's name Henry,Wants me To Hurry up and send Red Card from Targrt,When He comes Home we'll get Married...Yea Right

I am curious if this is the same man I have been talking to. Please respond so we can compare. My guy goes by Jon Bach 52/53- gorgeous, white hair and beard. 512-593-1727 is his number

I have been scammed by a man called Steve S Mitchell. Among many things he claimed to be born in Belgium and he migrated here to Australia when he was 17 in 1975. He also claimed to be an engineer working for a container shipping company. From another of his victims I have seen his limo permit issued to an address in San Angelo Tx which looks genuine plus his US passport which states he was born in New York - almost certainly fake. I helped him out with a medical bill for his 26 year old student son and another to set up a bank account in my name which was said to contain several millions dollars - final pay from his work with the shipping company - both were scams. He is very clever at photoshopping false bank documents, driver's license, hospitals and injuries as well as his passport. Has sent numerous photos of himself with his beagle hound Sophie. The last photos were of himself in the Ampang area of Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. Photos appear to be genuine even to playing the organ in church. Has at least four 'agents' who allow their bank accounts to be used for deposits for him. I can absorb the AUD$2,500 he scammed from me but another of his victims took out a bank loan to help him and she lives in a poor country. Her family are unaware and she is devastated.

I just started on the dating sites in Feb 2018. I have met 6 that have professed their love for me very fast. All have asked for money in the form of gift cards. One sent me a check for $40K to hold for him until he returns. That one is on a ship. It amazes me how they get mad when you say you don't have it. Jerks. Luckily I have only lost $100. That was my being really suckered. And when they call you after they have scammed you or attempted to. Do they sit in a room like telemarketers and just work the computer scamming men and women? I would love to get my hands on them. Especially the ones that have taken people for a lot of money in the name of love. I am about to give it all up and stay single like I was. I will get another dog to love me.

I'm texting someone for about a year now we never met,she asked that I western union her some money
What should I do.

DONT DO IT! NEVER unless he sends you something valuable than what they request. Period.

has anyone encountered a Michael James?

What us the situation with ITunes cards!!??! And why do these scammers have you switch to hangouts?? I see this question has been asked but i haven't seen an answer yet.

My friends gentleman was on an oil rig as well went by the name Dickson Grey he moved very fast and asked her to send him itune cards so he could continue to talk to her since he had run out of text minutes. His phone number went to a strange call center and he had a little girl named Amanda. Well to prove to her that it was a scammer my friend and I got the same guy to talk to me and we payed it thick like he was doing to her aand as soon as he asked me for iTunes cards for minutes we called him out on it. My friend was heart broken but we had enough info to turn him in!

Hi I was scammed by a man named Gabriele Lorenzo. He says he works for jll construction. He's on a ship in gulf of Mexico. Getting ready to retire. He says he's sending me his retirement money. They wanted 2100 I only had 1100. He still talks to me says he's a Christian. I checked him out on been verified. All the emails don't exist. I'm so heart broken. Has anyone heard of this guy

I “met” a man named Scott Lorenzo when he sent me a friend request on Facebook. He said he was working on an oil rig off of the coast of Mexico, he was a widower and had two children that were in boarding school. Everything was going great, I really felt a connection to him, I could even say I was starting to fall in love with him. After about a month, there was an explosion on the oil rig. Since he was the contractor, he was responsible for the man who got hurt, as well as getting the replacement parts. I don’t have the money, but he still talked with me! He knew I was selling my house, so I believe he just strung me along, complementing me, professing his love for me, and promising me the life I always wanted!
I had doubts, and in the end I never gave him any money. He cursed me out, said I was wicked, and told me that I would be responsible for his death. I can’t believe he wasn’t real, he felt more real to me and some of the people I knew in real life. So, I’m heartbroken and sad that this person didn’t love me and was out to scam me from the beginning!

Hi I was scammed by Gabriele Lorenzo also he says he works for Jill construction. He is on sip in gulf of Mexico. He wants to give me his box full of retirement money. I lost 1100 2 years ago. He just started writing again. I will be blocking him. He's a scammer

Has anyone been conned by a guy with the following name? Sam Choi, Young Choi, or Sam Young Choi? His full name is Sam Young il Choi. He claims to be an attending physician in the pediatric unit in Boston Children’s Hospital and MGH. The American Medical Association has no record of his medical license and he pries on Women on online dating sites such as OkCupid. He asked for money but the moment you ask him to return the money he disappeared and refuses all communications. I want all women who have been involved with this person to report it. He has a shaved section on his left brow. This indicates Punk status. He golfs regularly but can pay anyone back. He does not drive his own car. Stop giving him money.

Yes he did it to my friend!

Hi. i have a same problem currently on-going. he states he moved from Boston couple months ago. I know his home address. is there any way we can coordinate together for media?
let me know.

I have not yet gave him any $ since it's very fishy.
I would like to report this guy so that no other girl go through the same thing... how can we report this guy and where?

Yes, we should report the guy. But how and where?

Has anyone heard of the name Robert Sebastian??

I posted a few days ago and mentioned that I think I am being scammed. Perhaps my comment didn't post because it was not seen as “helpful". I really want people aware of this, not because the guy was trying to scam me but because there is something that happens when you know it is happening but you try to convince yourself that there is a possibility that you are wrong. No matter who you are and what you look like we all want to hear compliments and told that we are loved. This isn't the bad part. All these things are true in a sense and deep-down people know it and that's why they continue to play into it. Where it cuts off is when you feel like you need to pay for these affections. I recently encountered an online love interest who was incredibly handsome and all his pictures were like model shots. We talked on the phone and I just kept telling him "I just want to be friends" I just wanted to get to know him. I fantasized just about friendship. He told me he was moving from Houston to Signal Hill and was just looking to meet people. I was cool with that. I planned to introduce him to my friends that worked in his industry that might be helpful getting him work and I told him we could workout together at the gym and that was it. He then began to send my pictures of him and asked me to send them back to him so i did. He complimented me on my looks and told me that he felt a connection with me. I continued to tell him "that's great but I just want to get to know you better and be friends first" One day he sent me a picture that was well a little hotter, not naked hot, but just him without a shirt on. At first, I was "Wow!" then relaxed and stayed focused with my intentions and told him "that's quite an inspirational picture, I can’t wait til you get here and we hit the gym together" as we continued to chat he kept getting frustrated with me and eventually began to tell me how I was the "one" for him and that I am already in his heart. Again, I told him that I am looking to be friends first. Finally, one day I received a text and he was asking me for a favor. In his text he said he needed a iTunes gift card. I told him "Are you telling me you NEED music?" He said yes, he needs music and movies. I told him "Do you realized how strange this request is?" That it’s weird asking someone you have never met to buy you a gift card? I said how much? He said $150 but not to buy it all on one card that he needed two cards one for $100 and one for $50 and to take a picture of the codes on the back and he would be able to process it. The next day I said "No" I don't feel comfortable doing it. He then said he understands and it was OK. The day after that I get another text that says "Have you decided to buy the iTunes card for me?" I told him I want to talk to him and called him a few hours later where he continued to tell me how I am "in his heart" and he needs the card. That night, after thinking about what to do, I then took a piece of paper and made a sign that says "Hi Andrea" (that was his name) then I took a picture of myself holding the sign in front of me and I texted it to him telling him that I wanted him to do the same and to make a sign with my name on it and hold it in front of him.........I haven't heard a peep from him since. So, what I am assuming is that the poor handsome guy that this scammer is using to trap others into giving him money has no idea that he is being "pimped" out. These photos may have been collected by the internet or from when he asks people to send him their picture. I just hope that he is not using my picture to scam a person.

That's the best way to find out the person your talking to is the same person in the picture

I also was scammed out of 2500. Same story as what I've read.on this site. Only his oil rig was off the coast.of Alaska and the money was for his daughter in Italy to take care of his mom who was in the hospital, sent me a pic of her on a gurney in a hospital gown.
His.name is Patrick Johnson but he spoke with an.Italian accent. He had me send money orders to his.'agent' here in Atlanta. My bank actually told me they would not release the.funds.to me and that this was a scam. I wished i would have listened to that Bank Manager. I left there in shock.
First he needed 10000. I told him I didn't have it and he's practically in tears and he doesn't know what he's going to do. Then he says 8000 and I said no. He finally begrudgingly settled for the 2500. I did tell him at the time if he was scamming me, I'd hunt him down like the dog.he was. He.laughed nervously and I've never heard from him again. I found.him on POF.

Patrick Johnson!!! He is at it again, Now he is trying to scam me. He needs 3500 and is desperate. Met him on Words with Friends and we are talking through Google Hangouts!!! I knew it was a scam once he said I will send your funds back to you. FUNDS???? I want money. So I have started telling him he has to Western Union the money if he wants back. He asked me to send a request for a leave to a google account!!! Not a corporate address!!!! robert willer12345@ . BE CAREFUL!!!!

MARK FRAWLEY. Extremely good looking. Claiming in Dubai working at an oil rig. Asking for $5,000. He said he is from Asheville, NC. Have two sons leaving with their nanny. He sounds from Nigeria over the phone.

Another scammer called Rich Wright, says from New York. Phone # 949-445-0809. Jerk says we met on LinkedIn last year. Ladies beware!!

Terry Travis Rivera
Samuel Parker
Dr. Scott Henry
Dr. Anthony Ford
Juluis Luis
Do any of these names ring a bell? All but Anthony Ford have tried to scam me for money, itunes cards, receive money etc. Still waiting to see when Anthony will ask. Lol Terry Travis Rivera says he is a marine stationed in Camp pendelton,CA. Scott Henry in Syria, Anthony Ford in kabul, Juluis Luis in Africa, Samuel Parker in fort hood South Carolina. Anyone ring a bell to you all? And no i did not send a dime.

If anyone is contacted by Robert Michael Weston do not fall for his line. Says he is widow of 5 yrs--grown daughter has passed away--and he is raising granddaughter all alone. He was on rig in Gulf of Mexico then got transferred to a rig off the coast of Nigeria. He claims to be a chemical engineer. Said wallet got stolen and needed iTune cards. $40,000 (of mine & my family n friends) later, he has expenses for repairs that I won't cover. So now that I won't pay, he is giving up and going home! With no money or paycheck. DO NOT FALL FOR HIM!!!!
57 years old...resides in Orlando FL...was a cardiac trauma nurse before he worked on rigs.

Just 2 of the scammers who tried to get me!!
Larry Stephen Adams or Stephen Larry Adams
Richard Ryan Vacek

Scamnot0125...did this man have short gray hair, a goatee, and wear wire framed glasses? He has a barrel chest and wears a chain of some sort around his neck?

Last November 2017 I have joined the Instagram to promote my Interior Design bussines. The man called Philippe Naval from Lyon(France) started texting me. He intriduced himself as avation constructor. After texting each other on Instagram he asked me for my email address and Skype Id. He provided his emai address, mobile number and Skype Id. I suppose to vidit him in Lyon ( I live in England)., but then he dsid that he had to go to Morocco to build becsuse of work and in January off he went. After few days he texted me and said that he had a carcacciden and needs some money. I refused at first but he was so convincing and I was thinking that I am halping a frend in difficult situation. To cut the long story short he got over £2000 from me. When he asked me for money in August 2018 I have asked him for ID and he emailed me the french ID card for Philippe Naval. I have few photos of him plus that ID card. How can I find out is Philippe Naval is real person or imposter?

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