Has an online love interest asked you for money?

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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: ftc.gov/complaint • Federal Bureau of Investigation: ic3.gov. Learn more at ftc.gov/imposters and aba.com/engagement

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

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how did u find out im going thru the same thing .i feel ing scamed for 30000.she is still trying every thing to get more out of me

I too had the same situation with my supposed man. He said he was from NY and ee were talking 2 months when he said he got the contract deal to mine for gold and diamonds in Dubai. A month later, he gave me the good news of recieving his pay for the job and the vehicle that came with the contract. He claims he was sending his pay in a briefcase hidden in the vehicle. Next thing I knew, I was getting emails from Asian Global Services for 1000.00 because I did not tell them there was cash in the car. Briefcase supposedly had 900k in it. Then they send another email stating I was going to jail for money laundering. Supposedly the vehicle and money was being held in Italian customs and another email came stating I had to pay 5k if I wanted the vehicle and money shipped to me. The whole time I am in contact with my man, Christopher Anton Raymond (whose name is not real), and he begs me to pay the money because he now was arrested for money laundering too. I told him to get lost. He is on KIK, keeps contacting me and says when he gets home, I will see he is not fake and I will regret treating him this way. I have pics of him too and gave them and all his info he gave me, to my son (who is a police officer) to research him. There was nothing. Chris gave me all fake info including a fake SS #, birthdate, telephone #, fake parents name and all. Then he has the nerve to call me annoting cause I call him on everything. What a scammer.

I had someone posing as a well known Dr wanting to get money out of Dubai, in a briefcase. Had me send money to Asian courier company. Then it went to Indonesia who then wanted $100,000 to release it. When it was released, said it had to be paid direct Ito a bank account, which costs £150,000 to open. I haven’t paid out much money, but some, plus computer and phone, some to Nigeria and some to US. UK bank intercepted one payment and only gave me a fraction back.

I too just ended a "love relationship" recently. Also felt heartbroken because I felt that he really was sincere and being honest. Then things just didn't start adding up right, and when I would question it, I rarely got an answer. If I did get an answer, the question was reverted back to me. This was over roughly 13 months. I lost just about everything I owned, family and friends were trying to tell me, but I didn't listen. Wish now I would have, and I wouldn't be looking for a place to live now, or having to look into bankruptcy because I have no money to my name. So, I know exactly how you feel because I to thought everything he told me was real, guess since mine is still so fresh, I still have a little part of me that believes he had been telling me at least some truth.

I have a friend i feel is being scammed. He has not asked for money as if yet. Question how soon before he asked for money? And what if anything could have convinced you he was a fake? Im trying to save her heartache and more but nothing works

hi dk2063, sometimes it takes months, sometimes weeks. It depends on the scammer. I have had two guys ask me for money, both claiming to be Christian men, both single fathers. (Daniel and Martin both on Instagram and hangouts/viber)one an engineer stuck in turkey looking for $20,000 the other in Scotland as a geologist looking for $700. Both good looking charming men. One more romantic than the other. I googled both of their pictures everyday until I got a match. One was impersonating a Canadian artist and architect - and I informed him about the use of his pictures. The other was harder to get. Both pledged their undying love for me, both wanted to marry me. I realized they were scammers when my common sense kicked in. No Christian man that I know of is going to ask a single mother with a handicapped child for money. There is no person who can fall in love with you without meeting you in person, and there is no one who has that many emergencies that they cant meet you. The more they pressure you for money, the more you know its a scam. If they love you so much they'd never ask for money. Think about it - how many people - strangers - would you walk up to and say hi I'm in trouble I need your money? if you wouldn't do it in everyday life, then don't do it for someone you haven't met.
Unfortunately I know what its like when nothing works. These guys are good, and I mean really good at selecting gullible, genuine, kind, caring women and convincing them of their love. It's really tragic. The best thing to do is have your friend read these blogs, search romance scams, check out youtube for a video of well used faces of innocent men, read the FBI web page, etc. Eventually she will start to question and doubt. When her heart breaks that's when she is going to need you - till then best of luck.

Hi, I've been texting and emailing with a man from the states for over two months, and states he is widowed with child, lives in states, grew up in UK, educated in Poland ....
First asked me for iTunes or Amazon card, the cell phone and now thousands dollars to help him out of trouble in Dubai where he is working... So he can come home to me. We have yet to meet. I believe he could be a scammer and struggle with letting of the possibility that this could be real.
I don't want to leave anyone in danger and also want to protect myself. Anyone heard of Moises Montoya?

this guy is a scammer he's actually sitting in a hotel in Africa - waiting for you to send him money he lives off nice American women in America that send him money - he's not coming back to anyone not marrying anyone - were just his atm machine

Do you know Daniel's last name, I have been contacted by someone using the name Daniel, says he is an engineer stuck in Istanbul.

gullibleweenie, do you have a last name on Daniel? Or pictures. This story sounds too familiar.

this guy is in Ghana - he's not in any of these places - he's been scamming all of us for money and broken our hearts - not marrying anyone not coming to anyone we all need to report him and stop SENDING HIM MONEY he only cares about one thing MONEY does he tell you to send money to his driver? and he's coming home soon - would like to know he did this to me for 3 years

Sounds like the guy I've been talking to. So much of his story did not add up. I would not get clear answers either. I did give him some money too.
I am so sorry for you had to go through this. I too thought he was telling me the truth at times. He even had me go house shopping so we could start a life together after he got back from Australia. I blocked him 2 weeks ago.

I had a Wilson Moore also. Met him on Words With Friends. I don’t remember his story but I do remember his name. He got really mad when I told him he was a scammer. Lol. Glad your good.

I know the real identity of this man. HE wasted 2.5yrs of my life and totally underestimated my intelligence and therefore allowed me closer than any other victim to date. The man you are talking about has countless profiles on every online platform you can think of all to scam women globally. The photos u have are not him but stolen. The name he gave is one i know of that he uses. He needs to be jailed. Hes been doing this for 20yrs uncaught.

no I have been allowed closer than anyone - I know its the same man - he's actually in Ghana and never been to the USA ever - ive been a fool but no more - I hope someone gets this guy - tired of sending money for him never to come home to me

Hi, I have been scammed by this man just recently. Pls do u have any pictures of him ?

does this many stutter sometimes?

If you know his identity. Please share so we can at least trip him up by saying his name to him, so he gets no more of us. Thank you

Just like me i know this “love” scammer thru fb because two of his friend is my previous classmate in high sch. After chatting in FB messenger he asked me if i have whatsapp then we start chatting his name is Miller Kilven Johnson born in US and living in Chicago. Last week his telling me he need money to buy new laptap as he need that to apply for a new job as presently he is working in bitcoin and he is not happy with his job so he wants to apply for another job. he is very handsome he is a good talker, romantic, handsome, with 6 yr old daughter name Lisa living in his step father brother in California. His dad US Army died when he was 6 years old and his Mom married to another guy. She has sister living in Texas. We are chatting to whats app everyday and he is calling me his wife as he told that her ex wife is a Singaporian female who got an affair with his best friend that causes the seperation. Today he ask me again money to buy cellpone he told me that he wants a remembrance to me. I refused to his request he even send me bank acct number where i will send the money to him. By the way he wants also to talk to me in skype and the account that he send me is for the arabic guy brahim Aziz living in Egypt. . He ask my home address and my mobile number even my email and he even grab all my photos in fb and make as collage together with his picture and make as profile picture in whats app for me to believe that he is not fake and he is sincere to me. today he ask me money. But i didn't send money to him. hoping we can share his photo. Anyway hope that anybody here have same story with me. Although i didn't probe yet if he is a scam. What i'm afraid is maybe he will used my name or picture in a fraud transaction. what i will do. Thank you.

Same experience here. The guy a legal us citizen lives California with an almost 7yo boy and a nanny. Wife died 2 years ago. Looking for love again. Work at Bitcoin-he profile on Instagram says senior account manager at bitcoin investment. Has lots of female friends (Americans mostly) that he follows. Even sent me a pic of him and son first time we chatted. Begged to give him a chance to prove himself he was a good guy. Hw lost both of his parents when he wAs very little. Grew up with his uncle.
Said he was gonna marry me, he even set the date-Next February. This guy is such a snake, crafty like one. I wonder how these scammers these ppl sleep at night. The phrases ...he used while texting make me think this one is african.
This guy thought I was his atm machine and he must really be stupid...claiming that he counts use his credit card to get me sth online on off of Amazon unless I buy an Amazon card for him scratch it then snap the code then send it to him.
He even promised to get me an iPhone xs which I didn’t even ask him for. Crazy ppl out there. I asked him to snap his ID card sent it to me so I know he’s real, he couldn’t. Kept asking me to trust him. That everything he had told me about him was true. That he would not steal anyone’s identity bc he has his. Real crafty this guy is. The sad thing is still out there on instagram. I tried to go bck on instagram on his page...i couldn’t access it, it says user not found. He prob blocked me when he found out he couldn’t fool me no more. But I feel sorry for his next victims! He goes by the name Kurt McMahon. Watch out for him, on instagram!!

I met someone named Ukay Amaogu from NIgeria said those same words to me. I felt just like your description. But no dont send money and block its a scam for sure. It needsto stop some how. Im sorry

I met a man on Facebook that claimed to be Walton Oliver working in the UK from florida.had his life savings in a security company that was closing down and he needed someone to get it and keep it till he got got home but the agent that was delivering it got caught by us customs.he called me wife.and was coming home to me and he loved and missed me so much.he got about 18000.00 from me before I woke up. He can't come home now because one of his workers messed up on the job and he has to pay for it .don't have the money.

Do you have a photo? Because this could be the same guy asking my bestfriend for money.

did you send the money to his driver in Ghana?

I have a man who claims he's owed money from turkey and wants me to collect a large some of money say his name is eric manual from Dallas texas . he said I need to claim his funds because he on oil rig out in the sea of San deigo ca.

Oh my gosh!
My coworker is talking to this gentleman I think! Down to the nanny, daughter,ect!! He is in the Army, uses 2 first names...goes by Louis. He changed his story around slightly, but this is it. Says he lives in Georgetown, DC. Ex wife is horrible person, parents are dead. She sent me an an message
"Hi sweetness! How are you doing? Hope your day wasn't too hectic like mine. I'm sure you're getting ready to shutdown and go walk the dogs and possibly share some sweetness with me.

I just turned in not quite long after the tasking day. I will freshen up and get some good rest. Was your day productive? Did you miss me? Smile.
Please let me know how your day went, Ok? Know that you're in my thoughts and I love you loads. "

Hi, I am currently in contact with someone with a similar story. WOuld like to see the men you are referring to. How can I do that.

I too was scammed, but was smart enough not to send any money and called him out on it. His response was after all we’ve shared? After chatting for 4 months, said he’s from San Diego, divorced, father of two teenage girls, works as a real estate contractor. Very romantic, well versed with a heavy Italian accent. Said he was born in Italy and lived in San Diego over 19 years. We often spoke over the phon, conversed through text and email, even sent photos of himself and children. When I called him out he got very defensive about and says after all of this I still love you. I feel sorry for the real man and kids in the photos that I was sent. I would really like to contact him and let him know that there using his face and his children’s faces to scam women. Disgruntled.

Try Lopez Wilson, a Gregory Wilson Lopez w/son named Kelvin in Syria on peace-mission in the Navy Army! Lol. Wanted 500.00 to turn iPhone to talk on. Even has pictures of a man in American navy uniform.

Same thing with me, met him on Instagram and he immediately wanted me to sign up on hangouts. Within a week, professed his undying love for me and starting asking for Amazon cards. He sent me many Music links as well

How do you do a photo test?

I too, would like to know how to use the image search to identify a scammer

same here would like to now how to identify a pic scammer

Andie long wood , Andy Longwood, Craig , Scott Donald. Are they Scamers?

Me too, how do I photo search. Pls advise

You can go to YouTube and search "Google reverse image search"
Complete instructions.
I found out profile pictures were stolen. Names didn't match pictures. Scammers use same stolen photos and multiple names. I feel sorry for people whose photos have and are being stolen.

how to do picture or image test

Ladies if you happen to hear or meet a man calling himself Jason Miller. He is a total crook. He wants your information. if he sends you an email with an attachment do not open it. It is a keystroke virus. He got all of my information and ended up costing me over $10K.

Some guy named CLARK WILFORD is trying the same thing....except he says he has a daughter in boarding school....he says he is a marine welder in Germany at first he wanted an iTunes card so he couls renew his app....wth
I.sent him.NO money
Now he is claiming he needs $3000.00 to get his machines off the ship to.finish his contract. I.told him I.am.not a bank DELETE!!!!

Does anyone know the name Micheal Carlton working an oil rig off Rotterdam, marine welder, wife died in car accident 7 years ago California, used to be a real estate broker .....broken machines needing repair. Has a son Kelvin and Daughter Bernice who are looked after by a nanny called Sharon Nadine Beverly ???
Always asking for iTunes cards to access computer programme to access his funds fir the job he’s doing...

A similar story,WhatsApp,a new oil driller machine need to down load a liscence from the port.account frozen 1-2 weeks,

This guy I was texting is something similar to yours but uses a different name,and he says he has a teenage son,who lost his mother to cancer, has not asked for any money though,not yet, did this guy let you text his child which is probably him .my guy says his nails Steven Robinson,and his son is Eric...can you see if he uses the named I mentioned....

Same story different name: Kelvin Williams, son Heyford

I'm speaking to someone named Mike Robinson on an oil rig with a son named Adam. Just asked me for money. I'm deleting everything about this person, I never sent him s penny but feel ashamed I sent him a couple of pictures..beware he is a smooth talker.

This sounds like a guy I'm phone dating. He lives in San Diego, Christopher Stevens. He say he has a son, his wife died of cancer. He is in Kenya and he asking me to send him $500 in Amazon cards. I told him I don't have it.

This sounds familiar! A guy called Edward Charles who works on an oil rig & has a young daughter called Annabelle. He has asked for money to get his Wifi reconnected. Currently on Hangouts using a work friend's mobile. I have now refused him money at least 3 times but he is very persistent in saying that he loves me & wants to marry me!

Just go on Facebook. You don’t have to find them they find you. Then they get you off Facebook and have you go to Hangouts. From there they want to text your cell phone number. First time the guy asked for money he wanted me to wire money to a bank down in Florida. Gave all the information so I called the bank and spoke to a bank officer. She asked questions and said not to send the money unless I had met the person on the account in person. She also let me know I was being Scam. I did not send the money. Now he is really pressuring me into sending him 2 iTunes cards for $100 each. He told me not to tell anyone about us. I am stupid but not that stupid. He goes by the name of James Antonio.

Mine just asked me last night for iTunes cards. I said no but the light bulb went off when he did. I didn't react on the text just said broke. Hoping to end things quickly or find this sucker.

I was scammed by someone that says he is dwayne collins, an engineer working on an off shore oil drill off the coast of southern ca. Has photographs of himself with a lovely 11 yr old daughter, supposidly in a boarding school in Austria. He asked for $$ twice & a street address. Smooth talker, could be a nigerian scammer, terrible english !!

so, what do we do?


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