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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: ftc.gov/complaint • Federal Bureau of Investigation: ic3.gov. Learn more at ftc.gov/imposters and aba.com/engagement

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

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I will see if my sister can get something set up so we can share pictures...keep in touch with me..

I also have this man asking me for money to get off out rig . I’m curious to see if it’s the same person . Where could we share pictures?

I also am chatting with a man that works for Exxon who is on and oil rig with a contract. He’s asked me to get an $18,000 loan which of course I’m not going to. He says he loves me and wants to be with me the rest of my life. I’m so afraid that this may be a scam. He seems so sincere and I’ve seen pictures of his kids. He has a LinkedIn account and not much on the web regarding his name. He is very handsome… We use Viber to communicate. His name is Daniel… Anyone heard of this guy?

Hi have similar one working in exxon,asking to pay for contract in petrosa.. do you have his pics?

Hi there offshoreChick. Tell me more about Daniel because I may be able to help you. Does any of the following sound familiar? Was he charming and charismatic? Did he write like a highly educated person using some speech that is not normally used in conversation? Did he write poetically? Send you poems that he wrote? Does he write by often putting three dots before and after the start of a sentence, like this . . . YOU ARE TRUE LOVE . . . was in a bit of a rush and couldn't get to say all that was running through my mind to say when I awakened this morning . . . . . You are my beautiful fluttering innocence . . . . And I should not be pinching your wings so much . . . Sorry Butterfly.

If any of this sounds familiar, please get in touch with me. So we can discuss further. As you can guess I am sailing in the same boat.

Yes, that's the same guy I have! It's so funny that they think we will fall for this. Some of the poems are copied from the internet. Also did her give you a pic of the Exxon contract? Do a reverse pic lookup. I found where his other name are and the scams tied to him.

Hi... I have some concerns about someone that I met online back in August. Shortly after meeting he states he had to go to the an oilrig in the gulf of Mexico due to issue with equipment on a big contract he is working on. Writes beautifully, very handsome, we have talked on the phone, foreign accent. Claims his name is Alfred, he is divorced, ex wife moved out of country after divorce.
needs money to finish fixing the equipment until he can request payment contract. I have pictures. How do I do a reverse picture look up.

I have a guy that is writing to me he is supposedly in Syria and he seems like a really nice guy. But he does use this 3 Dot thing and I don’t get that. He does use words that are very elegant but nothing like what you wrote, nothing that is that poetic, sometimes I think he’s a robot because he writes so direct.

Do not give this person any money or even consider him a romantic opportunity. If you’ve never seen a real pic or talked to him on the phone, it’s a scam. Never give money to someone you’ve never met or online. This doesn’t sound right and I would break it off or ask him to come to you and then see how he reacts. He may come up with excuses and all kinds of things. You never know. Be safe and careful.

What's his last name? Sounds like we maybe dealing with the same guy.

Please contact I've been talking to Daniel for 3 years..and he is requesting same amount t of money from me...he says ges a widow and has one son William and his story is lengthy...he goes by Daniel rory

Is this guy's last name Stanley? I'm dealing with a guy now same scenario and I have been talking to him 2years. Who do u report these people to?

Yep, I have the same guy it. It's a scam. No human will tell you they love you within a day without you meeting them. Don't do it. Keep your money. Life is too short to be lied to! I have pics, his kids, one is 15 and she's in college. At 15 you're in high school. They live in Washington but Irvine Texas number. Boy 5 years old, wife died! Don't fall for it. Mine wants iTunes card for upload to board of directors for work status!

This Texan loverboy (originally from Australia) found me playing Words w/ Friends and boy was he good-looking and a smoooooth talker. Yes, he proclaimed his love for me within a week. He lost his wife in a drunk driving accident leaving a 14 year old son to take care of. I was the first person that he could trust to help him get over his loss. He was petroleum engineer stuck on assignment on an oil rig in the gulf until May. He sent me pictures of himself and a picture of a certificate of deposit in Amsterdam for 4.7 million dollars to show me that he was wealthy. Then he asked me to load money on I-Tune cards so that he could keep his phone running. He only got me for $100. Then after more sweet-talking, he asked for $5,600 to help his son take an educational trip to Europe. I let him beg until the deadline came and went. A day later it was 5,500 pounds for oil rig parts that were held in customs. Ha! Nice try Romeo! Beware. Not all that glitters is gold.

Mine was from Words with Friends. Very smooth talker. In love within a week or so. Asking for money after the second week. Was very upset that I wanted to do a background check on him. Talked on the phone, the accent didn't match the picture or description.

Same here. Oil rig. Never met. Good looking. Needs money as equipment broke. Owes money.
Fallen hard for this guy.
Can we share pics?

What name is he going by? Mine is Sean Knox, suppose to live in rehoboth Delaware but is on an oil rig out of Houston Texas

I think I may be in contact with a scammer who is very good looking and convincing. I have pics of him. I’d love to see if y’all pics to compare

I have LOTS of pictures of a man I've been in contact with. He is a very good looking, very charismatic man claiming he is in Australia buying gems to open up an antique gem store in the states. He's been there since April and needs money for the lawyers claiming his assets have been frozen from not paying taxes on some of his money. He's worth 3 million dollars. Asking for ITunes cards. Claims he is a software architect. He is 53 years old. And yes, I sent him the I-Tunes cards. I finally blocked him 2 weeks ago. Things he was telling me didn't add up. Pictures that he sent me were not from Australia. Claiming his love for me and starting a life when he gets back. I would love to see your pics as well!

I would love to see the pictures . Taking to a guy with gems need help shipping. Back to Us from Turkey. Proclaiming his love and marriage .

Daniel Bradon - he is on Instagram - Said he was from Panama City, Fla. Big elaborate story about having a masters degree in Petroleum Engineering on rigs out on Canadian seas. Needed to claim BIG money from a previous contract in India but couldn't access it while on the rig so wanted me to collect it for him. Got some really illiterate Gmail from someone claiming to be with the United Nations and wanted my personal information so they could "verify" me as a recipient. I of course said no. He was very persistent, got ugly and angry so I blocked him. There are 3 others as well, similar stories, different jobs ( All were widowed in tragic circumstances, all have teenage daughters). And, ALL pretty much illiterate haha.

Tim Anderson is mine he's on a oil rig please share

I have a "friend" from facebook name is Harvey...on a supposed oil rig in the gulf of Mexico...said he loves me from day one... only spoke 2 days...asked for photo's...I sent an old one...he sent photos...then on 2nd day asked me to get him itunes card so he could use his computer on the rig. Also wanted photos of me... I said no...he was angry but still texting his love for me???? Scam for sure

Richard Davidson or Collins Peterson or Richard Benson. The Richard ones he gave me, the Collins I found on reverse look up.

I think we have the same guy, He’s widow, wife died of cancer and have one sone. he Works as an engineer oil rig in Malaysia he’s from Scotland and Australia. l never send him money

Hi Maria,
I’ve just had a read of what you wrote about being scammed. By any chance, do you still have photos of the person who scammed you. I’m currently being scammed and he sounds familiar but my one has a daughter and not a son and wife died of cancer.
If you have any pics to compare that would be great. Thank you

I have pictures of someone with same story. Is yours from Ireland?

Hello to both you ladies. This sounds like the same guy. Only his name is Richard and he say he lives in the US, and has one daughter, and hes widowed and his wife was killed in a car accident about 4 yrs ago. Hes supposed to be on a ship and an Engineer and that his job takes him on the high seas for months at a time, and hes on his way to Australia. Don't know if he made it there or not ? We talked about 2 months. I did an imagereverse and did find one of his photos and it was a match, but his name was different. I will try and see how I can get those pictures to you without this site to compare. Good luck.

Wilson walker???????

I have a guy now that I meet on FB, email now hangouts. He said he is a civil engineer of an oil rig. His wife died in child birth. He has a son. We have been chatting for a few days. Now he says he loves me and wants to marry me. He feels that God has put us together. He asked me to send him a $100 Steam Card to boost his broadband access so his signal will be better for calling me. What a joke. Steam Cards are for gaming aren't they? No fool here. His name is Cris Jones on FB.

Is his Name Ethan Logan?

Neurosurgeon Benjamin Fischer in Afghanistan, only child, parents tragically killed when he was a child, grandmother finished raising him in Germany. Wife died from cancer 5 years ago, only daughter age 14 in boarding school.
After a month, he came up with a story that his family's fortune ($20 million) needed to be transferred from a closing German bank or be lost. Grandma had protected it until she died 10 years ago. Returning to US in 2 months and just needs someone to receive it, put it in a safe for his return. And he will share and we'll live happily ever after.
He got verbally abusive when I refused to agree to get $25k in fees to a security company that would deliver the box.

Just ended my online supposed “love” scammer Wilson Moore or Moor yesterday! He had me good! Smooth eloquent talker, romantic, handsome, with 8 yr old daughter living in Virginia with nanny as he worked in Iraq as a doctor with MSF org. for US Army. Mom n dad, n ex wife and grandmother all deceased..

He called me his wife pretty quick. He wanted $2700 for lawyer and docs due to him being detained in customs in Istanbul Turkey for supposed transporting money in his luggage??? He was supposedly on his way to see me!! Sooo many red flags in a 2 month period only. But I was blinded, and now feel heartbroken?

But, reading all these testimonials has me feeling like I’m not alone and a lot better. I wish I could compare photos with someone or somewhere? I had that what if he is real mentality! I feel so foolish for falling for this type of scam. Very vulnerable i guess?? What an experience. No money was ever sent, thank goodness. Any input would be greatly appreciated!

Yes I am interested in your post I was akwardly induced to like this girl that was not real... "The scam artist" told me she was looking for love but I let her think twice about what she had said to me because nothing made sense she said she was from the US but lives in Nigeria with her grand mother stupid me sent her 3 pictures of me so now I know a poor girl will see that face of mine but worst part is that I have no clue how she ended up in my Gmail address I told her I no longer needed her attention and that she was basic a scammer and blocked her from my contacts so sad that these people think they can get away with posting other people's pictures and acting as if they are them that poor girl on the picture must of been looking for somebody and found the perfect guy.. but the good thing that I feel inlove with their girl in the picture and not the guy or girl who was telling me all those positive things..

I've been talking to female scammers on Twitter. Fast talking how they want to spend the rest of their lives with me and need iTunes because wifi used up. Or need money to fly to be with me. I laugh because I ask for pics and they send profile pic or same ones. I look at what is in back ground of pictures for info. Lot's of time they back east but on my same time zones. When they should be asleep. It's sad what people do a good minded person. Just shows how sick there mind is to think this way. And they call them selves American. To me a terrorist gets more respect. Lest they don't lie. They say they want to hurt us. Lol. Ask questions and don't move fast.
Best of luck.

I just had a very similiar experiance but his name is Anthony James. He is asking me for 23,000 to get out of jail for fines not paid after being in an auto accident. Extremely handsome man proclaimed his love and wanated to spend rest of life with me along with marriage. Just said this yesterday. He always knows just the right thing to say to bring me back to thinking that maybe he isn't a scammer. I sent him a 500 walmart card back in April so he could pay some bills here in the states. Come to find out today...he bought clothes , womens shoes and a playstation with it. UGGGGGG

This is the guy who contacted me!! He had asked for money but the bank told me not to. He is right now asking for iTune cards. Even while I came on this site to see why someone would want me to send them 2 $100 ones just for a gift. He said to take a picture of back of the cards etc. I am so glad I came on here!

Is this guys name Noah Miller Shaklee.. Stationed at Camp Lejeune North Carolina

how did u find out im going thru the same thing .i feel ing scamed for 30000.she is still trying every thing to get more out of me

Heartbroken,
I too had the same situation with my supposed man. He said he was from NY and ee were talking 2 months when he said he got the contract deal to mine for gold and diamonds in Dubai. A month later, he gave me the good news of recieving his pay for the job and the vehicle that came with the contract. He claims he was sending his pay in a briefcase hidden in the vehicle. Next thing I knew, I was getting emails from Asian Global Services for 1000.00 because I did not tell them there was cash in the car. Briefcase supposedly had 900k in it. Then they send another email stating I was going to jail for money laundering. Supposedly the vehicle and money was being held in Italian customs and another email came stating I had to pay 5k if I wanted the vehicle and money shipped to me. The whole time I am in contact with my man, Christopher Anton Raymond (whose name is not real), and he begs me to pay the money because he now was arrested for money laundering too. I told him to get lost. He is on KIK, keeps contacting me and says when he gets home, I will see he is not fake and I will regret treating him this way. I have pics of him too and gave them and all his info he gave me, to my son (who is a police officer) to research him. There was nothing. Chris gave me all fake info including a fake SS #, birthdate, telephone #, fake parents name and all. Then he has the nerve to call me annoting cause I call him on everything. What a scammer.

Hi
I had someone posing as a well known Dr wanting to get money out of Dubai, in a briefcase. Had me send money to Asian courier company. Then it went to Indonesia who then wanted $100,000 to release it. When it was released, said it had to be paid direct Ito a bank account, which costs £150,000 to open. I haven’t paid out much money, but some, plus computer and phone, some to Nigeria and some to US. UK bank intercepted one payment and only gave me a fraction back.

I too just ended a "love relationship" recently. Also felt heartbroken because I felt that he really was sincere and being honest. Then things just didn't start adding up right, and when I would question it, I rarely got an answer. If I did get an answer, the question was reverted back to me. This was over roughly 13 months. I lost just about everything I owned, family and friends were trying to tell me, but I didn't listen. Wish now I would have, and I wouldn't be looking for a place to live now, or having to look into bankruptcy because I have no money to my name. So, I know exactly how you feel because I to thought everything he told me was real, guess since mine is still so fresh, I still have a little part of me that believes he had been telling me at least some truth.

I have a friend i feel is being scammed. He has not asked for money as if yet. Question how soon before he asked for money? And what if anything could have convinced you he was a fake? Im trying to save her heartache and more but nothing works

hi dk2063, sometimes it takes months, sometimes weeks. It depends on the scammer. I have had two guys ask me for money, both claiming to be Christian men, both single fathers. (Daniel and Martin both on Instagram and hangouts/viber)one an engineer stuck in turkey looking for $20,000 the other in Scotland as a geologist looking for $700. Both good looking charming men. One more romantic than the other. I googled both of their pictures everyday until I got a match. One was impersonating a Canadian artist and architect - and I informed him about the use of his pictures. The other was harder to get. Both pledged their undying love for me, both wanted to marry me. I realized they were scammers when my common sense kicked in. No Christian man that I know of is going to ask a single mother with a handicapped child for money. There is no person who can fall in love with you without meeting you in person, and there is no one who has that many emergencies that they cant meet you. The more they pressure you for money, the more you know its a scam. If they love you so much they'd never ask for money. Think about it - how many people - strangers - would you walk up to and say hi I'm in trouble I need your money? if you wouldn't do it in everyday life, then don't do it for someone you haven't met.
Unfortunately I know what its like when nothing works. These guys are good, and I mean really good at selecting gullible, genuine, kind, caring women and convincing them of their love. It's really tragic. The best thing to do is have your friend read these blogs, search romance scams, check out youtube for a video of well used faces of innocent men, read the FBI web page, etc. Eventually she will start to question and doubt. When her heart breaks that's when she is going to need you - till then best of luck.

Hi, I've been texting and emailing with a man from the states for over two months, and states he is widowed with child, lives in states, grew up in UK, educated in Poland ....
First asked me for iTunes or Amazon card, the cell phone and now thousands dollars to help him out of trouble in Dubai where he is working... So he can come home to me. We have yet to meet. I believe he could be a scammer and struggle with letting of the possibility that this could be real.
I don't want to leave anyone in danger and also want to protect myself. Anyone heard of Moises Montoya?
Thanks

this guy is a scammer he's actually sitting in a hotel in Africa - waiting for you to send him money he lives off nice American women in America that send him money - he's not coming back to anyone not marrying anyone - were just his atm machine

Do you know Daniel's last name, I have been contacted by someone using the name Daniel, says he is an engineer stuck in Istanbul.

I’ve been messaging a guy called Daniel for the past 7 months his story is exactly the same as yours, an engineer stuck in Turkey, a single father and Christian too. If you have any photos and a sir name he’s using and we can share this information together, I would be grateful. He is very handsome well built very charismatic and romantic he’s says he loves me and even asked me if I would like to move to America to live with him and his two daughters.
I’ve had my suspicions on and off for sometime, he always seems to convince me that he would never betray me and how could I think that way about him!

If you do get to know his sir name can you let me know too

gullibleweenie, do you have a last name on Daniel? Or pictures. This story sounds too familiar.

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