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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: • Federal Bureau of Investigation: Learn more at and

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

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I’m out $45,000 before I started reading all these posts. I’m sick that I even fell for this but he was so trusting it sounded
Chris is his name

I had the exact same thing. Girl first asked for small amount to get her i tunes subscription but i didnt gave after sometime she stopped talking to me

Me also was talking to a girl i met in meetme she said she was an e6 sergeant in syria her name was Catherine hannisick after 3 days of talking she ask for itunes card and I brought it after she started to ask for more so i blocked her on hangouts we never spoke on phone only email and hangouts this went on for almost 5 months i send her about 1.500 dollars when I started to ask for proof she just told me she was going to give me space i feel so stupid i also set her up made up an email and Netflix account gave it to her and when she sign in it was in Nigeria she claimed her friend stole it and gave it to someone

I got in touch with Catherine hannisick again through meet me app is where she always be she claiming that she love me and wants to marry me she said her commander said he will pay for half her plane ticket and she needed to come up with the other half of 1200 dollars then she said if i could pay the whole amount so she wont have to pay him back she also said that the commander will call me can anyone help me i dont think a person on a mission in the army have that much time to be texting and on dating app i send this person 1500 already i ask her for proof because she will say she have nothing to eat because the camp was attack she would send me an image of pasta from the internet i felt so stupid omg can anyone please help me what should i do

Block her ASAP. Do not send her anything.

Thanks i already did block her but i had to find out who it was so I contacted her again and we talk for a bit finally got her to video call she was black she didn’t think that it will show her i got a picture of her which i can just file a police report for impersonating another person and fraud she still says she is in the army which I highly doubt after all this she have the nerve to ask for a 10 amazon card unbelievable what a lowlife scum reya4catherine and still using Catherinehannisick she have the nerve to ask me to remove my review so she can use that person identity again because she thought i was weak and willing to do what she ask these people have no heart whatsoever they just want to use people looking for romance to get rich by the way this person was so horrible looking and dirty to think all this suffering for that lowlife scumbag

I have a guy I been talking to for a couple months and he said he was from Cali on a contract in Nigeria. He was getting a large amount of money for this job and was afraid it would be stolen over and wanted to send it to me. I told him not to put my name on it. So he sends me a picture of the check it's for over 500 million$. But he put my name on it and said it was coming courier company and wouldn't have to pay anything. Then he started asking for money to come to me and marry me and help take care of my elderly mom. He talked her into having me send him 200$ a week later it was another 300$. All the while talking to my mom begging her to get a loan and send even more. That he would be here the next day. She didn't send him anything so then calls crying to her on the phone how he loved us and all that kind of crap. Now he's still trying to get my last 70$. I have fallen so far behind my whole disablity check went to try to catch up on some of the things I didn't pay cuz he should have been here by now. He has made fake emails to the airline over there, fake emails from the courier company and actually made it look like they needed 200$ to not tell the authorities how much was the check was for and that it's being held till I pay or they turn it in to customs. It's a big bunch of BS and he just gets mad when I tell him no. His supposedly name is Paul Williams or Paul Christopher. I don't know where to start with reporting him to the proper authorities.

Try these names also Shawn williams, daughter Sarah, troy williams also

He has many names, track phone, calls crying, always wants more and more money, he lies about a daughter, he cleans outs your accounts, tries to get u to sell your belongings, lies where he is uses other men's pictures! Manipulates you to try to make you feel guilty! Down grades your family calls you names! Doesn't care about you he lies wants to marry you travel, lies he has no family but a daughter, family all killed in car accident including wife! Sold his house everything for a 400million dollar contract and the truth is it all vulnerable women he stills their saving, pension, what ever he can get! He tells u very little about his life he only wants to talk about money and that's only time he loves you so much, wants to be with you babe, send flowers and gifts once wants iTunes cards, calls or texts all. The time! And you best answer or he calls you stupid and other names! Loves your family until he can't get nothing from them then he calls them names! He's good at his game and hopes he gets caught soon! He uses very attractive older man's pictures but voice of a black man! He covers his tracks well! He uses alot of names tony, troy, Shawn,micheal, Matthew,William, williams, so many he a crook! Look out ladies he got 25k from me and oh says he'll pay it back! Funny he says he's religious but talks alot about the devil when he's angry! He claims he in his 60s trapped in a motel from rig, he lies alot! Look out ladies he takes any age of women! Your his only family!he's coming home to marry you! After u send him more and more money, he says he's worth millions! Ya one scam after another! While he loving and scamming you hes scamming many other women at the same time! He has charges against him from others, he claims to have agent, ya she's an agent alright, living high off every single vulnerable women out there! Her name is charolette! Look out ladies!

I AM IN an identical situation NOW someone contact me this is 100% him

He keeps using Paul hollywood pictures the British baker, changes his name alot wants money lies about daughter! Cries! Oh your my wife, we're gonna travel, I'm stuck in motel, calls you stupid, and other names, manipulates you! Etc

i was in a relationship with purpose barbel for 3 mo .she said that she lives in cleveland ohio she told me that her husband left her and her daughter and she needed money for food for the house of course i sent her money 150 one mo 200 the next and another 200 the next we were spose to get toghter this mo on friday but that did not happen all of a sudden her husband came back when i asked for her address and her business address she gave it to me when i looked up the address one was the bus station in Cleveland Ohio the other address was an empty house that was for sale in Cleveland but i have all the information where i sent the money to her it was though pay pal business to business but i also have her picture and all the text message that i have saved i met her though her nice her neice ask for money but i refused she wanted i tunes cards but i never thought maybe they are working togather i an going to file charges i fell so stupied about all of this

Same situation with a guy by the name of Michael Osborne. Met him on Yahtzee asked me to go to a hangout site, been chatting 3 weeks he professes his love for me and says he has not been in relationship since his wife of 20 years was in a fire accident and he is widowed on a crude oil rig off Scotland shores. He owns this contract supposedly and will not get paid until it has been completed which is in 3 weeks . He then states he is coming to spend a weeek with me. And then will go back to oil rig for 3 weeks then back to me for 3 days before going to New Jersey where he claims he is from to see his daughter who is w a nanny so all along this has seems bizarre to me then finally in only 3 weeks wants to know if I can help him raise money to have a hydraulic fixed and he needs 25000.00 I laughed I said absolutely not. I don’t even know u. He claims now I act different and he can’t lose me he loves me so much. Sickening !!

I'm talking to the same guy. What a liar. I wish we could put a stop to him.

I met a guy named Michael Kevin Willians or William said he works on oil rig in Norway has daughter has big home in Beverly Hills and says he loves and he's retiring wants to marry me but he start saying he couldn't get into his online banking so he needed money on cards to activate it i sent him 500 dollars and 200 for his daughter I trusted him to have all my id including my son thats on my tax forms he said he needed that to put his millions of dollars he's been saving He knows iam on Social Security and Social Security Supplement,so he needs 300 and 100 for internet 300 is to activate his online banking. What do I do

I was talking to Michael Osborne too. His daughters name was Annie. We talked for months. He was on his way home but was in a car accident on the way to the airport in Scotland . He was injured. I asked him what hospital he was in. He told me so I called hospital to talk to him but they didn’t have a patient by that name. Didn’t hear from him for about a year. About a month ago, he said that he was in a coma for 6 months. I told him that I had no money. He said he just wanted me. I told him because of him , I was broke!

Have you ever heard of Gonzalez

Yes. Nicholas antonio Gonzalez. He uses an army man's photos. He's lying, trying to get money, will steal your identity, don't give him any personal info! I'm fighting this now. I met him off Pof in july 2019 I have pictures galore of this army man's life he's using for fraud. I have turned it in as fraud.

Does anyone know someone that goes by the name david william? I met him online, talked for 3 weeks and then he asked me for money. First it was 50 dollars for itune so he can call me. then it was 500 dollars to fix a machine that he uses on his oil rig in Norway, then it went from 500 dollars to 1200 dollars for his daughter to get a phone for school so her friends won't laugh at her. Told me he lost his wife 4 years ago, said all the right things, wants to marry me, can't live without me, etc..

Can u send a pic I think my mom is being scammed by the same guy

Can you send me his picture? He was handsome. Finally he came video chat. His name was Victor in Africa, he said he was sorry, also he thinks American people are all rich. I told him not true. He was very nice, but still scammer.

I have been talking to a David williams for about 10 months now. Maybe the same? Has a son David jr in boarding school in Italy. Wondering if he is a scammer.

Can you tell me was he in Syria? I think I have the same guy on pof

Is this the same man , Matthew Gonzalez in air force

I met a guy on words with friends two, he went by Michael F Gray. He started to chat with me then he asked me to move the conversation to hangouts. We started talking on June 15th, he told me that he was 60yrs old, a widower and had two teenagers. He told me that he was a supervisor for an oil drilling company in South shores Alabama. Just this last week he asked me if I could help him by getting him a gift card for $400.00. I told him that I didn't have it. Then last night he ordered me to give him $200.00. I told him that I didn't have it. He always called me from the app so I'm glad that he doesn't have my phone number. After a few choice words I hung up on him and blocked him and deleted the app. Watch out for him.

Has anyone ever heard of Harry Wilson? He supposedly worked on an oil rig and is now stuck in customs in Houston. My mom has sent so much money to him. We can’t convince her he is a scammer. He has been held in customs for almost 2 weeks and he said it is because he got into an argument with the custom’s agent. She has sent I tunes cards, cash, Walmart cards. He was supposed to be here today, last week, the week before. Soon and so on. He is bleeding her dry.

Please! Harry Wilson is a Huge romance scammer!!!! Claims his wife died in car accident 4 yrs ago. In his 60’s. He says. Has a 16yr old son named Michael in boarding school, he says! Claims he is from Cleveland, OH. Talked all the time on Hangouts & was never able to get his camera to work so we could video chat. Pics sent are all handsome...but fake! Says he is currently in Dubai awaiting to receive his money from contract he is fighting for in the court there! Claims to be independent contractor on oil rigs! But detained there because of Covid & some of the people have gotten sick ! Loves you dearly all the time. Professes to be a Christian & I have learned he is such a fake in that too! Took me a long time to get over it all. Lost tens of thousands of dollars in his various elaborate stories that were SO convincing! Unfortunately, I succumbed to the lies. Paid heavily for such “ true love”. Always detained & never able to get off rig to come home. We were going to get married can’t tell you how many times!! Please save yourself from the hurt! I pray he gets caught!

This guy from California sounds like this guy name Andrew J. Martin. He said that he's from California and has a contract in Nigeria.

Stop talking to her it's a scam and the person you see in a picture is not the real person your talking to.
My mother is so in need of love she has given over $50,000 in the past 3 years, and when I say it wasnt just 1 guy it was about 8 different guys at different times that she was giving money to. She even flew to New Jersey thinking she would meet him. I warned her over and over and over . I think they have a list of women and men that when she finally figures one out ( because I scream it at her) they have another crook ready to pounce. I've heard them all
1. Child sick need money, medical Bill's, , funeral, equipment breaking, ect.... the new one was the iTunes.... they can sell them for cash. They even had my mom excepting stolen credit card merchandise telling her they would come to her house first and to send them back out from her address. She was shipped 100 laptops. I put a stop to that one really quick. There all over the net. Dont trust them period they can claim to be anything they want but there not trust me I've seen them all and the sad part is after 3 years I'm still having get rid of these guys because she keeps falling for 1 after another

My mother has the same problems.she has give huge sum of money to her lover.Even in the past she did so and she got cheated but still she has not learnt anything.

United States Armed forces takes care of their soldiers. They have their own transport. No money involved an no rank above her will put money out when she travels with military. You have been scammed an theirs nothing you can do.

I have a similar experience with a girl who said she is Mandy Bender, sent me a friend request on Facebook, I was curious why a beautiful girl like you should contact me, anyway she got me a hangouts site which suppose to be private and we chatted for 3 days and I had a inkling I was being scammed as she asked me to get a I tunes voucher, I played dumb and made out I couldn't get one, then she started asking me about money so I said I was in debt, the big thing was asking for my address which I declined, so I knew she was a scammer, she told me I was the best thing that has happened to her, she kept telling how much she loved me and I was the only person for her.
I have now blocked her and good riddance. Facebook need to do something about these persons.

I just had a similar experience on Instagram. A guy named Kurt McMahon sent me a friend request. Then started professing his love for me (too quickly). He was a legal us citizen, lives in LA, Beverly Hills, has a son named Oliver. That his lost his wife 2 years ago in a car accident. He was looking for love again and was convinced I was the one, the search was over (lol). He even wanted to meet up with me.Then started asking for iTunes cards to upload some files online for a project he had at work, a contract that was gonna help him gain lot of money. He claimed he couldn’t use his credit card bc he had not had time to renew it (he thought I was that stupid to believe that). Then he switched to Amazon cards ($50-100) claiming that he would buy stuff for me. When I told him I didn’t have money he would ask to get him just a $25 iTunes or Amazon card instead. I knew he was lying all along. The day (which was October 16) he supposedly on his way to meet up with me, he texted saying he needed a $100 Amazon card to buy stuff for his son Oliver, it was urgent. I was communicating with him tru hangouts app. I went bck to his Instagram page it said user not found. That was yesterday October 16, 2018. Watch out out there y’all!
I told him countless time even from start that I he was a fraud, a fake! Told him that yesterday before blocking him on Instagram and deleting him on hangouts. Instagram needs to do sth about these persons too!!!!!

Sounds like same guy that did same to me. Claimed he needed money that his bank account had been frozen in the USA. Said he was working in the Gulf of Mexico. He showed me a video and didn't have an accent but talked on phone couldn't hardly understand him because of his speech. Its very similar to what happened to me. He wanted money said I was his lovely wife and his wife died in car accident. But I fell for his scam but sent no money

Sounds like the guy I met on words with friends. I've talked to him twice supposedly from Germany...No German accent. I could hardly understand him. His wife died in a car accident, but it was to painful to talk about. 12 year old daughter started Texting me asking for itunes card. It was all on hangouts. Deleted his Words acct. How can we exchange photos of this guy. He's waiting for me to Western Union him money for a plane ticket. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN. Susanna I see your post was from Nov 17, 2018. I don't know if you check back with this site. I've messaged another lady with the same story. Thanks

This sound like a similar story. Wife killed by drunk driver and has a 14 year old daughter. Does anyone have a photo?

Yes I do, daughter named sarah?

I have been talking to a person he calls himself Hoffman Davidson.. He is on a rig in the Gulf of Mexico. Kept asking for money for his daughter Rose, a broken engine, a briefcase with valuables in it that needed paid for. Google Play cards for phone minutes ! Have sent lots of money..he wants more now. Does sound familiar to anyone out there? He says he loves me. Plans to marry me. Will come home soon!, never a phone call, video call. Nothing.! Will pay me back. Says his wife dies of breast cancer. Has a daughter named Rose in boarding school. . Never seen him. Has sent photo but I do t know if it’s really him . can't find him on Google either at address he gave me. What y’all think? Is he scamming me? It really hurts when they profess their love for you for so long and nothing ever happens. Says I’m beautiful. The most special woman. What should I do about this. I hurt and devastated .

Did they say what company you work for and I just sent you a picture

I also met a man named William Stanley. (Early October). Just cut ties last week. Says he's on a rig in Gulf of Mexico with a son named Daniel in boarding school. I have photos he claim is him, a fake Texas Drivers License, photo shopped pictured of him and his mother!! I lost $200 behind that SCAM!! When I called him out on it, it stopped communicating with me via Hangout and WhatsUp App phone calls. Sad to say, but please move on. He claims he'll be here in December. I'm not waiting because I know it ALL LIES!! I've cut my Losses and Moved on. Just be careful. PS: He also had 4,000 Instragram followers. Women are Thirsty.

Hi Virginia,
I’m in simular situation, calls Himself John P. from Key West Florida currently on a rig in Edinburgh Scotland, phone number that He gave me to chat through WhatsApp has a Maryland area code, 17 year old Daughter named Betty, Wife Died 2 years ago from Ovarian Cancer, drop dead gorgeous guy, body to DIE for, says He’s In Love with me, I’m the most beautiful Woman He’s ever met blah blah, did ask for $100 Walmart card so we can communicate together via WhatsApp so that was fine, then asked for a gift card for His Daughter for Christmas so I said sure I can get a $20 Target card, He said what’s a Target card? I’m like if you really live in Florida there’s a Target there! There everywhere like Walmart, anyway everything was fine until He asked for $2,550.00 to for parts in this rig he’s on, I’m like your Crazy!! I don’t have that kind of money !! He says I’ll pay you back I’m like I don’t have that kind of money!! Then I’m like if your on a rig they should be paying for parts needed which were bolts? In the beginning He was a Marine Biologists then when He said I’m an Independent Contractor so I pay for my own parts?
I’m like DO NOT ASK ME AGAIN for money or I will stop talking to you! I could go on but I won’t, it’s fun to chat & hear how wonderful & beautiful we are & they can’t wait to hold us in there arms & kiss every inch of our body’s but? So I’m out $125.00 which is nothing compared to some of you Ladys so BE CAREFUL!! XO

I have gotten the oil rig scam too. I was asked to send $6000 to Karen to help her buy a blowout preventer for $50,000. Unfortunately, I was raised in the oilfield and blowout preventers cost at least $1.5 million. She said use bitcoin, nope. Then pay my chopper fare back to Texas. Offshore rigs use a helicopter service in Louisiana, no again. To those out there who get texts from an offshore rig, please understand any all equipment on any rig is very expensive and insured. Someone asking for any amount to help get them services or equipment is to be ignored. Like I said a blowout preventer doesn’t cost &50,000. It’s so much more.

Eharmony meet, Petrochemical Engineer, retirement contract with Exxon in Gulf, from Norway 27 years ago, no kids. Worked expensive equipment overtime to meet me sooner and it broke( thought that was unique) Staff of 30, running out of food and water ..anyone???

Forgot to add his wife died 7 years ago from a brain tumor. He put out 2 million to obtain the 5 million from his Exxon contract in the Gulf. Broke now. No monies given, but it was coming!!! Called 2 to 3 times a day plus text and email. Even website looked legit before a reverse image search of picture on it. Anyone talking to this guy???

I have been talking to a guy working off shore and his name is James Derrick as so he says.He has ask me for fifteen thousand dollars to pay helicopter fee ,2 google play cards ,Walmart cards constantly.When he gets the 13 million from this job he wii pay me back.But the only thing he got from me was the google play cards until I blocked him:

I’m in a similar situation as well ladies. Be on the lookout for Jack Gardner, claims to be from Norway originally but has been living in Miami for 18 years. He claims to be a petroleum engineer contractor for Exxon Mobile. He says he divorced and has custody of his 2 daughters who reside part of their time in Norway. Three weeks ago he signed a two month contract to be on a rig in the Gulf of Mexico. While he was on business in California signing contract he claims he was robbed and his phone and money was stolen. He never asked me for anything up until 2 weeks ago. Stated that he couldn’t get any money to his daughters and if I could get them a couple of gift cards at $100 ea
Then in the past week he claims his mother is in the hospital in Norway and he needs to borrow $2000.00 for medicine or she will die.
Needless to say I saw right through this scam. I have pictures of this guy and his daughters. I don’t know how people like this are able to sleep at night.

I’ve got “Jack Gardner” chatting me up, too. Petroleum Engineer from Norway, daughters live with his mom over there, he is in FL. I enjoyed the attention at first, but luckily didn’t get dragged too far in. He said he loved me right away, calls me heartcode (?), Angel, Queen & is very kind. He hasn’t asked for anything yet, I ignored comments like ‘have to get card for daughter before heading to rig to start contract’ and ‘my Netflix account not working right now-frustrating.’ No, I didn’t give him my login! A few other red flags in convos got me skeptical. I sent a couple pics of me (Fully Clothed!) & said I was pretty unhappy in my marriage. Didn’t realize my last name was in my Words with Friends 2 profile. So I’m nervous about blocking everything just yet. Should I play along a little & let it fizzle out? Will he threaten to contact my spouse via US Mail (address can be found in Google) to tell him I was talking to another man? He also has my phone # from WhatsApp & my email from Hangouts. He said his phone fell into the sea when taking pictures on the rig for me & is now messaging from his desktop. I’m sick to my stomach & embarrassed.

Can someone please send me a Picture of this Guy & his Daughters. I have a feeling I'm talking to this same Guy.

Same guy with the daughter . She is a crook just like her father . Same story . They took $700 cards from me .

Hi. Can you please send me the picture of him and the daughter? Sounds verbatim of a man trying to get my sister?


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