Has an online love interest asked you for money?

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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: ftc.gov/complaint • Federal Bureau of Investigation: ic3.gov. Learn more at ftc.gov/imposters and aba.com/engagement

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

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I have been talking to a guy who calls himself Justin Halls d says he’s in the Royal Navy, he has been sent to Nigeria and says he can’t use his debit card and can’t buy food or WiFi do could I send him £300 paid into his mother’s account!!! This has scam written all over it.

Does anyone know of man in Damascus Syria name Dennis Patterson or Peterson

I just went through a similar situation through Instagram. His "name"_Andy_Burns338 and said he was in the military in Syria & a medic. He had an 8 yr old daughter Anna. He was from Australia but lived in CA. He gave me some story about a sad upbringing and not having anyone to talk to. He said he was 38 and turned 39 May 11. His daughter had the "same" birthdate. She was being raised by a nun in the states but when I asked certain questions he didn't answer. He had no parents as they left him on Church steps so he was raised by a priest. I fell for it. I told him personal stuff. I was so naive as I was at a low point in my life. I was excited someone made me feel good about myself. He sent me pics. He was very handsome. He called me and his accent DID NOT SOUND Australian OR American. His English when he typed was odd. He wouldn't tell me where he went to school to be a doctor. When he asked me for $$ for his birthday and then again for a card to send him to be able to call me whenever he wanted I told 2 friends who set me straight. I reported him to Instagram and blocked him. He got me to get the Hangouts app which I have since deleted but he has both of my gmail addresses. I blocked him from there also. Thank God I didn't send him $$. Please let me know if this sounds like him.

That’s true, I that I scammed by a girl whom I met on Craigslist

Very helpful. I never thought of scammers using online dating services.

They do. That's how this man got me. He was using a chat site called WireClub. He was very "charming" and convincing. Knew all the right things to say. Claimed to be in the military in Syria and was using photos of a real Army Vet.

A guy name Alistair juggins from Dallas Tx an engineer requested me in Instagram, I thought that was someone from one of our churches around the country. I asked if he knows me and he said no, but that he would like to know me, he had a verse from the Bible so I thought that he was a real Christian. We text through instagram maybe for 2days he asked me where I lived and my age, we talk about the Bible he also said that he attended first baptist church in Dallas. he started to call me honey, love, angel, it was so weird because I never chat with an estranger . he told me he was widowed and had a son 11 years old that lives with his Nannie because of his job. He didn’t asked for money but he was saying to pray for us like for a relationship. I looked his name on public record and his name only comes in Instagram, also he only have women on his followers and I checked that he has another account with alistair_juggin. I didn’t give him my name or where I live , very sad that people try to steal the money but also play with other people feeling. He was super charming, and did not have a picture with his son.

I have seen this kind of situation on Dr. Phil (on TV) and then the other day a friend told me about a person, in our town, that was secretly involved and sending money to someone they met online and this person has bankrupted her family's money/savings!!!!!

Very good info thanks

thank you i share this information with others

I have had this happen to me for years by men "friending" me on Facebook, Google Plus Hangouts, and other online sites. They act very charming at first for a few weeks, then ask me to wire them money (which I don't) I have reported their profiles to Facebook, and Google Plus..but am ignored. To this day, their profile remains active, meaning how many more women have they scammed..and why nothing is being done about this. Have even reported to Scamwatchers, to no avail. When will something be done???

you need to post names so everyone can see them

Meet someone on FB,named Melo Johnson March 29-30.Very charming pictures (wish could post them here!). Claimed to work as a secret diplomatic service agent from the US Army for the UN. quickly forced to switch from FB to What's Up and then deactivated his FB profile. Claims to be 48,on FB was 42, in reality looks like 40. Claims to have been cheated by his ex-wife who got pregnant by another man. "Has 10 year old boy. Has no siblings, both parents died. Immigrated from Spain to the states at 15 yrs of age, yet only speaks little Spanish, lol. "Saved $560 thousands but all "fix". Asked for $$ to process his leave from the army duty.

just happened to me on Hangouts. Does the name Michael hit you?

Is it Michael O. Festus Watch out also goes by Ogundare Abiodun Olayemi

How about williams price. Asking $5000 for hospital bill.

What about William Hammond?

That sounds like the guy also going as Abrahim Mayoke, kabanga Amir, Andrew Fresca, Brian Blodgett and Kris Mcgrail from Arizona, MA, PA and Kenya.

Is Michael on a boat in the Black Sea, very ill, needs meds, and

michael, on a ship around instanbul, about 48 50 no parents, says from ohio, but has an accent, wife died a daughter, got hurt on ship by pirates, different birthdays, I think fake passport pic,very handsome, Michael Brayan, Bryan, met on fb

Yes the same guy but on Instagram, Michaelalanbr added me several months ago. Every morning I started receiving a message from him, a rose etc from me. He told me he was from California andworking on an oil ring in Germany. Widowed, two children. They all use the same stories... well today he asked me for 5,000 to settle his taxes in Germany so he can return back to the States. I think we both were tried to be scammed by the same person!!!

Is it Austin Michael Hobbs

Watch out for Bruce Chrestien...He is not real ladies!!!

Michael Poole is the one who got a lot of money from me!!Very charming. Beware!

Just happened to me on hangouts by a girl who said her name is Carey

Just emotionally scanned by a guy says his name is Hannet Kieth o met him on online dating site and moved to Hangouts.!said his wife cheated on him and doesn’t trust woman but since he find me he’s okay to get married now. So charming. I was trying to be on my guard and well stupid me fell for the guy. He used famous Russian picture and said he was a marine biologist overseas in Fiji working the pipelines. Tried to google that but didn’t find anything. Said I will come to see him and he said come to see. Says he lives in Ontario and has 2 kids. The one kid’s picture I recognized but thought okay maybe that’s his kid a child actor. He give me his kids email addresses peterhannet1231@ gmail.com and annahennet@ 1231@ gmail.com. Got mad when I wasn’t sure about emailing them. He didn’t get any money from me. He sounded like he makes more money than me. Maybe he feels bad asking me or just didactic have time yet.

Is Michael a journalist/ TV reporter?

Was he going by the name of Michael Shultz

OMG. I think this is the same person whom I still talk to. First met online thru messenger never met claim to us.citzen but in Nigeria bc he's an humanitarian working needed dollars for a plane ticket. Love at first sight I thought. Send pic of himself that looks photoshopped. I said so that photoshopped passport pic But now he needs this and that. New one now us iTubes card for phone. I will not send him money. Oh yeah I did send 300 for plane ticket but quickly thought after he was a scammer. His name is Micheal G. Akintan from Engle Colorad. That's what his passports states and he said also. I do have a couple pictures

How about Jonathan Michaels, in the Navy stationed in Yemen! Needs $400 in iTunes cards for 14 yr old son going to school in UK. Needs $3200 for ticket to fly home as he is retiring from military!

How about Jonathan Michaels, in the Navy stationed in Yemen! Needs $400 in iTunes cards for 14 yr old son going to school in UK. Needs $3200 for ticket to fly home as he is retiring from military!

Believe I’m being scammed by a guy in Hangouts as well, goes by James Johnson Vinny or Vinny, supposedly stationed in Turkey but wanted me to send medicine to a Nigerian address which is totally prohibited. There is also another one on Facebook with different name but same guy in the profile pics and pics they send me, both have similar stories but subtle differences. They talk smooth and quickly “fall in love” about to delete both of them and move on with my life.

Yes me too I've been on a dating site and got involved with a guy who wanted me to delete my dating site account right away and go to Hangouts and I did of course so we texted on there and after 3 days he asked if I'll buy an iTunes gift card at Walmart with cash he said I can't use debit card so I did for$100 so because he said without that we won't be able to talk anymore cause he's a geologist on a ship going to an off shore oil rig off the coast of Australia and it's hard cause he can't access money there so stupid me believed him and sent it via snap shots over texts on Hangouts so then I said but after this no more k he said k yesterday he asked me to send his son for his birthday$100 iTunes gift card so his son can download video games I said no this time
Oh yea I forgot he asked me to marry him right of the bat of course I thought he was teasing and of course I said no every time this went on for 3 days then yesterday he said he has to tell me something he said he's getting an inheritance from his belated Dad and has to get married right away in order to receive his money oh my gosh what a creep I blocked him so I thought he called 11 times in a row so I finally answered it he said sorry he'll forget about the money and he still wants me to marry him I tried blocking him again but somehow he still calls I've paid for people search and found out that the number comes from trufant Michigan he said he lives in North Carolina and also his number was reported as a scammer so how in the world can I get him to stop calling I'm so tired of liers

Omg! That is almost EXACTLY what is happening right now. He says he's an army officer in Pakistan. He says all the same I'm in love will you marry me stuff. Talked about how he lost his wife and has a son and how he was an orphan growing up. Only thing is he says he wants to send me money, but is asking for SSN and stuff. All you need for a money transfer is routing number and account number. But he hit me up on Instagram and after a couple days we connected on hangouts.

Some scammers use people to help them transfer stolen money. They meet people online, create a relationship, and ask their new sweetheart to use an existing bank account, or open a new account. Then the scammer asks the victim to receive and transfer money.

If you do this for a scammer, your name is on the bank account and on the money transfer forms. If you get involved with one of these schemes, you could lose money and personal information, and you could get into legal trouble.

I Live in New York and Help someone I met online receive money while he was in Arizona. He came back two months later to meet me but we didn’t have chemistry. I guess I was luck and won’t do that again.

I had the same thing happen to me I met someone on a dating site it was a site called okcupid. He asked me to delete my dating site profile and go on yahoo to continue talking so I did. Then he asked me to send him money through a wire transfer. So I did which was so stupid on my part. Then he asked me to send money like 1,500 dollars to him so he can get a discharge in the military to come home to be with me. So I told him I don’t have the money he was mad at me then he asked me to give me my bank account information so he can transfer money in there into my account so I can withdraw it and send it my bank red flagged the transfer. So I was about to send the money back to him then I checked my bank account they took all the money had. So I had to close the account and got a new one. Then they kept calling me from Nigeria numbers so I blocked them then the scammer was from my hometown and the other was from Nigeria and the y found me on Facebook and said if you don’t send us the money you will be arrested so I blocked em on Facebook and then they found my mom and said the same thing so I called the police and filed a police report. I was so scared

Talking to a man now on hangouts! Works on oil rigs! He has been for 10 years! Has a million dollar contract! Says his bank blocked his account because it wasn't updated for quite awhile! The million dollars is in my name in a bank! Can't say bank name! Transfer to MY account for the million is $5,000! Needless to say, I don't have it! Can transfer $100,000 for $500 but I need cost of transfer code! This guy fell in love with me real quick! Called me his wife & his son is my son! Who, is in boarding school in the UK! I haven't sent any money for the $100,000 transfer! His contract is up at this month's end & he says he will be with me soon! Weird thing is, I picked a medium online for a reading! This medium informed me that I was going to receive 2 large sums of money & a new person will enter my life! I would have a beautiful from here on in!

Sounds familar except the kid. What's his name?

this guy has been scamming me and other women for years but no more don't send any money - take the rose colored glasses off - hes never coming to you - he sitting in a hotel in Ghana spending our money - wake up hell tell you hes coming for you but hes never ever left Africa or ever will and he has no kids

Hey,this guy from Pakistan,is he in the army on a peace mission.He says he is widowed,a and he lives in Washington DC area and teach at West Point.We been talking for a while,but something is off,I ask him to take photos of Islamabad, but he changed the subject,And he start calling me, my love,that he wants to marry.And I was like wow,take it easy,I don't want to married nobody, And surprise,he ask for his vacations so we could meet,and he ask me,to send him 1.000 for the airline ticket.I said NO,obviously, and block him,He goes by the name of Michael Sands.What a creep

I met a guy who goes by Kennedy Martinez. Wanted iTunes gift cards and he sent a posture of himself. He told me after just a few days that he wanted to marry. He also sent the same pic to my friend but goes by the name of Terry Rodriquez

Was his last name Del Castillo?

I have been speaking to a man named Thomas Downs...very handsome, gray hair, gray beard. He claims to be a geologist...supposedly in Dubai since 2/2018. I have ran everything (photos, etc) and I had and have come up with nothing. It's quite disheartening. Please lets compare. Thank you!

Met a man thru online dating site. Hid name is David Pettitt . Everything I’ve read so far matches what everyone else says he lives in New York but, temporarily on a work project in Egypt. Now he’s ready to come home and texted from the airport saying being arrested by internal revenue agents. Everything is the same as others said. iTunes card, Apple cards, receive money from a friend in the Bahamas to send to a hotel which was holding his passport due to non payment in bill. Sent pictures etc. to me. Nice looking gray haired man... if familiar to anyone , please let’s compare.

There is a guy named Christopher Matt and he also goes by Christopher Matt Arnold that is a scammer too on Facebook.

Do you have a name ? This is happening right now

Do what I just did, put a Public post on Facebook, Twitter, and any other "networking" site you visit. Put his name, what he did (or tried to do), and any other info you know about him!

I had called my state police and they said they couldn't do anything unless he was physically in this state! FBI can't do anything because he's in the Ukraine. I doubt the CIA can or would do anything either. Apparently, it's up to us to stop this!!!!!

There should be so much more in this warning. Some examples 8f a scammer.Scammers are using fake verification websites, the #1 being Craigslist Verify. But this is not craigslist, it is fake. Says will not charge credit card, for verification only. Thats a lie.
2. Any unsolicited email from an unknown source asking for a date or hookup. Sent from one email address, but wants you to reply to a different address. All fake.
3. Same as #2 only email is addressed to multiple addresses, your only cc'd or bcc, Fake.
4. Receive email and person wants you to join a sex site to see her profile and chat. Fake
5. All cam girls, they will lead you on but only want credits/money. Who knows where they really are.
6. You sign up for a sex site and try answering all of the questions wrong. It still lets you join, Fake.
7. Any profile with just a picture and one word. "Hello" Most likely Fake
8. Any site that says for entertainment only, uses "Love Stars, or any type of fake profiles as stated in the terms. Fake.
9. The scary one, there are "bots" on the loose in the internet. Not even real people, they are programs and algorithms initially designed for advertisements. They have progressed and taken on a life of there own. Example of a bit is ask a silly question like what is your favorite flavor of ice cream, it will ignore your question but continue with its conversation like you never asked.It has become impossible to use any online dating site without being contacted by a scammer. Some are so persistent that even after blocking, they have multiple e-mails set up so they don't miss a beat.

I met this girl on a dating site we have been texting each other for over a month now and is in Ghana here mom is sick and I have sent her $200 in iTunes cards and she wants me to set up an account here she has been sending me pictures of her and texting me every day and lives in Florida but is over in Ghana with her mom she wants to come live with me is this legit or a scammer


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