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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: • Federal Bureau of Investigation: Learn more at and

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

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Please I’m talking his name is Richard too , he work in a oil rig in Alaska , pleas send me his picture

I was friended by a guy named Richard on Jackpot Magic slots. After a few days of small talk he asks me to sign up for an acct on KIK so we can talk more privately. Once we started talking I found out his name was Richard Coffman. He was a 60 y/o widower of 5 yrs as his wife died from cancer. He is from San Jose, CA, with two teenagers, 14 and 16.
He claims to be a petrochemical engineer in Dubai waiting on contract he will be able to retire after. He gets the contract, so he is now stuck in Dubai for 6 wks to compleye the job.
He is looking for his new soul mate, and we seem to have a lot in common. He wants to talk to me and get to know me better, but he needs a specific phone card and he can’t get it in Dubai. When I ask what it is, he tells me an iTunes card. He asks me to get 2 $100 cards for him. I told him he could buy it online from Apple and it would go directly to his e-mail. He informs me it won’t let him buy it, and his e-mail is messed up. I said, sure, I’ll go get it and proceeded to block him, delete him, etc. I know a scam when I see one as I’ve had something similar happen before!

Omg! Sounds like the guy I met two weeks ago on pof. Help!!!! How can I contact you?

My sister met a guy on POF I’m trying help her figure out if he is real or not his name he says is Tyler virgin and he is in the navy deployed right now

Did he send you any pictures? Can I contact you?

I met a Richard Mitchell on a dating site last October. He just received a contract to work on an oil rig and was going to be gone five weeks. I looked into Hochglanz his company and it showed pics. Looked very authentic. Than the more I looked into this company there were the same pictures with different names under them. Here it is Xmas and he still not home. After three months I called him on his catfish lies. I never sent any money although he asked for it just be aware. They are so convincing and they love you so much! Ha ha

Yes he is a huge scammer! All the scripts sound the same. Do Not send anything! Nothing! All he wants from you is money. I get multiple hits on Instagram and listen then tell them to get new material. They get mad and run. Now I just delete. I have been hit upon with a few of the oil rig scams the Dr scams and the military. I laugh and block.

Hi, Iam currently chatting on- and offline with a man called Peter XXXX... from (supposedly) Dallas, Texas and after two weeks of conversations he started also to ask for money as he supposedly went abroad to Singapore as a contractor. He said he was mugged and has no access to his bank account. Interested in showing each other some photos of this guy?

lol, my guy is in Beijing, says he is a civil engineer. he was mugged also. His POF account is Mike Lee5401. Been working me for over a month. I have turned him in, but doubtful anything will be done. Got me for $200 yes. He thinks he's getting $6,000 from me, but he is not getting it. Another guy on POF, his name is Dylan Vittorio. He is supposedly working in Istanbul. First time he asked me for money, I really let him have it, he acted shocked, I had to laugh.

Been scammed by a man named Raymond Dylan. Works onoil rig in Gulf of Mexico. Lives in Dallas Texas. I sent money
Lost 4000$.

So this guy Roland Clivan, asking me to send him an itunes card so he can add airtime to his phone. He is on an oil rig, send me pics of his bank account, had the ip address on there, looked it up and it was from Africa. When I asked he said well someone tried to scam him. Then telling me he wants to be with me etc. We actually video chatted which is really a different approach than most. Most send pics only, but he actually got on video. Now he is upset because I wont send him an itunes card. His attitude changes tells me I am mean, he will not be able to speak with me for a week, and now he doubts he can get his money out of his account because he doesn't have a phone to call them. I replied use a land line when you get back to the mainland. If you really have that much money, the bank will take a collect call. I wish we could just scoop these guys up and throw them all on a deserted island so they leave people alone.

Currently a guy who claimed himself to be a petrochemical engineer staying in New York and who is now in Texas for oils drill is asking me to help him with money. First time I took a risk sending $1000 and now again asking help for $2000. I said no and now he is making me feel guilty for messing up his project payment requirement cash. Sent me his photos but don’t believe they are really his photos. Same situation he claimed love to be a weapon to approached me.

I was contacted on POF in early Feb 2020 by a man who sent his picture right away with hisc1stcmsg. (A way of deleting his profile from the site) He looked professional and had kind words. I hadn't given out my email or phone # except on a rare occassion. This man named Christopher was a charmer. He said he was an enviornmental engineer on a project that was his last job on an oil rig in the gulf of Mexico. He was very polite and sent me poetry almost daily. He said he had moved to my state just recently before this last job. We sent messages daily and talked frequently. We laughed and had alot of fun getting to know one another, so I thought. It was his way to gain trust to fall for his BS that he was falling in love and couldn't wait to meet me! He said he lived in Norway then moved to New York then recently Seattle. He then about a month or so later told me the Chineese raised the price of their chemicals that he needed to finish his job. He asked for a loan of $20,000 to be sent via his agent in NY. I told him I didn't think I could because of the situation of the Corona Virus etc. I was stunned by his request! I then told him about lots of grants & loans and he said he would pass them on to his agent. He then called with good news and said he got a grant and he would now share what he was going to make off this big job with me, ya right?!! Not long after he asked for money again and I said I didn't know him and couldn't do it. He then kept sending nice poems but it seemed like a way to avoid conversation but build a love connection. He woukd usually call early in the morning or late at night, that seemed suspicious. He then called and said his daughter in law was going to lend him $5000 so he just needed $5000 from me. Well, after declining again he became angry and didn't text as much or call. I questioned why and he said "how can you care so much for me but let me rot here." I've let my entire family down!" He also accused me of "tearing his heart out"!!! I told him that I was not responsible for his problems in so many words and he apologized. I didn't hear back so for closure I told him I suspected his intentions and said he must have been terribly spoiled or angry at women. I told him I wished instead of another target I could have been a friend as a source for becoming a better person. My friends thought that was too was closure for me. So beware, and fortunately I didn't send any money however I have to admit I believed he cared a great deal about me at first, it was part of his scheme!

Sounds similar to the guy who tried to scam me. On his 60's though...Was his name Christopher or Jason?

What happened? I met someone with a similar story but was an engineer from New York who was working in Germany.

Does the name Stijn Sebastien Twichell Colassanti sounds familiar to anybody?
He works with corrosion, crude oil. Hero’s currently on a oil rig platform on a 90 day contract. His wife betrayed him, was a drug addict and finally died. He moved to Canada and is starting his own business.
He looks gorgeous, says he vocês me more than anything in this world, Says he has no one. His mother was an orphan who was rejected by his father. She moved from Brussels to the US. She passed away. He said to finish his job he needs to rent a machine and is short of money. Asked to borrow me 9000 dollars.
I feel so stupid.
Does this person/ story sound familiar to anyone?

There's a guy with exactly that name on Words With Friends right now. Fits your description exactly. He mentioned he had to let go of someone who was an addict in the past. Has not asked me for money or anything else but I have not given him an opening at all as I told him I am happily married.

Are you sure? Is he still using the name Stijn Sebastien Twichell Colassanti?! Please be aware! He is a monster! And a fantastic actor! Don’t fall into his false words! Report him!

I met my scammer on WWF.
Ex wife a druggie and divorced her. 15 yo daughter in boarding school.
Working on oil rig. Wants to come see me. Get a place and marry.

Anybody heard of Newman Harrison? Working in the Gulf of Mexico on an oil rig, has a daughter in boarding school, divorced his wife of 20 years because she was a druggie and cheated on him? Gorgeous man! Needs $500 in eBay gift cards to turn them into cryptocurrency to pay for his internet. He can only make payments in $500 increments. Of course he loves me and wants to marry me! Started to chat on Words With Friends then Google Hangouts.

Exactly same Story here.
He said he was a doctor. He was very charming, loving words, he get in touch every day. Spoken of great love and the future. What name did he use? He sent pictures, fully tattooed arms. The pictures are from someone else.

I'm in this situation now... he is an Oil Rig Engr. named Dannie Newton had 2 kids he caught wife and bestfriend in relationship got divorced and wife died. we are communicating everyday via whatsapp sweet talks and god fearing ...but later on he had problems from site machine broke down and needs additional $ asking me to send some cash...

Sounds very similar to man that friend request me through fb then wanted to WhatsApp. God fearing. Contractor on oil rig. America santa barbara. Born in Italy. Wife died giving birth, both parents passed away. Name Mark Lawerence!
Pictures of bouquet flowers and very charming. He was sad and confused. Insurance company looking after his valuables contacted saying end contract. He didn't know what to do as won't deliver to the rig. Alarm bells rang straight away. Asked if I could help pay extension fee I said no he kept on I know you want to bit your scared etc etc. Was very good looking short grey hair ovely smile and eyes

Sound like my scammer Morgan Sullivan works as a contractor in a ship going to
Singapore, lost his wife in an accident r4 years ago, has twin kids, lives in Dallas, TX? I have been talking since January 2019. He has not asked me for money but I know is coming after reading all of this, yesterday he told me his 14 year twin kid broke his arm and doesn’t know if health insurance will cover. I stared looking websites and saw this this, thanks God. Don’t know how to send you pictures.

was his name Terry Peter Wong aged 43? I also chatted with a guy who claimed that his parents had died in the hurricane years ago. And he is planning to relocate it to Singapore. Now he is currently in an oil rig in Indonesia. He also started to press me to ask for money to pay for oil rig items.

Was his name Terry Peter Wong aged 43? Did he mention that he lost his parents during Hurricanes years ago and was brought up by his grandma. He was intending to move his firm to Singapore. I chatted with this guy in mid-Jan 2019 and he started to ask me for money after two weeks of chatting and pestered me to join Hangouts when he claimed that he is now at an oil rig in Indonesia and has no access to internet.

I think I’m being scammed to by a guy I met on tinder . Says he was based at lakenheath base and we exchange numbers this was a couple of months ago when I said about meeting up he suddenly had been posted to Scotland. He messaged me ever day and night saying to me how much he loves me and wants to wed me ? Witch I was like yeah right and we’ve never met , he sent me pictures of him and videos of him at the gym and I’d ask him can we talk on the phone as we only ever whatsapp but he comes out with all different excuses like he’s not allowed to talk in the phone due to his military job . And I’ve tried to ring his phone but it says number is not recognised?? He’s asked me to pay for him to fly back to Norfolk where I live so he can b with me as he’s left his credit card at lakenheath base and he will give me the money when he gets here . He says I can book his flight for him . I told him I don’t have the money at the moment to do that but maybe after Xmas .. then last week he asked me for a I-tunes card . Well alarm bells started ringing as I’ve heard all this before . I told him no as I think he’s scamming me and I reported him on FB for having a fake profile witch he went mental at me when he found out . He swears he’s not fake and not scamming me but I really really don’t know ?? Only when I read your story about u waiting at the airport I’m now thinking this guy is fake .. please give me some advice as I will b proper gutted as this guy is gorgeous

Post pics. They all change their names but they will use the same persons pics

Cannot post pictures

What step did you take, I just found out the woman I have been chatting in UK with is located in Lagos, I have their IP address, what can I do and who should I report to?

Hi how old did his say his was did his message you through Facebook how old his son suppose be 6 year old sis tell it not my faults stop blame me I really want be with you but his need help I have picture of my and name his used on fb

Sounds like same person but only a woman to me. Also in turkey working from United States but stuck over there homeless now . Been with her for a year and a half given her my life savings and took out loans I will pay for at least 5 years ! Bought iTunes cards google cards money gram and western union and wired money from my bank. Went to pick her up at airport never showed! Claim she was in accident going to airport and never made it! I was stupid I can't believe I done this it's been 5 months since I gave her money but once in a while she still contact me

I told one guy that if he did not have the intelligence to review financial requirements for his "international businesses" and the ability to stand on his own two feet financially, he wasn't worth my time. The concept of "love" does not require me to support an idiot. He wasn't to happy! LoL

These girls are finding me on Instagram.
Then they ask me on Hangouts for the iTunes card. This is getting out of hand.
Two of these women claim to be from Texas...
Not falling for it again...

No one deployed overseas in a hot spot should be using a dating site. Violating security protocols. My would be scammer asked me to let his bank wire his money into my account to save it from being confiscated. At least I recognized that as a variant of the Nigerian scam. Wish they could be caught half as easily as they seem to catch their would be victims.

I also met this gentleman on the TAGG website, who calls himself Johnson Smith. He is in the United States Marine Corp,deployed to Egypt. We chatted for a little while, and he suggested a different website (Whats App) to continue talking. We talked for about two days, before he gave me the story about bad food over there, and he needed money to buy American food, and it was expensive. He asked me to send him $700...which I have not done. First he said send it Western Union,then he said no, send it through Money Gram. This should not be happening. I decided to Google scams, and found this site.

This is the same individual that tried to scam me just recently on hi5 he uses the name “Johnson s”. He asked me to add him on what’s up app and he gave me the same story about bad food in Egypt and he was deployed in Egypt. He tried to ask me money $300-$100 for him to buy American food . He said he works for us marines and he wanted me to send him money through money gram. I had deleted my hi5 and tagged accounts for my safety and to let other know so this does not happen to them!

Oh my God. Someone posing as a hot white girl named Linda did the same thing. She says she was in love with me and said that both she and her mom had lost their home in America and had to go live in Gauna where her mom was born, but she wanted to come back and live in the US with me and needed $300 to help pay for her plane ticket to come back to the US.

I have been talking to the same girl Linda S Parker living in Accra Ghana has taken over $5,400 from me and I'm sure it's the same girl long black hair very pretty and very large breasted it is what it is it just ended like 2 weeks ago so it looks like you're the next victim

Did you send it?475-328-2202

Do you have pictures of this low life?

Her name is Linda Parker and she has gotten rich from this game

Can you send me a pic of her, I think she's trying to scam me 559-977-3695 too

For sure ,she is a scammer.

Does anyone have pictures of this Linda scammer?

Has anyone heard the name Sharon Kennedy? Just found this site all new to me

She was thrown out of the United States for not having a valid passport and being an illegal immigrant and she got more than upal she got a bunch of us

Sounds like a girl named Alice.

This guy called Peter Yandle said hi to me on my Instagram. He said he was from the the states but having business in the UK. He’s oil investor and is working in an oil rig offshore. We soon changed to talk on WhatsApp. About a month later, he said he made a private deal and got millions of dollars. He wanted to send it to me because it was easier for him to do some investments in China. Anyway the so-called private courier company informed me that the ‘package ‘ was on hold by Turkish custom. I paid 1,850 via Western Union and then just as I expected, ‘they’ said I had to pay another 7,750 to have the package released. This guy is still luring me to do the second payment and keeps saying things to make me feel quilty... After reading so many comments about the experiences the victims shared here, I finally understand I am scammed! How stupid I am !

Ya know you'd think these people that work on oil rigs would have plenty of money as it is a VERY well paying job my friend works on one off shore in Texas. But yea they a re definitely liars


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