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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: • Federal Bureau of Investigation: Learn more at and

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

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My brother is going though the exact scenario. Can u tell the name of the person u r dealing with?

Is her name Doris Hines?

Is her name Melinda Allen, by any chance?

I'm a old pirate and trust me ya got scammed, Guido777 one just tried to scam again same story as yours.../

Did she say her name was Jaqueline Tagoe 214)302-9564 mother is sick renal failure shes is school needed iTunes for a dchool project shes obtaining her masters degree.

Friend gets Social Security check, cashes it and then buys gift ards and sends $400.00 to Male unknown, who is suposedly in the Russian army and a pilot. Been ongoing for as long as I have know her. This week he is supposed to arrive (again), and they will go off together and live together. Many people have told her she is being scammed but she will not believe it. She is divorced living in her ex husband's home but will be out of there oon.

I have been trying to get rid of this sites but can't. They claim to be in walking distances to meet and have sex. This is an outrage and a sin i cannot get rid of them. One site is Another: www. freehookupaffairs. com. Wish the FTC could help. I already filed with them. There are others that suddenly send me a nasty message. I tried to see if i can unsubscribe or block them but those options did not come up.

I know of 2 scammers on face book 1. is a Dr. Douglas Carl ,which he is still on there 2.Austin Pacheco is still on face book they both are scammers Why are they allowed to scam women ???

I have met both fraud and legit on a Russian site. Fraud is always young,beautiful,almost qualifies to come to you but needs money for a ticket, sick Mum, or whatever.
Real would like you to go there, tries to save you money if you do, and does not ask you to send money. Also sends pictures of themselves in a group of friends or family with names and tells of the events.Relationships both near and far develop slowly.

This sadly is all too common. I have the name of the person and banking information. Chase bank will not do anything with this information. Therefore are complicit.

What's the person name i also have a name & account info of this guy i met online he started off being kind talking about God etc when i couldn't get my daughter to send more $ to his " pastor" he behind very abusive via text however he paid 2 of my bills before this. Which I sure he will call chase an maje a false report. Ive saved all texts messages showing him sending texting me. He even texted my daughter saying he was buying me a car but i had to come up w 275 an he would pat the rest.

It is getting popular for women to open Bank Accounts for their online lover. Collect money and forward to on and open credit cards. Also to send iTunes and Amazon and other gift cards ALL WHO COME TO YOU AND SAY MILITARY ARE FAKE. ALL WITH PROFESSIONAL JOBS ARE FAKE. NO REAL MAN CONTACTS A WOMAN FOR LOVE...AND MONEY.

Yes. Why iTunes and Amazon gift cards. Do they turnaround and sell them??

Wow! I so wish I'd had this information last year, I sure could have sent you some pictures, emails, ID's and phone numbers of one scammer. It hurt like crazy to think all he wanted was money.

Now it hurts to think I was a "Mark". I was really stupid. If my story can help someone else,it is worth it. Been there, L

Even annoymous, thanks for sharing that which is normally not shared due to embarrassment.

No reason to be embarrassed. It can happen to anyone, especially those who say "it could never happen to me". Maybe there is a trick they would fall for that you yourself would not. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. I wish you a good one. Be happy!

I was hit up after making comments to a Beautiful model on Instagram. She claims to be Rosanna Arkle. She keeps insisting I get Walmart or Chase Slate gift cards for her trip to SRI Lanka and she will be putting money in a account and extra for me.

ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!! You are NOT STUPID!!!! YOU ARE JUST TRUSTING!!!! I RECENTLY HAVE BEEN SCAMMED FOR MONEY FROM A SCAMMER ON POF, and it is embarrassing and emotionally painful, but I will heal and move on in life and use this as a "hard life lesson experience, and I am so happy and glad that I NOW KNOW THE SIGNS, WHAT I DID NOT KNOW THEN, A YEAR AGO!!!!!

I had an attempted scam on POF very recently. Had only used the site once before and it was bad enough (he was married) This time everythjngblooked legit. He had read my profile thoroughly. Asked pertinent questions. Got very annoyed that I wasnt falling in love with him. Stayed away for a day then came back and told me he was sorry but that now HE was behind with his work and could I get him an iTunes gift card so that he could get his computer updated. I copped on immediately but only because I had read the warnings on the site. I told him I knew and he (pretend) erupted and said "what's the point of you being in my life if you don't trust me?" The ironybof it. However i think he may have stolen someones identity and life picture to do it because he appeared in photographs to be legit.

Facebook has a lineup of scammers who are trying to make a hookup for money. They act very empathetic and they listen carefully. Then they come up with a scenario where they need money for an emergency. There are 100s of them on Facebook. The tip off is when they have a photo of them with an animal of kid. Then they somehow inform the kid they are getting a new mom. Lately, the scammers are on a peacekeeping mission.

I've experienced multiple times on Twitter & once on FB. One guy was in the military & asked for $1,500 because he all of sudden had an issue with his bank account and couldn't get funds from his 2nd job. He got upset when refused to open an account in my name. Another supposedly worked on an oil rig, contract was about to be up soon. He had a daughter living overseas in boarding school. He was supposed to be American originally from Florida but didn't have a hint of an American accent. He asked me to purchase $300 in itunes cards & send him the #s from them. Another asked me to be his go between to collect some $ that a former/deceased patient had left. Another one claims to be working in the state of Georgia. Says that he's Austrailian and on a contract for a solar panel job site. has to use special phones, cannot video chat etc. Tells me that he is in the hospital & sends a seriously photoshopped picture. Says that he needs medicine/antibiotics not covered by his plan, wants to know if i have $300 that I could send him. I say no, I was between jobs which he was aware of. Then he asks about my credit cards. Says that he's having issues with his bank & wants to have his checks sent to me/my account. Says that he will have his boss/payroll rep call me to authorize the changes, I just have to supply some account information and say that I'm his fiancee. They all declared their love almost immediately. They all had a daughter or son who lived somewhere else, also all had an ex that cheated or died in some manner. I actually found it a sad & fun distraction. I can't believe that people think that it's ok to treat people like this. No trust at all.

Befriended me on FB and message me thru messenger for 3 weeks then let me transfer to hangout. I think I'm also talking to a scammer man. I have his photos but don't know how to post here to warn others. Really good in expressing himself but then after a month, he's already asking me to send money for his daughter but uses 2 different names to send the money to. Now he's asking me to send money $3,500 to pay his attorney for documents so that his funds will be transferred to me.

A very good looking man in Army. Fell in love within 3 days after talking for 7 to 8 days wanted me to send $3500.00 to him to fly home. He was protecting Syria. I went along with him telling him l would send. Then l typed him a text telling him l was not an idiot !! And l was not sending a dime to him . He is in a Army Suit with the name James on it. Beware !!

There is a man who has now somehow given me reason to feel so guilty I dont send this money. He has over 11,000$ now. Hes scary and I contacted the FBI and local services. I inderstand the money is lost and I feel stupid- but the point now is he also is in the Army. ‘Sweetman123...’ (any derivitive), has his son, and as a single father. I caught onto and a half months ago when his birthday was fake. I went online to been verified and his phone number popped up and everything you said was real so I get for leaving him. But then things kept not adding up and not matching been verified. So now I am lost, sad, and had just left a 17 year relationship. So, I was very very naïve and you can imagine more heartbroken than ever. I have pictures and am eilling to help with anyone- help!

Was it James Krueger?

No James pierce


Look here that mans is an old man. Born in the ancient tjmes

I am talking to a man who has beautifully swept me. Asked for leave in army to be with me but didn’t have enough for ticket and asked for money said when he gets home he will get into his fidelity and pay me back. He has sent me pics of him with his mates group pics and some from home and 2 short videos am I getting scammed?

The US Army published an article and list of warning signs about online romance scammers who pretend to be soldiers. The  article says that Soldiers are not charged money so that the Soldier can go on leave.

yes you are being scamed - been there done that - hes never coming don't send 1 more dime

I’m not sure if it’s the same guy or not. He does have dimples in the picture he posted and is fairly attractive.This one called himself Michael Millier. Also wore an Army suit. Single father. Sent pics of kid who does look like him.Claims to be a widow. Did not ask for money but an iphone.Claims to be German but doesn’t have an accent.I also told him he was a scammer.!

What else did this guy look like because it sounds like what happened too me and I have been scammed out of a lot of money because of this I failed for it he was Charming and had the dimples and cute but totally lied to me and now I am scared because I think he is trying to pose as an investigator now to scare me saying he is sending Someone to my house and I have to pay them to clear my name I don't know what to do I already blocked them and reported to the money gram service and the websites and everything but I am still feel so stupid and scared

Can you share a picture of this guy please?

Don't worry about the threat of being investigated. That's just another scam tactic.

Can you describe how he looks more does he wear a 1 phorm shirt and have an American flag tattoo? Please help

My fake army guy had dimples too. His name Steven Todd.

Is his name James Barr are sometimes go by Nalari Benjamin he tried to scam me for 1500 so his son could have surgery he was in a bad car accident but I checked into it and there was no little boy that was injured and he said that he was in Crocker City Missouri then he wanted me to fly the little boy here so I can get in medical treatment because he was in Syri just be careful and don't fall for any of this so sorry..

Dimples I'm sorry that this is going on can you tell me what this guy looks like because I am talking to this guy name James Johnson and he is very , very handsome as well I meet him on Instagram and then wanted me to go to hangout been talking to him for like two months now has a sick son wife dead of cancer mother in a retirement home asking me for money but I'm not the one and he will never get it . Do you think he is the same guy ??

I have a James Roberts I met in POF. Claimed wife died cancer, daughter died I car accident raising grandson. Mom and son in tennessee. Had a lot of pictures, but would never video. Now says deployed in Kabul

This sounds the same as mine the romance went very fast , he knew just what to say said he was in the air Force , his name was James have a picture but not in uniform,I feel for him very fast after about 3 weeks something went wrong when he was getting ready to come home and retire. Then here it came he ask me for help with lawyer fees 5,000 dollars. I've been alone so long, but I guess that is what they pray on and I'm a good Christian woman .I don't understand all this

I noticed that I have begun to receive Friend Requests from people I do not know and who do not appear to be associated with anyone I know. I thought these to be curious and was also suspicious of them, so I denied them.
Interesting that your article indicates that often these are people who claim to be from the US but are living overseas, such as in military service. One of the invites showed pictures of a man in various aspects of military duty, but his profile says he is not working and is living in Afganistan. These were red flags. Another invite was similar, but allegedly living in the US. I am glad you posted these warnings. Thank you.

Limit your friend requests to friends of friends. That will really cut down on that crap.

Set you request to friends of friends. Mine are set high to keep idiots like that from pestering me.

same thing just happened to me..friend request on a private FB page..don't know how he managed to find me..messaged him to ask if we had friends/interests in common, said he was looking for a buddy and my name appeared..ha!..didn't know that when you message someone you are then connected to messenger..we texted for a couple of days and then he asked me to go to hangouts or whatsapp as it was "safer." sure enough next day his profile on FB was removed due to "spam" and "abusive content." we speak daily..very charming and good looking..swears on the Bible the pics are authentic..stationed in Afghanistan..blah blah home soon wants to get married, etc..goes by Frank Kelly

My mother fell for this after my Dad died. Was going on for seven years till she met a flesh and blood guy who gave her an ultimatum about it. She stopped. She still thinks she will get her money back at some point though! Can I send you the info I collected from her on this? His user name was Thomas/Tomas Burnett I have some of her receipts and emails with address.

You or your mom could report what happened at The information you give will go into a secure database that the FTC and other law enforcement agencies use for investigations. People who report can choose how much personal information to give. Thank you.

A guy saw me on Facebook and contacted me. It didn't take longer for 2 weeks before the word "money" came up. Because I am a city gal, I instantly knew what the deal was. And, coincidentally, the EXACT points mentioned above is what I encountered - instant love, dad former military guy whose estate was being settled in Singapore (of all places for an African American/though not impossible), etc. A word to t he wise. Needless to say, I gave him a good piece of my mind and it wasn't pretty.

"Because I am a city gal, I instantly knew what the deal was..." LOL.....well, I am a country gal, and golly gee, slap my thigh and can you give me an amen sistah, I instantly knew what the deal was too!! Just any rate, I deleted Facebook, Instagram, Twitter accounts - ESPECIALLY Facebook as EVEN WITH tighter parameters,such as accepting friend requests from only "friends of friends", well that doesn't do crap....all these guys need is some unsuspecting person to accept their friend request, and then they "get to know" that person's friends and well, there ya go. And ladies?? Use something other than your pretty faces and cleavages in your profile pics. Talk about making yourself a target right from the git-go!!! I have had a few instances of this kind of crap, but one guy was persistent enough that it scared me. No social media account is worth going through this crap.

It was just announced that someone in the city I live in lost $75,000 to one of these types of scams.


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