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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: • Federal Bureau of Investigation: Learn more at and

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

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I think I am in a scam “relationship”. Here is a brief summary of my story. I have been talking to this guy who says he is in the Army and stationed in California. He asked me once for an iTunes card so he can download some music and games. I told him it was way to early to be asking me to buy him things( since it had only been about 3-4 days) he apologized for asking and said he just gets bored at the base. He said it’s okay no need to send it. Which I had no intention of doing anyway. It has now been a little over a week and he has already confessed his love for me and how he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I think this is way to fast. But because I’m a hopeless romantic and he sent me pictures of “him” and the man in the pictures is gorgeous so I have continued to talk with him. But all kinds of red flags are starting to pop up now. His camera broke and can’t take pictures anymore when I asked for a specific picture but then continue to send some when I asked how he said he was using his friends phone. So my real question here is how do I do the search on the pictures he has been sending to me. The revise something you said... I really want to see if this is him or not.

What is a reverse image on google?Richard Poole deployed to Iraq. Wants his son Grey to be his mom. Wanted me to actually speak with his son, in Africa with caregivers. I said its too soon I wont lie to a child. Then 2 days later he askes if there is a Walmart near my work. He even said that a friend helped him out and texted me 2 itune checks for 100$ each..H e l p.

I met a nice looking guy named Richard Poole a few years back. Widowed from Spain .. current city was Atlanta. He worked for an oil company. Was in Africa and needed money for phone and apparently contracted milaria 3 times. When I didn’t comply with his demands he called me names.

How do you do a reverse Google pictures search?

I would like to know how to do a reverse google search too! I'm very ignywhen it comes to computers

Ask Google how to do a reverse picture. But I don't know how accurate it is because I did it on myself and I came up as a movie star. Never was a match for myself.

I will see if my sister can get something set up so we can share pictures...keep in touch with me..

Get the name of the rig and the oil company and call to see if employee or contractor

I also have this man asking me for money to get off out rig . I’m curious to see if it’s the same person . Where could we share pictures?

I also am chatting with a man that works for Exxon who is on and oil rig with a contract. He’s asked me to get an $18,000 loan which of course I’m not going to. He says he loves me and wants to be with me the rest of my life. I’m so afraid that this may be a scam. He seems so sincere and I’ve seen pictures of his kids. He has a LinkedIn account and not much on the web regarding his name. He is very handsome… We use Viber to communicate. His name is Daniel… Anyone heard of this guy?

Hi have similar one working in exxon,asking to pay for contract in petrosa.. do you have his pics?

Hi there offshoreChick. Tell me more about Daniel because I may be able to help you. Does any of the following sound familiar? Was he charming and charismatic? Did he write like a highly educated person using some speech that is not normally used in conversation? Did he write poetically? Send you poems that he wrote? Does he write by often putting three dots before and after the start of a sentence, like this . . . YOU ARE TRUE LOVE . . . was in a bit of a rush and couldn't get to say all that was running through my mind to say when I awakened this morning . . . . . You are my beautiful fluttering innocence . . . . And I should not be pinching your wings so much . . . Sorry Butterfly.

If any of this sounds familiar, please get in touch with me. So we can discuss further. As you can guess I am sailing in the same boat.

Yes, that's the same guy I have! It's so funny that they think we will fall for this. Some of the poems are copied from the internet. Also did her give you a pic of the Exxon contract? Do a reverse pic lookup. I found where his other name are and the scams tied to him.

Hi I’m dealing with same guy I believe. Please get back to me. I have dozens of pictures of him

Hi... I have some concerns about someone that I met online back in August. Shortly after meeting he states he had to go to the an oilrig in the gulf of Mexico due to issue with equipment on a big contract he is working on. Writes beautifully, very handsome, we have talked on the phone, foreign accent. Claims his name is Alfred, he is divorced, ex wife moved out of country after divorce.
needs money to finish fixing the equipment until he can request payment contract. I have pictures. How do I do a reverse picture look up.

Sainsbury similar to someone I'm talking to the name of Giovanni Ventura they're all the same

I'm communicating with someone similiar..omg..thankfully havent sent any money. Do u have photo?

I have a guy that is writing to me he is supposedly in Syria and he seems like a really nice guy. But he does use this 3 Dot thing and I don’t get that. He does use words that are very elegant but nothing like what you wrote, nothing that is that poetic, sometimes I think he’s a robot because he writes so direct.

Hey there ! I'm in the middle of this now with a guy. I fell for it. He said all the right things. boy they are suave. Mine's name is Max Driain. As i'm reading all these posts its blowing my mind. Same stuff, same charisma. He got me for a $25 ebay card. I kind of thought it was a scam. I kept it going in Hangouts hoping he was real bc he was sending me pics. He knew what to say to keep me in the palm of his hand. Now reading this I realize its all the same scam and he's about to ask for money for his "daughter" . So I'm cutting the cord today! Thank s for all the info. Please email me again so we can compare more notes. Just feeling so dumb, used and desperate right now. HOping I will get over this feeling soon.

Do not give this person any money or even consider him a romantic opportunity. If you’ve never seen a real pic or talked to him on the phone, it’s a scam. Never give money to someone you’ve never met or online. This doesn’t sound right and I would break it off or ask him to come to you and then see how he reacts. He may come up with excuses and all kinds of things. You never know. Be safe and careful.

What's his last name? Sounds like we maybe dealing with the same guy.

Please contact I've been talking to Daniel for 3 years..and he is requesting same amount t of money from me...he says ges a widow and has one son William and his story is lengthy...he goes by Daniel rory

Is this guy's last name Stanley? I'm dealing with a guy now same scenario and I have been talking to him 2years. Who do u report these people to?

Yep, I have the same guy it. It's a scam. No human will tell you they love you within a day without you meeting them. Don't do it. Keep your money. Life is too short to be lied to! I have pics, his kids, one is 15 and she's in college. At 15 you're in high school. They live in Washington but Irvine Texas number. Boy 5 years old, wife died! Don't fall for it. Mine wants iTunes card for upload to board of directors for work status!

This Texan loverboy (originally from Australia) found me playing Words w/ Friends and boy was he good-looking and a smoooooth talker. Yes, he proclaimed his love for me within a week. He lost his wife in a drunk driving accident leaving a 14 year old son to take care of. I was the first person that he could trust to help him get over his loss. He was petroleum engineer stuck on assignment on an oil rig in the gulf until May. He sent me pictures of himself and a picture of a certificate of deposit in Amsterdam for 4.7 million dollars to show me that he was wealthy. Then he asked me to load money on I-Tune cards so that he could keep his phone running. He only got me for $100. Then after more sweet-talking, he asked for $5,600 to help his son take an educational trip to Europe. I let him beg until the deadline came and went. A day later it was 5,500 pounds for oil rig parts that were held in customs. Ha! Nice try Romeo! Beware. Not all that glitters is gold.

Mine was from Words with Friends. Very smooth talker. In love within a week or so. Asking for money after the second week. Was very upset that I wanted to do a background check on him. Talked on the phone, the accent didn't match the picture or description.

Yes check out Paul hollywood the British bakers pictures it's the pictures he using with many different names and kids or daughter

Same here. Oil rig. Never met. Good looking. Needs money as equipment broke. Owes money.
Fallen hard for this guy.
Can we share pics?

What name is he going by? Mine is Sean Knox, suppose to live in rehoboth Delaware but is on an oil rig out of Houston Texas

Same here. Words with Friends. Andre Anthony. From Toledo even though his profile showed Michigan. First asked for Google play card bc he’s stuck on oil rig. Then he needed money for a broken seal. $5800. He was good up until then. Fell pretty hard too.

I think I may be in contact with a scammer who is very good looking and convincing. I have pics of him. I’d love to see if y’all pics to compare

I have LOTS of pictures of a man I've been in contact with. He is a very good looking, very charismatic man claiming he is in Australia buying gems to open up an antique gem store in the states. He's been there since April and needs money for the lawyers claiming his assets have been frozen from not paying taxes on some of his money. He's worth 3 million dollars. Asking for ITunes cards. Claims he is a software architect. He is 53 years old. And yes, I sent him the I-Tunes cards. I finally blocked him 2 weeks ago. Things he was telling me didn't add up. Pictures that he sent me were not from Australia. Claiming his love for me and starting a life when he gets back. I would love to see your pics as well!

I would love to see the pictures . Taking to a guy with gems need help shipping. Back to Us from Turkey. Proclaiming his love and marriage .

Daniel Bradon - he is on Instagram - Said he was from Panama City, Fla. Big elaborate story about having a masters degree in Petroleum Engineering on rigs out on Canadian seas. Needed to claim BIG money from a previous contract in India but couldn't access it while on the rig so wanted me to collect it for him. Got some really illiterate Gmail from someone claiming to be with the United Nations and wanted my personal information so they could "verify" me as a recipient. I of course said no. He was very persistent, got ugly and angry so I blocked him. There are 3 others as well, similar stories, different jobs ( All were widowed in tragic circumstances, all have teenage daughters). And, ALL pretty much illiterate haha.

Tim Anderson is mine he's on a oil rig please share

Oh no -- did he maybe turn in to Lawrence Anderson???

I met Terry Anderson

Hello, I fell for Terry Anderson hard. Three weeks of unbelievable emails and a couple of Skypes. Asked for money and I said no and then he turned. Please let me know if you know more about him

I have met a Terry Anderson. Have you video chatted? He is on an oil platform in the middle of the Irish Sea. Has a daughter called Lisa doing a Masters in Nursing. Lives in England but sounds American because he studied and worked there. Can we share pictures?

I have a "friend" from facebook name is Harvey...on a supposed oil rig in the gulf of Mexico...said he loves me from day one... only spoke 2 days...asked for photo's...I sent an old one...he sent photos...then on 2nd day asked me to get him itunes card so he could use his computer on the rig. Also wanted photos of me... I said no...he was angry but still texting his love for me???? Scam for sure

Do you have this persons last name?

Richard Davidson or Collins Peterson or Richard Benson. The Richard ones he gave me, the Collins I found on reverse look up.

I think we have the same guy, He’s widow, wife died of cancer and have one sone. he Works as an engineer oil rig in Malaysia he’s from Scotland and Australia. l never send him money

Hi Maria,
I’ve just had a read of what you wrote about being scammed. By any chance, do you still have photos of the person who scammed you. I’m currently being scammed and he sounds familiar but my one has a daughter and not a son and wife died of cancer.
If you have any pics to compare that would be great. Thank you

I have pictures of someone with same story. Is yours from Ireland?

Hello to both you ladies. This sounds like the same guy. Only his name is Richard and he say he lives in the US, and has one daughter, and hes widowed and his wife was killed in a car accident about 4 yrs ago. Hes supposed to be on a ship and an Engineer and that his job takes him on the high seas for months at a time, and hes on his way to Australia. Don't know if he made it there or not ? We talked about 2 months. I did an imagereverse and did find one of his photos and it was a match, but his name was different. I will try and see how I can get those pictures to you without this site to compare. Good luck.

If you have any pictures of this guy,could you send it to me? i think we share same guy:)

Hello I have been in contact with a Richard Benson, hesy on an oil rig in the gulf of Mexico, he is a widow, a 15 year old son, he needs money for broken down equipment, and for his son. Is the same person?

Yes He sends like the same guy I was in contact with from. November to February. His name is Richard Bendon. He claims the same to me broken equipment and needs money for a helicopter to deliver . He claimed to be in the Atlantic as an engineer. On an oil rig. He asked for money and I got suspicious. He proclaimed love quickly and send me poems he told me he had a 25 daughter and invited me to her wedding. Of course when I realized he was a scam. He got an attitude and wanted me to feel guilty for not believing him Lol

Yes it seems that way. He has been very busy as a scammer. He says his wife died of cancer and has a daughter in Vermont. He needs money for equipment that is broken. His name is Richard Benson. Sad very SAD. Very smooth


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