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Online love asking for money? It’s a scam.

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While plenty of successful relationships begin online, scammers also use online dating sites, apps, and chat rooms to trick you into sending them money. These imposters create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love. Some even make wedding plans before disappearing with the money. It’s a big problem: reports to the FBI about online romance scams tripled between 2012 and 2016, and imposter scams were among the top reports to the Federal Trade Commission for both the general population and the military community.

These scams can take a military angle with imposters stealing servicemembers’ photos to create phony profiles. They might claim to be servicemembers who can’t get into their accounts overseas or who need money fast. The first sign of a scam is an online love interest who asks for money. But the Army’s Criminal Investigative Service (CIS) says that the military doesn’t charge servicemembers to go on leave, get married, communicate with their family, go online, or feed and house themselves on deployment. We have also heard of scammers re-using servicemembers’ photos again and again, so it can be helpful to do some online research on the love interest’s name, photos, and details to check the story out.

If an online love interest asks you for money:

  • Slow down and talk to someone you trust. These scammers want to rush you, often professing love right away; or pressuring you to move your conversation off the dating site.
  • Never wire money, put money on a gift card or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back.
  • If you sent money to a scammer, contact the company you used to send the money (wire transfer service, gift card company, or cash reload card company) and tell them it was a fraudulent transaction. Ask to have the transaction reversed if possible.
  • Report your experience to the dating site and to the FTC.

For Military Consumer Month, share this video to help military consumers steer clear of online romance scams.




Is David Lester Steward a real Army SSGT ?

A David t Larry has been in touch with me promised me the world he asked me to pay for a parcel that had important documents and a cheque I believe everything he said, I totally trusted him, he told me he was a engineer contractor agent hes 48 with a son called Stephen whose 15yrs old. I've paid a so called company active oceans freight £850.00 so that David got his parcel. The police called at my home and told me this man is scamming you omg how do they get away with it especially when they are saying hes in the military in Holland, the company I paid was in the Netherlands, I feel physically sick at what's happened I had no food in, I'm in debt because of this man n the company. He phoned me on video call that's why I thought he was real. Omg how stupid was I.

Is Paul Andre Taylor the owner of a petroleum drilling ship off of Australia named the Queen?

Oh dear, I'm talking to a man claiming to be an engineer from the UK and he is asking me for money to pay for a shipment to my home here in the states. I feel like the biggest red flag for me is the fact that he claims that he has no family nor friends who can pay for the shipment. His name is Leon Logan. Had anyone ever experienced something like this? He's really laying it on thick with the guilt trip.

An oil rig engineer is asking for delivery money for a shipment to my house. Can’t access his money from the uk. Sad story the account is locked. Rotten. I believed him at first.

Check on Instagram username williamjamestom... Is this the guy? He said he is in Indonesia staying in a rig. He said he's american but i don't think so with the way he composes his messages. He said he got 2 kids and wife passed away due to breast cancer. Lucky i listen to my instinct and check further...

I think I’m being scammed by a guy named Aaron M Parker
Oil rig engineer in Mississippi he claims his daughter needs money asking me for my online password.... says he will send me 30 K to buy a us a house for when he comes out here. How do turn this person in ? Or just find out his real identity

I had someone do the same with me. In military, 5 year old daughter, wife passed of cancer. Well that didnt go to well with me. He said we was heading for deployment and he needed a sephora gift card. 100 dollars. Immediate red flag! So Turned everything I had on him into the authorities.

Check on Instagram user williamjamestom, i believe is the same guy. He said he got 2 kids, wife passed away dyue to cancer. In Indonesia currently working in an oil rig. He said he's an american but i doubt it because of the grammar...

My oil guy is a petroleum engineer, independent contractor who has a contract it Shell Oil for the Appomattox Vicksburg oil rig and needs $15k to pay for shipping equipment to oil rig and transporting his crew. Goes by name Roland Asger Moore. Danish, has accent which I believe is Hispanic, fluent in Spanish, says he is from Copenhagen, lives in Orlando or Winter Park FL, widowed with no kids, no family. Uses Candyb98 on dating sites. Uses rolandmoore761 on instagram. I have plenty of pictures, copy of fake Shell contract which I picked apart and verified each piece was bogus, copies of fake tickets he was using to fly to me. I sent it to Shell Oil telling them I believe it was fake. The name/signatures on the contract belong to a retired Marathon Oil exec who never worked for Shell and another exec who is Operating Manager for Marathan and he never worked for Shell. He uses spiritual references quite a bit and says he is Catholic and prays for our love. He says not to discuss our relationship with anyone because they want to destroy our joy and they are jealous. His text messages are all copied from Pinterest sprinkled with the I love you, only you and I have been celibate saving myself for the right woman.
He is very charming and at least waited a good while before asking for money. He said he has old Motorola flip phone and cannot video chat. Says new phones may cause fire on the rig. He is well read ladies. Intelligent, funny, sings to you.,"I love you, you love me. We are one big family."
If you need his phone number I have that. It did trace back to Florida. I caught him on another site, confronted him, he took down his acct, all pics on Instagram. I just started now to just string him along and have some fun until I get bored. Oh, he threatened to commit suicide if I left him

I’ve been talking to a man, super romantic, he’s supposedly a businessman from Poland, currently working in Dubai, he’s telling me he wants to marry me after 10 days of talking to him. He says he’s sending his money on parcel and wants me to receive it, but I need to pay for it and then buy him airplane tickets so he can join me. I said no, and he got really pushy. He said “why would you not help your man,” “you’re making it hard for your man.” I found out that the person (agent) from the courier delivery company has the same passport (which looks fake) online saying is a scam.

Anyone heard of this name...saying he is deployed and in the air force...2 kids..wife passed

I think,I have the same guy

I'm just wondering how you can Google stuff like that

How do I do that?

Actually ive been using google images.. unfortunately none of the sent pics appear in the site. How they are able to do that. Tsskk. Stolen pics but cant find the source via google image.

As you know online dating can be risky and dangerous. Never give into the asking of money on any occasion.Save yourself time and aggravated tension.
Be safe.

It is so easy to fall into the traps these scammers use! They will tell you just what you want to hear and profess their forever love.... than they will set you up with a fake emergency until you don't think twice about sending them money. Remember - these are fake people using fake stories for the sole purpose of separating you from your money. Don't do it!!!

I've been scammed by a love interest of over 10,000 before I realized it was a scam.

Me too. Don't beat yourself I have a thousand times, over and over again. I'd love to be there when they have to answer to the Big Guy upstairs.

i live in seattle washington and my man scammed me for three years . his name is Michael Bernard Dugaw very attractive charming trickster. i am embarassed that i could experience this at my age 49 i want to warn every one about this liar. be careful .

My sister is being scammed by a Joshua Williams who claims to be in the military. He says he’s from Florida. She sends him 25 dollars a week in iTunes cards for his phone bill! We had he ask him what branch he was and he didn’t know! We convinced her not to send money and he has her crying all day now! Please help!,

May I ask where in Florida he says he is from and also what name he is using. I have a guy that I believe is trying to scam me. I’m trying to see if it’s possibly the same person. He even gave me a Florida cell phone number.

Hey I'm being scammed by a chick who says she lives in Florida. Hihali. Her name is Marieny Diaz. I asked how she says that and she didn't answer.

I was also scammed by a man claimed to be from Florida but working in Africa claiming to be a contractor making a large sum of money. Asking for money for his flight to get home.

What did he say his name was? I bet its the same guy that tried scamming me??

I have a man who claims to be a doctor working for the US in Syria . Says he needs money until he gets states side His name that he uses is DR. Walker. Bryan. Anybody else been contacted by this guy. He says he owns a home in Jacksonville FL.

What part of Syria did he say he was from?

That Bryan Walker contacted me about a year ago. I just quit talking to him so nothing ever came about me giving him money.

I’ve been talking to a Florida man (Orlando) he claim is on oil rig in Norway his name is Daniel Anderson age 56 I do have a picture of him if you want to see. Thank you

Can I please have the picture of Daniel the oil rig man

Hello Jerri.
I don't know if my message was sent but if you habe a photo lf this Daniel Anderson i would like to see it as they change their names and the initials are the as mine but with a different last name . Almost the same age mine is 55. They won't tell you where they live either. I don't know how we can get the photo neither how to send
Thand you bery much

I think I’ve been talking to the same man... do you have a picture?

Jerri, I have been talking to D Anderson as well. How do I see your picture?

Hi, I’ve also been talking to DA ( david Anderson) on an oil rig? Can I see the picture too? He asked me to send his son a laptop! Told him he was an ass and can explain it to the police!

How can I get your picture? I’m afraid I being scammed by the same person...

May isee the picture please.

I have been contacted by a chap called Robert John via Twitter, he DM me last week (20/9/19) , says he is on the Oseberg Oil Rig Norway, been there 3 months with a yr contract, cant get home to California for a yr, 2 sons, girlfriend took an overdose.Half American half Dutch age 52. his twitter a/c is Robert John @ RobertJ 29430368, written english is appalling. It's a shame as the guy in the photo looks nice but I fear he has been a victim too.

I think we have the same guy. We can exchange pictures.

I would like to see a pic, your guy sounds similar to mine

Do you have a picture? I've been contacted by a man named Cade Walker. Supposedly 43 and has a 5 year old son. Claims he is a marine engineer from Virginia but has an accent.

Cade Walker lives in Orlando. Divorced and have a 7 year old kid. Supposedly a Marine engineer working in Norway. I only talked to him for 2 days and I knew it was fake. He has 2 profiles on instagram. I already reported him. Be careful!

Cade Walker lives in Orlando. Divorced and have a 7 year old kid.
I also got a friend request from him on Instagram, the pictures seemed fake, but he also had pictures of his kid, I spoke to him for 2 days and had doubts after he did not want to face time me, he faked a 5 second video through hangouts the person on the video kind of looked like him, but it is the same story: marine engineer, in Norway with 1 kid.
He sent voice notes had a weird accent, and he didn't have the best grammar.

Thanks for reporting this.

Can u have the pic of daniel anderson if its match the one im talking.thnx

I'm talking to a guy says he in army goes by Carlos Silva and Silver Carlos...wants money to come to me...swears he's not lying. Says he's not like those scammers

Any luck on him showing up

Has anyone had a man Andrew Moore engineer from IG?

Peter Collins from Flordia?

Me Too for the same amount and mt heart ripped out of my chest!

Me too. Can we get our money back ??? I reported to FTC


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