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Online love asking for money? It’s a scam.

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While plenty of successful relationships begin online, scammers also use online dating sites, apps, and chat rooms to trick you into sending them money. These imposters create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love. Some even make wedding plans before disappearing with the money. It’s a big problem: reports to the FBI about online romance scams tripled between 2012 and 2016, and imposter scams were among the top reports to the Federal Trade Commission for both the general population and the military community.

These scams can take a military angle with imposters stealing servicemembers’ photos to create phony profiles. They might claim to be servicemembers who can’t get into their accounts overseas or who need money fast. The first sign of a scam is an online love interest who asks for money. But the Army’s Criminal Investigative Service (CIS) says that the military doesn’t charge servicemembers to go on leave, get married, communicate with their family, go online, or feed and house themselves on deployment. We have also heard of scammers re-using servicemembers’ photos again and again, so it can be helpful to do some online research on the love interest’s name, photos, and details to check the story out.

If an online love interest asks you for money:

  • Slow down and talk to someone you trust. These scammers want to rush you, often professing love right away; or pressuring you to move your conversation off the dating site.
  • Never wire money, put money on a gift card or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back.
  • If you sent money to a scammer, contact the company you used to send the money (wire transfer service, gift card company, or cash reload card company) and tell them it was a fraudulent transaction. Ask to have the transaction reversed if possible.
  • Report your experience to the dating site and to the FTC.

For Military Consumer Month, share this video to help military consumers steer clear of online romance scams.



Check on Instagram username williamjamestom... Is this the guy? He said he is in Indonesia staying in a rig. He said he's american but i don't think so with the way he composes his messages. He said he got 2 kids and wife passed away due to breast cancer. Lucky i listen to my instinct and check further...

Check on Instagram user williamjamestom, i believe is the same guy. He said he got 2 kids, wife passed away dyue to cancer. In Indonesia currently working in an oil rig. He said he's an american but i doubt it because of the grammar...

I’ve been talking to a man, super romantic, he’s supposedly a businessman from Poland, currently working in Dubai, he’s telling me he wants to marry me after 10 days of talking to him. He says he’s sending his money on parcel and wants me to receive it, but I need to pay for it and then buy him airplane tickets so he can join me. I said no, and he got really pushy. He said “why would you not help your man,” “you’re making it hard for your man.” I found out that the person (agent) from the courier delivery company has the same passport (which looks fake) online saying is a scam.

Anyone heard of this name...saying he is deployed and in the air force...2 kids..wife passed

I think,I have the same guy

I'm just wondering how you can Google stuff like that

How do I do that?

Actually ive been using google images.. unfortunately none of the sent pics appear in the site. How they are able to do that. Tsskk. Stolen pics but cant find the source via google image.

As you know online dating can be risky and dangerous. Never give into the asking of money on any occasion.Save yourself time and aggravated tension.
Be safe.

It is so easy to fall into the traps these scammers use! They will tell you just what you want to hear and profess their forever love.... than they will set you up with a fake emergency until you don't think twice about sending them money. Remember - these are fake people using fake stories for the sole purpose of separating you from your money. Don't do it!!!

I've been scammed by a love interest of over 10,000 before I realized it was a scam.

Me too. Don't beat yourself I have a thousand times, over and over again. I'd love to be there when they have to answer to the Big Guy upstairs.

i live in seattle washington and my man scammed me for three years . his name is Michael Bernard Dugaw very attractive charming trickster. i am embarassed that i could experience this at my age 49 i want to warn every one about this liar. be careful .

My sister is being scammed by a Joshua Williams who claims to be in the military. He says he’s from Florida. She sends him 25 dollars a week in iTunes cards for his phone bill! We had he ask him what branch he was and he didn’t know! We convinced her not to send money and he has her crying all day now! Please help!,

May I ask where in Florida he says he is from and also what name he is using. I have a guy that I believe is trying to scam me. I’m trying to see if it’s possibly the same person. He even gave me a Florida cell phone number.

Hey I'm being scammed by a chick who says she lives in Florida. Hihali. Her name is Marieny Diaz. I asked how she says that and she didn't answer.

I was also scammed by a man claimed to be from Florida but working in Africa claiming to be a contractor making a large sum of money. Asking for money for his flight to get home.

What did he say his name was? I bet its the same guy that tried scamming me??

I have a man who claims to be a doctor working for the US in Syria . Says he needs money until he gets states side His name that he uses is DR. Walker. Bryan. Anybody else been contacted by this guy. He says he owns a home in Jacksonville FL.

What part of Syria did he say he was from?

I’ve been talking to a Florida man (Orlando) he claim is on oil rig in Norway his name is Daniel Anderson age 56 I do have a picture of him if you want to see. Thank you

Can I please have the picture of Daniel the oil rig man

Hello Jerri.
I don't know if my message was sent but if you habe a photo lf this Daniel Anderson i would like to see it as they change their names and the initials are the as mine but with a different last name . Almost the same age mine is 55. They won't tell you where they live either. I don't know how we can get the photo neither how to send
Thand you bery much

Jerri, I have been talking to D Anderson as well. How do I see your picture?

How can I get your picture? I’m afraid I being scammed by the same person...

May isee the picture please.

I'm talking to a guy says he in army goes by Carlos Silva and Silver Carlos...wants money to come to me...swears he's not lying. Says he's not like those scammers

Any luck on him showing up

Peter Collins from Flordia?

Me Too for the same amount and mt heart ripped out of my chest!

Me too. Can we get our money back ??? I reported to FTC

did you get an answer about it, I too would like to recover even if I know I could not

Ive been scammed by a military Sgt Rodriguez. Goes by different names but uses the same pictures and stories.

hey are u willing to contact me,i believe we have both been scammed by the same person

Yes I will.

I was to. His name was James Rodriguez. I knew something was up. But thank God I didn't send no money. I feel so dumb.

I didn't send him any money but he attempted to get money from me. James Rodriguez SGT. We might be talking about the same person?

I'm after some information about a James Rodrigues he has been trying to get money from me he's been telling he's in Syria but works for us army and told me he loves me etc does anybody have a picture cos I do

And is using many photo I am familiar to me.
The story also sounds very familiar to me.
Do you have any chat with him to show, so that I can compare mine with yours.

I think I was scam by the same person. Sgt James Rodriguez. I would like to see his photo.

Hi, days ago a person from Instagram started to follow me and his name was Sgt. James Rodriguez, cute guy, buff and had several photos on his IG account. He claims to be working for the US Army and is stationed somewhere in Kansas. I tried to be nosy about his work and asking about his work as a serviceman and he can barely say anything. He tried to ask me of my email address but I had a hint of this person being a scammer, I gave him a different email. When I had a hutch of him being shady, he got a little disappointed and unfollowed him and took him off my IG. I have this feeling this is the same person.

To it possible for you to contact me..i think im talking with the same guy for a year...thanks for bringing this to light..

Can you contact me. I think it is the same person.

Dose this guy say he has a son and needs his son school payed for?

Are you able to provide a picture of this person I think I might be dealing with this same person now

I think I’m being scammed by a James Rodriguez who claims to be an Engineer on an oil rig

I think I am being scammed by a guy who said he was a petroleum engineer / rig manager on an oil rig in Saudi Arabia / Dubai. After 7 months of texting and talking he asked me for money. He said his name was Javi / Jordi. Do you have a photo?

Similar story , he says he’s on the oil platforms in Saudi Arabia, and needs money for flight to get back to the US. He swears, he has millions coming to him. His name is David Brian and states he has a son. Has anyone come across him . He has a Massachusetts phone number

same story, different name - robert cohn bradley...

My mom is being scammed by a dude like that. I'd like to see a pic to know if it's the same dude


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