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While plenty of successful relationships begin online, scammers also use online dating sites, apps, and chat rooms to trick you into sending them money. These imposters create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love. Some even make wedding plans before disappearing with the money. It’s a big problem: reports to the FBI about online romance scams tripled between 2012 and 2016, and imposter scams were among the top reports to the Federal Trade Commission for both the general population and the military community.

These scams can take a military angle with imposters stealing servicemembers’ photos to create phony profiles. They might claim to be servicemembers who can’t get into their accounts overseas or who need money fast. The first sign of a scam is an online love interest who asks for money. But the Army’s Criminal Investigative Service (CIS) says that the military doesn’t charge servicemembers to go on leave, get married, communicate with their family, go online, or feed and house themselves on deployment. We have also heard of scammers re-using servicemembers’ photos again and again, so it can be helpful to do some online research on the love interest’s name, photos, and details to check the story out.

If an online love interest asks you for money:

  • Slow down and talk to someone you trust. These scammers want to rush you, often professing love right away; or pressuring you to move your conversation off the dating site.
  • Never wire money, put money on a gift card or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back.
  • If you sent money to a scammer, contact the company you used to send the money (wire transfer service, gift card company, or cash reload card company) and tell them it was a fraudulent transaction. Ask to have the transaction reversed if possible.
  • Report your experience to the dating site and to the FTC.

For Military Consumer Month, share this video to help military consumers steer clear of online romance scams.



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Iv been talking to him for weeks still am gave money and iTunes do you have photo off him

Hey everyone... add Dave Chanon from ATL to the SCAMMER list. He 1st stated that he was a 7th command then today a Wo2 rank....
He says that his mom is in the hospital and she can't be discharged without a full payment (I've NEVER HEARD OF BEING HELD AT A HOSPITAL because you couldn't pay for surgery). I asked him to ask his colleagues for donations tho. Lol but he insists that I open up a checking account for his friend to send a check for me to deposit. He says that he's in debt because he purchased a home and has a over drawn bank account. So he can not put money in the account because he's on a special assignment and can't do much of anything. And a lot of other rubbish. He got really mad when I questioned things and when I said I couldn't help him because I was poor.

From the 2nd day he started to talk to me he professed how much he loves me over and over and over again... using the same rehearsed lines 24/7 without offering much real conversation. (So annoying) Mind you that I just met him 2 weeks ago via Instagram and he doesn't know me at all. He has several Instagram profiles btw. I played along with the little "romantic act"... but today, I'm actually bored so I called him out and blocked him. I'm not looking for love or anything, he randomly popped up in my DMs and said he loved me a day afterwards. Haha I from there it was a low life.

So I met this guy on Instagram talk for a couple days and then he hit me with the comment how I have no access to my bank accounts. His name is Collins Adam and that he is US Navy officer Deployed in Syria .
After that statement that he doesn’t have access to his bank accounts and then he’s not eating well , really put a red light on for me.

My guy is going by the name John Koppel. Supposedly an engineer from WA. Widower. While working a job in Mexico he was mugged and all his ID was stolen, so all his bank accounts were frozen. Then got a contract in Dubai, but had no money to get there. Well once he got to Dubai, he supposedly had to pay $40,000 in taxes and fines in order to get paid for the job he's on. And now of course, he can't afford to get back to the states. He asks for Amazon or Sephora gift cards. He asks for your log in info for your credit cards so he can send payments to cover the cost of the gift cards. Then the payment ends up getting returned. Gave him banking info, since he can't access his accounts until he is back in the states to straighten out the mess from Mexico. Made deposits with bogus checks, but before the checks were deemed fraudulent, asked me to use my debit for more Sephora cards. Well, after $5000 in bad deposits, my bank account is closed due to overdraft of $3800. So, anyone out there, if this sounds familiar, let me know.

Yes I came across a guy named Jacob Handy on WWF.. he said the same thing to me I wonder if it’s the same guy. I’m so disgusted

Has any heard of a Eric Ben stationed in Afghanistan. Says he doesn't want my money. Has a attorney that wants fifty five hundred dollars for marriage certificate and documents for new house Eric wants us to get together.

Did anyone correspond with a Russell Daryl in Dubai.

Yes my aunt have been online with him for 6 months already. And she just wont belief he is a scammer. She already sent him money and still asking again. A man working on the Riggs but always have s problem. And now stuck in dubai

No he his not a scam ,you got that wrong

Alex Anderson engineer stuck in Turkey....9 year old girl in boarding school in Houston
Charles Rickie UN orthopedic surgeon....extended his stay and they are making him pay his own way home 2children in Vegas

My relative is being scammed by a Jimmy Wales....Lives in Houston, has a contract with oil rig in turkey. He’s a widow. Anyone else?

Some guy on Instagram sent me a message, same name but is now "stationed" in Dubai. Only child, widow with a 4 year old. Asked me for a $50.00 apple for subscription after 1 day. Whats sick is I follow a lot of faith based pages and there is where he found me! Unfollowed and blocked after he asked me for money. Be wary!

This guy is still at it. All the typical "wife died, raising daughter alone, let's use an app to communicate". Don't walk away, run away.

My mother has a guy she talks to named "Johnson Wale(s)" pretty much the same story says he is from texas but stuck in Nigeria or something. Clearly a scam but she won't listen to me even after we have proven he is fake.

I think my mom is being scammed by the same guy, also going as jimmy wales
He told her this week that he needs to go to turkey to sign a contract and he also said he works in the oil industry and has a daughter named Lucy, he send pictures of himself and his daughter, blond nice looking guy good figure for his age, in his early sixty I am guessing, I warned my mom so far he has not asked for money but I feel this is going happen sooner then later..

Absolutely a scammer (Jimmy Wales).
Went though his lies with my friend....if you look at his pictures he has photo shopped almost all of them.
Did your mom get the one from him in a boat in front of the oil rig yet or the one with him in the hospital on crutches?
Tell you mom he is for sure a scammer.

Hi. I was recently contacted by a guy named Jimmy Wales on a dating app. He says he runs a company call Trans-Atlantic Offshore Drilling. He said he is a widow and originally from Austria. He says he has a daughter named Lucy. He says he is 55. Now that I have read this I'm beginning to wonder if he is legit....

I was talking to Jimmy Wales also. Same thing... He said he runs Trans-Atlantic Offshore Drilling. Has a daughter, Lucy living with the sister of his tragically deceased wife. Very good looking man in the pictures he sent me. After 3 weeks of leading me on he asked me for money to help pay for a fulltime nurse for his sister in law and Lucy because sister in law has COVID. I called his bluff at that point. I believe the website he sent me on his business is a fake and also the FB profile is a fake. Don't talk to this man!!

OMG, I just started texting this same person! Felt suspicious with this person because he has a master's degree but uses terms like more better.

Same here thousands of dollars what a fool who do you report this to for justice

Torn , debts heartbroken

I believe l am being scammed by someone using the profile of a Serbian politician and and army General. He has asked for money and I tunes. He wants to meet meet me and says that he needs money to be transferred for his flight .

Does anyone ever talked to someone by the name of Omer Shafer us marine deployed to afganistan comes from Dallas Texas
I'm not sure that I'm being scammed or anything I have a lot of pictures also private ones they don't pop up on the internet
But all those stories of scammers keeping me worried that there is a possibility that he is not real uptill now did not ask me directly for money or anything
I've just had a thing that he sent his lockbox in januari to me that didn't arrive coz of the courier company wanted money to get it out of where it suppost to be I never heard anything from that company and it looks like the whole dispatch is deleted
Now he saying that he can't access his account that he is being monitored by the government because he did something stuppid but he wants to get a lawyer for getting his lockbox back
Hope that someone can help me I want to believe him but it's difficult with all those scams going on

I think we have the same scammer. Mine goes with the name James Bunker. He told he’s an army stationed in Sudan and re-assigned in Syria. He professed his love for me and I fell for it. Felt so dumb! He told me he sent a locked package. The courier company asked for a Safety Handling fee of $1260 at first. He negotiated to send $800 first. I’ve successfully transferred that amount. The second one was $8000 for a non-inspection fee. He told me to send $2000 first to release the item. Now, I didn’t send anymore. I blocked the numbers used by the courier company. Stopped messaging that military man. I felt stupid and embarassed with this incident!!!

Classic scam - "My bank account is frozen", "someone hacked my bank account"..... RUN FOR THE HILLS, honey.

Watch out for David Fuchs Huffman...from Abu Dhabi..or Kabul..or now in Nigeria..Hes a Naval Officer...was in Love after a few days...Baby this..Sugar Bean..that...asked me to get him transferred to the states?? Then asked me what I thought since we're together?? ..said never mindcre-upped for another 2 years..was going to Kabul..and then Nigeria..wanted me to get him an iPhone X-Max before he left for Nigeria...saoud I couldn't afford it...said never mind just send what I gift cards so he could update his laptop do we could continue to communicate..They're NOT allowed personal devices...Blocked him off Instagram and Hangouts..there is several articles on Google about them!!..Contacted the Navy..thus is common according to them..they get hacked almost daily..REPORT REPORT REPORT!!They said this was very important to do..I kept pictures..transcripts on everything we talked about!!

What does David Fuchs look like? Very muscular military type in his late 40’s, he claims to be a doctor???

Is anyone on here being scammed my someone in Ghana saying they are there for school. I have sent a lot of money at least a lot of money for me over there and now they are asking for two new phones and form to be unlocked and asking for $900 to get a visa to come to the United States where they are supposedly from and asking for money for a plane ticket. I really feel as though I'm being scammed and it seems to be more and more real but I just don't know for sure. I could really use someone's advice that has been scammed to know if that is what ishappening before I lose everything I have. Thank you for your help any response as soon as possible would be greatly appreciated as I work third shift

I was scammed by a guy named "Bradley A Shur" stated he was from Gardena, CA. Went by the name Bradley loves Always on POF. I haven't been on a dating website in 15 years, this guy got me good. For a whole year, I fell for it hook, line and sinker. Guess I'm out the money....very hard lesson. I'm praying for God's wrath on him.

Almost got scammed out of 1000. By a guy I met online named Andy Turner 53 yo sob story of widowed 5 years ago. Very charming businessman his pic are of him bald glasses but very good looking be aware . Said he had a business trip that went wrong and needed help with money hmmm!

I hope someone can help me with info pn a man that is scheming my aunt and she refused to believe me. the guy goes by Patrick Andre claims to be military and all his money gets taken by family thats take ng care of his son, also had someone that helps him out with scamming her. Claims he is in africa but orginally from texas and was born in Spain... Anyone having info please lmk thanks.

Resend response to complaint I submitted 3-20-2019 not able to find on my phone with numbers you sent me.

Resend response to complaint I submitted 3-20-2019 not able to find on my phone with numbers you sent me.

I have a guy saying he want to send me Money and he will put it on my credit card cuz I won’t give him any bank account info. Can they scam you with just your credit card info sending you money?

If you tell him your credit card account number, he can use your credi card. He can run up your credit card bill.

yes! do not give any info! If you give your credir card number they will run it up till the credit limit is reached!

That guy tried that with means he became abusive when I told him no.

Adding the name Stephen Randy to this list. He doesn’t claim to be in the military, but claims to be a contractor on an oil rig. Everything else lines up: can’t access his online account, running out of data, has a (plot twist) GRANDDAUGHTER he’s raising in Miami Florida because his wife died, his daughter in law died and his son is on a secret mission in Afghanistan. Neeed $8000 for a private chopper to get off the rig and straighten out his account which he will TOTALLY pay back . When I refused, he claimed I caused him to have a heart attack.

The guy who is asking me for iTunes cards uses WhatsApp to message but can’t video chat because he is in a foreign country on a secret military mission. He says his name is Lucas Scott Bentley born on 07Sep1975 in Birmingham UK but resides in Nashville now. His WhatApp is associated with a number with area code 615 but a reverse number search came up empty. He says he has a father named Scott Bentley in San Antonio. He claims to be a Natropathic Specialist who worked with NUNM. His English is broken and his accent is thick. He asked me to email his Superior for a leave request to come back to the states and meet me but the email he gave me for his “Superior” was col. margaret reedy @gmail. com and I certainly did not email this person nor did I buy any iTunes cards that he wanted scratched and then sent as a pic. I can’t believe how easily these guys can post pics and who knows who is truly in the pics.

Can any one if they have been
contacted by a Sargent Wilson Galbraith

has anyone had anything to do with an Espanial James or Derrick Davis???? saying they work for the military in Afghanistan?

Several men have done me the same way...Terry/ Kelly Hestilow..Mike William..menden ? guy claiming to be a veterinarian in Arizona.. Alister ? Supposed to be a doctor..lost count of them..Mike William is still contacting me now

Has anyone been scammed by a guy claiming to be in the marines named Hansen carpenter stating he is single dad with a Daugher named sam

Hello Ladies!
Ive met my "love" on online dating site. He fell in love pretty quick (within 2 weeks), sent me bunch of pictures even his passport. He states he is from NY, has 4yr old daughter, wife is drug addicted, old parents, blabla. He is doing a project in Turkey. And in 2 weeks it appeared that his dad is in the hospital, his equipment in turkey is broken and he needed money for that. Oh and his phone got broken, therefore we have never talked on video call only phone calls via WhatsApp. All this sounded fishy and of cause I didn't give him money. But he keeps saying he will return it, that the passport is vital information and it's a prove of his honesty. Sometimes he put a pressure on me like "if you love me you will help me" or "if you care about my future" or "you can show me you care about me", etc. IF he is a scammer why he would send so many pictures of him and parents and daughter to me, why would he send his passport photo to me, doesn't make sense. Im lost, don't know what to do. Please H-E-L-P!

He is a scammer. The passport can be stolen or a fake. If someone really wants you they come to visit you. If they do not have money for the ticket there is no use to get stuck with a beggar.

Anybody know Morales Gulliver from Santa Barbara, CA. As a civil engineer builds roads as a contractor. He got a contract near Toronto Canada that was to last 2 weeks. First he needed money for a very expensive piece of equipment. Not realizing he was to pay taxes prior to beginning work they took his passport away. Money was needed to pay taxes. He needed to bribe the Canadian authorities to get the money owed him. This went on for six months. He asked me for money I told him no. Never heard from him again.

Anyone been scammed by s Ryan Rodriguez or Jeffery Rios. Says he needs money for phone calls, ATM card and medical services. Something strange in the way he writes. Claims he is from North Carolina

Has anybody ever heard of Spencer George that's suppose to be in Army and hes out of Miami but is station in Kabul Afganistan plz let me no if anybody has heard of him.

I have been talking to a man who says he is in the Army in Afghanistan and had a daughter that is in boarding boarding school in the U.K. He was lonely and just wanted a friend to talk to and soon after a week was telling me he was in love with me and after a bit he said he didn't have data on his phone and we wouldn't be able to talk anymore . So like a fool I sent him a card for his data for 25.00 and now tonight he tells me he was robbed and they stole his wallet and ID and every thing . Didn't get his phone though. How convenient. So now he needs me to send him money to live on till he can come home to me . He just doesn't know how He will survive over there with out my help. His name is Toby. He has never told me his last name said he is from North Carolina and his Daughter is 11 or 12 . He just turned 43 his birthday was the 15th of April. I'm getting away while I can. I thought I had found the love of my life but after reading these stories on here and him making me feel like it's my responsibility to take care of him . I'm done . Lesson learned .

I've got a guy Named Richard Baron Birdsong trying to get money from me. After 10 days he asked me to marry him. I laughed. He hung on for months. I searched his phone number and it came up from Alabama where he said he was from. He is traveling. Went to Brazil had to get a temp phone. That was a Brazil number. Finally came the request for money. He was buying into being a distributor of a new cancer drug he just helped develop. He was having trouble accessing his bank account because of the internet in Brazil. He gave me his log in info. I accessed his account to see he had $6,1000.00. I tried to transfer from that account to a different account in Brazil to fianlize his contract. Got an error message. He called the bank. His account hadn't been used in a long time so it was inactive. The Nigerian sounding bank manager called me and did a hard sell on me sending the money from my account. I told him I would pass the info along but was not sending money. I went off on Richard. He begged and pleaded.It got ugly. He said I was crazy. I blocked him everywhere. I felt bad because I didn't give him a chance to explain. I calmed down and wrote him a letter. I had accused him of being a catfish early on and said he was acting like a catfish again. He claimed he didn't know what that was. I apologized for being so harsh and not giving him a chance to explain. Told him if he was real I'd apologize properly when he got home. I also said if he was a scammer it was a cruel thing to do. He responded how happy he was to hear from me and how much he loved me........... Told me how his son's teacher raised 10,000. He had to ask me to do something hard. He needed the last 10,000 to unfreeze his account. I told him to fly home and take a lone against the 6 million. He was a doctor I was sure he could get a loan. Told him I was sure he was fake and if he wasn't I was no longer interested. I searched his photos and nothing came up. He doesn't show up on his job's website. The bank is fake. It was so real looking though, but most of the links don't work. I m glad I didn't lose any money, but am still really pissed that I engaged in messaging for 3 months. My self worth and self esteem took a hit!! Beware of the bank Capital Finance Bank. check out the website and see how intricate this plan was.
www. cfb konline. com if you search the bank it doesn't come up. If you search the bank number, there is no information. I just saw on John Oliver that it is very easy to make call and make them look like they come from another number. Research people!!! If nothing comes up don't believe the bs story he feeds you!!!


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