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While plenty of successful relationships begin online, scammers also use online dating sites, apps, and chat rooms to trick you into sending them money. These imposters create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love. Some even make wedding plans before disappearing with the money. It’s a big problem: reports to the FBI about online romance scams tripled between 2012 and 2016, and imposter scams were among the top reports to the Federal Trade Commission for both the general population and the military community.

These scams can take a military angle with imposters stealing servicemembers’ photos to create phony profiles. They might claim to be servicemembers who can’t get into their accounts overseas or who need money fast. The first sign of a scam is an online love interest who asks for money. But the Army’s Criminal Investigative Service (CIS) says that the military doesn’t charge servicemembers to go on leave, get married, communicate with their family, go online, or feed and house themselves on deployment. We have also heard of scammers re-using servicemembers’ photos again and again, so it can be helpful to do some online research on the love interest’s name, photos, and details to check the story out.

If an online love interest asks you for money:

  • Slow down and talk to someone you trust. These scammers want to rush you, often professing love right away; or pressuring you to move your conversation off the dating site.
  • Never wire money, put money on a gift card or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back.
  • If you sent money to a scammer, contact the company you used to send the money (wire transfer service, gift card company, or cash reload card company) and tell them it was a fraudulent transaction. Ask to have the transaction reversed if possible.
  • Report your experience to the dating site and to the FTC.

For Military Consumer Month, share this video to help military consumers steer clear of online romance scams.



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Guy reckons he’s just gone to Iraq n forgot his gift card! Asked me to help, I said No! Scrabble player! Michael Scott ....all too suspect for me. Any one heard this name?

Has anyone ever spoke to someone from Italy named Afonso Angelo. Please let me know thanks

hello has anyone been scammed by someone of the name bryan eryk??

I just had my first experience and know this is definitely a scam. The man go by the name of Dr. Martin Jason and claim he has been in the navy for 13 years as a surgeon . He stated that he is an orphan from the UK and his wife died giving birth to his 5 year old daughter name Lisa that lives with the nanny while he’s at sea. He is also very charming and will fall in love with you fast. He told me that he applied for a loan to open his own hospital and wants me to be his wife. He sent pictures of himself and daughter, but my first red flag was that he never wanted to video chat. He contacted me through Instagram and insisted on me speaking to him on WhatsApp due to security of his job. The second red flag was when he asked me for money for a phone claiming that he couldn’t get to his accounts and desperately needed money for a phone to talk to me and was particular about an IPhone. I knew it was a scam and wanted to see how far he would go when I told him no. The last was telling me he got approved for this government loan , but needed my account number to deposit the funds , because his account is having issues. I never gave my information and I’m writing this, because it makes me so angry how people think that we are so stupid. Ladies please be alert and never give your information, or send money because you will be mentally hurt and never get your money back... I sent everything I have to authorities and hopefully this will help!!!!!

anyone know a bryan eryk?

I think I am currently talking with a scammer. Met online via a dating app. And have communicated through WhatsApp for almost month. He is currently going by the name Christopher Madsen and claims he is a rear admiral in the danish navy situated in Kabul. He is due to come home next week but needs to send a package with his spoils of war. I have searched the images which turn out to have been used for various fake profiles, Dr derrick hendeick, Kris vasil, bony etc. He has a daughter and had sent be pictures and videos. I would like to know who the man in these pictures is as his identity is clearly being misused. Also he has a house in Chelsea and will be retiring soon in the UK.

Anyone talked to a guy on POF named Alvin Burk? Says he's an independent contractor now in Alaska......his offshore bank account has been blocked.....I was stupid and sent him Amex and iTunes cards so he could recharge his minutes on a prepaid phone.....uggghhhhh

My question is why do they ask you though send you a code and then you give it to them what is that about

A man claiming to be usa guy, widowed with 10yr old son, was a helicopter pilot...claiming he earns thousands, has a vile temper, the names I was called...woww, demanding I go to shops he found on internet, if i wanted ti keep him, to buy gift card, also had african accent meanwhile pics
are of white haired handsome man... is he scamming?

I am talking to a Luis Becker says he is usa business man... pictures of him are handsome white haired guy, tbis kman has asked very abusive and aggressively for gift cards... his a
he has an African accent??!! Is he a scammer..oh yes widowed and has a 10yr old, but working fa
In Republic of India...thats what he says he is 54

My friend told me a man named William asked her to chat after playing scrabble game online . He invited her to some sort of another chat room. He sent a picture and said his name is William??? He reports he is from the UK . Works on oil rig. Daughter in boarding school. He sent a picture. Said he is 60 yr old but pic looks younger. Oh, also prays a lot with her . States he is a Christian.

I think I’m being scammed by John Hedrick, A 60 yo Danish engineer, very intelligent, romantic, attentive. Danish accent. Says he has a multi million dollar contract in Turkey and needs funds to finish his project. Widower with a daughter in college. Anyone hear of this guy?

Any one know John matalon. I metv on p. O fish. Moved off to Watts app. His daughter lives in texas. Aged 19.hes a widower. He asked me to help his daughter with food. But then he said can I get game card. No. Now its bank transfer to a woman called Sonia letts
I think this is scammer. He lives in UK. From jaimaca. Estate agent. Iv said as daughters 19 yrs old she have her own account im not sending it to any one but her. And to get her to message me so I can help her if needed. Answer when I asked was whom is this other woman im sending money answer. I'm not sending it. If he was honest I'd speak to her. And I'd have her own account to send. I'm suspicious now. I want to know whom this woman is. No way. Is anything leaveing my account.

So, I have met 2 guys on LinkedIn. The one I am questioning is Peter Etheridge. He is a single dad with a son who stays with his grandmother. He states that "Like I told you before I have been working so hard to win a contract before my deployment, I just got word from my attorney telling me I have high chances of being appointed the contract but I can't execute the contract from a war zone.
I will have to add someone close to me to my file , someone I can trust to help me execute the contract.

I would love to ask for your approval and acceptance to add you to my file.More information won't come to light until the contract documentation has been fully completed .

Actions required from you are not much, just bookkeeping and taking records of Oil and gas deliveries.Sometimes notarization and signature affixing might lead to you traveling from one place to another and will make you explore more.

I have been making plans for the purchase of trucks and to employ drivers.
The contract is worth $700m and runs for 2 years, I will be supplying oil and gas to all branches of Morrison's oil and gas Retail.
Now, I am a very well educated person, and while I would love to think this is someone being honest, his story just matches too much to some of the ones above. Has anyone dealt with a man by this name?

Anyone know a guy going by the name of Matthew Kenwood from Texas serving in Afghanistan a Sgt in Army Artillery unit? Saying his wife died of a brain tumor 3 yrs ago no family has a 11 yr old daughter? Professes love after 2 days. Bank account been hacked wants me to send him a gift card so we can keep talking his phone is broken and he’s using a friends,,,

I have a sister who said she found love with a military man who says he is based in Darwin, Australia, and that he comes from USA, i am so worried about her as I have never ever seen her head over heels in love with someone she has never met and don't know anything about,
She doesn't know i am doing this, but I'm just a worried little sister, as she is spending four to five hundred dollars a week on cards for this person

I would show her this site.....

I was messaged by a man on Tiktok, Michael Allen immediately started chatting, short messages apparently he is on active duty in Syria some or other Combat specialist medic or something. within less than a week he was talking about getting me to the US he lives in North Carolina has a son 17 years old has a live in nanny as his ex apparently cheated she is not in the picture. Anyway I was even contacted by the so called travel agent that was to arrange everything for me to go to the US. Her name is Jessica she claimed he paid everything before he left for duty all I need to pay is the marriage license fee she said she was from a travel agency in Brooklyn NY but the number search came up as Tallahassee, His number is business whats app and that is found in North Carolina. All of this in less than a week. talking mariage etc etc etc. I blocked all the numbers and profile. I have 2 photos one of him in car / truck and one of him with his son and his son's girlfriend on the beach or something.

I have been talking now to a man in South Africa for three and a half years... since the beginning of knowing him... he has always asked me for money... around 2.000 pounds altogether... he kept saying he was coming to the UK... but he never did... and now I know he was just another SCAMMER who wanted money all the time...i know that he was seeing his ex wife... and was a very prolific liar...if I said anything he didn't like me saying... he just obviously he had no answer... I realise now that he was not a nice individual... but I have blocked him now on WhatsApp and Messenger...i do not want any more dealings with this man...he could well be doing the same thing to other women... the good news is that I have found someone new...and he is amazing....i am very happy now...

I think I might be being scammed. I’ve been chatting with a guy who says he is on an oil rig in the Gulf of Mexico. Good looking, says all the right things and wants to come meet me as soon as his contract is up. Asked to send a package to me to keep safe for him until he arrives, but then asked me to pay $4k for the shipping because he didn’t have access to his own bank account. Really?! He claims he is divorced and has a young son in boarding school in the UK. He says he is retiring in January and will be going to get his son to live with him in TX. He says his name is Jaden, I met him on Okay Cupid.Does he sound familiar to anyone?

Has anyone heard of a Godwin Hillary? He says he is an Orthopedic Surgeon located in Libya with NATO. He's a widower with a 16 yr. old son at home. He wants me to send him and itunes card for his work.....he also says he is in love with me and wants me to be his wife and mother to his son.

My sister was contacted by BRADY TONY CAMARA (a military guy) he told her after a few days that he was in love with her they "met" on facebook but later on moved to Hangouts..after just a couple of weeks he told her that he was in Syria and that him and his lutendeant had taken money away from some people and that he needed someone to send it to but had no family and asked her for her address and all...she felt bad and gave him her information...a few days later the "package" was stuck in Turkey and she needed to pay over $500 for the "package" to be released (this package had A LOT OF MONEY....(supposedly) well she didn't have the money and she told him and he got mad and started telling her that she was going to go to jail for a very long time blah blah basically intimidated her to the core! She told me about it and started researching and found out it was a scam! Mind u she got videos and pics "of him." His facebook is now gone and he was mad and stopped talking to her. by the way she was sent a name and address of the person she needed to send the money to which is Joseph T. Aleriosa with a Bank of America account number and Routing number with an address in Carson, California. Don't get scam!

Just interested in knowing if any of you ladies have had the opportunity in talking with a Johnson Mitchelle. I have been talking to him for almost 3 years now and he has asked me to marry him. He says he has numerous mansions in different countries and 4 million dollars in Barclays bank in London England and has appointed me as his next of kin but the money can't be touched until we are together and there is also a man by the name of DR. Freddie Townsend from SHAR HOSPITAL in IRAQ trying to collect a hospital bill that Johnson Mitchelle acquired there. plus there are numerous other names I can put on here if it would help any of you ladies maybe avoid these scammers and yes I did lose money and I sent STEAM cards but I have learned my lesson and will never do it again. SO LADIES PLEASE BE CAREFUL WHO YOU TALK TO ON HERE AND THAT MEANS "MEN" I JUST WISH I COULD FIND A WAY TO RECOUP THE MONEY I LOST OVER THIS MAN!!!!! PLEASE BE CAREFUL JOHNSON MITCHELLE OR JOHNSON MITCHELL HE USES BOTH PLUS OTHERS!!!!!!

The guy who trying to scam me tries a different reason each day, needs me to apply for his Army leave...I googled it then he would ask me to pay flights! Next day it’s his daughters birthday can I send her a voucher....hell no I am not. Let’s see next trick up his sleeve. Name by the way is Klem Bernard. Lt col Us Army with at least 10 Facebook accounts. Ladies steer clear of this man!

Has anyone been contacted by a anastasia

I met a guy on hinge by the name of Jonathan Bernd. We texted consistently and he was supposedly head over heels. He claimed he needed to pay property taxes on a home in order not loose it (it was his mother’s who past away) and needed my credit card or banking information in order to transfer funds since his accounts were frozen due to his contract. He claimed that he didn’t know anyone in California and the funds could only be transferred to someone in the same state as him. He said he was in the Irwin base in Southern California. Anyways I wasn’t comfortable sharing any of my financial information. Just wanted to see if anyone has shared this experience. Also after I declined he was very manipulative claiming that I hurt him. Be careful ladies

Hello I met a guy on Instagram and he told me he was serving our country in Iran he showed me pictures of him and then he told me he wanted me to send him 300.00 to fill out a form husband and wife and so then I’ve sent him more money to cover airline tickets to leave the base but he had to wait until the comander comes back to give him a signed form to leave the base but the money I gave him to pay for flight he spent it on food like 400.00 and so now today he texted me that he was going to kill him self and showed me a gun he was holding I’m very upset on what I did I still have the stuff I even took out loans out for scared.

The Guy I encountered name is Michael vincent or Vicent Arline. He claims he is stationed in Turkey on the Air Force Base. He also claims he lives in Florida with his mom and 9 year old son name John. He said Johns mother left him to raise while she ran off with her boyfriend to the UK. He sent me tons of pictures of who he claims to be. he ask for money for his connection for him to be able to talk to me from Turkey. He claims he is not getting paid until the end of his deployment and his mother has been sending him weekly funds of $300 to maintain his phone connection. He will praise and praise how he loves me so much and has never met anyone like me and he is so in love. and when he returns back to the states on November he will meet me and we will get married. So I did my reseach and ask some close friends for their opinion and i came to the conclusion that this man is a scammer. when I told him what I found out he swore this is a lie and why would believe such a thing. He then agreed to send me his military ID which took him several days to produce. he claims he doesn't carry it on him and he has to request to get it. The ID was clearly a fake. he refused to video chat or send me a picture of him next to a Turkish street sign. he contacted me on the dating app POF and we chatted every day on hangout. be careful ladies these scammers are heartless and they will take you for everything you got.

I too came across this Vicent Arline Michael. Something just felt off with him based on our conversations. I decided to do some digging before getting too personal with him and I came across this post. Ladies, trust your instincts. If it doesn’t feel right, it most likely isn’t.

They have now used linkedin account to do the same. Dr. Fred Fergal MD general surgeon. That is the lastest one. Check it out.

I should let you know that I also found "Dr. Fred Fergal" on Lava Dating Site, claiming that he is living in Japan and is 53 years old. This guy is dangerous.

Hi my name is Amy and I've been going out with this man named Richmond F Gonzalez he was supposed to be a greek man. He said he has 1 child. He asked me for 3,000 dollars to get him down to the US because I live in LA I did actually send him the money cause I wanted him to come down and after he got the money I never heard a word from him again. Does anyone else know of this man?

Someone named John Travolta claimed he saw my picture ran dimly on Instagram and thought I was beautiful..says for weeks in live with me and wants to meet me but managers etc need a booking fee bc he is a celebrity and he has no privacy..he even FaceTime once for a few seconds but bad conection though it looked like him..when I could not afford it choose to pay booking fee to a Oat Donovan with no business address or phone contact would say I am rude. He claimed his mgt company would not let him see me without a fee and he would pay it back but no contract etc..he used subtle manipulation..he wanted 8k but would have taken 4 k.. He used internet pics and his language in texts was not of someone that speaks English as a first language..

Hi I am astonished ! If somebody has heard about Robert Lucas,widow, with a son in New York, wife died in a tragic accident, only child, military doctor (surgeon) in Kabul Afghanistan, he asked me money for his replacement. Similar characteristics as the ones you mention. He is not on facebook, he is not in any social network. I met him in twitter. He is blond, he is good looking, blue eyes,polite and kind. He' s originally from Turkey but lives in New York If you have been contacted by someone with the same name or characteristics please let me know. This guy has an email account and send pictures of him, his English is not perfect but ok, he cant make video conferences because of camp restrictions but he sent an audio with his voice.
Any idea?

How do I know if the person I'm talking to is fake or not he is in Iraq and we message on hangouts he sent me a package that they are asking me to pay for to a chase bank

I was contacted on Yahtzee by Michael Osteen Osborne. He said he is 59 and currently is working a contract on an oil rig off the coast of Scotland He has a 15 yr old daughter living in New Jersey with a nanny. He said his wife and son were killed in a fire 3 years ago and he has no family left except a cousin Terrell. He is a gas and oil stream engineer working with Ministry of Works working on Clair oil rig. He said his best friend Matthew tried to get his daughter hooked on drugs. He gave me his address but it was in Atlantic City not Newark. Phone number we have been texting thru is 1-830-282-4759. He said he is a Christian and leads his employees in service every Sunday before work. Sent pictures of himself always shirtless. Said he was born in Stuttgart Germany but doesn’t speak German only English. Attended Oxford University. Is 5’ 7” has green eyes and salt and pepper hair with a beard. Obviously a swimmer from photos and says he loves it. He is very good conversationalist , is poetic and very romantic and states he plays the guitar. Adamantly denies he is a scam. We talked several months before he asked for money to finish his contract on the oil rig

I was contacted by a Bobby Frank Richard from Cincinnati. We is an engineer in the military and he left out a tid bit that he had been stationed in the Middle East for close to 2 years. At first it was an ITunes gift card. Then he wanted $5.000 for meds for his heart. I was married to a former marine as well as friends with a former marine that told me about the ins and outs of the Military. They get medical care and they would not let him continue his service with a heart condition. He asked for another &250 in gift cards and I said no. Then in one pic he sent me, the name on his uniform said Frank. He said they could pick what name on the uniform. I let it go and asked again, he said Frank is his last name in the US because of parents. This caused more doubt. He states he is fun Dublin. Ireland but his accents matches islands like Jamaica or Bahamas. My grandmother is from Ireland.


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