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While plenty of successful relationships begin online, scammers also use online dating sites, apps, and chat rooms to trick you into sending them money. These imposters create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love. Some even make wedding plans before disappearing with the money. It’s a big problem: reports to the FBI about online romance scams tripled between 2012 and 2016, and imposter scams were among the top reports to the Federal Trade Commission for both the general population and the military community.

These scams can take a military angle with imposters stealing servicemembers’ photos to create phony profiles. They might claim to be servicemembers who can’t get into their accounts overseas or who need money fast. The first sign of a scam is an online love interest who asks for money. But the Army’s Criminal Investigative Service (CIS) says that the military doesn’t charge servicemembers to go on leave, get married, communicate with their family, go online, or feed and house themselves on deployment. We have also heard of scammers re-using servicemembers’ photos again and again, so it can be helpful to do some online research on the love interest’s name, photos, and details to check the story out.

If an online love interest asks you for money:

  • Slow down and talk to someone you trust. These scammers want to rush you, often professing love right away; or pressuring you to move your conversation off the dating site.
  • Never wire money, put money on a gift card or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back.
  • If you sent money to a scammer, contact the company you used to send the money (wire transfer service, gift card company, or cash reload card company) and tell them it was a fraudulent transaction. Ask to have the transaction reversed if possible.
  • Report your experience to the dating site and to the FTC.

For Military Consumer Month, share this video to help military consumers steer clear of online romance scams.



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Hello I’m from Nepal
Two weeks ago I met one woman in Facebook and she is from USA and she is military and she found lots of money she trying to send me all money already I deposit 655US dollars and again she told me I need to send 5770 pounds how can I do report please help me

What's her email address

Name Micheal Raymond Anyone of this name contact anyone Says an independent engineer contractor for oil company (Shell Company off coast of Mexico)-,Texas Widower wife and son passed away in car crash several years ago leaving a daughter at home

I am texting a man with the exact information he told you. Please contact me. I am sure this is the same guy was the daughter 11 or 12 years old?

I need my cash as soon as possibleBecause I have a Lotta calling coming from you which is I don’t know when I need money

Is David Lester Steward a real Army SSGT ?

A David t Larry has been in touch with me promised me the world he asked me to pay for a parcel that had important documents and a cheque I believe everything he said, I totally trusted him, he told me he was a engineer contractor agent hes 48 with a son called Stephen whose 15yrs old. I've paid a so called company active oceans freight £850.00 so that David got his parcel. The police called at my home and told me this man is scamming you omg how do they get away with it especially when they are saying hes in the military in Holland, the company I paid was in the Netherlands, I feel physically sick at what's happened I had no food in, I'm in debt because of this man n the company. He phoned me on video call that's why I thought he was real. Omg how stupid was I.

Is Paul Andre Taylor the owner of a petroleum drilling ship off of Australia named the Queen?

Oh dear, I'm talking to a man claiming to be an engineer from the UK and he is asking me for money to pay for a shipment to my home here in the states. I feel like the biggest red flag for me is the fact that he claims that he has no family nor friends who can pay for the shipment. His name is Leon Logan. Had anyone ever experienced something like this? He's really laying it on thick with the guilt trip.

An oil rig engineer is asking for delivery money for a shipment to my house. Can’t access his money from the uk. Sad story the account is locked. Rotten. I believed him at first.

Check on Instagram username williamjamestom... Is this the guy? He said he is in Indonesia staying in a rig. He said he's american but i don't think so with the way he composes his messages. He said he got 2 kids and wife passed away due to breast cancer. Lucky i listen to my instinct and check further...

I think I’m being scammed by a guy named Aaron M Parker
Oil rig engineer in Mississippi he claims his daughter needs money asking me for my online password.... says he will send me 30 K to buy a us a house for when he comes out here. How do turn this person in ? Or just find out his real identity

I had someone do the same with me. In military, 5 year old daughter, wife passed of cancer. Well that didnt go to well with me. He said we was heading for deployment and he needed a sephora gift card. 100 dollars. Immediate red flag! So Turned everything I had on him into the authorities.

Here goes, I have been going through the same thing as you.
Calls himself So many different names. Just guard your heart
Do not trust any one asking you for money, gift cards or open a checking account for them.
Please, don’t send money. I learned the hard way.
Be safe

Check on Instagram user williamjamestom, i believe is the same guy. He said he got 2 kids, wife passed away dyue to cancer. In Indonesia currently working in an oil rig. He said he's an american but i doubt it because of the grammar...

My oil guy is a petroleum engineer, independent contractor who has a contract it Shell Oil for the Appomattox Vicksburg oil rig and needs $15k to pay for shipping equipment to oil rig and transporting his crew. Goes by name Roland Asger Moore. Danish, has accent which I believe is Hispanic, fluent in Spanish, says he is from Copenhagen, lives in Orlando or Winter Park FL, widowed with no kids, no family. Uses Candyb98 on dating sites. Uses rolandmoore761 on instagram. I have plenty of pictures, copy of fake Shell contract which I picked apart and verified each piece was bogus, copies of fake tickets he was using to fly to me. I sent it to Shell Oil telling them I believe it was fake. The name/signatures on the contract belong to a retired Marathon Oil exec who never worked for Shell and another exec who is Operating Manager for Marathan and he never worked for Shell. He uses spiritual references quite a bit and says he is Catholic and prays for our love. He says not to discuss our relationship with anyone because they want to destroy our joy and they are jealous. His text messages are all copied from Pinterest sprinkled with the I love you, only you and I have been celibate saving myself for the right woman.
He is very charming and at least waited a good while before asking for money. He said he has old Motorola flip phone and cannot video chat. Says new phones may cause fire on the rig. He is well read ladies. Intelligent, funny, sings to you.,"I love you, you love me. We are one big family."
If you need his phone number I have that. It did trace back to Florida. I caught him on another site, confronted him, he took down his acct, all pics on Instagram. I just started now to just string him along and have some fun until I get bored. Oh, he threatened to commit suicide if I left him

The love thing and the praying, familiar, oil rig worker too. Have you any pics.?

This guy contacted me through Instagram. Told me he worked on oil rigs and was interested I getting to know me. We had only been talking for a day or so when he said he had a job I Turkey and needed $15,000 to by a machine. It then dropped to $2000 Then $1000. I told him I couldn't he got angry. Then calmed down told me he loved me and not to worry. Then 20 mins later was asking me for $850 For a nanny to care for his son while he was away working, as he is a widower whose wife died of cancer

Under what name did you know him? I'm asking you because two weeks ago a guy called Mike Gascal contacted me on Linkedin. The story is very similar. He said that is seismologic engineer and showed me that he won a contract with Gazprom in Turkey, and today he called to tell me that he has problems with a machine and he needs money to repair it. He sent me pictures of him and his daughter, who lives with her nanny in London. I am not going to send him the money but I asked for his identity card and bank account. I'm curious what he will do because he wanted the money through Moneygram.

Please can you tell me the name he used?

Dang mine is a part of all comments it seems.
Oil rig in Dubai
2 kids( boy& girl)
Mom left to be with high school sweetheart
Befriended him on Instagram
Google play cards $ 45.
Did just see what else he asks for.
Done delete WhatSApp twice.
He won't seem to go away.
Asks me for $2000. Cause son run outside to get ball. Nanny chased after him. Police fined them both.
Oh needle on machine he suppose to fix costing more for him or some kind of fish story .
Today he asks for $500. To send to Kids for groceries.
What r U to do, they play on your loneliness...?
Beware plzzz of course i didn't send any money passed google play card.
I have all if ya want to know!

Your story sounds very similar to mine except this individual professes to be Italian and is an oilfield engineer for oil pipelines and storage. He had a profile on Linked In and that was how he established contact with me. He romanced me heavily and in an over the top manner. Of course I was flattered and hopeful. He stated he had just moved to Red Deer Alberta. We were supposed to meet on 3 different occasions however something always came up on his end preventing it. He has been using the name Enzo Perin and states he has a company called Enzo Construction. He apparently went to University in Milan. I have researched it and his particular company doesn’t exist although there are others with that name. The company emailHe used is a gmail. And now that I have called him out His profile on Linked In is now gone.

His “situation “ is that he was awarded a contact through Exxon to complete out on the Hibernia oil platform within a timeline. Worksite is high security so he is unable to leave the platform etc etc. Cant access internet to resolve his banking issues. His account has been frozen and he cannot access payment for the shipment of the materials he has ordered from another company called Fortuna Metals out of Indonesia. I also looked up that company and it doesn’t exist. I had a receipt for the order with website etc.
He is asking me for the shipment payment. Apparently I do not know how to “love “ because by not giving him money that is a statement of my inability to love and trust him. OMG this is unbelievably ridiculous. Funny thing is is that although he cannot access internet he was able to take down his Linked In profile lol!

Other details are that he is 58. I have pictures which are more than likely not him. I have a phone number that is still live as he called this morning trying to emotionally manipulate me into giving him money.
I am taking this information to the RCMP for them to look into.

It seems, "Enzo Perin" is back at it. Now he lives in, "Minneapolis". What a horrid excuse for a human.

His name is now Michael M. Cooper. He found me on Facebook. Run!

Do you have pics of this guy, think he may be trying to scam me too. Has a multi million dollar contract with Shell Oil (yea right). They seem to like using Shell for some reason

Zarao, I think i'm being hit on with this guy. So many similarities but goes by the name of Mac Dieter Neumann. I approached him on Plenty of Fish app. Love bombed me and made lots of references to God and our love. He says hes's a petroleum engineer - independent. He's just finally landed a lucrative contract and has flown to Norway then called me last night to ask me for £22k for municipality government registration. Then when i said i couldn't understand him and asked him to text me, he dropped it to needing 7k. He says he is German and has one daughter. Told me to go off dating app immediately and not to share his story with anyone. His daughter is called Dell. He WAS my dream guy. Told me to plan our wedding and all that was his was mine. .! I gave him no money and asked him to send me a photo of his passport or drivers license and suddenly has gone quiet. He used to send me very long emails full of love and devotion, songs and poems every day without fail and again in the evening. I am devastated but at least I avoided being scammed. Photos of him with his parents, his golden retriever dog, his daughter, on a bike etc none of which came up on reverse search. Please be aware ladies, he is SO convincing and gorgeous.

I met a guy on Zoosk, also a rig engineer who is an independent contractor currently under contract with Chevron assigned at Aberdeen, Scotland,UK. He has certain similarities with your stories. His name is Richard Jameson. Does it ring a bell? He is very intelligent, has a dog name Max and a grandchild who lives with him in Glendale. His writing style is very poetic, fond of using verses from the Bible. He gave me all of his information including date of birth, favorite color etc. He was asking for my phone number and personal information. He sent me several photos. I suspected he was a scammer. I really don't know but your stories have similarities with this guy.

Yes I have met this man too

I am getting the same sob story from a guy who calls himself Adrien Rover

I have been getting the same stories from Adrien rover. Can u seen pictures

I’ve been talking to a man, super romantic, he’s supposedly a businessman from Poland, currently working in Dubai, he’s telling me he wants to marry me after 10 days of talking to him. He says he’s sending his money on parcel and wants me to receive it, but I need to pay for it and then buy him airplane tickets so he can join me. I said no, and he got really pushy. He said “why would you not help your man,” “you’re making it hard for your man.” I found out that the person (agent) from the courier delivery company has the same passport (which looks fake) online saying is a scam.

Anyone heard of this name...saying he is deployed and in the air force...2 kids..wife passed

I think,I have the same guy

I'm just wondering how you can Google stuff like that

How do I do that?

Actually ive been using google images.. unfortunately none of the sent pics appear in the site. How they are able to do that. Tsskk. Stolen pics but cant find the source via google image.

Hi where can we post photos of scammer so everyone will know and aware of it.
I a
Can proved that he is a real scammer and bad for him i got best evidence by recording our video call so he cant denied that his pictures was being stolen from social media and someone used it not him am talking..
I think this rare to recorded clearly the video call showing his face while talking to send him money again.
Can someone tell me how to and where to upload it so he must learn his lesson?

What if the pictures dont come back with any profile links or any information o n the internet does that mean they are real?

As you know online dating can be risky and dangerous. Never give into the asking of money on any occasion.Save yourself time and aggravated tension.
Be safe.

It is so easy to fall into the traps these scammers use! They will tell you just what you want to hear and profess their forever love.... than they will set you up with a fake emergency until you don't think twice about sending them money. Remember - these are fake people using fake stories for the sole purpose of separating you from your money. Don't do it!!!

I've been scammed by a love interest of over 10,000 before I realized it was a scam.

Me too. Don't beat yourself I have a thousand times, over and over again. I'd love to be there when they have to answer to the Big Guy upstairs.

i live in seattle washington and my man scammed me for three years . his name is Michael Bernard Dugaw very attractive charming trickster. i am embarassed that i could experience this at my age 49 i want to warn every one about this liar. be careful .

My sister is being scammed by a Joshua Williams who claims to be in the military. He says he’s from Florida. She sends him 25 dollars a week in iTunes cards for his phone bill! We had he ask him what branch he was and he didn’t know! We convinced her not to send money and he has her crying all day now! Please help!,

May I ask where in Florida he says he is from and also what name he is using. I have a guy that I believe is trying to scam me. I’m trying to see if it’s possibly the same person. He even gave me a Florida cell phone number.

Hey I'm being scammed by a chick who says she lives in Florida. Hihali. Her name is Marieny Diaz. I asked how she says that and she didn't answer.

I was also scammed by a man claimed to be from Florida but working in Africa claiming to be a contractor making a large sum of money. Asking for money for his flight to get home.

What did he say his name was? I bet its the same guy that tried scamming me??

I have a man who claims to be a doctor working for the US in Syria . Says he needs money until he gets states side His name that he uses is DR. Walker. Bryan. Anybody else been contacted by this guy. He says he owns a home in Jacksonville FL.

What part of Syria did he say he was from?


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