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While plenty of successful relationships begin online, scammers also use online dating sites, apps, and chat rooms to trick you into sending them money. These imposters create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love. Some even make wedding plans before disappearing with the money. It’s a big problem: reports to the FBI about online romance scams tripled between 2012 and 2016, and imposter scams were among the top reports to the Federal Trade Commission for both the general population and the military community.

These scams can take a military angle with imposters stealing servicemembers’ photos to create phony profiles. They might claim to be servicemembers who can’t get into their accounts overseas or who need money fast. The first sign of a scam is an online love interest who asks for money. But the Army’s Criminal Investigative Service (CIS) says that the military doesn’t charge servicemembers to go on leave, get married, communicate with their family, go online, or feed and house themselves on deployment. We have also heard of scammers re-using servicemembers’ photos again and again, so it can be helpful to do some online research on the love interest’s name, photos, and details to check the story out.

If an online love interest asks you for money:

  • Slow down and talk to someone you trust. These scammers want to rush you, often professing love right away; or pressuring you to move your conversation off the dating site.
  • Never wire money, put money on a gift card or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back.
  • If you sent money to a scammer, contact the company you used to send the money (wire transfer service, gift card company, or cash reload card company) and tell them it was a fraudulent transaction. Ask to have the transaction reversed if possible.
  • Report your experience to the dating site and to the FTC.

For Military Consumer Month, share this video to help military consumers steer clear of online romance scams.




The name being used on me, asking to open a Bank Account to deposit money for rewiring is supposedly also on an Oil Rig in Norway on a Contract is also Collins but last is Smith, I don't understand how these men can lie so much I don't know how to send pic, if you do send me it and I'll get back to You, been talking to him since Nov 2019

Me Too for the same amount and mt heart ripped out of my chest!

Me too. Can we get our money back ??? I reported to FTC

did you get an answer about it, I too would like to recover even if I know I could not

I was a victim of this recently. This guy is very nice to me. He sent me 1 million dollars because he wants to invest in my country. He said i will pay for the parcel to the logistics. I did it until it reaches more than 10000 dollars. Now i dont know what to do. It seems like i want to end my life because i was left nothing.

Ive been scammed by a military Sgt Rodriguez. Goes by different names but uses the same pictures and stories.

hey are u willing to contact me,i believe we have both been scammed by the same person

Yes I will.

I was to. His name was James Rodriguez. I knew something was up. But thank God I didn't send no money. I feel so dumb.

Do you have a photo?

I have photos. How do you post a photo on here?

Hello. Do you have photos of James Rodriguez? I think I have been scammed by the same person. He contacted me on Instagram.

I didn't send him any money but he attempted to get money from me. James Rodriguez SGT. We might be talking about the same person?

I'm after some information about a James Rodrigues he has been trying to get money from me he's been telling he's in Syria but works for us army and told me he loves me etc does anybody have a picture cos I do

And is using many photo I am familiar to me.
The story also sounds very familiar to me.
Do you have any chat with him to show, so that I can compare mine with yours.

I think I was scam by the same person. Sgt James Rodriguez. I would like to see his photo.

Hi, days ago a person from Instagram started to follow me and his name was Sgt. James Rodriguez, cute guy, buff and had several photos on his IG account. He claims to be working for the US Army and is stationed somewhere in Kansas. I tried to be nosy about his work and asking about his work as a serviceman and he can barely say anything. He tried to ask me of my email address but I had a hint of this person being a scammer, I gave him a different email. When I had a hutch of him being shady, he got a little disappointed and unfollowed him and took him off my IG. I have this feeling this is the same person.

To it possible for you to contact me..i think im talking with the same guy for a year...thanks for bringing this to light..

Can I see a picture of James

James Rodriguez. Noble Drilling oil/gas pipeline contract engineer off Mainecoast. Says 56 years old. Born in Italy. All comments sound VERY familiar. Just asked me to get a Google Play $400 card to update his phone that is needed to send work reports. Says 18 year old son and wife died. I won't send the card and now he is really guilting me. I know he must be a scammer!

Can you contact me. I think it is the same person.

Dose this guy say he has a son and needs his son school payed for?

Are you able to provide a picture of this person I think I might be dealing with this same person now

I think I’m being scammed by a James Rodriguez who claims to be an Engineer on an oil rig

I think I am being scammed by a guy who said he was a petroleum engineer / rig manager on an oil rig in Saudi Arabia / Dubai. After 7 months of texting and talking he asked me for money. He said his name was Javi / Jordi. Do you have a photo?

Similar story , he says he’s on the oil platforms in Saudi Arabia, and needs money for flight to get back to the US. He swears, he has millions coming to him. His name is David Brian and states he has a son. Has anyone come across him . He has a Massachusetts phone number

same story, different name - robert cohn bradley...

My mom is being scammed by a dude like that. I'd like to see a pic to know if it's the same dude

Have you seen a pic yet? I think my sister is being scammed too. Gerald Castaneda says his money is tied up in Bank in New York. He’s in alaska on oil rig for Exxon. First he had damaged gear. Then he had Alaska state fines $3000 now he needs $100K. Widower, only child, dead parents. Blah blah blah.

Gerald Castaneda is definitely a scam. Same oil rig/Alaska/widower story. Already scammed a friend out of a significant amount of money. Sent to his "on-shore secretary" Edward B Lawson in shifting bank accounts. Would like to find the proper authority to nail this guy.

Gerald Castenada has been in contact with me for over a year now. Has a French accent. I have pictures. Claims to have millions tied up in banks. He says he is a Civil Engineer. Smooth talker. Will sweep you off your feet and take all your money. States he's on a rig in Alaska working for Exxon. Only child.

Scammers change their name, but they will tell the similar story, no parents, wife and son died 4 years ago, no friends. A engineer working on the rig, have a big contract with oil company, after few weeks sweet words talking, his workers broke the machine, he can’t get off the rig because of the contract. Then ask me to pay for the machine to a Egypt’s company, so he can get a new machine. I just realized it’s something not right, I checked online and found it could be a scam. And track down his IP address, it’s in US, not in Italia. I didn’t send him any money, he keeps asking me to send him.

i believe this same guy is using the name Jim Snyder now. gave me the exact same story about a broken machine on the oil rig, he hurt his back really bad and his boss won't let him off the rig until he buys a new machine....but low and behold, his millions are tied up in a bank account that he can't get into bec the accounting sent his pay in full and now the bank thinks it's suspicious activity. after talking for 2 months via text and phone, he finally asked me to loan him some money. said he raised $8500 of the $12k. of course i told him no!! and just like that he's disappeared. i had bad feelings about it from the beginning. just glad i wised up!

Your’s sounds like the James who is scamming my aunt. Same BS story. She won’t tell me how much she has sent but I know it’s a lot. Do u happen to have a picture of him? I don’t know what to do fo her. Afraid she will lose all her money

Same story for me. He said his an engineer, working in Gulf of Mexico. Name Terry Allen, widow for four years, has a child, live in TX, no parents. After one month, he said something in his computer broke, he needs 200 dollars, bla bla.

Hi Billie. I am wondering if you’re able to share the pictures you mentioned in your post. I think I just recently interacted with one and I do have his pictures too. He sounded true, but borrowed money from me-yesterday. I need input. Thank you.

Same story as mine. Do you have a photo?

I have been scan by a Guy says he is from Florida and used the name of John Nicholson in army. Is going to retire after 37 years. Says he has a
son West Africa got hurt in accident He uses the name as travis Patel Pate .can you help me Hes been Texting me a 1 year and 2 months. He always ask for stuff for his son. Says he is stock in West Africa and can't get out

Where was this Rodriguez stationed. What was his excuse for needing the money. I am talking with an captain Antonio Rodriguez

Do you happen to have a photo of Rodriguez?

I have a Michael anyone else in contact with him? Please let me know..


States drilling engineer. Widower two children are in boarding school in Scotland. Needs monies to repair rig. Always wants money for something.

My sister was scammed out of $600 using Amazon cards by some claiming to be a Dennis William using Shawn Booth's pictures (2015 Bachelorette show bachelor). He promised to move her from PA to TN. My sister would not believe her family when we told her, "she was being scammed."

How was she scammed by sending Amazon cards? My mom sent itune cards and amazon cards to a James.

What was James last name? I have someone I think being scammed by a James Cabrales.

Not being a man of hefty mean, I have learned that if woman asks for anything more than your time and in person meeting, and willing to meet you half way, then you need to be weary of them.

Watch out for those couriers. The fake courier scam is massively abused in these.

To Sandi, I used the google images and the picture I was looking for was not there. does this mean he is a scammer or not....Thanks for your time and attention.

POF is INFECTED with scammers!!! 8 out of the 10 letters a day i get r Eastern European scammers. Their MO is always the same.Watch their grammar, and how English is a second language for them. Ask them lots of ?s as they get annoyed quite quickly. Google their names and phone numbers. The phone will be in a different state than they say they r in.They will have NO friends on FB. They will have NO digital footprint on the web as they make up or steal the names. One i ran into stole the id of a guy in Wisc for 3 years. I called the landline listed to let the real guy know that he should watch his financials as his id was being used. The scammer threatened my life. Do not tell them any personal info about yourself until u r positive its a real person here. Set up a fake email because they want your email to hack into your bank acct. You can spot them by the line of bs they throw at you. Anerican guys don't talk like that. Tell them the FtC is monitoring the site, watch how fast they disappear. Check the military base they say they r from, it ususaly doesn't exist.if u talk to them by phone it will be hard to understand them as their accents r thick. They don't understand American slang, so use it. They will ask for 1,000 Iphones to use at their work "site". They r always "independent contractors" or engineers. Pictures can be photo shopped. They do not answer direct questions when asked, but will bring the conversation back to you.Do NOT be afraid of calling them out!!! They hate being called scammers and will disappear vs trying to prove you wrong


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