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While plenty of successful relationships begin online, scammers also use online dating sites, apps, and chat rooms to trick you into sending them money. These imposters create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love. Some even make wedding plans before disappearing with the money. It’s a big problem: reports to the FBI about online romance scams tripled between 2012 and 2016, and imposter scams were among the top reports to the Federal Trade Commission for both the general population and the military community.

These scams can take a military angle with imposters stealing servicemembers’ photos to create phony profiles. They might claim to be servicemembers who can’t get into their accounts overseas or who need money fast. The first sign of a scam is an online love interest who asks for money. But the Army’s Criminal Investigative Service (CIS) says that the military doesn’t charge servicemembers to go on leave, get married, communicate with their family, go online, or feed and house themselves on deployment. We have also heard of scammers re-using servicemembers’ photos again and again, so it can be helpful to do some online research on the love interest’s name, photos, and details to check the story out.

If an online love interest asks you for money:

  • Slow down and talk to someone you trust. These scammers want to rush you, often professing love right away; or pressuring you to move your conversation off the dating site.
  • Never wire money, put money on a gift card or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back.
  • If you sent money to a scammer, contact the company you used to send the money (wire transfer service, gift card company, or cash reload card company) and tell them it was a fraudulent transaction. Ask to have the transaction reversed if possible.
  • Report your experience to the dating site and to the FTC.

For Military Consumer Month, share this video to help military consumers steer clear of online romance scams.




Sometimes, after you have lost money to a scam, another scammer will contact you. He will offer to help get your money back. But the offer is really another scam. If someone wants you to pay money before they will help you, that is often a warning sign that they are not legitimate. Before you give money to someone who promises to help you, check on the person and the company. Ask questions about their experience and their business. Do they have a license or business record? Will they return your payment if they do not get your money back?

I've been talking to a guy called Robert Davidson who says he's in the waters on the Gulf of Mexico. He's got a contract with Exxon Mobile Company. Then he comes up with a story about a machine tearing up and needed $6,000 for 3drums of diesel. I told him I didn't have any money. Then he wanted to know if I could get him a iTunes card. Needless to say I didn't fall for it. He says he's a drill engineer. He started talking about loving me after a week!

This sounds very similar to a gentleman I have been chatting with. Can you describe him? Does he have children? Did he send you video of the rig he is on in the Gulf? This man has not yet asked me for money but asked me to contact an equipment company to order equipment for him.

Does this guy have 2 kids lives in NJ says He is very sensitive divorced wife cheated on him.

I have been corresponding with a man since November who has a similar story, said he caught his wife cheating on him and She chased after him and was killed in a car wreck. Said he has two children in boarding school and that he is an engineer on an oil rig in the Gulf of Mexico. He tried to get me to send money to the kids for Christmas. I know he is a scammer, and I am just screwing with him.

Yes this is the same guy just the state is different

I think my aunt is being scammed by the same guy. Name is James. Works on oil rig. Asked for cell phones, lap top, iTunes card

So I have also been scammed by someone name of Lynn N Dang. It was hard to let go but came to sense that this ain't realality. We tell each other how much we love each other. She calls me king, honey, love of my life , she even calls my son , our son. She avoids questions .. .and to dodge it she finds ways to go . She start her story like this, she work for Catholic relief service. She on a ship travel in Syria , Nigeria, Kenya aiding the refugees. They get attack by pirates , loses everything. Now she works on getting the first lump of money, she will lead her story into asking for me and so on. . by the way her phone got stolen her lapttop is no good , only for messenger. Constantly complaining of internet service. She is only child ,cparents are dead, and at this point she has flight book to come to me. Send me a fake iternary which I research and it was a fake. Question her she get in her shell and disappear. I finally give up . Supposedly on her way to airport one day later she still there because of custom . She got held up because she does not have documentation for her$ 50000 diamondjewel. And ask for a lump sum to pay custom 850 for a dam certificate .she disappear quick when I said no no no I don't have it and she wasn't having it she quickly disappear. She be back later to try again. They just don't stop or give up don't they?

Iam so sorry for you...
This happen with me tooo...i feel love and started trusting this man...ohhh iam so disapointed and feel no gud again...he talk of love and trust and he find the right words into my heart...and now iam so confused and depressed...

Hi. i am being scammed by a Nicholas Rodriquez, who claims to be a US soldier in Syria. Any of you ran into him?

I'm on Instagram and there are guys on there pretending to be famous person or a average person. They started following me and message me asking questions of all sorts then they ask do I use goggle hangouts told them no, they begged me to get saying its safer to message on there (whatever) so installed it and told them, after that they were telling me can send them $100.00 itunes card I said no I'm not stupid to spend my money on a stranger. Another he needed $1300 to book a flight back to the states told me a story saying his dad died leave 2million and the army won't let him leave I called bs and told him to find the money
These are the people to watch out for
Imposters of Luke Bryan, Dustin Lynch, Tyler Hubbard from Florida Georgia line Jason Aldean Direks Bentley, then there really people who just steal pictures pretend to be you. Watch out cause they throw a guilt trip

I realized I was being scammed and was suspicious before the money came into play. His name was Robert Benjamin and his picture was of a minister from South Carolina. His cousin (older) had written me on a dating site and asked me to contact his handsome cousin. He wasn't on the dating site but had seen my profile and was impressed. Well this Rob was a phony ended up at a meeting in NY and got a contract in Cape Town, South Africa. The warnings came before he wanted money. I let him know whose picture he used. He still called from a S.African # then. He said he would explain when he came home. Finally he stopped calling. Be Aware

Has anyone had any contact from a guy that goes by the name Morgan Patrick? Says he is from Texas but is in Africa , can’t remember the name of the area other than Lima. He’s a real piece of work? Says he is stranded there because the hospital equipment he was installing got broke and they took his passport till he pays for it. Needs money so he can pay for the part so he can get back home to Texas. He even showed me a fake US passport.

My Aunt is dealing with someone named morgan too. His number is six six 2- 9 one 2 six nine twenty three

Mine is Dr. Jamise Smith, working in Syria, wanted a cell phone...not happening, then wanted a cash card, not happening. Whom ever his photos are he is gorgeous!

Is he dark hair, beard and has a armenian or turkish look? Maybe we have the same scammer. I was scammed by someone sayimg he s a doctor went in a peacekeepening in Sudan. Suddenly he wanted Itune cards. After some days...I understood that I was scammed . I falled for his pictures. Still looking for the real guy.

Watch out for so-called entertainers (actors, singers, etc) many fakes out there. Some seem real, even when you ask specific questions, but look out. Even several months down the road, you can get hit with....donate to my charity...accept a package for me...I can't trust my manager, please let me courier something to you...iTunes or Amazon gift cards. Never ever give them anything no matter how sincere they may seem. Trust me. I haven't but have come very close. Samples of fakes: Pierce Brosnan Keny G, Lionel Richie, Jordan Feliz, Steven Curtis Chapman, (yes, they even use Christian singers), Jeff Bridges, Johnny Depp--anyone you enjoy seeing posts of, beware.

I don't know why, but I get that on Instagram a lot. I play along to expose them. After they get exposed, they'll get super unfriendly and mean. And I can add Tom Hiddleston, Benedict Cumberbatch and Martin Freeman to this list.
Whenever an actor or singer is approaching you, girls, pls check for the blue checkmark. If he doesn't have it, block and report this fraudster immediately.

A man on POF tried to scam me He goes by Michael Rafael Ortiz.Says he is sergeant major in US army stationed in Izmir,Turkey.was in love with me two days after first text. Wanted $350 for fiance form so he could come visit me.Said the army wasn't feeding him well and he needed money to eat,he had no access to his banking. Talked to him for two days trying to get info to give authorities. Have saved all info an text.Said he was from Austen,Texas.Finally grew tired of it and told him off.Said his daughter was in college in South Africa,been married 23 yr,widowed for 3.

Can you send a pic of what he loooks like ? He has the Same MO for the guy who is scamming my mom

Recently I discovered I was scammed from someone who says his name is Ray Anthony Sanchez, he told me he lives in Jacksonville and he works in a base there. suddenly he told me he are going in deployment to United Arab Emirates to Abu Dhabi, which I believed. he asked me for money because he forget to carry his wallet with him, he treat me like a princess it's like a dream come true. later I starting having doubts about him and starting to searching on the internet until I found the real person. It's more painful to me because the person I fall in love is a completely strange to me, yes he was a soldier, and now have a civil live. I'm broken and all the stories I read here are the same like mine. I hope all of you can recuperate for the loss of money, self esteem, betrayed, pain and guilty.

My daughter is being scammed now from a guy John r wagner who claims to be in the military, a Marine. She will not listen to us. I even messages him. He said he had no idea what I was talking about. It was broken English. So frustrating. She is behind on stuff because if this jerk.

Have her ask his birthday and Say like oh your a cancer or whatever he is. The guy I'm talking to asked me why I'm calling him names for. I new when he was fake when he asked for money. Anyway, for me I investigated more and in his profile under followers didn't make any since for being a soldier. A little more investigating and I found the BOY that was msg me, lol, 1st he friended me on fb then onto hangout THEN whatsapp.

My mom is being scammed by a guy named Bradley Daniel who is supposed to be a fighter pilot stationed in Syria. He has asked for money to come home for leave to San Francisco. She met him on Facebook. Please let me know if anyone else has spoke to him.

Scammer going by the name Calvin Abraham, Romance scam, pretends he is in the military, stationed in Afghanistan and cannot tolerate another day in the front lines and needs leave permit money. He is now scamming someone who thinks they are in love and planning to meet soon and has received thousands of dollars from this person. Uses email account: calvinabraham12 @gmail. com. He has convinced this lady to send money to a man who supposedly is his commander named KITTISAK PAAIKUN, however the Western Union wires must go to Bangkok Thailand. The woman is desperately in love and only wants him out so they can be together and has been continuously sending money to him. He also changed his story saying his financial struggles which are only temporary because he is unable to access it are worsening because he got involved in drugs. Obviously the stories he has been giving are really absurd and you cant imagine anyone gullible enough to fall for it but unfortunately some people do. Individuals who are from countries that are not familiar with basic US military financial protocols and quite frankly lack in knowledge of banking procedures are vulnerable to these types of scams.

Has anyone had a man named Charles Enrique North try to scam them? Been talking to him for a few weeks. Claims to be widower and have a young daughter. In Army deployed don’t know where?

Every soldier has pics, most all have fb or something. Look at his followers in his profile. If it looks like it don't belong to a soldier it isn't. And with just a couple pics of himself, no

Anyone heard of Scott Jason. A real charmer after gift cards.

I have been talking to someone that god by the name of Scott Jeffery he is us military a pilot very handsome is out on duty in Yemen and Libya lost both parents a few years ago in a car accident

Watch out for Jim David, Jimmy David, Jim McCord David, you get the idea. He just won a $4.2M contract from Shell. He needed money for proof of concept and then he was in the hospital for stress. I cut it off as soon as he wanted money wired. The crying and begging on the phone took the cake. It was so fake.

Do you have a Captain Richard Handover special Ops agent for the CIA who lives in San Francisco, CA. ( a senior officer) working with the US ARMY. I feel he is a scammer and impersonating officer, he uses the phone number 22225555 and e-mail Richandover1010 @gmail. com. If he is scamming me under the guise of CIA there may be others.

I was talking to a woman in the LGBT website called HER I meet her back in May we were talking for a few months on the google hangouts app after she asked me to sign up for it which I did she went by the name of Elie Nicole or Nicole Elie and also Elie Nicole Kimberly she said that she was from Dallas Texas she was adopted as a kid and both her parents died in a car accident and left her an inheritance in their will she also was sent to boarding school as a child and soon later went to military school where she was a special contractor for the Navy Department. I fell for the story how she doesn’t have any family left and no siblings family members nothing how stupid I can be I’m thinking to myself now she first asked me for a hundred dollars because she was shot by a pirate at sea then she asked me to get her a phone because she lost her phone at sea then she asked me for 321 dollars because she need to upgrade her topology device so that we may talk more private because she didn’t want the government all in her business then she asked me to pick up funds from all these shipmates supposedly family members because I was the only one who had the only available agent that was able to pick up cash as they were sending sending to me I feel so silly right now as I’m writing this telling you my experience then she needed 410 dollars for the clearance fee and upgrade fee for the phone she asked me for then she gave me a $15 dollar iTunes card with the code scratched off on the back then she gave me three dates that she was supposed to meet me at the airport on her coming home date Aug20/2018 September 8th 2018 and then September 6th 2018 then I I didn’t hear from her since September 1st I thought it was her all this time then I get a email from her personal email account saying that she has been shot and had died and that was on September 5th 2018 and in that email I was giving another email to contact back because apparently she and was supposed to be engaged so she put me down a her beneficiary on her fiancé form that she told me about and that form cost 400 dollars I have pictures emails WesternUnion receipts everything only thing is that google hangouts doesn’t save any conversations that took place when we first met I don’t know why but I tried to go back and it’s not letting me but we’ve been talking texting sexting and everything for about six months and I feel so stupid and stressed out I’m disappointed in myself be I let someone take advantage of me because I was very submissive to dating someone new I opened up my heart to this person I was gonna change my life because of this one person right now I still need to know who is the person in the pictures because if she doesn’t know that her pictures are being used to catfish other people then she needs to know.

Most common is by Joshua young. His pictures is all over the place. The guy that approached me goes by Young, from dallas texas. Its crazyness that is going on with all the scamming. Our servicemen has gave their all for our country and still do this day.. None of them needs to go through this. My heart breaks for many that is and for all the victims. I am on the list as well.

My girl is trying to convince her best friend that she's getting scammed and she refuses to believe it. found you comment because it's "Joshua Young" or "Young Joshua." I was looking up the name and found your comment.

IV been scammed by a guy named James jones or David Jones he told me he had to pay a family in syria 8000.00 because there son got killed and wants me to send him,the money

I have met several Army men who are scammers, Arroyo James, James Cagle, Sanders, all who appear to be in various countries. Jzmes needs internet. Arroyo & Sanders need food, itune cards, money to come home.
I met another fellow who works bitcoin called Alex Guernsey who is actually a Nigerian named Havana. He just revealed himself because he was using Joe Cooks photo & I discovered that in a reverse image.
Now I have met someone called William's Parker or Weilliams Paker who never asks for anything , lives in PA says he works for the FBI us German & is moving to the area where I live which us on the West coast. I have called the FBI here to see if anyone by that name is transferring here & they say no. I don't know what to think. Has anyone ever ran across that name. Also, James us asking me to pay for a leave form & airfare for Him to come home the end of October. Please let me know if you know these people.

I was chatting to a Military man from U U SA CALLED HIMSELF Kenneth Boston . tried to extract$1,600 dollars from me for sons education. iNSULTED ME WHEN I REFUSED. Saw his photo on Scammers list using the name Lt jEFFERY mILLER. hE IS eVIL

just so everyone knows watch out for a guy named Samson Luis claimed to be in the military , scammed my gf out of money and almost made us break up

Did your scammer have video calls with you before asking for money? My one is asking for money to buy food at deployment base because he forgot to bring his atm card with him.

Good or bad, better or worse, to have done video calls? I didn't, but almost suggested it.

Met someone on instagram. He went by the name of Nicolas Mixon. He says that he’s a single father raising his daughter by himself. His ex wife cheated on hip with his best friend and she up and left. He asked me to get him to I tune cards and also asked me to get him a self phone. Says he loved me . Ha ha ha . I wouldn’t budge. I finally found the persons pictures and real Instagram account alerted him and he has since been blocked. Be careful ladies. When In doubt. Investigate the person.

Yeah i met this guy name Andre Rodriguez from LA and also Detroit...has 2 kids single father help with as gym instructor and also artifact buyer so he must fly overseas to find artifacts...after I month he flew to japan ..there he asked me for itune card cause he couldn't find any in japan ...and then after that he wanted to borrow $500 for upfront payment surgery of his sick dog...I didn't give any cent

“My” Andre Rodriguez is a soldier in Syria. Wife is deceased has one child that stays with the nanny. Hurry to go to hangouts. Typical scam.

I was also talking to Andre Rodriguez Who was stationed in syria.. he posted me his personal belongings.. and it was hold doen by the boarder in Turkey.. he asked me To paye €900 .. I wasnt that stupid to believe the mail that I was sent to.. When I exposed him than he wanted to blackmail me with pictures.. But unlucky for him I dont do social media not even FB..
I met him on Tinder.. and the Andre account is still active on Tinder..
I never heard from him again..

I’m talking to an Antonio Rodriguez
Sounds very similar to me

Hi! in what dating site are you talking to Antonio Rodriguez

George Roland, also Georg (no E at end). Claims to be US Army communications in Yemen. I looked at one of the profiles he has and asked him what language he was speaking on it and he said Arabia. Ok. So I responded in Arabic that I knew he was a scammer and it went right over his head...
Knew was a scammer the minute he asked what I was doing then when I said feeding the hubby and kids it didn't faze him. 2 days later professing love shares a photo of a engagement ring. I thought to myself... "Ok. Lets play.!" I've actually had fun with the reverse psychology I've played on him the last 2 weeks. After getting bored finally I told him I didn't have money to bring into a marriafe3, no home no savings ect. He talked that " oh baby no worries on that" then no communication.. It was fun phishing him as I knew I would go through loops reporting it. Be on the lookout for those names. If you look on FB there are 3 different profiles. All same guy but looking at the name on Army uniform clearly does not say Roland

there is a guy his name is Jeremy V. Gosset saying he is in the military post in florida and after he rommances you he asks for steam cards and then a Iphone with servvice to be sent to him. Please stop him he is on face book now .

My sister is being conned by someone calling himself David Sanders. Lives nearby in Southern California, allegedly, owns a construction business, has a daughter in medical school and is in South Africa waiting to get a bid from Shell. Sent her flowers. Talks to her hours a day. Asked for a cell phone and $150 so far. She says she hasn’t given anything to him. She is angry at anyone who tells her he is scamming her.

Girl on dating site asks me for $150 says she needs it an pushes me to give her it. Looked up the name an the girl was scamming guys from dating sites for money. Reported to the feds!


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