You are here

Online love asking for money? It’s a scam.

Share this page

While plenty of successful relationships begin online, scammers also use online dating sites, apps, and chat rooms to trick you into sending them money. These imposters create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love. Some even make wedding plans before disappearing with the money. It’s a big problem: reports to the FBI about online romance scams tripled between 2012 and 2016, and imposter scams were among the top reports to the Federal Trade Commission for both the general population and the military community.

These scams can take a military angle with imposters stealing servicemembers’ photos to create phony profiles. They might claim to be servicemembers who can’t get into their accounts overseas or who need money fast. The first sign of a scam is an online love interest who asks for money. But the Army’s Criminal Investigative Service (CIS) says that the military doesn’t charge servicemembers to go on leave, get married, communicate with their family, go online, or feed and house themselves on deployment. We have also heard of scammers re-using servicemembers’ photos again and again, so it can be helpful to do some online research on the love interest’s name, photos, and details to check the story out.

If an online love interest asks you for money:

  • Slow down and talk to someone you trust. These scammers want to rush you, often professing love right away; or pressuring you to move your conversation off the dating site.
  • Never wire money, put money on a gift card or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back.
  • If you sent money to a scammer, contact the company you used to send the money (wire transfer service, gift card company, or cash reload card company) and tell them it was a fraudulent transaction. Ask to have the transaction reversed if possible.
  • Report your experience to the dating site and to the FTC.

For Military Consumer Month, share this video to help military consumers steer clear of online romance scams.



Scam Tags:  Romance Scams


I am being scammed by someone with the same name. How do we exchange photos?

I would like to see your picture. I have a guy who is 61, says he is from Norway. Uses the name of Patrick Williams, is a chemical engineer with large contract for crude oil drilling. Sent me several pictures, is widower. sent me copy of his contract with BP Oil. I contacted BP Oil at locations he told me he was at. They had no record.

I think I have been scammed by the same "Patrick Williams" is anyone able to send me a picture? He claims he is a widower as his wife died of cancer a year ago, he has no family apart from a 12 yo daughter who is in the care of his dead wife's parents. He has told me that he is stranded in the Gulf of Mexico as he works on an oil rig and is unable to return home until he pays his huge tax debt.

I think I been scam too he say with oil drilling got a daughter in board ing school getting ready retired daughter name Patrica do u have a pic please

I have a similar story to this person maybe we can contact each other?

I would love to see his picture!!! will this site let me give you my email

Send me a picture of him please

I talked to David Anderson for a year he scammed me out of $100,000 he’s very dangerous he’s not who he says there’s run block him He’s very romantic and convincing his pictures are fake and from American chiropractor

I was not scammed out of that much, 20,000. He pretended to be a dr on a rig.

I would like to see his photo. Someone contacted me and sounds exactly like that but gave me name Cade Walker.

Please send a picture

Do you have a picture?

Jerrie do you have a picture of him I was also talking to a guy a while ago and trying to figure out if he’s a scammer or not? Thank you

I'm talking to a guy says he in army goes by Carlos Silva and Silver Carlos...wants money to come to me...swears he's not lying. Says he's not like those scammers

Any luck on him showing up

Has anyone had a man Andrew Moore engineer from IG?

I have had an Andrew Moore claiming to be a surgeon in the Navy
I could tell it was fake because from the language and grammar used, he was clearly not educated, and it sounded like a foreigner

Peter Collins from Flordia?

The name being used on me, asking to open a Bank Account to deposit money for rewiring is supposedly also on an Oil Rig in Norway on a Contract is also Collins but last is Smith, I don't understand how these men can lie so much I don't know how to send pic, if you do send me it and I'll get back to You, been talking to him since Nov 2019

Me Too for the same amount and mt heart ripped out of my chest!

Me too. Can we get our money back ??? I reported to FTC

did you get an answer about it, I too would like to recover even if I know I could not

I was a victim of this recently. This guy is very nice to me. He sent me 1 million dollars because he wants to invest in my country. He said i will pay for the parcel to the logistics. I did it until it reaches more than 10000 dollars. Now i dont know what to do. It seems like i want to end my life because i was left nothing.

Ive been scammed by a military Sgt Rodriguez. Goes by different names but uses the same pictures and stories.

hey are u willing to contact me,i believe we have both been scammed by the same person

Yes I will.

I was to. His name was James Rodriguez. I knew something was up. But thank God I didn't send no money. I feel so dumb.

Do you have a photo?

I have photos. How do you post a photo on here?

Hello. Do you have photos of James Rodriguez? I think I have been scammed by the same person. He contacted me on Instagram.

Can you share also to me if that guy you met online as same mine. I had met Sgt. Rodriguez here too. And had feeling to scam me here.

I didn't send him any money but he attempted to get money from me. James Rodriguez SGT. We might be talking about the same person?

I'm after some information about a James Rodrigues he has been trying to get money from me he's been telling he's in Syria but works for us army and told me he loves me etc does anybody have a picture cos I do

And is using many photo I am familiar to me.
The story also sounds very familiar to me.
Do you have any chat with him to show, so that I can compare mine with yours.

I think I was scam by the same person. Sgt James Rodriguez. I would like to see his photo.

Hi, days ago a person from Instagram started to follow me and his name was Sgt. James Rodriguez, cute guy, buff and had several photos on his IG account. He claims to be working for the US Army and is stationed somewhere in Kansas. I tried to be nosy about his work and asking about his work as a serviceman and he can barely say anything. He tried to ask me of my email address but I had a hint of this person being a scammer, I gave him a different email. When I had a hutch of him being shady, he got a little disappointed and unfollowed him and took him off my IG. I have this feeling this is the same person.

To it possible for you to contact me..i think im talking with the same guy for a year...thanks for bringing this to light..

Can I see a picture of James

James Rodriguez. Noble Drilling oil/gas pipeline contract engineer off Mainecoast. Says 56 years old. Born in Italy. All comments sound VERY familiar. Just asked me to get a Google Play $400 card to update his phone that is needed to send work reports. Says 18 year old son and wife died. I won't send the card and now he is really guilting me. I know he must be a scammer!

Hello this sounds familiar is it possible to see a picture of this perpetrator I think he changed his first name now

Can you contact me. I think it is the same person.

Dose this guy say he has a son and needs his son school payed for?

Are you able to provide a picture of this person I think I might be dealing with this same person now

I think I’m being scammed by a James Rodriguez who claims to be an Engineer on an oil rig

I think I am being scammed by a guy who said he was a petroleum engineer / rig manager on an oil rig in Saudi Arabia / Dubai. After 7 months of texting and talking he asked me for money. He said his name was Javi / Jordi. Do you have a photo?

Similar story , he says he’s on the oil platforms in Saudi Arabia, and needs money for flight to get back to the US. He swears, he has millions coming to him. His name is David Brian and states he has a son. Has anyone come across him . He has a Massachusetts phone number

same story, different name - robert cohn bradley...

My mom is being scammed by a dude like that. I'd like to see a pic to know if it's the same dude

Have you seen a pic yet? I think my sister is being scammed too. Gerald Castaneda says his money is tied up in Bank in New York. He’s in alaska on oil rig for Exxon. First he had damaged gear. Then he had Alaska state fines $3000 now he needs $100K. Widower, only child, dead parents. Blah blah blah.

Gerald Castaneda is definitely a scam. Same oil rig/Alaska/widower story. Already scammed a friend out of a significant amount of money. Sent to his "on-shore secretary" Edward B Lawson in shifting bank accounts. Would like to find the proper authority to nail this guy.


Leave a Comment