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While plenty of successful relationships begin online, scammers also use online dating sites, apps, and chat rooms to trick you into sending them money. These imposters create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love. Some even make wedding plans before disappearing with the money. It’s a big problem: reports to the FBI about online romance scams tripled between 2012 and 2016, and imposter scams were among the top reports to the Federal Trade Commission for both the general population and the military community.

These scams can take a military angle with imposters stealing servicemembers’ photos to create phony profiles. They might claim to be servicemembers who can’t get into their accounts overseas or who need money fast. The first sign of a scam is an online love interest who asks for money. But the Army’s Criminal Investigative Service (CIS) says that the military doesn’t charge servicemembers to go on leave, get married, communicate with their family, go online, or feed and house themselves on deployment. We have also heard of scammers re-using servicemembers’ photos again and again, so it can be helpful to do some online research on the love interest’s name, photos, and details to check the story out.

If an online love interest asks you for money:

  • Slow down and talk to someone you trust. These scammers want to rush you, often professing love right away; or pressuring you to move your conversation off the dating site.
  • Never wire money, put money on a gift card or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back.
  • If you sent money to a scammer, contact the company you used to send the money (wire transfer service, gift card company, or cash reload card company) and tell them it was a fraudulent transaction. Ask to have the transaction reversed if possible.
  • Report your experience to the dating site and to the FTC.

For Military Consumer Month, share this video to help military consumers steer clear of online romance scams.



What name did he give? Because I think I’m victimized right now by name James Bunker. There’s also this “box”.

There is someone I met on POF, who claimed he was Anderson Mason, goes by the name Mason, in the US Army currently stationed in Nigeria. I had already fell for his story about his parents dying in a car accident and since then he has been estranged supposedly from the rest of his family, since being overseas. He tricked me into getting him a bunch of ITunes cards over the month, after claiming he couldn't access his monies from a foreign country. I stopped giving him cards for paid ITunes and Amazon after I finally figured out he scammed me out of money. I wish I would've thought in earlier months, that military soldiers don't need money to pay for stuff while away and can even have their own money transferred from US to base anywhere in the world. I learned my lesson hard. He even had me send money using World Remit, until I said No, not ever sending anything else. Please everyone watch out for this scammer Staff Sargeant Anderson Mason who also goes by Mason Anderson, claims he is from Brooklyn, NY, originally from NYC. He told me he is an only child and now in his late 30's as of year 2019.

He even had me give him my email address to get his supposed commander to send me a request to ask me to help Mason with getting funds to get back home to States for supposed visit to see me and pick up his money from bank in NYC burough area. He liked to me to get me to give him more money and has even promised me marriage. I am taken aback, never had this happen to me before.

Does anyone here encounter a certain Julio Oliver Risse? He claimed to be a doctor of military, living in Tacoma, Washington?

I’m texting with him now.

I am talking right now with same Surname but the first name is not Julio but Benjamin and he Said he is also a Doctor of military living in Tacoma..

Hey everyone... add Dave Chanon from ATL to the SCAMMER list. He 1st stated that he was a 7th command then today a Wo2 rank....
He says that his mom is in the hospital and she can't be discharged without a full payment (I've NEVER HEARD OF BEING HELD AT A HOSPITAL because you couldn't pay for surgery). I asked him to ask his colleagues for donations tho. Lol but he insists that I open up a checking account for his friend to send a check for me to deposit. He says that he's in debt because he purchased a home and has a over drawn bank account. So he can not put money in the account because he's on a special assignment and can't do much of anything. And a lot of other rubbish. He got really mad when I questioned things and when I said I couldn't help him because I was poor.

From the 2nd day he started to talk to me he professed how much he loves me over and over and over again... using the same rehearsed lines 24/7 without offering much real conversation. (So annoying) Mind you that I just met him 2 weeks ago via Instagram and he doesn't know me at all. He has several Instagram profiles btw. I played along with the little "romantic act"... but today, I'm actually bored so I called him out and blocked him. I'm not looking for love or anything, he randomly popped up in my DMs and said he loved me a day afterwards. Haha I from there it was a low life.

So I met this guy on Instagram talk for a couple days and then he hit me with the comment how I have no access to my bank accounts. His name is Collins Adam and that he is US Navy officer Deployed in Syria .
After that statement that he doesn’t have access to his bank accounts and then he’s not eating well , really put a red light on for me.

My guy is going by the name John Koppel. Supposedly an engineer from WA. Widower. While working a job in Mexico he was mugged and all his ID was stolen, so all his bank accounts were frozen. Then got a contract in Dubai, but had no money to get there. Well once he got to Dubai, he supposedly had to pay $40,000 in taxes and fines in order to get paid for the job he's on. And now of course, he can't afford to get back to the states. He asks for Amazon or Sephora gift cards. He asks for your log in info for your credit cards so he can send payments to cover the cost of the gift cards. Then the payment ends up getting returned. Gave him banking info, since he can't access his accounts until he is back in the states to straighten out the mess from Mexico. Made deposits with bogus checks, but before the checks were deemed fraudulent, asked me to use my debit for more Sephora cards. Well, after $5000 in bad deposits, my bank account is closed due to overdraft of $3800. So, anyone out there, if this sounds familiar, let me know.

Yes I came across a guy named Jacob Handy on WWF.. he said the same thing to me I wonder if it’s the same guy. I’m so disgusted

Has any heard of a Eric Ben stationed in Afghanistan. Says he doesn't want my money. Has a attorney that wants fifty five hundred dollars for marriage certificate and documents for new house Eric wants us to get together.

Did anyone correspond with a Russell Daryl in Dubai.

Alex Anderson engineer stuck in Turkey....9 year old girl in boarding school in Houston
Charles Rickie UN orthopedic surgeon....extended his stay and they are making him pay his own way home 2children in Vegas

My relative is being scammed by a Jimmy Wales....Lives in Houston, has a contract with oil rig in turkey. He’s a widow. Anyone else?

Same here thousands of dollars what a fool who do you report this to for justice

Torn , debts heartbroken

I believe l am being scammed by someone using the profile of a Serbian politician and and army General. He has asked for money and I tunes. He wants to meet meet me and says that he needs money to be transferred for his flight .

Does anyone ever talked to someone by the name of Omer Shafer us marine deployed to afganistan comes from Dallas Texas
I'm not sure that I'm being scammed or anything I have a lot of pictures also private ones they don't pop up on the internet
But all those stories of scammers keeping me worried that there is a possibility that he is not real uptill now did not ask me directly for money or anything
I've just had a thing that he sent his lockbox in januari to me that didn't arrive coz of the courier company wanted money to get it out of where it suppost to be I never heard anything from that company and it looks like the whole dispatch is deleted
Now he saying that he can't access his account that he is being monitored by the government because he did something stuppid but he wants to get a lawyer for getting his lockbox back
Hope that someone can help me I want to believe him but it's difficult with all those scams going on

I think we have the same scammer. Mine goes with the name James Bunker. He told he’s an army stationed in Sudan and re-assigned in Syria. He professed his love for me and I fell for it. Felt so dumb! He told me he sent a locked package. The courier company asked for a Safety Handling fee of $1260 at first. He negotiated to send $800 first. I’ve successfully transferred that amount. The second one was $8000 for a non-inspection fee. He told me to send $2000 first to release the item. Now, I didn’t send anymore. I blocked the numbers used by the courier company. Stopped messaging that military man. I felt stupid and embarassed with this incident!!!

Watch out for David Fuchs Huffman...from Abu Dhabi..or Kabul..or now in Nigeria..Hes a Naval Officer...was in Love after a few days...Baby this..Sugar Bean..that...asked me to get him transferred to the states?? Then asked me what I thought since we're together?? ..said never mindcre-upped for another 2 years..was going to Kabul..and then Nigeria..wanted me to get him an iPhone X-Max before he left for Nigeria...saoud I couldn't afford it...said never mind just send what I gift cards so he could update his laptop do we could continue to communicate..They're NOT allowed personal devices...Blocked him off Instagram and Hangouts..there is several articles on Google about them!!..Contacted the Navy..thus is common according to them..they get hacked almost daily..REPORT REPORT REPORT!!They said this was very important to do..I kept pictures..transcripts on everything we talked about!!

Is anyone on here being scammed my someone in Ghana saying they are there for school. I have sent a lot of money at least a lot of money for me over there and now they are asking for two new phones and form to be unlocked and asking for $900 to get a visa to come to the United States where they are supposedly from and asking for money for a plane ticket. I really feel as though I'm being scammed and it seems to be more and more real but I just don't know for sure. I could really use someone's advice that has been scammed to know if that is what ishappening before I lose everything I have. Thank you for your help any response as soon as possible would be greatly appreciated as I work third shift

I was scammed by a guy named "Bradley A Shur" stated he was from Gardena, CA. Went by the name Bradley loves Always on POF. I haven't been on a dating website in 15 years, this guy got me good. For a whole year, I fell for it hook, line and sinker. Guess I'm out the money....very hard lesson. I'm praying for God's wrath on him.

Almost got scammed out of 1000. By a guy I met online named Andy Turner 53 yo sob story of widowed 5 years ago. Very charming businessman his pic are of him bald glasses but very good looking be aware . Said he had a business trip that went wrong and needed help with money hmmm!

I hope someone can help me with info pn a man that is scheming my aunt and she refused to believe me. the guy goes by Patrick Andre claims to be military and all his money gets taken by family thats take ng care of his son, also had someone that helps him out with scamming her. Claims he is in africa but orginally from texas and was born in Spain... Anyone having info please lmk thanks.

Resend response to complaint I submitted 3-20-2019 not able to find on my phone with numbers you sent me.

Resend response to complaint I submitted 3-20-2019 not able to find on my phone with numbers you sent me.

I have a guy saying he want to send me Money and he will put it on my credit card cuz I won’t give him any bank account info. Can they scam you with just your credit card info sending you money?

If you tell him your credit card account number, he can use your credi card. He can run up your credit card bill.

yes! do not give any info! If you give your credir card number they will run it up till the credit limit is reached!

Adding the name Stephen Randy to this list. He doesn’t claim to be in the military, but claims to be a contractor on an oil rig. Everything else lines up: can’t access his online account, running out of data, has a (plot twist) GRANDDAUGHTER he’s raising in Miami Florida because his wife died, his daughter in law died and his son is on a secret mission in Afghanistan. Neeed $8000 for a private chopper to get off the rig and straighten out his account which he will TOTALLY pay back . When I refused, he claimed I caused him to have a heart attack.

The guy who is asking me for iTunes cards uses WhatsApp to message but can’t video chat because he is in a foreign country on a secret military mission. He says his name is Lucas Scott Bentley born on 07Sep1975 in Birmingham UK but resides in Nashville now. His WhatApp is associated with a number with area code 615 but a reverse number search came up empty. He says he has a father named Scott Bentley in San Antonio. He claims to be a Natropathic Specialist who worked with NUNM. His English is broken and his accent is thick. He asked me to email his Superior for a leave request to come back to the states and meet me but the email he gave me for his “Superior” was col. margaret reedy @gmail. com and I certainly did not email this person nor did I buy any iTunes cards that he wanted scratched and then sent as a pic. I can’t believe how easily these guys can post pics and who knows who is truly in the pics.

Can any one if they have been
contacted by a Sargent Wilson Galbraith

has anyone had anything to do with an Espanial James or Derrick Davis???? saying they work for the military in Afghanistan?

Several men have done me the same way...Terry/ Kelly Hestilow..Mike William..menden ? guy claiming to be a veterinarian in Arizona.. Alister ? Supposed to be a doctor..lost count of them..Mike William is still contacting me now

Has anyone been scammed by a guy claiming to be in the marines named Hansen carpenter stating he is single dad with a Daugher named sam

Hello Ladies!
Ive met my "love" on online dating site. He fell in love pretty quick (within 2 weeks), sent me bunch of pictures even his passport. He states he is from NY, has 4yr old daughter, wife is drug addicted, old parents, blabla. He is doing a project in Turkey. And in 2 weeks it appeared that his dad is in the hospital, his equipment in turkey is broken and he needed money for that. Oh and his phone got broken, therefore we have never talked on video call only phone calls via WhatsApp. All this sounded fishy and of cause I didn't give him money. But he keeps saying he will return it, that the passport is vital information and it's a prove of his honesty. Sometimes he put a pressure on me like "if you love me you will help me" or "if you care about my future" or "you can show me you care about me", etc. IF he is a scammer why he would send so many pictures of him and parents and daughter to me, why would he send his passport photo to me, doesn't make sense. Im lost, don't know what to do. Please H-E-L-P!

He is a scammer. The passport can be stolen or a fake. If someone really wants you they come to visit you. If they do not have money for the ticket there is no use to get stuck with a beggar.

Anybody know Morales Gulliver from Santa Barbara, CA. As a civil engineer builds roads as a contractor. He got a contract near Toronto Canada that was to last 2 weeks. First he needed money for a very expensive piece of equipment. Not realizing he was to pay taxes prior to beginning work they took his passport away. Money was needed to pay taxes. He needed to bribe the Canadian authorities to get the money owed him. This went on for six months. He asked me for money I told him no. Never heard from him again.

Anyone been scammed by s Ryan Rodriguez or Jeffery Rios. Says he needs money for phone calls, ATM card and medical services. Something strange in the way he writes. Claims he is from North Carolina

Has anybody ever heard of Spencer George that's suppose to be in Army and hes out of Miami but is station in Kabul Afganistan plz let me no if anybody has heard of him.

I have been talking to a man who says he is in the Army in Afghanistan and had a daughter that is in boarding boarding school in the U.K. He was lonely and just wanted a friend to talk to and soon after a week was telling me he was in love with me and after a bit he said he didn't have data on his phone and we wouldn't be able to talk anymore . So like a fool I sent him a card for his data for 25.00 and now tonight he tells me he was robbed and they stole his wallet and ID and every thing . Didn't get his phone though. How convenient. So now he needs me to send him money to live on till he can come home to me . He just doesn't know how He will survive over there with out my help. His name is Toby. He has never told me his last name said he is from North Carolina and his Daughter is 11 or 12 . He just turned 43 his birthday was the 15th of April. I'm getting away while I can. I thought I had found the love of my life but after reading these stories on here and him making me feel like it's my responsibility to take care of him . I'm done . Lesson learned .

I've got a guy Named Richard Baron Birdsong trying to get money from me. After 10 days he asked me to marry him. I laughed. He hung on for months. I searched his phone number and it came up from Alabama where he said he was from. He is traveling. Went to Brazil had to get a temp phone. That was a Brazil number. Finally came the request for money. He was buying into being a distributor of a new cancer drug he just helped develop. He was having trouble accessing his bank account because of the internet in Brazil. He gave me his log in info. I accessed his account to see he had $6,1000.00. I tried to transfer from that account to a different account in Brazil to fianlize his contract. Got an error message. He called the bank. His account hadn't been used in a long time so it was inactive. The Nigerian sounding bank manager called me and did a hard sell on me sending the money from my account. I told him I would pass the info along but was not sending money. I went off on Richard. He begged and pleaded.It got ugly. He said I was crazy. I blocked him everywhere. I felt bad because I didn't give him a chance to explain. I calmed down and wrote him a letter. I had accused him of being a catfish early on and said he was acting like a catfish again. He claimed he didn't know what that was. I apologized for being so harsh and not giving him a chance to explain. Told him if he was real I'd apologize properly when he got home. I also said if he was a scammer it was a cruel thing to do. He responded how happy he was to hear from me and how much he loved me........... Told me how his son's teacher raised 10,000. He had to ask me to do something hard. He needed the last 10,000 to unfreeze his account. I told him to fly home and take a lone against the 6 million. He was a doctor I was sure he could get a loan. Told him I was sure he was fake and if he wasn't I was no longer interested. I searched his photos and nothing came up. He doesn't show up on his job's website. The bank is fake. It was so real looking though, but most of the links don't work. I m glad I didn't lose any money, but am still really pissed that I engaged in messaging for 3 months. My self worth and self esteem took a hit!! Beware of the bank Capital Finance Bank. check out the website and see how intricate this plan was.
www. cfb konline. com if you search the bank it doesn't come up. If you search the bank number, there is no information. I just saw on John Oliver that it is very easy to make call and make them look like they come from another number. Research people!!! If nothing comes up don't believe the bs story he feeds you!!!

You have the same guy dies he ask you have you had anything to eat. Or ask for Amazon cards . does his picture look like model he said he had good genes has a daughter he is on instragram as michealfroom

Anyone ever corresponded online with a Jim Beckmann? Approached me on LinkenIn. Very handsome. 53. Says he's Italian. Widower of 5 yrs. Wife died in car accident. No children. Lived in California. Says he is a Wine Merchant. 2 wks. after meeting, he had to go to South Africa to complete a HUGE Wine & Spirits contract. Now the wine is caught up in South African Customs cuz he doesn't have enough cash flow to pay the fee they charge for the import of goods to their country. Asked me for $100,000 to help him out. Very romantic, says he is in love with me. Wants to get married when he returns. Says after he completes this "Contract" he will be rich, so we will be able to liver happily ever after. He is very convincing, and makes me feel like I am in love with him too. However, I am a bit skeptical, and would like to see if anyone else out there has had a similar on-line romance, with someone by the same name or circumstances.

I’ve been talking to someone I suspect is a scammer as well, goes by the name Aron Raul, grew up in Albany, NY looks Latino, claims he’s 41 with a bday in May and has a son who’s about 6. Son’s mom cheated on him, and he claims he’s stationed in South Africa and doesn’t wear military uniforms anymore as he’s been in for over 10 years. The pics he sent he has a sleeve tattoo and one on his chest, other arm is tattooed up the forearm and his hand. He asked me for approximately $153 so he can go food shopping on the base, claims he doesn’t have an IG or social media and his parents died in a car accident. Only chatting for entertainment as it’s highly amusing.

Oh yes, he told me he’s in love with me after 2 days LOL. Has anyone else talked to him? He has a pic of him in a car with a Superman shirt on and a pic of him and his son at the beach.

Mereen - My sister has been corresponding with someone with a similar MO. I will check with her to find out his name and let you know if it is the same man.

Mereen. Talked with my sister. Not the same person we don't think. Her guy's name is Jimmy Belsher. And the MO is not as similar as I thought. Good luck to you in your situation. I hope it all works out for you O.K.

I had 2, lol! Similar stories that I’ve been hearing . Big contractor, never experienced love like this before . One from England, the other Italy. Goes overseas for big job and SUDDENLY runs into financial problems pertaining to the jobs and needs the money STAT. Crying and desperate. Harry Shepherd and Anthony Salerno. The biographies are so incredibly close that it’s almost comical .

Anyone ever corresponded with a Jim Beckmann. Met on LinkedIn. Says he is a Wine Merchant. Lived in California. Wife died in car accident 5 years ago. Previously lived in Colorado. Shortly after meeting him, he went to South Africa to complete a huge Wine and Spirits contract. The wine is now caught up in Customs and he asked me to help him by sending him $100,000 to help him get it out of Customs so he can get his wine contract done. Then, he will come to me in Houston, we will get married and live happily ever after. He is a very smooth talker, very romantic, tells me he loves me constantly. Very handsome pictures he has provided. Early 50's, Italian, Dark hair, salt and pepper, beard, mustache. I am torn between sending him the money and the possibility of spending the rest of my life with the man of my dreams, or if it is a scam, loosing $100,000 and never being able to retire from work. Anything sound similar to anyone else's experience, out there?

Im speaking with this charming beautiful gorgeous lady (10 hours by car from me (Us-Can)).
She does not mind long distance relationship.
Her photos look realy genuine except at couple occasion shes hiding her face,
Anyways long story short, shes falling into love with me, after 5 days of talk she goes into a gym, falls breaks her shoulder, sends me a pic (hiding her face) with wrapped arm/shoulder and then asks me for drug money.
I said. No. I have not met u yet nor i have proves that you are who you are.

Have been scammed have fake name and know who real person is. Reported it all over - no response. What lawyer can handle researching and connecting fake name to real name via subpeona of records? Have the account still active for proof! Why are criminals allowed to continue - this is a very dangerous person. TY


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