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While plenty of successful relationships begin online, scammers also use online dating sites, apps, and chat rooms to trick you into sending them money. These imposters create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love. Some even make wedding plans before disappearing with the money. It’s a big problem: reports to the FBI about online romance scams tripled between 2012 and 2016, and imposter scams were among the top reports to the Federal Trade Commission for both the general population and the military community.

These scams can take a military angle with imposters stealing servicemembers’ photos to create phony profiles. They might claim to be servicemembers who can’t get into their accounts overseas or who need money fast. The first sign of a scam is an online love interest who asks for money. But the Army’s Criminal Investigative Service (CIS) says that the military doesn’t charge servicemembers to go on leave, get married, communicate with their family, go online, or feed and house themselves on deployment. We have also heard of scammers re-using servicemembers’ photos again and again, so it can be helpful to do some online research on the love interest’s name, photos, and details to check the story out.

If an online love interest asks you for money:

  • Slow down and talk to someone you trust. These scammers want to rush you, often professing love right away; or pressuring you to move your conversation off the dating site.
  • Never wire money, put money on a gift card or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back.
  • If you sent money to a scammer, contact the company you used to send the money (wire transfer service, gift card company, or cash reload card company) and tell them it was a fraudulent transaction. Ask to have the transaction reversed if possible.
  • Report your experience to the dating site and to the FTC.

For Military Consumer Month, share this video to help military consumers steer clear of online romance scams.




Did you find anything out about this guy? A similar guy is contacting me. He calls himself Jackson Medina and has a son by the name Josiah.

Looks like a scam let's talk

Josiah logan medina is asking me to get a steam card for his sons birthday. I also have a Joel Stephen asking about marriage.

Hello, it sounds like the same guy I have come across. I met him on Hinge and he immediately wanted to chat on Whatsapp and deleted his profile. After 5 days of chatting he asked if I could help him out with getting a steam gift card for his son. I told him no and then he tried asking me again and I sent him an image about a scam and he got upset.

Sounds like this guy i met named Josiah Medina on Hinge. Do you have a pic?

The name I got was Medina Richard and has a son named Josiah. Can we swap pics to see if it’s the same guy?

Yup! He changed his name to Nelson Medina

Same guy tried me on Hinge. Went by Jos (short for Josiah I was told), his pictures showed last name Medina. He gasses you up with an hour of texting, goes cold for a couple of days, then warms you back up and asks for the playstation giftcard.

Can you send me a pic? I just met someone online with the name Josiah Medina on hinge.

Is he an Army combat medic? Yeah, he’s a scammer. He sweet talks to you and then makes you feel like you’re not trying to help a man in need who is serving his country. He asked me for 100 steam gift card and then said he was going to wire the money and I never got anything. I only told him to send it through Zelle. No bank info was given. But he made excuses so I started digging on the Internet.

I too became a of victim of Josiah Medina. We met on Hinge. He went by Jos. I started to talking to him on Kik. He asked for money because he had to submit papers for his travel back. I fell for the bait. He is smooth and persistent. Said he would paypal the money back, no response after that. It makes me sick to my stomach. I am a single mom and I just thought that maybe he was a good person. I googled him after he stopped talking to me after I sent the money. I came across this string of comments. I can't stop beating myself up for being so naive.

Yes he tried it on me? Wonder if it’s the same guy

This guy is going on online dating websites and trying to hook women straight away...hasn't asked me for money yet but my suspicions made me do intensive search into him and found this website! listen to your intuition ladies.

Omg does he talk to you ladies on hangouts??? Or text you from a Florida number.

He text using a Florida number

Look him up on IG under Josiah Medina. He has several accounts. He was on FB under Josiah Medina.

I've been talking to him for months finally got fed up with the lies I Called him a scammer and he blocked me

Look at the back ground in pics he sends same back ground with black curtain

Is this Medina person black based on online profile? I was talking to a Collin Medina also known as Richard Medina Collin. I think he is working with a team. They use his pics but different person on the phone and most likely different person texting me.

OMG! I've been chatting with this guy. He goes by Medina Martinseen. After just 5 days of chatting with him he asked me to help him out by buying a steam gift card because he is so busy at work. I tell him I am uncomfortable and he is all hurt because he needs to make sure that the person he is with has his son's best interest and carry his burden. He tries again and I lay into him and then send him info about the steam card being a scam. He tells he is insulted that I would consider he is a scammer, he can't believe what kind of mother I am and to never contact him again. I am so glad I found this site.

Yes, just came across this man he is going to down at work....same issue...except he said his name was Martinssen Medina. mentioned something yesterday about a steam gift card and not getting the card, but didn't ask for money. i was doing my own investigation and started feeling like him something was off...sent him this link and told him his name was in this article

What email and phone number is he using? I am talking to someone by the name Josiah Medina although his hangout says Jordan Medina.

Can u send me pic of him I think I’m talking to the same guy

Damn... I think I'm talking to the same guy. He said his name is Medina Martinssen and his sons name is Josiah and is supposed to be stationed in Germany.

Mark Andrian Anthony? From Italy...Has anyone heard of him?

I think my mom has been contacted by the same guy. Goes by Luke Anthony or Luke Antonio. Said he was from italy,!but has Nigerian accent.

My Mom has fallen in love with some military guy that reached out to her on facebook. He goes by the name of Michael Rodriguez, he is overseas now but lives in Houston Texas. I just found his picture on an scammers website. Someone is using the real Michael pictures to try and scam middle age and unsecured women like my Mom. She does not listen and believes everything that he tells her. So far she had not send him any money. Good luck to all!

Yes! My mom is in a simular situation. Same name but working in Turkey. Is there any way to contact you to discuss?

Dave Ramsey and friends got my mother for about $200,000. She still doesn’t believe it’s a scam. Now so deep in debt, she’s likely to become homeless. Same scenarios I’ve seen here, started on Facebook and went to hangouts.

how do i report a scammer asking for more and more money my mom think he love her and is yelling at her for money

I have been scammed out of 60,000 dollars from Christopher Murphy from Cleveland Ohio, claims he’s in Alaska and can’t get into his bank account . I have all the receipts and Tex’s and banking and email that he gave me. I don’t know if I can. Go to the courthouse and file a clo or what.

Has anyone heard of Spc Kennedy L Dror? He was supposedly in Afghanistan then Syria and now at Fort Bragg in North Carolina on isolation after being exposed to sarin gas. He asked if he could send gold and personal items to hold until him got home. Obviously the package never arrived and I'm out of money trying to help him. Just wondering if anyone else experienced this hurt

I have been talking to a man for over 2 1/2 YEARS. He was 56 years old and an engineer on ships gas pipes (headed to Nigeria, needed $5k for win bid on project. He has lived in S.Africa most of his life. He had a 16 year old daughter that lived with his mother. I sent him $500 a month for 2 years , more at times including 1k when he was beat up in Nigeria and put in the hospital and had a $1500 bill. I also gave him $900 December 2017 to go to UK to see daughter , needed to come to see her due to urgent problem, but his mom wouldn't tell him why. From there he was coming here to the U.S. but while he was there his mom become gravely ill and he couldn't leave her. According to him he is still in the UK and his project in Nigeria has halted and started so many times I can't count. I have paid immigration fees for him to immigrate here which he is pursuing . He is working on a work visa. I ask to call his mom in the hospital and tell her how much I loved her son and how I would pray for her. He gave me the hospital name but got real nervous when I said I was calling her. He said oh no my mom won't talk to anybody. She will not burden you with her illness. He lost his wife in a car accident when his daughter was 11. When I started telling him I couldn't send him any more money he had colleagues of his sending money to walmart to walmart for me to pick up and do lots of moneygrams and western unions until I met my quota and then money was put in my bank and paypal and he said we would do bitcoin. Then I would take the money and deposit in various peoples accounts for bitcoin. I had to take the deposit slip and write no refunds bitcoin and take a picture of my face with my drivers license and deposit it in somebodys' account that I did not know. He still professed that he could not understand how I felt something was a fraud because these were reputable colleagues trying to help him out and then when he gets paid for the big project *1 or 2million they will be reimbursed. Meanwhile my name and picture and ID are on every bitcoin transaction. I want to believe him but I am very skeptical. He says he is coming in March but he still expects fees for immigration from me to give the church) $600 a month. There is a lot more but I good write forever. Please tell me if anybody has had this experience. I have only talked to him a handful of times and never seen a selphie. He says he has a blackberry phone with no camera . He is on Hangouts and on Hangouts chat . He can video chat me and see me but I can't see him but I can hear him. He goes by Charles Morrison. I love him very much and I am told by many people including a prosecuting attorney that said he is a scam. 2 years of my life. As of now I have stopped sending or picking up any money at all and will not give my bank details out. As of a recent request he wanted me to give him my dads'user id and password for AT&T (we have all our telephones on it and uverse, direct tv and wifi. I did not give him the password. My friend said he can run my dads bill up in the thousands just by giving him that info. He saw nothing wrong in asking me for that info. He has ask me to sell my car, house and ask my daughter for money and send it to him. I hope this helps someone. I am heartbroken if all this is a scam. I will never trust men online ever again. Please respond if you have talked to him.

This does sound like a scam. When someone asks you to receive and transfer money, they might be using you to move stolen money. You are taking a big risk by getting involved in these transactions. You could get in trouble with the law.

It's good that you stopped sharing your bank account number. Protect your phone accounts, credit cards and other accounts. He could use your name and personal information to run up bills, or open new accounts with your name. You can report this to the FTC by calling 1-877-382-4357. Your report could help the FTC and other law enforcement agencies with investigations.

Anyone heard of Robert Alex Jackson, started on Instagram? Claims to be with the UN on a ship, can’t take photos due to security, asking if he could put in for a vacation request to meet up, has a son in Vegas, wife died in a car wreck... wants a wife.... after 3 days. Haha!

So...., I was talking with someone who claimed to be OstellA llen008 @gmail. com Claims he is widowed and has one young son that is with a nanny. He is in a peacekeeping mission in Turkey, supposedly at Incirlik Air Base. But they were attacked and now he is somewhere else. After his friend “Logan” was shot in the arm taking a bullet meant for him. Mr. Ostell Allen 008 He offered to pay off my credit cards. I gave him a prepaid bank card that payments were made on, but then retracted. After payments were made, but before they were revoked he asked for a brand new iPhone because he “broke his screen and could not keep in contact on HANGOUTS. I’m sure they do this with stolen credit cards. Pics are of a SUPER SEXY MAN and yes he “attempted” to get on cams with me. (Videochat) But just like others stated. No sound. Cut off after about 30 seconds. Could not see him clearly. Did not respond by waving back or anything to that effect. I am using his lingo. Very excellent English, but not American English. Claims to have grown up in Mexico, but then. Bird to San Diego where his mom still resides. He claimed to live in Elk Grove Village, IL. Came here with the USMC. He was extremely believable. Has two Facebook accounts with nothing on them. When I could see his friends list it was a ton of Nigerian people as his “friends”. Had a terrible ex that screwed him over and all his money so he needs just about any and every thing anyone is willing to give him.
If you have heard of him please REPLY. We can exchange pics.

I believe I have been talking to this same person first on a dating site then on hangouts and via text I don’t trust anyone so he has been constantly sending me pics every day to try and prove he is a real person he has fortunately never asked me for anything other than my number n photos but now I’m nervous about that too: when he told me he was in the military today I said oh no your a car fish profile and he got very upset with me for accusing him of that but story sounds the same I think it’s the same person makes me feel stupid I fell for his con

I’m talking to the same guy and same story as above. Although, he had said his wife died, but then forgetting earlier when we started chatting that he said, him and his wife were divorce. He hasn’t asked me for money yet, but has told me that his card doesn’t work in the ‘city’ of irciliik. That he emailed his bank etc. just waiting on a replacement card. He sends pictures of himself toting a gun around, a work out photo of him and Logan, but never in a uniform.

I had a "lover boy" General fall in love on the 2nd. day. I wasn't born yesterday and went "around the block" a few times. I had some fun and waiting until the money issue to come up. Took almost 2 weeks. Up until then, I saw I love you & can't live without you. This was leading to a courier scam. Then I deleted the FB account. I'm sure these guys change their name and rank very chance they get. Good luck ladies!!

I was scammed by a guy saying he was in the army. He was deployed to Afghanistan. He had a 6 year old daughter and wasn’t married. Wanted me to buy him a new phone and iTunes cards and he got upset when I said no. I confronted him. His name is Bryan Johnson

Has anyone been scammed by Hamid Juhar, engine on an oil rig

I cant believe I've been asked to take a phone call and get money to hold onto for this guy. He said he would have his Commander talk to me. Or the paymaster. Another guy thinks I'm going to hand over 200 bucks for a Amazon card or itunes. Please I ain't stupid...

Need help has any body gotten ask to accept as a friend by a jones rogers. He told me he is in the military in adganastan. He started talking to him on messenger then asked to move to hangout. We starred talking everyday then asked if i can sen him an itines gift card for $50.00 dollars. A week later asked again for another card for same amount. Ask why said itunes only completed 50 percent so i got him another one. 3 dsys layer says he needs another one csuse only completed 80 percent. Something font seem right. I told him to but fidnt day anything. I remember thst when i gave him first card he blocked me frim facebook. I asked why he said getting to many request. He claims his parents did when he was little and his sunt in poland took care of him then went to college. He says he id devorced cause he caught his wife with his best friend. In the beginning he went by the name ajay. Then tild me that wasnt his name that he used thst for protection since he is in adganastan. Claims he loves me. I have a picture that he sent me if your story is like mine plesse let me know.

This sounds like a current situation of minedid sounds like a current situation of mine this person says his name is Corps Billy nelson. He is originally from Puerto Rico but lives in Jacksonville Florida. Now we have been chatting for some time until he started asking for an Amazon or an iTune card so we can talk over the phone. I knew that it didn't make sense because I'm pretty sure that the military have means of communication so the soldiers can talk to their loved ones. He also told me that he is a widower his wife passed away from blood leukemia cancer and his son is 10 years old and he lives in Oklahoma with family members.I knew something wasn't right when he started speaking on how much he loved me and how he would take care of me and how he wants to marry me. I even called him out one day on trying to scam me but he plead the fifth I almost fell for it because he was so consistent that he wasn't lying and I should trust him.but something doesn't seem right cuz how can you want to be with somebody so soon and wants to marry a stranger so fast. I'm glad that I didn't send any money because I'm not a fool..

I am pretty sure Im getting scammed right now .. He says he is from Pheonix, AZ and is currently deployed in West Africa. He spent all his money on food as he doesnt like the African food served ( i always assumed military food was the pre-packed kind idk anyway) and he needed $300 for 3 months of data and felt embarrassed asking me. He said there is wi-fi on base but its far from his hostel? He professed his love to me after 5 days of "hey how are you?"s and out of no where started asking really personal questions while professing his love to me more .. i was lapping it up stupidly .. He also said he is a combat engineer and when I asked what that is he said he is under weaponary and is in combat right now .. always mentioned he doesnt want to go back to his country and cant wait to see and be with me and asked what i would do once he is here .. he texted like english wasnt his forté which i let slide .. but also sent me some kind of poetic paragraph that he repeated twice lol .. damn the more i mention things the more i realise they are red flags .. massive facepalm .. glad i havent sent any money :\

Watch out for a guy posing as military his name is Ricky Lambert just tried to con me out of 700 pounds to come home from Iraq on leave Beware.

Anyone heard of Antonio Bernardo? I think I'm being scammed

if you haven't met him and he has all kinds of excuses not too, then you are. I just learned a very hard, expensive lesson.

Does anyone know a Josiah Medina sgt from Dubai all of these stories sound like my situation.I had never known about romance exams,but I knew something didn't feel right

Hi I think we're probably being scammed by the same guy. Only he calls him self Dennis Medina when he chats with me. But I used Google reverse images and I got pictures of him with other names and Josiah Medina is one of them. The same guy. Very handsome to its just that someone else is pretending to be him.


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