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It’s Valentine’s Day and love is in the air. You may think you spend a lot on flowers or chocolate, but losing money in a romance scam would cost you even more. Last year, people reported losing $143 million to romance scams – a higher total than for any other type of scam reported to the FTC. And, according to a new FTC Data Spotlight, reports of romance scams are on the rise.

What do we mean by romance scams? We’re not talking about the person you thought was “the one” but ended up being a dud. We’re talking about people you meet online, who lavish you with attention … and then ask for money. Usually they want the money by wire transfer or gift card. They might claim they need it for a medical emergency or to come visit you. Then they take your money, but there’s no surgery and no trip.

Romance scammers are hard at work wooing people on dating apps and social media. They may lift photos to create an attractive profile or even steal the identity of a real person. Just like with real romances, it may take them some time to gain your trust, but the scammer’s payoff can be big. Last year, people reported a median loss of $2,600 from romance scams.

How can you avoid romance scams?

  • Never send money or gifts to a sweetheart you haven’t met in person.
  • Take it slowly. Ask questions and look for inconsistent answers. Check the person’s photo using your search engine’s “search by image” feature. If the same picture shows up with a different name, that’s a red flag.
  • Talk to someone about this new love interest. And pay attention if your friends or family are concerned.
  • If you suspect a romance scam, cut off contact right away. Then, report to the scam to the FTC at Notify the dating site where you met the scammer, too.

For more information, read Online Dating Scams or watch this video:


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I have a friend who may be getting scammed and will not listen to reason. Man says his name is Howard Strickland who is from Canada and works at a Fishery in Ireland. He says he has a son in boarding school in Canada and is a widower. Does anyone recognize this name? He started following her on Instagram.

Funny,,,the word with friend player stopped contacting me when I refused to send money....LOL..Supposedly a good friend with many troubles...LOL LOL

Anyone heard of Richard Harold plays Words 2
Captain of a ship seeking oil near Istanbul
First needed a helicopter to come rescue them as the ship broke down. Now they have another ship but have no food and need food airlifted but he can’t access his money and wants me to send some. He loves me madly and can’t live without me haha. Very persistent

It all began on April 30, 2019 while playing Words With Friends when I got a request to play a game with a very handsome guy named Jeffrey Richards (Richardson Rogers) - can’t really tell from his email. We began innocently enough (or so I thought) on Words then moved to Hangouts. He seemed VERY genuine- said he was from Bremen Germany and worked as a diver (hyperbaric welding); first said he was lonely and tired of being widowed - then that changed to divorced with an almost 16 year old daughter in boarding school in London, UK. Oh boy he really romanced me by telling me he was working on an oil rig in the Gulf Of Mexico and he needed Google Play or Steam cards so we could talk and communicate via internet. Then he wanted cards so that he could contact his bank (he said Chase) so he could find out why they had frozen his account after he withdrew a lot of money to fund his job on the oil rig. Then he says he wants to repay the money from the few cards I sent him. Long story short this afternoon he sends me an application asking for my SSN, home address, phone number, email, etc. You all get this picture? As soon as I saw that last message I ceased all contact. He claimed that he told bank I was his “wife to be” and how much he loved me and couldn’t bear to be without me, etc. wants to take me on an Alaskan cruise. Anyway, if anyone else sees this guy on Words beware and hold onto your money. I’m thankful I didn’t waste any more money on the scammer .

I was scamer from a person called Mark spencer he ask me for 1,900 told me that he was in dubai and he needs the money to get back to his son I meet him on Facebook elvis presley group on valentines day he lives in america West Virginia I know that I won't get the money back I never meet him only by tex and phone calls on hangouts I never heard from him again

My mother said she couldn't stop sending money, she was programmed to send money. Every week for almost a year she was wiring money somewhere in the U.S. or Nigeria. I didn't know she was sending money, i only knew that she was talking to 2 guys. She sent them both money and new iPhones. 3 thousand in iPhone and she was going to pay their phone bill. She had those numbers on her bill. I got them off of her bill . They were taking money out of her accounts. She was laundering money for them. She fought me so hard, i begged her to stop talking to them. She can't she is addicted to the attention. I shut down her bank accounts but they keep trying to break in. I hope she stops talking to them. Last time Leonard was kidnapped and needed ransom money. These people are good at picking their victims.

I am also talking to a man named Leonard. He goes by his last name of Duke. He says he lived in the states but in South Africa on business. Is this the same guy? Do you have a picture?

I have a military guy that is scamming me. I wants me to sell my house so he can pay got luggage that he send me that has money in it! I said heck no!

I met Trey Brenton on WWF a couple months ago. Professed his love for me. Supposed to live in Kentucky but had to go to Vietnam for a job for one month and then all of a sudden he is now in India for a month. He informed me that he has a box coming to me and he wants me to hold - $750,000.00 cash from a job. He said it was sent through Pathbird2express and there is a charge of $1150.00 that needs to be paid for. It is a SCAM

Again another WWF scammer. Kelvin Walter/ Kelvin Winter. Was madly in love in probably two days and was very upset when I told him it was too soon. Within two weeks his machine on the rig broke and he needed me to buy him 4 X $50.00 Steam cards to update his computer for a manual. After refusing saying don’t have it never heard from for 2 days. When he finally contacted me, he wasn’t to happy about my message saying “how could you say that, I love you”. Haven’t heard from him since. If you are on WWF BE CAREFUL too many scammers

There is a guy pretending to be an Architect who owns his own business says he lives in Nashville, TN part of the time. But, he has a daughter he will send you pics of him and his daughter very good looking man, he send you pics of them on the beach and at a wedding reception she has long dark hair beautiful little girl. He will all at once tell you he has to go to Africa to build apartments homes for his company to help with those who are less fortunate as he is, then he will all at once get to Africa he will actually call you from a number from Africa or another country of some sort number I have for him are +27 (83) 414-7742 and 1-224-904-0214.
He will fall in love with you instantly you are the women of his dreams he wants to treat you like an angel he travels supposedly from Nashville to Africa in one day, then he supposedly gets his apple computer, iPhone and other electronics stolen the best of the best stolen all he needs is 3, 000 to replace all of the above he then turn around and give you the story that is an Billionaire he has a trust fund that he will allow you access too, he will give you a bank phone number an account number and an email for you to contact the bank to get your money back immediately he just can't do it he says because he is in Africa and his money is in Europe but some how you can!! Then he tells you he will double your money then he tells you he will send you 300,000.00 if you give him your account information to your bank but, first you have to send him the 3,000.00

Played WWF and met woman goes by Mari but also goes by other names. Made me think I was the only one she was in love with, sent her money to help her family so she could meet me. Never happened.

I had a guy going by williams cube in Florida working on contract job and by 1 week he was in love with me and wants to marry me then he started asking for iTunes cards and money to pay his bills when I told him no he gets upset and tells me I should take care of my man and I told him that I would have to meet him first and then see where it goes but he tells me he don't have money until he gets his money pay when he finishes the job so I told he I would not send anything to him and now he has quit texting me so hopefully he gone for good. I never sent anything to him and he knows I'm not .so women please check them out before hand they are site's you can have them checked out.

This guy sounds alot like a guy I met from Florida, too. Exact same senario, but not a consultant...rather in the army who could not leave because he had invested all his retirement in a business (the army couln't know about) and , and, and, and....did he ever give you his name? Ed, David, or Athur by any chance?

Has anyone been contacted by Jason Owen, 2 children Son Tony and daughter Tina living in the UK.
He works in oil litigation. Wife died 5 years ago of cancer.
He's now in South Africa and wants to marry me already calls me wifey and is suppose to be very religious

I am so confused , has. Anyone been scammed by a. Granit. Schar, or Bernd Leno?

He is in Yemen , (yes). A. Gold. Dealer. And. Stuck there. As they took his passport ,
He. Wants me to receive. A lot of. Money (in the. Millions. ) for him . Yes. Receive ..... and then. Only send. 300 k. To a. Banks account , keep the. Rest till he. Comes !

I am his only hope ........
We. Have been talking for. 4 month now , and he. Does make. Me laugh. And feel. Very good .......

I read. About all scams ... no where have I come. Across. Where. The. Scammer is. Sending money
What do you think ?

I get scammers chatting to me on word with friends often, and I get the same spiel, they are widowed or divorced with a child, in the army or on an oil rig eg. They immediately start telling me how beautiful I am, and quickly ask about my job etc . Then I ask about speaking online and they surprisingly have no WhatsApp or Facebook but want to chat via HANGOUT. That is the signal for me that they are Nigerian fraudsters. I have had a few admit they are Nigerian and then state they want to be honest with me, but I just block them and move on.
Realistically, if they are working on oil rigs or in the army, why do they need anyone to send them money or iTunes cards? Please be wise and don’t send anyone money or anything else for any purpose. Neither agree to bank accounts or any such nonsense. Guard your heart and be wise please!

Checking on Joseph Smith oil rig and Benson Gordon navy man. Pearl Harbor

Stevie A. Brown is an engineer who works on a oil rig off shore. I am not sure how to share the photos- but I know they aren't him- they are of someone else... Wants to spend his life with me- loves me beyond belief...

Mine is a Danish engineer by the name of Roland Asger Moore, widowed, no kids, no parents, old phone, religious, very buffed chest, claims living in Orlando. Needs $15k to move equipment to Shell Oil rig in Gulf. On Instagram using RolandMoore761 on dating sites using Candyb98 Ladies he is so smooth. He claims he loves you, wants travel and adventure, he will protect you, make you happy, you make him happy. You know the drill. Luckily I never gave him money. I pretended to and strung him along for weeks before giving him a piece of my mind

Has anyone heard the name Mark Wilson he is Marine Engineer from Florida? He is on last job before retiring to open restaurant. Grew up in Belgium. Has daughter just turned 13 that goes to boarding school.

Maro Dino found me on Instagram. From Italy and currently working on oil rig offshore in Turkey. True love, love at first sight. Asked me to marry him almost right away. He gave his son my email and he started calling me mom immediately. Scary. Marco had documents from a company that was closing in Berlin. I couldn't send enough money so never received. Now a part on oil rig is broken. He added me to a sub account and I need to transfer funds for him. It's a fixed deposit account so I am now required to pay 5%, $60,000 to First Trust because of the type of account. Bank is in KY but since I am in NY they are asking me to wire funds to Nigeria. Bank said within 72 hours my funds will be back in the account so I lose nothing. He rents a machine and it will take 3 days to finish job and he will fly here to live with me and wants to marry me. Has a ton of money apparently. How much do I believe and not believe. All these comments are horrifying.

Does anyone know of a legitimate way to know who a person is using their phone number and email address with having to subscribe to a monthly service, which comes across as a scam itself and I hear almost impossible to get out of. I need to find out if someone is who she says she is.

I did the reverse image search in google and that’s how I find out it was a scammer. He got mad and threatened me, I blocked him and I haven’t heard from him in a week.

Has anyone heard of a David Johnson,from Essex maryland?says he owns a fabric textile company..he tried to get me to go into his 1 bank acct an transfer money to another..that where he was he didn't trust it was 23,000 then he wanted me to send him a Apple card...i then said why don't u go buy it yourself he says where he is they don't sell any...yea ok I dont care where you are everywhere sells target is everywhere lol...i then said u sound just like the last guy he became mad an was like in not going to beg for love, he has a daughter named I told he man you tried to scam me get me in trouble with the law...i said nice try I'm to smart for that..never heard from him again been 2 weeks...

Met him on Okcupid. Told me he was a Portuguese national who’s lived in the states for many years with his wife. After his divorce he moved to Sydney and then got a contract in turkey to investigate an arms dealer. Said he was a investigative journalist. First we just chatted then about 3 months in he said he needed some equipment to decode a hard drive he copied from the arms dealer. Once he did that we would be together as his contract was worth a lot of money. Then the “equipment” cost more than he thought and asked if I can help. I said why not ask your friends and family, he said he didn’t have any. I said I wouldn’t send him money so he said he would send an encryption card to my address and asked for all my personal details. I said no but did give him my address. What arrived were 2 credit cards in someone’s name. He asked for a picture of the front and back so he can use it to decode the hard drive. I asked for his passport and visa image. Still waiting. Lol. Went to the police, handed the cards in. These scammers use soother peoples images, ask them for a video chat or an image with the current newspaper with date. Don’t be aftrais to offend anyone, if someone loves you they will do everything to make sure you’re happy and feeling secure so if the guy is for real he will do it for you and you can both laugh about it in the future. If he makes you feel like crap about asking for proof, then he’s full of it and you should report it and cut any contact. Good luck ladies.

A guy going by Paul Barkley in the military even with Barkley on the uniform pretending to have money, but no access to it asking for money for flights home. And a phone because his didn’t work very well. Claimed to be at the south sea border on a peace keeping mission. Always tells about attacks they were having and how many injured and how he desperately needed to come home. That he just couldn’t make it another day there. Found his picture later a different one than the once’s he sent me in Bink with scammer Marcus Leo under it. Smh

Yes he tried to scam me March 2020 send me a package that money was owed on it He didn't ask He said Oh you want to help me. He asked me to send cash only cash He should be here in Texas in May

Ok, A man supposedly named Thomas Benson started a game of words with friends with me. He told me he was in the army (profile pic had him in army uniform) and deployed in Syria. Having 2 sons in the army he immediately had my attention and interest. He started chatting with me through the game and then very shortly after asked me to install Kik which I did. After 5 days he said he was in love with me and asked me to send him an Amazon gift card because he needed stuff he wasn't able to get while deployed. Red flags went up and I said no, i don't have it. But he kept talking to me, "grooming" me, telling me he would give me 30,000 when he returned from Syria to expedite my divorce, that he was so in love with me, etc.. then he said his commander was aware of KIk , that they weren't permitted to communicate over there and to please install hangouts. Which I did
Then he writes me this very long beautiful love letter. Immediately after writing that letter he starts saying things like how sad he was because he had nobody to help him he had told me his parents were killed in a car crash then later told me they were murdered and that he was raised in a Catholic Church compound. The long love letter did not sound like him so I put the script into Google and it popped up word-for-word. I called him out on it and he kept trying to deny it and finally now I have stopped communicating. I'm so thankful I never said Tim anything because I almost did.

Please don't be fooled by an Irish German named Victor. His mother died at birth and father brought him to Germany when he was 2. He's a construction contractor and had to go to Germany because of a building collapse. When you call him it's a Google call never goes directly to him. I have pictures but this site will not let me upload. I found out he was a scammer from this blog. Someone had the same scenario. Thank goodness for this site

My story is a girl who i met on facebook. Like a fool i said what the heck. We chatted 2 nights in a row for about 4 hrs.and she sent pictures.Said she was in Afghanistan and was a peace keeper. She always quit Chatting and i never got to reply. Night 3 asked how she was she said sad. so i asked why. Needed a Goggle card for points or something. Night 4 i got smart and Googled her picture. Well surprise surprise. A Beautiful young lady appeared. Name was Megan QT. She has like 50,000 pictures on line and Various names. So when we talked she asked about the card. I sent her one of the sites she was on. Said she knew this would happened but still persisted. so later that night after she cooled off or something got this Message:" Good morning to you baby, I wake up every morning thinking of you, On this day, I promise my undying love to you, in sickness and in health, my continuous effort to make it work, and that all my love is yours and only yours. I hope and pray that this fairytale you have made my life stays and that we're good friends to the very, very end in our minds, bodies, and spirits. I love you with all my heart and soul. I love you far, far beyond my control and I always will, because what we share is more beautiful than the colors of any rainbow and they will never fade in days or only appear in rain. I love the feeling of happy tears rolling down my face. , because it's an everyday sweetness, it's meek and it's willing. You've made my ending a new beginning. There are no other words in the dictionary to describe the very scary commentary that I am sharing. I will love you, Baby, throughout this life and beyond.".
Sent some sort of reply and haven't heard from her since. At least i was smart enough to research her and lost nothing.

Hello. Anyone know of a man Christopher Kogiri. (May also go by James Kogiri) He has a Polish accent. He messaged me on back in April 2019. Says he’s from Houston Texas. In profile picture he’s Caucasian 63 years old and wearing a light blue stripped Polo shirt. He says he is a construction engineer and was working on a bridge repair contract in Hilo Hawaii. Says he’s a widower for 3 years and wife Susan was a nurse who died of breast cancer. They have one son named Fred who is in marines. He’s very smooth talking and romantic. He asked me for money several times. For taxes and customs fees on equipment he hadn’t included in his contract bid, a car accident where him and crew were out drinking. He wasn’t driving but was badly hurt and didn’t have insurance. He said all his personal money and even a bank loan were tied up in upfront money for materials for the contract. Anyway I did send him $2000 and then he started having one bad luck or sad story and all he wanted was to come home to me. Haven’t sent more. I keep seeing what he’ll come up with next. Anyway a 10 day contract has turned in to 2 months. He texts or calls multiple times a day. Always some excuse he can’t make it home. He does send pictures but he’s never in them. Just tonight I told him to send me a picture of him. I’ll see if he does

We have to denounce

I have had a few scammers over the past 8 years of being single. I fell for one but quickly recovered after 2 weeks. Never sent him money. Just recently on the "meetup" app I ran into one. claims he is widower with 2 boys, one in college to be a bariatric surgeon? Is French and is on his way to Kosovo to work on some infrastructure for his company Bechtel, that he's a contract staff. He also tried to video chat with me which was hilarious! It was a video recording on another phone and he was talking but it didn't match up with the mouth movements. Name was Christophe Lesgner Tierney from Monte Carlo. Last time this happened I was able to add the photo to a datasearch but I can't find anything like that now? It seems the websites want to charge us for being scammed??? We should be able to post these? I would like to see if someone is using my photo!!

I was also scammed by Christophe Lesgner Tierney! I never gave him money, but I can see how if someone is very lonely, they could fall for these guys!! Same scenario, only I met him on WWF, he said he was a widower and was living in LA. with his two boys, Juan and Guan. He was an oil contractor and had gotten a big contract with BP. I gave him my cell phone number, which I regretted almost immediately. He is a smooth operator!! We communicated for almost 2 months before “he had trouble with the oil rig and needed money”. I said no, and that was the end of our “relationship”.
My marriage was going through a very rough period when Tierney “came into my life”. I could’ve lost my husband over this scam!
PLEASE LADIES AND GENTLEMEN, BE CAREFUL!!! There are a lot of unscrupulous people out there. If it sounds too good to be true —it is!!

Just wanted to add more detail about Christophe L. Tierney. He comes up with an Instagram and Facebook. He has 2 pictures on FB from January of 2019 when he first created the account, at first it said he was in Fishers Indiana. Its July and he said he's been in Alabama for 9 months. I asked for a selfie and he sends me 2 pictures of "him" wearing a winter jacket in Birmingham Alabama in July! Its 90 at 6am! There's no way it was real! He also said his sons names were Guan and Dion. I wish I could post the pictures of him.
He also told me he was on "Hangouts" and used "WhatsApp". He got very creative trying to video chat with me.
I have reported him to "meetup" but I wanted to share the other apps he is on just in case someone else meets him.

Army Col Thomas Jones in Afghanistan, from wealthy family, widower, has home in L.A. Supposed to come home in July, in love and wants to get married. Requested money to buy "time" so he could continue texting.
Now he has to stay another year, and people are now wanting him dead.....
Anyone know this scammer? My friend believes he's real and has sent him at least $2500.

I was talking to this one woman who claims to be from the United States but lives in Nigeria. She started talking to me on hangouts and then starts telling me that she needs me to send money to this lawyer who claims that she inherited money from her father who passed away. First of all, I don’t believe a word that any of these so-called women say because I know that they are lying. Second, they seem to use the same photo but with a different name. I don’t believe a word that anyone says online. They are all scammers and liars.

OMG. This almost verbatim for the woman I was chatting with named Nora. Not sure where she is from but says she is in Michigan. I was pretty stupid. Her lawyer wanted access to a credit card account but I was not that stupid

Do you have her name? Sounds like something my father had gotten into.

Hey there, being on Twitter I do get literally swamped and harassed by so called Deployed US MARINES in AFGHANISTAN trying to lure me into their fake camouflage nest.. Sending on duty PICS.. One of the worst calls himself HENRY G. BRITTON he's got a secured Twitter account saying he's from Springfield, Ohio.. Literally showering you with hunky pictures and love poetry asking for Amazon and Apple iTunes gift cards after a while.. Beware!!! He's good!!!

My story is this guy contacted me through Instagram, a Pilot Ethan Schulman from Oslo, Norway working with Gentry Charter Airlines, apparently contracted to fly medical aid with Unicef out of Ukraine to Syria :/
He needs money to pay for some fee for vacation leave.
He sent me voice recordings, video, even passport. He had me so fooled!
Thank God I only sent 600 dollars,
The only reason I stopped was because I kept having a gut feeling about him that I tried to ignore. So I kept looking up articles and videos of romance scams. One day after one week of talking to him, he sent me a picture of “diamonds” he got from a senator, which finally clicked in my brain as a huge red flag.

I really wish I would have looked at this website sooner.

Praying for all the women out there falling victims to these con artists.

If I could give any advice would be to listen to your gut feeling, and try to separate your emotions from the the situation and you will see the light. Thank God I did when I did.

In the process I learned to never trust anyone online.

Hope this helps someone.

He just chat me now. Pilot from unicef. Ethan Schulm. I already know he’s fake. Just few messages in!

Michael Rodriguez is his name..chatted wirh him for a year..he promised to marry me when he returned home from his mission. Asked for always come up and not able to many women has je been scamming at during this whole time?

Hi, I m currently chat with the same name as yours. Michael Rodriguez, 40yo, pilot and aeronautical engineer from Tennesse but live and work in Las Vegas.
He seems nice but I doubt he is real because he doesnt want to have video call, just sending me pictures and calls.
At this point he doesnt say to ask for money, we matched each other in Tinder and using LINE for chat.
Glad to see this website. I almost fall in love with his good looking and kind words. Lol

Hi, did you find out anything about him. Someone is trying the same thing with me. But he says his name is Allen Vargas

I know it's been a while since this happened but someone is trying to do the same thing with me. Did you ever find out who he was?

I have been talking to a very handsome man under the name jrjamesarthur. Says he's from Texas but comes from SA. Parents died when he was 5, works in construction. Hes pictures on Instagram are of a model called Kevin Lutolf. Wanted money for food as he was stuck in turkey for work and his account was frozen. I've not sent him money. He contacted me through Instagram. I was blinded by his beauty and fooled by his words. Thankfully my best mate cottoned on. Be aware of these predators

Mike Foster. live:mikefoster2441 on skype. Supposedly in the Army in Syria but his location is secret. Parents deceased and no family. Single because he is unable to have children. Was attacked in camp by a junkyard with first a bullet then a knife. ? Even sent pictures of the stabbing. Syntax of sentences change from American like to Nigerian. I guess that is when the shifts change at the scam house. First contact was on Tinder which did nothing after I reported it. I also reported it to Skype a dozen times and they did nothing. Now I am here. Good bye Mike Foster. It was real. Ooops no it wasn't.

They are of liars, deceivers, scammers of different types, I do not trust anyone of them. They have fake profiles, fake names, fake locations, fake stories about their lives. They do not look for friendship; they want one thing only: MONEY from you. I was stupid before and I have learned my lesson. These scammers should be persecuted to the fullest extent of the law.
Men and women, watch out and protect yourselves. Nobody wants to be a victim of these dishonest scams.


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