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It’s Valentine’s Day and love is in the air. You may think you spend a lot on flowers or chocolate, but losing money in a romance scam would cost you even more. Last year, people reported losing $143 million to romance scams – a higher total than for any other type of scam reported to the FTC. And, according to a new FTC Data Spotlight, reports of romance scams are on the rise.

What do we mean by romance scams? We’re not talking about the person you thought was “the one” but ended up being a dud. We’re talking about people you meet online, who lavish you with attention … and then ask for money. Usually they want the money by wire transfer or gift card. They might claim they need it for a medical emergency or to come visit you. Then they take your money, but there’s no surgery and no trip.

Romance scammers are hard at work wooing people on dating apps and social media. They may lift photos to create an attractive profile or even steal the identity of a real person. Just like with real romances, it may take them some time to gain your trust, but the scammer’s payoff can be big. Last year, people reported a median loss of $2,600 from romance scams.

How can you avoid romance scams?

  • Never send money or gifts to a sweetheart you haven’t met in person.
  • Take it slowly. Ask questions and look for inconsistent answers. Check the person’s photo using your search engine’s “search by image” feature. If the same picture shows up with a different name, that’s a red flag.
  • Talk to someone about this new love interest. And pay attention if your friends or family are concerned.
  • If you suspect a romance scam, cut off contact right away. Then, report to the scam to the FTC at Notify the dating site where you met the scammer, too.

For more information, read Online Dating Scams or watch this video:


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same here, i just talked to him 2 days ago...he told me that he is Orthopedic working with NATO in Afghanistan. I also have his pictures

I met a guy saying he works for NATO in Turkey! I have pics and I video!!!

Hi, his name was Mehmet Zeki??

Having the same problem this guy from Afghanistan and claim to be a doctor . So can anyone share photo he says his name is Mike David

I have the same scenario dr in Iraq his name is David d son or David eric

I met an orthopedic surgeon on a grief web site his name is Robby Patrick and he is from Louisville Kentucky he says he has no access to any money and he is in Iraq

Same here an orthopaedic surgeon working in Afghanistan in Kabul.Can you send me the photo?

I would like to share the picture with you!

Please send me a picture as soon as possible I think it's the same guy I need to see the picture please

Another doctor
Scam on Facebook dating site requested to talk through WhatsApp ...profile name
Nayumhie..then said his name was Tony Morrison.

The same happening to me too.Have got his picture too.Please can we share?

I know that guy!

Was his name Hamisi Masudi please forward me pic abd i will send you mine.

I have just been contacted through facebook by an orthopedic surgeon also working in Afghanistan. He now wants my gmail address and says due to job in military needs to cancel his facebook account. please advise

Same thing with me Orthopedic surgeon in Afghanistan Dr James Randy Can we compare pics

I would love to see photos.

How can I check to see if the doctor who I've been speaking with online is the real deal and not someone scamming me for money

Same thing is happening to me as we speak please send me a photo


I have James Pedro, an orthopedic surgeon doctor in Afghanistan.

He is also widowed, and has a teenage daughter.

I want to share picture. What ‘s his name? My “orthopedic surgeon” grey hair , 53 yo, working with UN in Sana’a Yemen, have 2 daughters, wife passed away, sent me picture with green tshirt and cap after work out at the gym. Have picture with french buldog name jasper. He said he loved outdoor activity.

What was his name? This name was 43 and he was single, no children but he was a doctor in Yemen.

Hi I may have the same person contacting me via words with friends. He days hes an orthopedic surgeon and wife died has an 11 yr old daughter who lost s leg in wife's fatal accident. How can we share photos.

I am talking to an Orthopedic surgeon stationed I Istanbul Turkey . He is a scammer as well . Says his name is Patrick Amir Adolfo. Good looking guy has a picture in scrubs and coat in doctors office . Have a feeling the pictures are stolen .

I think I’m talking to the same guy. He has a green shirt... another photo with his dog, a couple of pictures in his surgeon uniform...nice salt and pepper beard. He has a lot of pictures... please contact me

Please send pics it sounds like mine

The green shirt raised a red flag!! I was approached on Instagram by someone wearing a dark green shirt, jeans, holding a bulldog, and another dog on this left, claiming to be an orthopedic surgeon working for the UN out of Iraq. This guy wrote to me in simplified Mandarin. He also knows very fluent English. He asked for my LINE and phone number for WhatsApp right away. He said he has twin daughters attending boarding school in Great Britain. Said his wife left him when the daughters were only 4. Now the daughters are 10.

Sounds like the man I've met, too.
Green shirt in the gym. His dog a German Shepherd.

What's his name??

I think its the same muscular, good looking fellow that my bff is in communications too whose smoking her.
Please send me pics of him in ghost green shirt n with the dog to compare.

where did you find the photos? need to compare pls, my bff is getting scammed I think by the same guy. Shes out of some $ now.

I have the same surgeon from Syria ... I blocked him buy I would like to see pictures to see if it is the same one.

Can you share a photo?? I also have met a guy saying he's an orthopedic surgeon in Iran. Has a son in boarding school

I think the same guy is texting me, goes by the name of David Clifford on Facebook, has a 12 year old son in boarding school called Terry, claims he’s flying over to England tomorrow to be with me but need to send £1500 to his agent for flight. Do you have a picture of him?

My friend is involved with a man stating he is an orthopedic doctor working for the UN. Only seen him once. Said he was in Syria. Now says he's trapped in Greenland. Anyone can exit Greenland and Trynp stated that citizens can return.

She sent him $15,000. He told her that he was a self made millionaire. why is he asking for money from a social security disability person. Can you post his photo? I have this man's photo.

I think this man has messaged me his name is logan mason on wwf

The very same guy wrote me. Thnks for the heads up!

I had been in contact with a Mason Logan, different story...was helping another man who was stranded which is the one who messaged me on Match, WhatsApp. Many promises made, non delivered. I'd be interested in learning more about him, them. The Logan Mason identified as a lawyer, barrister from Suriname.
Called once from Paris, France phone number. The other, widowed in UK from Greece...Petroengineer. Was once on LinkedIn but deleted profile.

I met a guy on Instagram who claims to be an orthopedic surgeon working for the UN. In Afghanistan. His name is Lewis Presley. He is always asking for gift cards because his computer doesn't work properly. I was very leary of him. His photos are of a very good looking man. Asian Indian appearing. He is currently on Instagram. See if u know him. Let me know. He has given up on me. On to new women.

Just fished out a guy using a couple pictures of man and daughter. Saying from Texas, orthopedic surgeon working in Yemen for UN. Could not find any details for him and couldn't find his dead wife buried in Forest Lawn Cemetery. Using the Name James Ben, askedd middle name said Conrad but doesn't use it. Heard a lot of clues in his writing. Never asked for money yet, but did ask if I was financial secure. Would I accept his daughter Ella in our relationship. The pictures were priceless as I could have fallen for them both. He found me on instagram, which I only use for relatives. We chatted on gmail and hangeout. But I hit the video call button by mistake one night and all hell broke out. Saying he could be fired and then he wouldn't be able to get his benefits. So after a while and re reading things you say to yourself why would an orthopedic surgeon work a year for UN noy get paid till year up(that was his beneft). Never found any records for James Ben born in Corpus Christie, Texas or a doctor in Houston and his dead wife's Helens grave in Forest Lawn. Rest of his family dead so poor Ella (daughter) is in a safe house with U.N. cause her Nanny quit when virus came. Yup folks..... bye,bye James Ben. But loved the pictures wish I could find the real guy and his daughter. Shut him down this am after a lot of words came spilling out of my mouth. BEWARE

Way too many of the same stories being repeated....only child raising a child that is in boarding school because the "dad" is overseas working. Then all of a sudden they need money to be sent to child because their account is frozen. Cusses because I won't help "our child". Block immediately because it won't get any easier and they will continue to attempt you to send the cards. Even had the child reach out on Hangouts to get the money!. I asked for their school name and said I would contact the school to help. HUNG UP!!

This is exactly what I am going through. I think I was a fool and sent "our son" gift cards and him money to get a package to me with my engagement ring.....Everything you have said in your one sentence is exactly what I am currently going through. I never thought I would be a victim to a scam but now I believe I am. Feelings very strong very fast I mean I love you within a week. Is this really a scam or real? How do you do a picture search? Wow!!! Is all I can say....

The guy chatting with me uses the name Ben Joves. Says he was born & raised in Hawaii. Has a son in boarding school in California & he's a Dr stationed in Yemen with the UN. He says his bank account is frozen & needs money to come home so we can be married. I have pictures & we have video called. It is the same man as the pictures. Anyone want to share information & pictures please

Would someone please send me a picture of the man they're talkin to I think I'm a victim too

I have recently met a man James Ben in Facebook. In DP there was a picture of a good-looking man with two little cute daughters. Widow from Scotland. I loved the pictures, the guy and the daughters. He told that his wife died in a car accident 3 years ago. I have given him my whatsupp number and he started calling me and sending messages regularly. He has very cute Scottish accent. And starts any conversation like this: How are you doing Sweetheart, or Honey. After two weeks of communication he informed that he has been appointed Director General and asked for my full name, address since he was going to send me a gift. On the day of delivery a girl called me and asked: do you know James? Is the address correct? And informed that for customs clearance I should pay $1000. I refused. She replied: Please contact the sender. After he called himself. He told me that in secret he put 30000 pounds into the parcel and I should do my best to secure it. When I told that I would not do that, he got angry saying that I ruined his day. Started sending pictures and videos of all the items he send: hand bags, golden chains, iphone, laptop, his own picture near a plane, packed suitcase with all these things, but no air bill, no other relevant documents. I had to send his contact to blacklist. He started making plans for our happy life immediately, told that he sees me as the mother of his daughters. And send ready made love declarations typed in capital letters. In the end he always added I love you (putting my name). After that story he deleted his profile from Facebook.
Please be very careful.

Can you send a photo? Think I met the same one

Hi, a guy on Scrabble is claiming to be from Russia bit lived in NY. Orthopedic in Syria and working for UN. Divorced, has son in California . Antoh or Ahtoh is his name - can see straight through him - kept him chatting so I can report him.

Hi! I've been talking to a man lately woth similar story. He says he's an orthopedic surgeon who is about to leave to yemen for 6 weeks. He also has a son named owen and is widowed. We've facetimed a couple times and it's the same man from the pictures. The first time he was in his home trying to use chopsticks and the second time he was actually in the hospital. Would you mind exchanging pictures with me? I really think this might be the same man.

In Yemen? I know the same orthopedic surgeon with a beard. Widower with a son. She sent me pictures from hospital and in the orange uniform or another picture. But has not allowed videos. He is following many women. I found his pictures among scammers.

Where the same story...
With me he was Maarten Diederik.
He claims that he was living in the Netherlands . But was a orthopedisch chirurg in Yemen.
Have a daughter on a boarding school.

Hi! I think we're talking to the same person. He said he's an Opthalmologist working in Yemen for 2 years. He got 2 kids left in LA and living in a boarding school with their teacher. He sent me photos, same as the one in orange scrabsuit and some pictures with his kids. He said he can't do a videocall with me because it's prohibited but we had a videocall one time and he looks like as the same person in the picture he sent me but he was wearing N95 facemask because he said he's still on duty in the hospital.


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