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It’s Valentine’s Day and love is in the air. You may think you spend a lot on flowers or chocolate, but losing money in a romance scam would cost you even more. Last year, people reported losing $143 million to romance scams – a higher total than for any other type of scam reported to the FTC. And, according to a new FTC Data Spotlight, reports of romance scams are on the rise.

What do we mean by romance scams? We’re not talking about the person you thought was “the one” but ended up being a dud. We’re talking about people you meet online, who lavish you with attention … and then ask for money. Usually they want the money by wire transfer or gift card. They might claim they need it for a medical emergency or to come visit you. Then they take your money, but there’s no surgery and no trip.

Romance scammers are hard at work wooing people on dating apps and social media. They may lift photos to create an attractive profile or even steal the identity of a real person. Just like with real romances, it may take them some time to gain your trust, but the scammer’s payoff can be big. Last year, people reported a median loss of $2,600 from romance scams.

How can you avoid romance scams?

  • Never send money or gifts to a sweetheart you haven’t met in person.
  • Take it slowly. Ask questions and look for inconsistent answers. Check the person’s photo using your search engine’s “search by image” feature. If the same picture shows up with a different name, that’s a red flag.
  • Talk to someone about this new love interest. And pay attention if your friends or family are concerned.
  • If you suspect a romance scam, cut off contact right away. Then, report to the scam to the FTC at Notify the dating site where you met the scammer, too.

For more information, read Online Dating Scams or watch this video:


Scam Tags:  Romance Scams


What kind of work was he doing Dubai?

I am talking to a man who says he is a petroleum engineer woking in Dubai. Sent me 3 pictures. One with a small dog next to a table. Sound familiar to anyone? He has not asked for money yet. He called me and had a strong nigerian accent.

Sounds familiar but this petroleum engineer is working at the North Sea in Norway. One of his pictures has a small dog with himself wearing sunglasses and a cap. He also called and is quite soft spoken. He asked for money not long after he “went” to the North Sea. Be careful.

That sounds like a guy that is talking to me. He is a very handsome 50 yrs old white man from Pa. with a 18 yrs old son and he calls me his Queen and Baby a lot and he got mad at me when I questioned his profiles on facebook. He said that I was an idiot because people steal his image all of the time. he goes by Garry J Harrison, or Garry Harrison.

I’d like to ‘compare notes’
I think I’ve been caught by the same guy...

OMG. This is my story. His name is James Brooklyn. Damnit!!!!

There is this Richard Nicole from Auburn Indiana along with several others with same name place of birth and state. He found me on fb which alerted me from some dating app which I wasn't on. All dearie, honey love, trust trust. Was a petroleum engineer with bp. Fake contract in Nova Scotia =50 million. Wanted to get married. Lost his wallet and wanted me to buy 2 ebay cards copy code on back and down load it to him. Which I refused kept asking if I trust him please do it from your heart. I just how utterly stupid. He used this very good looking guy from a christian singles vip app. That guy has a romance pitch out on Facebook. This guy sounds African his language use make him so. I feel bad for the guy he used. I've several pictures of him that he down loaded. Well I've told him he is a scammer. He this I'm influenced by my friends . Whatevever but he keeps trying.

Hello everyone,first let me tell you that I had to learn a very painful lesson about online romance.first of all I was very story I had been talking to what I thought was a military man for a few years.not only was he a big liar but he stole my identity.the thing I think everyone needs to learn about online romance is if something seems to good to be me it is.and always go with your gut feeling.I tell you something else that I have learned and that is online scammers get upset with you very easily once they know that you won't let them use you anymore.

Hi Penny. I am talking to a military guy called Emmanuel McKee. Just wonder if it s same guy??

Exact same thing happened to me. I am concerned because he has my photo and information about my children. Please help. What should I do? How did you find out about the identity theft?

I've noticed from reading these messages that these scammers get irritated easily. I wish there was a page that would show everyone's photos who are scammers.

Many men are scammers in Cyprus careful Engineer Jeffery Lawrence cant even spell his name right .

Sounds like this guy iam chatting with a son wife passed away . Works as engineer in Cypress big a mall .Name is to be Albert Matthew ...Ya somethings sound found funny...same guys different names ...

I am working with an elderly lady who is planning on wiring a lot of money to this guy tomorrow. . I need to get some type of evidence to show her so she doesn't lose her money

I was scammed a few years ago and I'm still paying off that debt. Anyone that takes you to Hangouts is a scam insist they do a video call or Skype and have them hold up a sign with your name or having wave to you. Wben I mention that they all hang up and I lose them right away.

Have had several from Words with friends... told me I'm beautiful, all on offshore oil drilling rigs, was a widower, showed me family pics, all with pictures, once did a live video of himself walking around the rig so felt it was legit... $14, 500 later & now he has no way to pay off debt... others Drs. overseas with "no way to get $$) wanting help....

That has just happened to me. I was suspicious after a couple of days chatting. I realised before he asked for money that he was a scammer. He even called me and we spoke on the phone. His pictures were of a famous model whom I'd never heard of, as for the oil rig I had a live video, and yes it was very convincing.

Hi Elle, was this guys name Kelly Roberts by chance. He has a 16 year old son and his wife died ~ 10 years ago of Leukemia. Works as an engineer on an oil rig in Canada.

how long did it take before he asked for money? your situation (early compliments, widower, family pics, worked on oil rig) sounds exactly like what I am dealing with. can you advise what his ethnicity is? was he an engineer working in an oil rig in Italy?

My off shore lothario’s name is Gregg. He “loooves me” he has been looking for a woman like me his whole life. He wants to marry me and have babies with me. He has a gorgeous son who is 12 years old. He first needed money to fix his phone so we could talk. I was at work so I couldn’t. He was able to get his phone fixed. He does a side business as a Bit Coin investor. The man is gorgeous, can’t take it away from him. Last thing he asked was for me to open a bank account for his investors to send money because he can’t get money from where he is. I told him I couldn’t have a bank account because my ex husband was always taking my money from me. My gallant love is going to make my ex husband pay all he has done to me!!!! But honestly, I have one in Yemen too. And in Siria, and oh, one lives in NYC!!! But can only talk at night because of the nature of his job. He works at the UN!!!

Im texting with a man on oil rig, needs transport money, asking me to contact UN to give him leave off rig, asking $6,500usd.
Too good to be true, his spelling changes often, has a son emailing me, he talks strange for an american. I almost sent money. Too many unanswered questions
Cant take selfies, had me send google play card, then said used card, sent amazon card that was good. So I spent $100. Had me take blood oath to confirm our union,
Yes he blew up when I wouldn't trust him.
I often thought how many people are involved in this conversations. Using Andrew Peterson chemical engineer.
Im supposed to send the money tomorrow, I dont think so.

A blood oath ... something like.. "I swear on my life if I ever betray you against the will of my love, death will be my destination..." my thumb still hurts where I cut it.... that was about 6 days in, then asked for money today to release him from his contract. shameless.

Lane, This happened to me, meet on Craigslist April 2016, told me he was a Widower, worked as Chief Engineer and Operations Manager with Shell Oil on an oil rig in the AUK Oil field on the North Sea. He said his name was Richard Bell, home address Waldorf, MD, USA. Showed me pics of himself and grandchild. Unfortunately, it did not end well for me and I became a victim.

Ohhh... I had this guy ask me to download Hangouts and chat there. He hit on me very hard in that chat room. Hasn't asked for money, which of course I won't give me. But why do they all want to use Hangouts to chat, as opposed to where they initially saw you - Words or Instagram?

What was this guys name??

He wants to use Google hang out because it’s private. The joker I was communicating with Online would always tell me “go to Google hangouts” I always wondered why. If he has a Gmail address and is using Google hangouts , he could be a scammer . Will sweet talk you for a bit and then ask you for money. Most times the photo you see won’t really be him. My guy use the name Philip Ragnar. I found out he was a scammer. Then he claimed his name was Hanson Oversini from Nigeria. He asked me since he was truthful what I still be able to help him? A liar is a liar is a liar! Don’t be fooled by these clowns. Real love doesn’t cost money. And whatever happened to men taking care of women?

similar name of a person could we connect and you send me a picture

Hi I met a guy online through IG and his name s Leonard Williams .. he said he s a surgeon in Iraq with the UN mission whatever .. has a 10 yr old daughter and a single dad.. asked him where his daughter is right now and he said she s in boarding school... very romantic and only has sweet words to get you.. I only talked to him once but my friends told me this is a scam ... so I confronted him and he got upset.. video called him and he got upset!! Also he said that this an only child and his parents passed when he was 10 yrs old.... what a scammer

Hi, I think that I am talking to the same man that you talked to. He told me that he is a chemical engineer on a oil rig in the Gulf of Mexico. He said that his wife got killed in a car accident and that he was an only child and both of his parents are dead. His daughter is in a boarding school for girls in Canada. He is a smooth talker and according to his pictures is very nice looking. But after I started googling online, I asked him flat out what he was up to and he got angry and told me to stop looking stuff up and that I had ruined his day. The stuff he tells me about the rig is factual. I also met him on word with friends and he immediately directed me to Hangouts.

Another scammer, I see! He's a smooth talker, alright, who can't even spell his name properly: Williams Leonardo, my a...beware girls: he's an overseas' predator as well!

Sounds like my guy talking to him for 8 months. He is on oil rig also, has girl boarding school. His picture is of a very handsome model. I caught him on it. Says its complicated and can't send me pic of him for Confidentially reasons of his work. He gets angry easily when u say no to what he wants u to do. Tries to say u dont love him if u don't do it. Has costed me 5,000.
Claiming he will pay it back. Hasn't! He gets angry then says he wont pay it. Right now he is happy wants to be wirj me and marry me is trying to pay me back!!
Will see what happens!
I just want my money back and to move on.

You won’t get your money back he is a scammer and he will keep you hooked for as long as he can. Typical scammer story line. Next they will try and get you to launder money to get your 5K back. Block him.

Hi I would be very interested in talking to you as I am also in contact with someone who is from Ottawa but told me he is in Cyprus right now working.He toid me the job is completed but they are holding his check as something went wrong with registration of his construction company.
What name is he using? Did he involve his mother?
He said on the dating sit that he is widowed with a 15 year old son who lives in Scotland with his mother.

That's him! Mark Richard? Video chatted with him so picture matches

I am also in contact with a guy who said he had a son with a Scottish woman. He is using a London Number and he lives in Singapore. 56 years old, marketing specialist. I have his pictures with his 15 years old boy. He sounded like a Nigerian. When I told him the more you speak the more you sound like a Nigeria. I immediately switched to video calling. He interrupted the phone call. and blocked me !

can you send me a pic of him?

Omg the guy I talked to was going to Cyprus for construction. He was an electrician had a daughter the mother was deceased. He said he lived in nevada. Went by the name Daniel.

Did you send him money?

Hi Lou Lou.

That’s excactly what happen to me..please advice me how to get this the UK Police said they cannot do anything as the payments I made was international..Prague ,Budapest & Poland..

It sounds like I have this guy now. Can you tell me more about him? Did he address you as queen? Baby? Do you have his picture? Did you ever meet him? How did you find out he was African?

Yes my guy said his name was Brayden copper and was in Iran in the army first he said he was a lieutenant then when after 3 months he ask to send letter to U.N. so he can be with me on holiday my reply was I was to send money I never replied back so he begged for 2 says but he always called me his queen or honey

Please contact me

I'm thinking I'm being scammed by maybe same guy he calls me queen and baby supposedly he is in us milatry as mechanic has accent sweet talker but won't video call he is a widow his wife died of cancer and has 6 year old daughter but supposedly lives in Australia so needs money because he's is coming home to Australia to open up his mechanic business but his account is frozen and needs to pay taxes for his mechanic equipment that he's ordered from Turkey very good looking but has lots of tattoos any one got pictures of someone like this looks European

whats the guy’s name? I am chatting with one who calls me queen and babe
he calls himself andrew young

OMG, I also have been talking to someone from IG that uses queen and babe...

What was name

Is his name Dr. Lewis Presley? Is he an UN orthopedic surgeon Working in Kabul Afghanistan?

Same for me His name is Dr James Randy I’ve already been scammed

Hey Loulou, what name was he going by? He sounds like the same guy I was talking to.

Did you start working with the
FBI and EFCC yet? Do they require money to trace the scammer?


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