Technology tips for domestic violence and stalking victims

We love technology. So it’s disturbing when it’s used to threaten or harass people – especially domestic violence and stalking victims.  

With computers and mobile phones, abusers have more tools for stalking. They can install spyware to hack into your email, use Bluetooth or GPS to track your every move, even secretly turn on your device’s camera or microphone to watch and listen to you.

Online safety is important for everyone but for domestic violence victims, these tips may be particularly useful: 

  • Use strong passwords and change them frequently. Make sure you have passwords on your phone, computer and all online accounts. Keep your passwords private.
  • If you think someone may be monitoring you, then try to use a safer computer – one that the abuser does not have access to. It’s especially important to use a safer computer if you are researching an escape plan, new jobs or a place to live.
  • Change usernames and passwords of your online accounts on the safer computer. Then, don’t log into those accounts on any computer that you think is monitored.

Abusers may not stop at your computer. If you’re using a mobile phone, here are a few more things to consider:

  • Know where your phone is at all times. Malware, spyware and tracking apps can be installed in just a few minutes.
  • Check your phone’s settings. Bluetooth and GPS can be used to track you. A victim advocate can help strategize a specific tech safety plan for your situation.
  • If you think your phone is being monitored, get a new one. The safest thing is to get a new phone with an account that the abuser does not have access to. Remember to put a password on your new phone, then disable Bluetooth and GPS.

Additional information and resources on domestic violence are available through the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE. If you think you may be in danger right now, call 911.


Is there a way of knowing if your devices have been hacked?

Unfortunately, there is no good way to know for sure if your devices have been hacked. In fact, many stalking apps are specifically designed to be hidden and unrecognizable. That’s why the best advice is: if you think someone may be monitoring your device, then try to get a new one or use a safer one – one that the abuser does not have access to.

I think my phone has been hacked and my computer and my tvs he. are tbey even play songs for me on my smart tv and he listen to me through my tv and my computer Why I don't know

I need a victim advocate to help find a secure, safe place to live. I would like it to be in the town/neighborhood I have lived in for the past 5 years for a temporary plan. (I know a few wonderful families in the development I live in now.)Mostly know through teaching and previous jobs. I do not have current phone #'s anymore due to ID theft, work, other family stuff, etc. I thought I was following the guidelines of govt church, family. etc. to better myself and in help better my son to make his adolescent/young adult years easier and less confrontational. IT BACKFIRED ON ME. My son is a smart, responsible, hard working young man caught in the middle of a horrific divorce and will pay the price forever. It was my first marriage and I waited until I was financially secure to have a child. I love children and spent many years raising other family's children. For several summers I was a nanny to 9 children. I have taught in pre-schools, etc. I love my son and just want peace and honesty for him and our families. Chase is great.

Is it possible if your home have a renovation and required electrical wiring for new electrical outlets for appliances ,such as landline tel. outlets it can be hacked? And can be connected to a hackers
Computers remotely monitored,the home owner activities inside the house,

I tried to add number to do not call registry but was unable to do so because the call was placed from my own phone number. I know this has to be a scam and would like to report it. Please note that this is not the first call I have received from myself and know of others who have had the same exerience.

Sounds like someone is tapping into your phone line to call you from your own phone. And for them to do that they would have to either be some where in your house, out side your house up on the telephone pole or at the main telephone box that control all the phones in your area. I would contact the telephone company and have them invwestigate it. It could be one of their workers for them to have that knowledge. I know this because my father was a electrical engineer. And he taught me stuff like this.

Scammers can fake the caller ID information that you see on your phone. That's called caller ID spoofing, and new technology makes it very easy to do. The fraudulent telemarketer may want you to think the call is from your bank, or another place you've done business with. Sometimes, the telephone number may show up as "unknown" or "123456789."

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That's the fn truth I'm gonna be dead before he stops and we have proof. Apple AND VERIZON!! I have an op and he is destroying my life. Apple helped, Verizon helped, I got new routers and accounts it doesn't matter unless they stop and no one believes it or cares. Basically if this is your life you know that death will be the only stopping

he's been doing it for over 16 yrs, the audio recordings from my cell now replay for friends/fam, they think im crazy and i've never called them, the home phone the cell phone, every pc i use, every call i make, he interrupts them with a digital/human voice, frightens fam

Did he have to have possession of your phone in order to do this? Because 2 of my phone calls have been interrupted by a demonic sounding voice. One, I wasn't even near my home?

We've had a hacking that we have not been able to stop. Changing passwords adding more verification, didn't work. We got another new computer and router. Set passwords. Installed trusted security software. And this it seems only slows at best we believe it all started around 9 months ago. I think from the mobile device that received a virus and from there it spread. And in only a weeks time our memory was just about full. Also my husbands apple account began having activity not him. Other emails were created and services my husband never enabled with Apple, Yahoo and Google. I see some of what they are doing but still not positive. Seems like its social but we see micropayments and commerce sites. Im at a lose. All new everything and still it starts all over.

My ex is very tech savy and has access to my personal inforamation without my permission and knowledge. My personal computer has been doing weird stuff with information just disappearing as I try to view it, my curser being moved to a different part on the page, and files being open up or closed without my doing. I don't know how to get it stopped but I am tired of this blantant violation of privacy and harassment. My cell phone is no better. I have gotten a basic phone, one that does not have GPS and internet on it to hopefully have a more secure line, but I have come to realize that a hacker especially a motivated one, will stop at nothing to harass. Do you have any suggestions on how I can make my technology more secure. Financially, I can replace the phone, but not the labtop too quickly. Thank you for your assistance.

If your computer is acting up and you’re worried about malware, read this article with tips about how to detect malware and get rid of it. You can find more information about computer security at

My cellphone is being tapped by my next door neighbor and also he can see everything that goes on in my apartment, he doesn't mind letting me know these abilities he has on spying on me. The land lord knows exactly what's going on because he's in my neighbors apartment sometimes when the spying is going on, I hear them laughing about certain activities that goes on in my apt. I've called the police say they're going to talk with the neighbor, but nothing ever changes instead it gets worse.

If you think your phone is being monitored, get a new one. The safest thing is to get a new phone with an account that the abuser does not have access to. Remember to put a password on your new phone, then disable Bluetooth and GPS.

Check the settings on the phone you have now. A person could use Bluetooth or GPS to track you. Disable the Bluetooth and GPS. A victim advocate can help strategize a specific tech safety plan for your situation.

Some one has been stalking me for about 8. Months they hacked my computer and tvs tbey listen to everything I say in my home they even have a tracking on my phone and app so tbey know where I am I wrote a letter to tbe police department months ago they even listen to my phone calls and read my text I was told tbat it under investigaion but it is still going on I am not trying to cause any one trouble but I don't want to be stalked tbey even watch me I reallg don't know why someone would do all of this lleass check into it

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