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Image of cupid and heartNot everyone using online dating sites is looking for love. Scammers create fake online profiles using photos of other people — even stolen pictures of real military personnel. They profess their love quickly. And they tug at your heartstrings with made-up stories about how they need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Why all of the tricks? They’re looking to steal your money.

As if all that isn’t bad enough, romance scammers are now involving their victims in online bank fraud. Here’s how it works: The scammers set up dating profiles to meet potential victims. After they form a “relationship,” they come up with reasons to ask their love interest to set up a new bank account. The scammers transfer stolen money into the new account, and then tell their victims to wire the money out of the country. Victims think they’re just helping out their soulmate, never realizing they’re aiding and abetting a crime.  

Here are some warning signs that an online love interest might be a fake. They ask you to:

  • chat off of the dating site immediately, using personal email, text, or phone
  • wire money using Western Union or Money Gram
  • set up a new bank account

Did you know you can do an image search of your love interest’s photo in your favorite search engine? If you do an image search and the person’s photo appears under several different names, you’re probably dealing with a scammer. And if the person’s online profile disappears a few days after they meet you, that’s another tip-off.

Here’s the real deal: Don’t send money to someone you met online — for any reason. If your online sweetheart asks for money, you can expect it’s a scam.

Unfortunately, online dating scams are all too common. There may be tens of thousands of victims, and only a small fraction report it to the FTC. If this happens to you, please report it at — click on Scams and Rip-Offs, then select Romance Scams.

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i have come to realize that special time are better when share with good hearted people

Does he go by the name of Charles Luke??

Now a days I also meet a girl name Susan... She confessed her love with me and suddenly his brother got accident and she has not enough money.. she asked me for help so what I do now please help me.

That name Susan sounds familiar is her supposed to be Susan carolina

What name did this guy go by?
Was he Spanish Canadian , educated in Sweden live in Aussie. Talked about his mixed accent, Mum in canada. Architect stuck in Turkey with workers to pay, sent Canadian contract to you?

Same story different name and pics and situation. Mine was a us marine. Civil engineer updating marine base in irag. Needed money 2 come home bc he couldn't access his money from the banks ovee there. Then needed more 2 pay the workers. I wired money via moneygram 2 turkey. He uses pic off the web and changes his name but something is strangly familiar about everyone's story like its an m.o. or something

What was this guys name?

There are woman on there doing the same thing, wanting amazon cards for their phones. Had 3 try to scam me last week alone. Telling me they love me, can't live without. Blah blah blah...we all need to be vigilant.

I just came across your message some how but can you explain the ITunes thing better to me? I had some ITunes come out of my account and my wife said she didn’t know anything about it. When I questioned her about it , they quit coming out of my account. Please help , Michigan Boy!

I am a 62 year old male and I have been looking for someone to share my life with. Through a dating site I received a lot of likes from people with gmail addresses and they asked me to contact them on 'hangout', which I did.
I have seen them on video calls but can never seem to hear a voice..which concerns me. I have recently been asked to send cash via Western Union to Anaheim in the States, which I did. I then received a message to say that there was a technical error and that I should go and collect my cash from Western Union as it had not been collected and then send it on to Ghana. That is where I am right now.
I seriously want to believe what the lady all know what it's like...but deep down I know its a scam! when I call to talk to her, the phone is never answered. Another thing is that all these people somehow keep coming up with Ghana! I guess that must say a lot, but it's hard to accept especially when they ask you if you don't trust them...and even though you want to, you still know you should not.
Is there any way that you can avoid all this and know that you are speaking to a genuine person. I have been scammed before and it makes you into a hard person...which I don't like.
Dating sites can be very expensive..I am talking about from the male side. I don't know about the female costs..and it actually puts you off and with that finding your true love. Don't we all deserve that.
Anyway, thank you for your website. Guess I will just have to be hard and until I meet someone face to face I will never again trust them. So sad!

I had a man try to scam me. Said he was a widow and father of twin daughters age 17. Said he is an engineer who does contract work. I told him, repeatedly, that I wasn’t interested, wasn’t looking, have a full life. He convinced me to email with him, then phone calls and pictures for two months. Then came the request for money. I accused him and he said I am paranoid. It was very heartbreaking but luckily I sent nothing! Story over but my heart was broken.

Did he use the name Raymond LaFleur? Or say he worked in an oil rig? This guy sent me a pic of a really handsome guy with light eyes. I never sent money. I suspected him, did research, and found complaints from others online.

Has any one spoke to Terry Williams or Samuel Diego Or Andrew David They all have a child

How about Steven William

If your on WWF watch out if they ask you to go to hangouts. Eric Williams, Donaldchristhomas788, Smiles ,Graham (contractors on rigs lol) They really think everyone is stupid. Steve William didn't accept

How about Robert (Roby) helms

No but he is a scam!!
Make an image search on him and you will see all the fake names he has been using for years and all the scams on poor ladies.

I have talked to Terry Williams. Met him on facebook. Says he's an architect and a widow with one child going to school overseas

Question about the widower with the twin 17 year old daughters did he contact you on whats app. Did he text and say he owns a big home in New Jersey I'm curious because someone is reaching out to me but the daughters are younger he is a computer programmer a software analyst. Wife died giving birth to twins. Asks to email and texts at first then talks on phone. Pours it on thick about loving you. Then asks you to purchase Amazon cards and iTunes cards for the children for their birthday because his bank card declined and when he contact accountant his bank account under review.

I’m so sorry to hear about your experience. I too am so unhappy. It is just as expensive for women as men. I’m not out a lot of money yet but I do still have my scammer reaching out asking for money everyday. He speaks lovely to me and it is hard to say no, I’m sure you know what I mean. I’m glad l can come here and read stories of people who are experiencing love with the wrong partners. I hope it get better for you soon and I can let go of my scammer. Thank you for sharing

They play with our emotions and many times they will work for 6 to 10 months being your “friend”. Just never ever send them money and especially never give them bank account information. One man told me he was an engineer and had all types of homes and such yet he wanted me to buy a “US” iTunes card for him. I told him to wire ME the money and I would do it. Guess what... he didn’t do it. LOL
Use every advantage you can think of to save yourself the grief later. If your gut says it’s a is!

Not all these people are scammers

If they not scammer then what are they doing by pretending to have money problem and making you feel guilty, this is their stay at home working, business, scamming of people for a living, if they can money out of any one is good enough for them, if not they just move on to another person, and another, til they get some money or more. To me all these people are scammer.

My experience is similar. Told me he needs a document so he can contact me without getting into trouble. Said he lives in California and deployed till October, then changed it to November a few days later. Sent pictures, even one of a wound received. Says he's a Marine. I have a name and what he says is a birthday. But can find no other information anywhere about this person. I'm not out any money but need to know if he is legit. I have no problem with blocking a scammer.

Beware the name Luke Reymond on words with Friends!! He got to me with all of his charm. A real romantic scammer.

This man you spoke of, does he say his wife passed away and he has 2 kids in boarding school??

It's very hard to trust someone on a dating site cause I talk to a gentleman for a year and told me that he loved me and wanted to marry me then started asking for money and yes I did send him money for his son a quiet of few times until I put a total stop to it I mean we work hard for our money and we have to survive on what we have it's not a easy world out there

Do you know this persons name
My mum is being scammed and she’s fell hook line and sinker for it
It sounds the same as yours

I also recently lost $1,500 to this Kenyan guy who I had been talking to for quite some months. He was so convincing and after a couple of months, he came up with a story of him mum falling sick, and he is the only child born of a single mother bla bla bla. He said he's also a farmer and had recently used up all the money he had for the wheat planting season. He was however waiting for a cheque to come through from his sale of milk which he would use to refund me and pay his workers etc. It was also approaching end month so he would be getting his salary too. I was out of Kenya working so I just wired him the cash directly from my bank account. When the day of repaying arrived, he told me he is in the bank but afterwards put off his phone and deleted whatsapp for a whole weekend. He came back and said how sorry he was, i.e was caught up in something bla bla...we continued talking for a month but he avoided a face to face one time though I pressured him to show me his face, which he did. He continued asking for money for other unnamed emergencies but once he realised am not sending him anymore, he said bye and that he wished me well. I have since reported this to the Kenyan authorities, they know his location, I hope they get to arrest him, so that he does not continue scamming other women online while all along thinking he can always get away with it. Am trying to move on too.

By any chance was his name Morris Mchawia? Or Jackson Desmond Sihuli?

Got Scammed. youre not alone. Mine was huge money taken away from me. Im lost but thanks that I have God with me. HE is more than enough to start all over again .God bless

I gave up all my savings and retirement - communication had been going on for 1 year. I am bankrupt, devastated and ashamed

I did the exact thing as you, all lost, he provide me fake bank accounts and so charming,I wish I had asked others, I am angry now, still cannot tell my family, these guys make this a living, and we are sincere and honest, I know Karma will be their fate.

I understand you completely I have one with me I try to believe him because he confessed 1 year ago. It sounds good. But I don't know if it is real
Go ahead and be happy.

I have been with one for more than 4 years was 1/1/2 years wen he confessed he was one.I was close to find out .by then only 7,000:I had lost I no the family,and soon next month to go.he promissed to stop as that was my condition to help him.but now I read from others has Charles really stopped or have I been duped again .before he was more attendive ,from 4 calls drooped to one call.from 7/9 messages to two per day .my instenct is telling me im right.

Shy girl, I was on a dating site about two weeks ago, n this nice looking man named Charles Andrew asked me to go to hangouts. so I did we started talking, he told me all this mussy stuff everyday, can't live without me. then one day he told me that his internet connection was going to be disrubted and asked me to send him 200.00. he says he's in Syria right now, n will be home in august. I never sent him anything, I called him out bout scamming me. n he magically diapeared.

Curious to know if you have picture I got contacted by Charles Andrew on Tindr

Yeah have you got a picture sounds similar to someone I’ve been talking to

I have been scammed by about 26 different me over the past 5 yrs.Right now one man is a surgeon named Harrison John. He is supposed to retire on December 1st. He is supposed to be in Syria. He says he has a castle in Los Angeles and ithe is a compound.Until today,he has been the sweetest person in my world.
But today he wanted me to send a email to his accountant and say that I was his wife and send me his money.But they sent a email back to me,saying that I would have to come to their company and get a form and it would cost me 850 dollars to get the form.I draw a small social security check once a month and I don't have any money. And I don't know where the office is located. I told him that I had tried and he would have to send them the email. That was this morning and I haven't heard from him since.

Anyone know Charles Luke?

I know Charles Luke, he is in Turkey, gem stone buyer/ seller. Professes undying love but wants money

Wow I’m talking right now to “Sam” who stated he was here in California, a gem stone dealer , and now he’s in turkey making the deal. He hasn’t asked for money yet but has asked me to do transfer for him. Of course I said no I wouldn’t do it.

The deal will go bad, and he will need money. Does he have a website?

I bet charles and Sam are one in the same. Does he have a website, he will show you his bank, he will show you the shipping details but he will take your money, Charles scammed me out of a lot of money. Does he have an accent and love you already? His wife died some years ago?

Holy cow! I met a guy named Ivan Kyle or Ivan Herman Kyle on Plenty of Fish. He claimed to be a widow with a 3 year old son. He went to South Africa on July 30 to buy rough diamonds. Had trouble logging into his bank account, asked me to log on for him and I saw a sizable amount of money. Next day says he has a traveler's check, no cash, and he has to fly to Capetown to cash it. Then he asked for money for the flight. I blocked him and reported him, but I wonder if it's the same guy!

Omg! I met Ivan Peter his wife died 4 years ago and he had a son 7 years old. How he look like?

Can anyone give me updated info on Charles Luke . Supposed to be a gem buyer stuck in Turkey.

Still says he’s in Turkey, he is a liar, he really has a good scam going. We all need to alert the banks and go after his partner here

You wouldn’t happen to have a picture? I have been talking to “Mark” a gemologist who is supposedly in Turkey mining a rare gem. Barely know each other. He dropped his laptop and asked if I would buy one and send to him. Of course, he would pay back every penny. Said no and asked if he was trying to pull a scam. He accused me of assaulting his character. Has a Apex NC phone number but says he moved to KC about eight months ago.

I was talking to same guy only his name was Nik. He did ask me for money. He got robbed while making one of those deals in UK


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