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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: • Federal Bureau of Investigation: Learn more at and

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

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Daniel from Alabama ?

A guy from Dallas Texas, contacted me on FB and said he is in love with me. Self Employed, Good Looking, Widower .
British Accent, recently he is in Malaysia for a project and he has no access to his bank .
He needs money to send to his daughter who is in a hostel in California.
Something is fishy.
How does your guy looks like

Hello Poor Mom,

I’ve been talking to my guy since September as well. Meet him on FB too. He to is from Dallas Tx. and is a widower. However, he tells me he has a 15 yr old son. A caregiver is watching him while he is offshore in the Gulf of Mexico. He is very good looking with green/hazel eyes. Very sexy looking. Also says he loves me and wants to marry me. Wish we could share pictures and compare.

I meet a doctor suppose to be in Syria on Facebook then he wanted to go to hangouts to talk. Says he has 14 year boy with nanny at boarding school. Doesn’t have access to his bank account . Wants steam cards to help with internet access. But he lives in Houston Texas he said. His name was Chris DC

Met someone online also on Facebook Dating, he's from Houston Texas working in Shanghai China project manager installation of 5G in Shanghai, Has a 10 year old son and his mom only of his family Son and mom have a nanny and son has a driver. Had a problem to his bank account and is asking me to pay $4000 to get materials from Customs. Everything seemed good after many weeks of chatting, he's pressuring me for 8 days now for the money. His name is Fraser Christopher (not real name) yet he sent me ID cards to prove who he was. How dishonest, never sent him money...

Same with me... man told me he's a widower lost his wife, met him on Facebook dating. He says he's from Dallas Tx but bought house in Houston. Fell in love with me short period of time and has asked me and pressuring me for $4000 to pay customs he's in Shanghai China. Makes me feel guilty as I will not give him money, has dual citizenship German and American.

We don’t have hostels in California. The only reason I know what the are is from movies. I was born and raised in Los Angeles, my parents have been here since the 50’s and my grandparents even longer. We have hotels and air bnb’s but the odds of her being in a hostel here are slim to none. Americans aren’t familiar with hostel’s , they aren’t customary here like they are in Europe.

Can't send picture but sounds like the guy my sister is being scammed by. She won't believe it because he said he loves her and wants to marry her. She sent him money on a Steam card. He is having a friend send her a letter then he will tell her what to do with what's inside the letter.

Was his name David Alex from Canada?

Hi that sounds like the same guy that has been calling me we met on TickTock and he’s a doctor from you in he’s from United States but he said he’s out there working and he try to get me to send him money for a package so he can his contents to me We he met me oh man and wanted me to have him and his son in my life I want to get married and settle down and he put money in my prepaid account and asked me to send it back to him

I got one from denmark working in sweden...says has house in nc..sent him 600.00 i am.done..

Oh boy...our stories are not exactly the same but the guy I'm talking to uses the last name Ambrose. Hopefully you see this and get in touch ASAP. I have several pics from him. I'm so sorry this happened to you. No one deserves to have their heart or wallets tampered with in this way.

Do you still have the pictures of the guy

I am talking to a man named Gavin Michael. Met him on words with friends2. Now we are on hangouts. Said hes been divorced 6 years and has a 12 yo son. Living in Los Angeles. Self employed petro chemical engineer who left for Turkey on a contract. First his equipment being shipped from China was to go to Ankara, but was rerouted past Cyprus. Cyprus customs wanted 50,000 to release equipment. Now the equipment is broken down and wants 170,000 to repair and get machine back so can finish 1st phase to collect 40% of contract money. Says he will come back to the states to get his money and meet me for a happy everlasting life together. Plans to hire a foreman to run the rest of the job. Says cannot take pictures.

I met Mark Avey Ragan.
Claims he has a house in austin. Hangout phone call getting to know him, his wife dies 3 1/2 years ago and his 13 year old son is in boarding school in Germany. Staes he has a contract with UN as architect.
When I asked him about Austin, he know nothing about it. And asked me for a gift card. Amazon or steam.
What on earth makes people want to hurt others?! I just dont get it.

The man contacting me on Facebook says he is a contractor on a Marine drilling rig. Claims to be from Austin, TX. He is white, claims to be 63 yrs. old. Handsome man. Has white mustache and a white goatee. Claims to have a 14 year old son. Sound familiar to anyone?

I have a similar guy named Baldwin Jäger. Anyone knows him?

I just got done W guy supposedly working on oil rig in Gulf of Mexico. Says he’s private contractor has run out of money2 pay4 repairs. Can’t get into his savings acct because no good WiFi connection in the ocean. Supposed2 B living in Madison,WI, wife died of Breast Cancer, had son Going2 college in New York. I wasn’t even ready2 date then found myself I n FB dating site one night&started it. I’m out almost $2,000. I was vulnerable because lost my mom end of Nov.2020, just lost my best friend a week ago. He knows all this. I feel so hurt&so Stupid

Do you have any photos of him to describe him? All of these latest scammers sounds like one in the same with some facts repeated to us women

Don’t trust him. I have similar one, his equipment got held up by customs. Met on Words with Friends. Self employed, widowed 5 yrs, 12 yr old son, engineer got a contract. His equipment needs to be transferred from Custom seaport to oil rig. I told him he drew a dud this time, I don’t have money, bet on the wrong horse when he chose who to chat with.

I also met someone who is in turkey and needs money to repair machines. He is project manager at a construction site in Ankara. goes by the name Daren Marc miller Walsh. Can we exchange photos?

Same story, same location, same company, different name. Pictures galore of a handsome man. Found the pics online he stole from Instagram and used. Would be happy to exchange photos. Just do not know how to do it

I think if we share pics that's a great thing.. maybe admin on here can advise on best way of doing this

I agree. This would be extremely helpful to victims and potential victims and criminal investigators.

The guy I've been talking to is call Byron John Smith saying he needs Google cards. Has also said equipment stuck overseas. Says he has a son called Mark who is Ten & lives with his mum in Ireland. Say's he loves me

I met a man on Tinder named Richard Henderson. He said equipment broke down in the same location. Could I see a picture of him? We’ve been talking almost 3 months and just asked for money.

Hi does your guy have a beard? Sounds familiar project stuck due to machinery broke asking for money to help out. Caught on. He uses voice over never answers phone. These guys know what they are doing different names, different phone numbers I put the pieces together. Were done ladies he careful, they are charming. I almost fell. They make u feel guilty if you don't send money

Bald head with a Beard ? Mine says he is in Africa working for WHO building Covid hospitals

This sounds exactly what I have heard From Evan... he is on a oil rig his machine broke down and needs 300,000 to fix to finish his contract.

Do you have pictures of him?

Yes have pictures

My intro to online dating was a scam that cost me $86,240. A civil engineer needing equipment released, then iTunes cards, then $500,00 because a child died from playing near his equipment and that money was for a settlement to the parents. I said I couldn’t afford that, he said they’d settle for $250,000. I was looking into mortgaging my home. I reported my loss to the local police AND FBI. Nothing they could do because I willingly gave the $86,240. I met him on POF and his name is Gary James. I’ve seen him on POF 3 more times up until yesterday and reported him to POF for the 4th time. I’ve only met scammers on various dating sites but now I’m very savvy and as soon as they ask for anything, I drop them. All of them since Gary have been reported on these sites. The latest scam was yesterday! All the other scammers names: David Alastor, Matt Ralph. There have been 4 others but can’t keep track of their names. Some engineers of some sort and two investment managers

can I know what he usually tells you when calls you? Does he say he will really love you till the end of his hearts's desire?

Did he send you pictures? Can you describe him?

Yes I have pictures of him and daughter he has video called several times. It’s him don’t know what his real name is

Sage Gregory. Scotland, graduate of Edinburgh University. Wife died. Daughter, Mitchell in boarding school. Geological Explorer with contract for Exxon Mobile in Campos Basin, Brazil oil rig. Contract almost up. Machinery broke can't fulfill contract. Needs money now. Nice looking man in pictures. He's not Scottish. He is Spanish speaking.

Very similar to my story.
Civil Engineer
14 year old daughter
Shared pics with me
Speaks good English with Accent
Please share his pic

Please I need to see photos of the guy you are talking about, I have a man that I have fallen for since August have been texting off facebook, says hes an engineer with a 14 year old daugher, very handsome. Over five or so months my heart is involved, he says he is in Alaska working on a project and cant get into his account because of a security issue. He had me send him 2 itunes cards first for $100 then $200. Then he wants me to send money to help pay for shipping of a piece of equipment coming out of Turkey, I told him no. We are suppose to meet this Friday, now he is asking me to send money to help pay for a funeral of a friend. How can I see photos of who you are talking about?

You got pictures of this man?

Does he have beautiful gray hair? Daughter has like auburn/red hair?

Hi sounds like the same guy I'm talking to any picture would help

Is the picture taken in a car

The guy I’m texting now is a contractor on an oil rig???? Good looking with name Terry Bristol. Norwegian, so he says! Dark hair graying on the sides. He says he’s 65 and divorced for four years. Very athletic! Not ask me for money yet! I’m very cautious but love the dialogue!!!

Be very careful , suddenly he will have an accident , he is so sweet and will ask for money , I talked to him for about a month then he asked for money
So good looking I went to catfish and the pictures were from a Italian actor

This clown sent me a pic too of an Italian dude with a brown shirt on sitting on a couch

Same story I’m getting but not Germany he is on the Gulf his machine broke needs 300,000.00 to get it fixed to finish his contract. I had to laugh it was so crazy!!!!

I believe michael paulson (michael m. On LinkedIn) might be the same guy...from norway, lives in ca. With daughter living with his mom. Wife died years ago in car accident.
He went to alaska on contract for $850 K but then there was an explosion with people getting hurt and needed money to replace a machine that burned in accident and cant leave alaska unless he can pay $45k for damages. Once he pays he will get paid for the contract....So he wants money to come home to you, the love of his life.

Yes yes I’ve experienced this note I have been sent a personal check and have to go to the bank to check if it’s real because I don’t think it’s real it’s probably part of another scam

Hi ladies,I think thus is happening to me.thus man is in Scotland on an oil rig and has been chatting now for a while I think he has taken someone profile..thus man is very nice looking age 50 a son 3yrs has been separated for three yrs and now needs money to fix machine his contract will end in December and will repay me then or any one I can borrow it from..talks to me morning noon and night...but I have not sent money..and will not told him I don't have it...say he can't access his accounts...anyone else been contacted by Dutton Lucky.. can't find him on fb...please let me know if you have as I feel it's a scam to.. so dissapionted to.. in myself for falling for this.

He’s a scam .


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