Has an online love interest asked you for money?

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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: ftc.gov/complaint • Federal Bureau of Investigation: ic3.gov. Learn more at ftc.gov/imposters and aba.com/engagement

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

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I too had the same situation with my supposed man. He said he was from NY and ee were talking 2 months when he said he got the contract deal to mine for gold and diamonds in Dubai. A month later, he gave me the good news of recieving his pay for the job and the vehicle that came with the contract. He claims he was sending his pay in a briefcase hidden in the vehicle. Next thing I knew, I was getting emails from Asian Global Services for 1000.00 because I did not tell them there was cash in the car. Briefcase supposedly had 900k in it. Then they send another email stating I was going to jail for money laundering. Supposedly the vehicle and money was being held in Italian customs and another email came stating I had to pay 5k if I wanted the vehicle and money shipped to me. The whole time I am in contact with my man, Christopher Anton Raymond (whose name is not real), and he begs me to pay the money because he now was arrested for money laundering too. I told him to get lost. He is on KIK, keeps contacting me and says when he gets home, I will see he is not fake and I will regret treating him this way. I have pics of him too and gave them and all his info he gave me, to my son (who is a police officer) to research him. There was nothing. Chris gave me all fake info including a fake SS #, birthdate, telephone #, fake parents name and all. Then he has the nerve to call me annoting cause I call him on everything. What a scammer.

I too just ended a "love relationship" recently. Also felt heartbroken because I felt that he really was sincere and being honest. Then things just didn't start adding up right, and when I would question it, I rarely got an answer. If I did get an answer, the question was reverted back to me. This was over roughly 13 months. I lost just about everything I owned, family and friends were trying to tell me, but I didn't listen. Wish now I would have, and I wouldn't be looking for a place to live now, or having to look into bankruptcy because I have no money to my name. So, I know exactly how you feel because I to thought everything he told me was real, guess since mine is still so fresh, I still have a little part of me that believes he had been telling me at least some truth.

I have a friend i feel is being scammed. He has not asked for money as if yet. Question how soon before he asked for money? And what if anything could have convinced you he was a fake? Im trying to save her heartache and more but nothing works

I had a Wilson Moore also. Met him on Words With Friends. I don’t remember his story but I do remember his name. He got really mad when I told him he was a scammer. Lol. Glad your good.

I know the real identity of this man. HE wasted 2.5yrs of my life and totally underestimated my intelligence and therefore allowed me closer than any other victim to date. The man you are talking about has countless profiles on every online platform you can think of all to scam women globally. The photos u have are not him but stolen. The name he gave is one i know of that he uses. He needs to be jailed. Hes been doing this for 20yrs uncaught.

Just like me i know this “love” scammer thru fb because two of his friend is my previous classmate in high sch. After chatting in FB messenger he asked me if i have whatsapp then we start chatting his name is Miller Kilven Johnson born in US and living in Chicago. Last week his telling me he need money to buy new laptap as he need that to apply for a new job as presently he is working in bitcoin and he is not happy with his job so he wants to apply for another job. he is very handsome he is a good talker, romantic, handsome, with 6 yr old daughter name Lisa living in his step father brother in California. His dad US Army died when he was 6 years old and his Mom married to another guy. She has sister living in Texas. We are chatting to whats app everyday and he is calling me his wife as he told that her ex wife is a Singaporian female who got an affair with his best friend that causes the seperation. Today he ask me again money to buy cellpone he told me that he wants a remembrance to me. I refused to his request he even send me bank acct number where i will send the money to him. By the way he wants also to talk to me in skype and the account that he send me is for the arabic guy brahim Aziz living in Egypt. . He ask my home address and my mobile number even my email and he even grab all my photos in fb and make as collage together with his picture and make as profile picture in whats app for me to believe that he is not fake and he is sincere to me. today he ask me money. But i didn't send money to him. hoping we can share his photo. Anyway hope that anybody here have same story with me. Although i didn't probe yet if he is a scam. What i'm afraid is maybe he will used my name or picture in a fraud transaction. what i will do. Thank you.

I met someone named Ukay Amaogu from NIgeria said those same words to me. I felt just like your description. But no dont send money and block its a scam for sure. It needsto stop some how. Im sorry

I met a man on Facebook that claimed to be Walton Oliver working in the UK from florida.had his life savings in a security company that was closing down and he needed someone to get it and keep it till he got got home but the agent that was delivering it got caught by us customs.he called me wife.and was coming home to me and he loved and missed me so much.he got about 18000.00 from me before I woke up. He can't come home now because one of his workers messed up on the job and he has to pay for it .don't have the money.

Do you have a photo? Because this could be the same guy asking my bestfriend for money.

Oh my gosh!
My coworker is talking to this gentleman I think! Down to the nanny, daughter,ect!! He is in the Army, uses 2 first names...goes by Louis. He changed his story around slightly, but this is it. Says he lives in Georgetown, DC. Ex wife is horrible person, parents are dead. She sent me an an message
"Hi sweetness! How are you doing? Hope your day wasn't too hectic like mine. I'm sure you're getting ready to shutdown and go walk the dogs and possibly share some sweetness with me.

I just turned in not quite long after the tasking day. I will freshen up and get some good rest. Was your day productive? Did you miss me? Smile.
Please let me know how your day went, Ok? Know that you're in my thoughts and I love you loads. "

Try Lopez Wilson, a Gregory Wilson Lopez w/son named Kelvin in Syria on peace-mission in the Navy Army! Lol. Wanted 500.00 to turn iPhone to talk on. Even has pictures of a man in American navy uniform.

How do you do a photo test?

I too, would like to know how to use the image search to identify a scammer

same here would like to now how to identify a pic scammer

Andie long wood , Andy Longwood, Craig , Scott Donald. Are they Scamers?

Me too, how do I photo search. Pls advise

You can go to YouTube and search "Google reverse image search"
Complete instructions.
I found out profile pictures were stolen. Names didn't match pictures. Scammers use same stolen photos and multiple names. I feel sorry for people whose photos have and are being stolen.

how to do picture or image test

Ladies if you happen to hear or meet a man calling himself Jason Miller. He is a total crook. He wants your information. if he sends you an email with an attachment do not open it. It is a keystroke virus. He got all of my information and ended up costing me over $10K.

Some guy named CLARK WILFORD is trying the same thing....except he says he has a daughter in boarding school....he says he is a marine welder in Germany at first he wanted an iTunes card so he couls renew his app....wth
I.sent him.NO money
Now he is claiming he needs $3000.00 to get his machines off the ship to.finish his contract. I.told him I.am.not a bank DELETE!!!!

This guy I was texting is something similar to yours but uses a different name,and he says he has a teenage son,who lost his mother to cancer, has not asked for any money though,not yet, did this guy let you text his child which is probably him .my guy says his nails Steven Robinson,and his son is Eric...can you see if he uses the named I mentioned....

Same story different name: Kelvin Williams, son Heyford

Just go on Facebook. You don’t have to find them they find you. Then they get you off Facebook and have you go to Hangouts. From there they want to text your cell phone number. First time the guy asked for money he wanted me to wire money to a bank down in Florida. Gave all the information so I called the bank and spoke to a bank officer. She asked questions and said not to send the money unless I had met the person on the account in person. She also let me know I was being Scam. I did not send the money. Now he is really pressuring me into sending him 2 iTunes cards for $100 each. He told me not to tell anyone about us. I am stupid but not that stupid. He goes by the name of James Antonio.

Mine just asked me last night for iTunes cards. I said no but the light bulb went off when he did. I didn't react on the text just said broke. Hoping to end things quickly or find this sucker.

I was scammed by someone that says he is dwayne collins, an engineer working on an off shore oil drill off the coast of southern ca. Has photographs of himself with a lovely 11 yr old daughter, supposidly in a boarding school in Austria. He asked for $$ twice & a street address. Smooth talker, could be a nigerian scammer, terrible english !!

so, what do we do?

I am concerned about my friend who met someone on Instagram 6 weeks ago. He is from Scandinavia ? and he too is an off shore engineer in California. He has given her access to a bank account and she is doing some smalltransactions for him. He has just asked her for some money to buy some equipment which he will pay back when imminent funds come in....$20,000! He says he loves her, is spiritual, sending her roses etc. Any detail you know that would convince her he is a scammer would be great. Thank you!

You could explain that some scammers use people to help them transfer stolen money. They meet people online, create a relationship, and ask their new sweetheart to user use her own bank account, or the scammers account, to receive and transfer money.


If you do this for a scammer, your name is on the bank account and on the money transfer forms. If you get involved with one of these schemes, you could lose money and personal information, and you could get into legal trouble.


Read more about online dating scams.

May be just a coincidence, but when you said Scandinavia, it perked my ears up. I met a guy Instagram 5-6 weeks ago who says he compared his accent to Scandinavian. Told me he was born in Norway, then moved to Chicago with late wife. Now, has 10 year old son and mum moved back to help care for him since he is now deployed in Afghanistan. Seemed very very believable. Each time we spoke on the phone, I was able to understand him fairly well. Except, the accent sounded more African or Nigerian. Then after 5 weeks, he asked for money to help him with paperwork to not be deployed to Syria. "Thats a suicide mission, I'll never go." "I have my son" "And, my wonderful new lady to meet." Can you help me please as with all the signal blockers here, I can not access my account". Will you help me? Ughh...immediate redflag. Let him ask me for a few days to see if this was more about money and it was...
Hope this helps.

I was just scammed by a man calling himself Austin Hansen. Met on dating site, said he just arrived from Australia, and was working on a oil rig in Gulf of Mexico for 8 weeks. Claimed to be a widow, with a 10 year old daughter Sarah who needed a mother figure. Very smooth talker, had Australian accent, professed his love quickly, claimed they were not allowed to use Skype or FaceTime on the rigs, but was able to talk on phone morning and night. Sent many pictures of an attractive man and daughter. Wanted me to help him find a house to buy quickly, sent me fake bank info showing he had 3 million in bank, but the account was frozen. His mother needed an emergency colonoscopy and wanted me to send him $4,000. This man was very intelligent, well spoken, and very good actor. Would cry when he told me of his wife dying of cancer and daughter not having a mother.

Sounds similar to a my story except his daughter was 12 and needed a min in her life. The name my person went by was John Wilson. Meet on messenger they him contacting me and soon started asking for money for several different purposes. Every time is tell him no, be wouldn't talk for couple faster than come back and start all over again with all the nice chatter than hit again for money. In all total 6 different needs for the money for a total of several several thousand dollars. From cash in red target card to money sent thru CVS to iTunes cards. Stir clear. I have

Lots of this feed is actually 1 man. I know his real identity. He needs jail.

I am being scammed by this same exact person. Same name, same daughter, same everything!
So sad that people are capable of this sort of thing.

My mother in law is being scammed but she won’t believe us that he is a scammer he has scammed a lot of money we keep trying to tell her he is not coming. He told her he was from US had to go to Mexico and is trying to get back to US and needs papers and plane tickets for him and his 2 children. I reported it to FTC but they did not contact me back. I’m talking about almost $9000 he has scammed her. She say I just need to send the last of it and it will be done. We just don’t know what to do. She neglects herself for this person that don’t give a damn about her.

I would not go for any type of date unless I knew them personally and for a long time.As far as money goes just the word money or deal helps me ignore them.

Many names Joy Abdel, Joy Baby Abdel, Marcusse Diaby, Bah Hulaimatu, Charly Choco Balde , Islanda Frislene etc , That Girl told me lie want my help and I trusted her, when my fathere was alive he deposited 6.7 million Dollars, Transfer this money. She gave me Fake bank papers, Fake Affidavit and power of attorney. I have no idea about scamme, My Reference number 88xxxxxx, I have lot of prove, Please save my money. I have no hope without you.

I think I am in contact with the same lady please can you send me her photo I try to compare, please this will be of great help to me

You don't start a relationship by asking for money

The man who contacted me through a chat website, did not immediately ask for money. They are very good at what they do and very charming and convincing. The man I just found out scammed me, was using photos from an Army Vets FB back claiming to be him and stationed in Syria. I found out by accident that he's doing this to several women. I have since sent messages to everyone on his "friends" list for that chat site warning them he is a scammer and NOT a true military Vet.

What name did he use? I might have fallen for the same guy. But I haven't given him info like that.

Can someone please give me a name? I believe this is happening to me right now!

A guy by the name of Malhoun Baxter, in Syria trying to get home asked me to marry him after meeting him on Facebook . Sent iTunes cards for 50 dollars, but he was asking for a couple of hundred. He talks like he is real but I know he is not real. He says all the right things and wants me to help him raise his two children.but you only given 7 calendar days to pay 4,200.00 with an extension of 5 working days. He is a white male believe to be in his 40's, bald, profile pic wearing grey t-shirt, navy blue pants background paperwork on wall looks like he sitting at a desk leaning over. He is very charming and is a smooth talker.

What name did he use?

I have been talking to a guy who calls himself Justin Halls d says he’s in the Royal Navy, he has been sent to Nigeria and says he can’t use his debit card and can’t buy food or WiFi do could I send him £300 paid into his mother’s account!!! This has scam written all over it.

Does anyone know of man in Damascus Syria name Dennis Patterson or Peterson

I just went through a similar situation through Instagram. His "name"_Andy_Burns338 and said he was in the military in Syria & a medic. He had an 8 yr old daughter Anna. He was from Australia but lived in CA. He gave me some story about a sad upbringing and not having anyone to talk to. He said he was 38 and turned 39 May 11. His daughter had the "same" birthdate. She was being raised by a nun in the states but when I asked certain questions he didn't answer. He had no parents as they left him on Church steps so he was raised by a priest. I fell for it. I told him personal stuff. I was so naive as I was at a low point in my life. I was excited someone made me feel good about myself. He sent me pics. He was very handsome. He called me and his accent DID NOT SOUND Australian OR American. His English when he typed was odd. He wouldn't tell me where he went to school to be a doctor. When he asked me for $$ for his birthday and then again for a card to send him to be able to call me whenever he wanted I told 2 friends who set me straight. I reported him to Instagram and blocked him. He got me to get the Hangouts app which I have since deleted but he has both of my gmail addresses. I blocked him from there also. Thank God I didn't send him $$. Please let me know if this sounds like him.

That’s true, I that I scammed by a girl whom I met on Craigslist

Very helpful. I never thought of scammers using online dating services.

They do. That's how this man got me. He was using a chat site called WireClub. He was very "charming" and convincing. Knew all the right things to say. Claimed to be in the military in Syria and was using photos of a real Army Vet.

A guy name Alistair juggins from Dallas Tx an engineer requested me in Instagram, I thought that was someone from one of our churches around the country. I asked if he knows me and he said no, but that he would like to know me, he had a verse from the Bible so I thought that he was a real Christian. We text through instagram maybe for 2days he asked me where I lived and my age, we talk about the Bible he also said that he attended first baptist church in Dallas. he started to call me honey, love, angel, it was so weird because I never chat with an estranger . he told me he was widowed and had a son 11 years old that lives with his Nannie because of his job. He didn’t asked for money but he was saying to pray for us like for a relationship. I looked his name on public record and his name only comes in Instagram, also he only have women on his followers and I checked that he has another account with alistair_juggin. I didn’t give him my name or where I live , very sad that people try to steal the money but also play with other people feeling. He was super charming, and did not have a picture with his son.


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