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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: • Federal Bureau of Investigation: Learn more at and

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

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Sounds like the guy I met on words with friends. I've talked to him twice supposedly from Germany...No German accent. I could hardly understand him. His wife died in a car accident, but it was to painful to talk about. 12 year old daughter started Texting me asking for itunes card. It was all on hangouts. Deleted his Words acct. How can we exchange photos of this guy. He's waiting for me to Western Union him money for a plane ticket. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN. Susanna I see your post was from Nov 17, 2018. I don't know if you check back with this site. I've messaged another lady with the same story. Thanks

This sound like a similar story. Wife killed by drunk driver and has a 14 year old daughter. Does anyone have a photo?

Yes I do, daughter named sarah?

I have been talking to a person he calls himself Hoffman Davidson.. He is on a rig in the Gulf of Mexico. Kept asking for money for his daughter Rose, a broken engine, a briefcase with valuables in it that needed paid for. Google Play cards for phone minutes ! Have sent lots of money..he wants more now. Does sound familiar to anyone out there? He says he loves me. Plans to marry me. Will come home soon!, never a phone call, video call. Nothing.! Will pay me back. Says his wife dies of breast cancer. Has a daughter named Rose in boarding school. . Never seen him. Has sent photo but I do t know if it’s really him . can't find him on Google either at address he gave me. What y’all think? Is he scamming me? It really hurts when they profess their love for you for so long and nothing ever happens. Says I’m beautiful. The most special woman. What should I do about this. I hurt and devastated .

Did they say what company you work for and I just sent you a picture

I also met a man named William Stanley. (Early October). Just cut ties last week. Says he's on a rig in Gulf of Mexico with a son named Daniel in boarding school. I have photos he claim is him, a fake Texas Drivers License, photo shopped pictured of him and his mother!! I lost $200 behind that SCAM!! When I called him out on it, it stopped communicating with me via Hangout and WhatsUp App phone calls. Sad to say, but please move on. He claims he'll be here in December. I'm not waiting because I know it ALL LIES!! I've cut my Losses and Moved on. Just be careful. PS: He also had 4,000 Instragram followers. Women are Thirsty.

Hi Virginia,
I’m in simular situation, calls Himself John P. from Key West Florida currently on a rig in Edinburgh Scotland, phone number that He gave me to chat through WhatsApp has a Maryland area code, 17 year old Daughter named Betty, Wife Died 2 years ago from Ovarian Cancer, drop dead gorgeous guy, body to DIE for, says He’s In Love with me, I’m the most beautiful Woman He’s ever met blah blah, did ask for $100 Walmart card so we can communicate together via WhatsApp so that was fine, then asked for a gift card for His Daughter for Christmas so I said sure I can get a $20 Target card, He said what’s a Target card? I’m like if you really live in Florida there’s a Target there! There everywhere like Walmart, anyway everything was fine until He asked for $2,550.00 to for parts in this rig he’s on, I’m like your Crazy!! I don’t have that kind of money !! He says I’ll pay you back I’m like I don’t have that kind of money!! Then I’m like if your on a rig they should be paying for parts needed which were bolts? In the beginning He was a Marine Biologists then when He said I’m an Independent Contractor so I pay for my own parts?
I’m like DO NOT ASK ME AGAIN for money or I will stop talking to you! I could go on but I won’t, it’s fun to chat & hear how wonderful & beautiful we are & they can’t wait to hold us in there arms & kiss every inch of our body’s but? So I’m out $125.00 which is nothing compared to some of you Ladys so BE CAREFUL!! XO

Omg sounds like the man I am online with. Goes by Jack S Michael. Wife and son died in car accident, has a 12 year old daughter Sarah, asked for $8000 for drill equipment so he could finish a job. Ha, no money from me!

I met a guy saying the same thing. He’s parents died in a car accident. He leaves alone since he was 12yrs old. He was asking me for itunes card which I gave in. After that he asked me for money to wire it to his cousin who’s having missionary works in Nigeria and then I gave in. His photos looked different from his voice. I noticed it from the beginning but I ignored it due to the flowery words he’s saying. Whenever I cannot send him money he will say bad things. He said he needs money to reactivate his USAA. I searched for that bank and its a bank for militaries. He did not even mentioned that he is or was related to military. I just broke up with him. What I’m scared of is he might use some details and photos to scam others. Would that be possible? He said he would visit me this month but upto now he did not book any plane ticket yet.

Yes sure do!

The first guy name is Cyrus he asked for a Sephora gift card for his housekeeper. The second guy said his wife died in a car accident and he had a little girl in his pictures, his name was Jason daughter named Shirley. From Michigan but mother was Ukrainian. He asked me to send him a 500 dollar Apple gift card, and when I said I couldn't he got angry lol oh well. I kinda think they were the same person because of the mannerisms...and they both could never video chat.

Just look up Paul hollywood British bakery same picture were all getting Paul has alot of pictures this guy uses and he cuts copies and paste Paul's pictures to his body! So stupid!

Omg! This is exactly what happened to me. I would love to exchange info and see if this is the same person I’ve dealt with. It started on WWF then moved to hangouts. Please reply I’d love to compare info.

Watch out for Davis morrison - from Nigeria and is 14 years old!

Same thing happened to me I met this guy from Syria Damascus his name was Smith Anderson but on messenger supposedly he used his father’s name Chris Osahon and was a surgeon doctor he said he lost his wife and parents in a car accident and his 14 year old daughter who’s name is Julia Anderson was in boarding school he had been single for four years. We talked for a little while on messenger than he wanted to talk on hang outs. We had only talked for about 5 days when he started to say he was falling in love with me. He later began to ask me if I would be his wife I mean come on no one falls in love that fast especially if you haven’t known that person long enough. He gets me to meet his daughter and she begins to call me mom I mean I dnt even know this girl. She than begins to ask me for $500.00 pounds for a trip their taking. The money was for hotel, vaccines, and spending money. I didn’t answer back, so I contacted her dad telling him I’m not sending no money than he begs please help our daughter I’m like she is not my daughter I’m not even your wife. He tells me I’m mean and he didn’t understand why I couldn’t help him than I tell him why can’t you tell him why can’t you give her the money your the dr driving the Mercedes. He tells me he can’t because his credit card did not work over there. Well I told him he was a scam artist and that I gave heard other stories of wife and parents in car accident and 14 year old daughter in boarding school. I deleted him from hangouts.

Had same incident. Met me through FB & wanted me to go to messenger, then Hangouts. JohnmWilliam / johnmwilliam has a 15 yr old son Billy in Larissa Greece going to school. John is Major General stationed in Syria Damascus. His wife had been ill for 8 yrs. Immediately calling me Hon wants to marry me & be a mother to his son. He said he is retiring in Aug. & we would be together as a family. This went on about 2 mos. Then all of a sudden his son gets into an accident on his 15th birthday, May 20th, 2019. The Dr. Gery Steven said they needed $2500 in order to treat Billy. They were keeping him comfortable on oxygen. I tried doing search on him, did find one but not sure it was that Dr. He sent me his e-mail stevengrey144 @ . When I tried sending e-mail it reverted back to Billy's email. Never heard of a hospital that wouldn't treat someone in serious condition.
I don't find any record of Adagbrassa Medical Center. The Dr sent back message Well, Carole that is the law of our hospital here, Carole I'm really busy with a lot of patient right now, my advice to you, you do need to at fast because the accident is very serious, but we are helping him with the oxygen. You do need to at fast or you may lost your son, but we will do our best to make sure nothing bad happened to him....Steven.
John could not furnish the funds because he can't access his money in Syria & he is such a big shot General Major & there is no one to replace him. I asked what hospital Billy was in, the name they gave me I did a search & couldn't find it. Suppose to be a small hospital in Athens. Dr. text me again stating needed to hurry up with the money because of Billy's condition was getting worse.. Being on low income I didn't have that kind of money. They wanted it in Bitcoins. They said I was Billy's mother, I informed I wasn't and they were to contact his Dad. John is begging and pleading with me to get the money some how. Kept telling him I couldn't get it. In the interim I had been sending John Google Play Cards so he could use them to make phone calls. Spent $1000 on them. / Also has a similar scenario #2 Same song different verse. Before John.. Gregg Irving or Gregg Griving. Has a son in Military academy school, wanted to go on excursion costing $3900. When I refused to pay for it he told me I wasn't any use to him. Hadn't heard from him till couple weeks ago. I deleted him immediately. I won't be communicating people I don't know.

I’m having same was talking to some bloke for few days then his 15yr son was in a accident and he wanted me to contact the embassy ASAP I soon blocked him on hangouts . Now I have a bloke called James William says he in army in seriya and asking me to send him a 200 I tunes card so he can top up his data me think it time to bloke him also

I talked to a similar guy. Even better is after I called him out on his scam he got kind of angry and mean. One thing he did is sent love letters by email but watch the spelling and grammar. He is still on my hangouts. He tells me to get off and does not know how to block. I said how do you like I am in control now. So when I see him active. I call him a scam and get off this site. Drive him off the site

Do you have a name of this guy. Same thing happening to me

If it is your hangout group, just block him. You can do that.

Same thing happened to me, wife killed in accident and had a 14 year old boy. On a cargo ship working and said I love you so fast. Then promised to see me and then something went wrong with the job and then asked for $10,000 money! Can we compare photos? Please? Thank you.

What is your guys name. I am curious because I have a similar situation and met this guy on Instagram and I never except friend request from people I don't know. But I did this time.

Similar situation. His name is William Stanley. He's on Instagram. I met him there. Has an son named Daniel in boarding school. Sent me photos and everything. I sent him photos of me too. Asked me today after talking to him for 3 weeks to send him a Amazon gift card for $100.00!! OMG!! Swept me off my feel with nice photos and everything!! I might be DUMB and I'm not crazy. I was almost ready to send $$ until I google Amazon Gift Card Scams!! Now, my feeling are hurt!! But at least I know the truth!!

I've had a similar experience with a guy in Nashville, so he says. First asked for the $100 Amazon card then just asked for $10,000. Boy, they really make you think they care for you until they start asking for money! This guy just kept coming up with embellished excuses to as for money. He did say I would double my money. Haha.

Is his name Micheal Connor Scott...similar...from Nashville 14 year old son...although he waited 6 months to actually ask for iTunes card. Now has a broken phone. Stuck in Albania, supposed to be home at Christmas. Has multiple profiles on international websites. Sends pics, some in USA. Some even with wedding band on. I went off today. Blocked him on Hangouts, he could never call. His gmail is still active. But I’ll handle that tomorrow. Glad I don’t share my money thing my EX did for me...made me independent of men. Now Micheal says his 14 year old son’s name is Logan and he is staying in Nashville with his Aunty. Kinda strange how elaborate their stories are.

I have a guy from Nashville. His nam is Derrick Sanders. Has a 7 year old and a grandmother named Anna. A nanny takes care of them and he is behind ...I didn’t send a penny?!!

Omg!! Same thing just happened to me! Flight attendant Jerry Leonardo. 5 year old daughter living with a nanny in Maine while he lives in NYC. Ex left him for another guy and left their daughter. Says he moved his daughter out of state so her mom couldn’t access her. Asking me for money when I told him I literally have more debt than money! Says someone hacked into his WellsFargo account and took half of his life savings! Says his account is not accessible right now due to the fraud. Sends a screen shot of an account with just under $88K in it, but needs money I don’t have to help his daughter! Trying to guilt me all the way! I told him no, and of course I get that it shows the type of person I am! Sent pics even Skyped me! Wants to move together and get married and adopt his daughter! Met him on POF and moved to WhatsApp right away! Getting on WhatsApp was as far as I went. I didn’t even feel good about that. I admit, I was starting to fall hard for him, but I don’t let myself anymore as I’ve been screwed by my exes.

I think I am going through the same thing. And omg one of them has my work address! Now I’m terrified. What do I do?

I also accepted a follow request on IG from a man, (Giovanni F)that I didn't know or any of my friends and I thought, why not. We started to have friendly chats since 11/19/19 . He said he was at the SouthPole working in an Air Strip there. I was enthralled by the fact that he was on the bottom of the world and we were talking. . Long story short, he has asked me for money on more than one occasion $3,000 and he even asked me to get him a $50 Itunes card (which I did), but now (today) he has asked me to take out a payroll loan to help him with food and supplies that he needs down there. I AM SO CONFUSED AS I THOUGHT (FROM ALL OF HIS TEXT AND CALLS) VIA GOOGLE, THAT HE REALLY CARES. Now from reading all of these post, I feel like I have been slated and my heart is utterly broken :-(

I have the same story except it was a 14 yo girl. I sent $20k, im so stupid.

I'm from Perú and i have a similar story: he told he is german, but in USA, divorced and he has two daughters in boarding school. I didn't send the iTunes card that ask, cause I search info before. Thanks for your comment. It helped me.

What was his name because he sound like the same scammer I chat with and german but working in oil rig in germany his daugthers in boarding school asks for money and cards.

This sounds like someone I met on my FB page. Same Mo...Orthopedic surgeon working with Doctors without Borders. He had a 14 yr old son who's wife died of breast cancer . Little did he know my ex was an MD. This scammers name was Jones Peter...his syntax wasn't that of a post doc. If confronted he would act like a child. He professed his love and wanted me to be the mother of his " kid"...when I confronted him on anything I felt was bizarre he would change the subject. One of the most bizarre and interesting as as a case study for what these cyber predators will do.

A guy contacted me through Instagram and after a few days asked me for a Apple gift card. Now i know this was sketchy but now I’m retired because i was so dumb, he said he knew someone i know and i gave him my bank login and he paid my credit card and now he is asking me to buy giftcards. But he has my info!

Change your bank account log in password NOW!

I may be talking to the same guy... German .. no German accent ... 13 year old daughter lives with nanny...needs money for school supplies ...been talking for 5 months... I’ve sent money...and it’s never enough...
Do you have any pics we could compare?

Alex Bragg- Words with Friends, then Hangouts. "Lovely wife died in a plane crash" son named Kelvin, 11. Words profile says from UK. Told me from Mexico but works in CA. LA specifically. Asked for iTunes card today to add more internet to phone and got really mad when I never answered back other than, "I Can't". Uninstalled Hangouts!

Yes I met this guy on words with friends he said he had a granddaughter and would I be his granddaughter’s grandma and professed his love immediately for me then kept hinting that his granddaughter’s birthday was coming when I offered to get something for his granddaughter he said why don’t you just send me an Amazon card and scratch off the number snap me a picture of it and of the receipt. That’s when I blocked him.He said his wife died and didn’t wanna talk about it that she died 17 years ago. He had such an ax and I can barely understand him on the phone. Very weird

I was just talking to this same man claimed his name is Leslie Harmon. Told me he had post paid for cell phones for us and later was asking me for my cell phone information. That sent up a red flag. So I started to investigate him. Sent me a fake license.

Just wondering, was his Instagram name kurt.mcmahon? He’s been messaging me and I’m worried because my story is matching up. Please someone let me know

OMG same story here I met a guy online that obviously copy pastes that he is a great man has 12 yo daughter asks me for a Steam card no specific amount for his daughter I tell him no happening he tells me how sad she is actually has the audacity to send me a photo of $160 in Steam cards says he bought it for her the receipt was from 04/2018. Ohh I could go on what a scammer. BEWARE

Is his Instagram name ‘kurt.mcmahon’ by any chance? Please let me know, I’m talking to this person and his story sounds incredibly similar to your Kurt

Kasey this ‘Kurt.mcmahon’ on Instagram is fake and fraudulently impersonating an innocent Italian man with a different name. Check his image on google in ‘reverse image search’. I’ve confronted him and he blocked me. And this was just a couple days ago. Luckily I never sent him anything.

Yes this “kurt” has contact me and I don’t trust anything. He’s an online trader with a recently deceased wife and a son. Lives in California. Added me on Instagram.

I just blocked that Kurt guy he claim. To have a son Joshua mother died.. Just knew from the beginning his a scarm

Just went through a scam artist in Instagram. This guy name is Kyle price. His pictures are him and his two daughters. He is In the military. Told me this exotic job he was doing in Texas. Talked for a day in Instagram. Then we moved in to hangouts. I was very flattered by the words he was texting me. He told me He loved me. He told me He wanted to marry me and have a little boy for him.He even sent me pictures of himself his mom....etc. So he did gained my trust. The red flags for me was when he asked me for my Sprint account so he could get a phone for his mother and his brother. I told him I couldn't be made me feel guilty. He tells me not to worry about it. Then we we're texting each other one night and told me He was said and pissed off over a letter he received in the mail from his bank officer. I didn't ask him about it but that next morning he sure did call me out for not asking about it. So I told him that I don't involved myself in other people financial business. So I went on ahead and asked him what was wrong. He tells me that his someone was trying to send him a check to his bank account but it didn't clear. He then proceeded to ask me to give him my banking information so the check can be available to him. I asked him to give me his information first before I made a decision to do that for him. Again he made me feel guilty. The last thing I told him was i may be vulnerable but I am not a stupid woman. I told him he can't hustle a hustler and I erased all forms of contact from him and went as far as disabling my Instagram account. I am glad I read your story. And I have read many stories similar to mine. I guess that was my karma because I am married. I guess I was trying to find a little excitement. I found it all right. I think I was just smart enough not to give him my information.

I finally caught this person Catherine hannisick she or he was a scammer i should of know better this person was taking pictures from facebook and instagram somehow got into her private account im so mad that i fell for this all the signs were there but i was feeling alone and she was nice in the beginning but now i know i tried the plenty of fish app it’s garbage also u have same scammers trying to lure u into hangouts saying the same stories about being in the army or some sad story im still thinking about reporting this i have all our conversation and pictures saved on my computer even when I tried to stop talking she would say she try to hurt herself which of course was all bs what bothers me the most is that these are heartless people just after people money

I met Kime Goltz on claiming to be mercenary E-6 army worker in Syria.on a mission.Said she was adopted, parents dead, and no relatives.After 1 day she moved chat to hangouts .Claimed divorced and from Ca. Adopted from Germany and from Ft.Worth.After 3 days.she was.claiming to love me and need honest man like me .Had pretty pictures sent to me but not live.5Th day.she said.she needed a laptop to communicate better with me.Wanted apple only no tablet or phone.Thats when it struck me that it was a scam.I never sent it because it did not sound normal.She said she needed.a diplomat to and when i get.laptop she give me address.After turning her down she became defensive so I blocked her.Good riddance to low life piece of trash .

Betta, it is 2019 and I got a friend request through Facebook from this very handsome man talking about he was looking for a wife, 1st thing I wasn't on the dating site in the first place so what made him message ME, Facebook does need to do something about THAT. This man has professed all kinds of love, marriage, be with me forever and ever and never seen me a day in his life. I know I'm REAL, but I'm NOT a fool. It's just a sin and a shame that people can STOOP so low to finagle a person's money out their hands instead of going to work and making their own dam money. How would they like if a SNAKE just slithered into the home and lied everything out of the house. Ladies, I know its like a needle in a haystack waiting for a GOOD man but in the meantime, take care of OURSELVES until someone comes along and says HEY, let me help you. Sad shame this world has become that WE even PREY upon each other, that's barbaric and savage, not love whatsoever. Ladies and Gents it is NOT worth the damage left from an EVIL soul because anyone that sits up and plots on HOW he can harm someone is EVIL nature. Be careful, I didn't lose money but I did lose valuable time!!!!

Anyone who knows this Sandra2017 she's very good at convincing you she is real.


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