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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: ftc.gov/complaint • Federal Bureau of Investigation: ic3.gov. Learn more at ftc.gov/imposters and aba.com/engagement

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

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By any chance did she send u any pictures

Mathew MacCleary was scamming both you and me simultaneously. Your name isn't Alana is it because he once called me that by mistake. Australian citizen, deceased wife Laura, Pentecostal, grew up in Brazil ..sound familiar?

The name is mine! His name and information is completely different, but could be the same guy. I've been corresponding with him since early August--off and on--but have been suspicious. He tried asking me for an I-tunes card once. I refused. Pretty much the same M.O., but with different facts--his name is Mark Destenay, from Berlin, Germany, working on a rig in Gulf of Mexico. I have not given him ANY money, but it's come up several times, in a very general way. He talked about wanting to deposit money into MY account--which sent up red flags because I thought if he actually asked me, he'd want my account information. We used phone, texting, and Hangouts!
STAY CLEAR!!!

I'm usually pretty good on judging ppl. But I got scammed to. He has my Address... I don't know what to do... Please help

Hi, my “suitor” knows my address also and where i work. Has anyone given you a response. My guy is good. He is an off shore oil driller. Knows all the lingo and parts of the job. Was in LA but now in Malaysia. Plans to marry me , Only after a few weeks . Only child, parents dead, told me he was 50, now it is 53. Has a daughter. Ex wife cheated on him with best friend- thats my true story Best part. “His” photos were stolen from Instagram, so when i did a reverse search... yeah well . The photos are 10 years old. And on multiple scammer warning sights. Now his camera is “broke” cant send any photos. Is a independent contractor. Got me off dating site first day. Very attentive. Calls me at certain times of day, pretty much same everyday.
Says born and raised in la and Sweden. But no vital statistics records found.
Is there anyone out there with similar story?

Exactly the same story, made me feel guilty for refusing to buy iTunes cards, wife died, son, lives in LA, flew to Malaysia, sent pics of the gold he was buying! Declared undying love for me, going to whisk me away.... These people must think us women are stupid & desperate! ... I'm glad I've read all these stories , I don't feel on my own with these feelings now,

It happened to me too...said his wife died in childbirth and the baby died too! Said he was a doctor working in Gaza but from Miami. Pictures were gorgeous! Then he said he needed $7,500 for a Bitcoin Deal! That’s when I used the reverse image app ...put his picture in and found out he had stolen a Doctor in Berlin’s photos and used a fake name! I busted him and he swore at me! I reported him and contacted the real doctor in Berlin to warn him what was happening! DO NOT TRUST ANY man online who appears to be “too good to be true”!!!

Hi. I suspect foul play with a guy, very good looking, pastor-like, tall, who went from Dallas, Tx to Malaysia as a supposed contractor. His wife died at childbirth, baby too. Has supposedly a daughter studying in London, England. East European accent, well-read, highly intelligent, sensual. His name is Eiswerth Peter on a profile he had and then erased, on Facebook. After 2 days in Malaysia, he was "mugged" and robbed of all his belongings, passport, credit cards, the works. He is insisting because of our "LOVE" I'd have to help him, send money again after I already sent it... He said I am his wife on the second chat.

I have experienced the same story... Divorced, have 3 kids, wife betrayed him with his best friend etc... except he went to Dubia in 2017 and is back home supposedly now. Did this person ask for I-tunes so he could call his company back in the States?

My knight in shining armpit is Karl McCottry. Born in Germany, finished schooling in US lived in Orlando FL. HE FOUND ME ON A NEIGHBORHOOD SITE!! Not a dating site. Claimed he fell in love with my pic instantly and can we go off line on email. When we were about to meet he suddenly got called to a job in Cairo which would take 9 dats but we could meet when he got back. He leaves for Cairo on Saturday morning. He anxiously gets me set up on Viber to chat and call. By Sunday he said he left the tools in the taxi that he needs to start the job and cannot work until he gets them bit his bank account cannot release the full amount that he needs so could I send him $1,500. And he will repay me with 50% interest. He too had a wife and child who died in a car accident 10 years ago and he was waiting for me to to come into his life. I’m the inky one who could help him because he’s alone in this world. No friends, no family, no business associates. A 64 y/o professional in business as an electrical engineer has no one to vouch for him or lend him Money. His drivers lic was fake. His passport said he was from Frankfort Germany but his passport type was coded originated in India He had an Indian not a German accent. He denied all but couldn’t deny he didn’t Jen have a home because his dL has an apartment address. . None of his pictures looked to match the voice and the personality over the phone did not match his written correspondence.

All that being said I wanted to melieve him because I saw an attractive jovisl man in pictures who professed his love and faithfulness to me. Of course I did send him money. He became indignant snd called me cheap. As the days went by he became more angry and frustrated and blamed me for his losing his contract

I WASTED HIS TIME AND HE GOT. NOT a DIMEN HE got not a dime.

I obviously was tricked in a similar way. Girl’s name is Kareen Wood. Asks for Steam cards now for the third time. That finally made me question her story.
She claims to live locally but comes up with endless excuses for not being able to meet. Works in a coffee shop without name, lives with her female friend, her parents died in a car accident when she was little and she also fell in love with me rather quickly.
I hope others will learn from these posts before they are taken advantage of.

I got the same story and he want i recieve his money for his business because he in army now . And he was ask me iTunes card . And he sent to me $200 because i said i need that

Same exact story except born in Greece, lives in San Antonio, working in China Sea and stranded in China.. all other info the same down to the camera on his phone being broken.. I can’t figure out how to look up His pictures though, wish FTC would create a place on here where we can compare them! I currently have about $9000, $4000 from a fake check the rest from borrowed funds from family and a credit card account I opened for him! Hate myself for falling for this guy!

I can't beleive there are people this cruel. After losing mother husband sister in three years was scammed by some guy on match Antonio Italian also got me off website. My credit ruined working three jobs to pay his bills off. I was so stupid. Been with same man all my life was in very dark place. I'm so ashamed.

Hi
Think we’ve met same guy very similar story, his name in Harry josh Wells . But wife cheated but is now dead.
Again he wants to marry me etc etc , has an issue as his bank account has been blocked and he has to get home to meet with his bank manager. Asked me for £2000, the amount had altered since. I have refused saying I don’t transfer money into other people’s account. I’ve called him scammer as he wouldn’t send me docs to carry out s due diligence check.

I never got scammed because I'm too smart for that but a few days ago I was texting a woman named Malissa Moore on Facebook. She wanted me to go to a site called Hangouts and said she wanted to get married soon so she could get access to her late fathers property worth $55.000. Whatever that means. Then she had the nerve to ask me for a $75.00 gift card for some project she had.I told her flat out no way and said I'd report her for being a scam artist. Then she begged me and said she loved me and wanted to get married right away but only if I sent her money. I told her to get lost and blocked her. Why do they let crooks like her try to rip honest people off I'll never know. You think you might find love but end up with more heartache.

That person sound so familiar to me everything the same but the name Christopher David Dorrough is this person name
Anybody know of him?

They guy I was in contact with could be your guys brother! Mine has his own business, but the website has so many grammatical errors. He told me his parents were dead, only child, had a son that an elderly family member was raising. Sent me a copy of a "contract" for a job overseas that looked like a blind hamster wrote it. Needed large sum of money to get there. No , no, and no!!! It was all about money. Even had other women he was hustling send money to me, then me send it to someone else. Shut that down in a hurry. Every time I asked him a question about something that didn't sound right, he would ignore me. Found out recently, that he had.been in Nigeria all along. Called him on that, and he didn't like it. Haven't heard from him in almost a week.... probably because I told him I was broke, and that I busted him.
Prob embarrassed. Going to check these other web sites, and see if he stalking them, too. What a big dummy he is...and I almost was!!

Yes. I was scanned for a lot of money. Independent contractor in Dubai. Needed money for project. He was building a home for some royalty in Dubai. I made wire transfers and sent many itune cards. Even booked his flight to the US. He never got on that plane. Said they could not check him in. I did find out that the lawyer he claimed to be using, was in VA so I notified him. I notified the FBI but never heard back. Could not get in touch with the bank or the land authorities to confirm anything. He was very good at his love scheme. Sent me flowers twice. Very attentive, sent me many pictures. I found him in Instagram but he has deleted that now. I meet him on Words with Friends. Then talked for months on what's app. He even had me take to his xwife to confirm him. I'm sure she was part of the scheme, as well.

Can you tell me this persons name?

I have a man saying hes a doctor in Syria , Dr. Francis Martinez , hes claiming to be in love with me asking me for funds to get hom home to his daughter , He has his daughter bbegging me to be her mom , ive sent him over 2000 dollars in i tunes cards i finally figured out he was scamming me

He's been scamming me for years I was in denial. He's in Ghana there is no daughter he makes a living of scamming of lying to us women for money. Were supporting great life for him in hotel in Ghana. We fall in love with him he just wants money. He's black never coming home to you. Block him. Send no more money. He plays head games

That is true he writes the emails plays the daughter and calls you mom, he lies about house, cars, travel, everything, he just wants money until he cleans u out! He's the biggest scammer and lier!

The one that i had spoken with for months says he was born in Louisiana but lived most of his life in Italy. Works on a vessel as a maritime programmer. Ex cheated on him with his best friend. Has a Facebook account. I also found an older account on Instagram. Very intelligent. Everything was kosher until he asked me to get an I tune card from Wal-Mart and put 200 dollars on it so he could get the e codes for e zines to upload videos faster to finish his coding on what he's programming. Of course I said, No. Then he said, I hurt him because he really needs me for that. He has sent photos, called on messenger and called on video chat with only part of his face showing while on a boat that was moving. Says he has no children or siblings and never been married. Any similar stories on here?

I'm talking to the same guy right now and hes asking me to check a bank account for him to see if theres a deposit. All info is the exact same as you mentioned.

How were you able to do a reverse search?

Is his name Anthony Abram?

There's no need to worry, he'she will not do anything with that info. He/she only gained it from you in order to play it safe and make you feel like they weren't far away or could actually swing by your place when planned.

OMG; so I am corresponding with a guy right now on Instagram who has professed his love; wants to marry me and be the mother to his child. He claims to be on an oil rig on the Mediterrean and needs to upload project files. No one else can help him. He also is saying he needs data on his phone to keep texting me. He can't use Facetime because of CCTV all around.
I know; am I stupid you are thinking.
This guy is putting in the time chatting and his photos well he is gorgeous of course.
I haven't given him anything; but it's killing me. I really fell for him and kept trying to convince myself it was real.

I went through a very similar situation. Mechanical engineer, single dad, only child, dad deceased, lived all over the world, and working offshore. Quickly fell "in love" with me, stated he needed financial help. I felt foolish, falling for this person. How did your situation end?

Did he say that he is from taiwan and work offshore in johor bahru south china sea?

Hi Ella, is his name jeonghung? He said he is from taiwan working offshore in south china sea johor bahru?? Beware of the guy in instagram, his name jeonghung, his profile pic is with his son wearing black shirt which is same shirt with his son too.

I am also talking to a guy stuck on a oil rig...lost his wife 5 years ago to car accident and wants me to mother his 2 kids and he first wanted me to send him a thousand dollars, I told him no way....he got mad...told him to bad...then after a couple of weeks he then started asking for a iTunes card....this is crazy...I feel he might be a scammer..

Amazing looking guy contacted me on POF after about 24 hours (over 3 days)of chatting on Hangouts trying to convince me to visit him on his oil rig in the North Sea (apparently wives and fiancées can go for 2 days) He will pay for everything - i just need to contact his 'Agency' to confirm dates. Agency then requests $1000 for me to undergo Safety and Assurance Control. I refuse saying I do not have this amount of money. He says he will give me the money back in cash when i reach the rig He asks me to reschedule for later when money is available. Obviously there has been much more content to the conversation - a 5 year old daughter in the USA, him having worked all over the world, him being in love with me, him promising to spend Christmas together, dead parents, no siblings ............ I have not and will not part with any money but am currently playing things out to save some other, maybe more gullible lady. I'm not sure where he actually is, but he knows a lot about oil drilling and professes to be half Turkish and half Scottish. Wish I knew how to find where the photos came from :)

this guy is not coming to spend Christmas with you - hes living off us USA women - staying in hotel and making up stories to get money from us - he plays head games and plays with out emotions he needs to reported - send him no money hes never coming He likes to turn things around to make us feel guilty and feel sorry for him - he thinks hes always in the right and innocent

My guy is on Instagram as Edmond Potter but then told me in chat that his first name is Thomas. Wanted to talk on WhatsApp. 463-222-2074. He is 53, his wife Mary died 7 years ago in tragic accident. Son named Smith is 15 and in a boarding school in NY. He was born in Romania, grew up in Houston TX. Dad was a communist it teacher and mom was a hospital aide. Works on an Oil rig in the north sea, Denmark. Credit card is frozen and he needs $2500 to get home to see me and his son for Christmas. Calls me his wife... blah blah blah

Thank goodness I had heard of these scams. My "love" interest is in Germany working on some big road project. Has money in the bank but has been told it is inactive. To activate he needs 4500? euro to activate it. Wants me to take out a loan if I have to, he will pay any interest. He will send me the money once he has access to this "frozen" account. We have messaged and talked, oh he's a smooth talker. Have not met him. Told him no way will I send any money to someone I have only been talking with for a month and hadn't met. He has lost his wife to cancer, has a 14 year old in a boarding school in New Jersey. Lots of red flags and I did get sucked in to his sweet talking, many youtube songs sent to me. I'm walking away with a success though. This game with him helped me get through an unhealthy relationship with an ex. Even though this was a scam weirdly it gave me confidence that there could be a legitimate guy out there for me to find. It was kinda fun (yeah that may sound sick) to flirt and feel like I was wanted. When the request for money was put on the table I know to run the other way. Good luck to all us single folks just looking for a nice honest companion to build a relationship with. I have faith that there is someone out there somewhere.

You did not sound sick because I felt the same. I was very happy at the time we chat. However, when he asked for money, I know it’s not normal. I need to stop and think.
It’s hard to get over woth it though. I am still thinking about what happened ... sad, but good thing I am not struggling about it anymore.

A guy told me about how he was an engineer for chevron but travels to south china sea and he has no access to itunes card over there and I am the love of his life and wants to marry me but i need to send 400 dollars in itunes to download a document well piss off he is an engineer he should be able to afford the document . But the company wont pay until he hast the contract and document the he will go back to fl where he live supposedly and he has one son and is divorced oh and he is a pure smooth talker will say what we want to hear but I think it's a scam and ain't sending nothing......

Sounds similar can I ask what his name is

So similar situation. Same guy, same story and he’s name was Steven . Definitely scammer

Don't do it they are frauds.. I just went through this finally called him on it he professes his love to me asked me to marry him said he was a Dr. Same stories you're all saying it's a scam... I called him out on it told him he was a fraud and boy did his tone change he called me all kinds of names because I refuse to buy him a $ 500. 00 Google play card. It's a game for them easy money if you fall for it don’t become their victims!! They prey off women and girls prey off men!! Don't be a victim!!! Report them They guy who tried to scam me went by Jurgen Klaus said he was a Dr. And lived in N. Carolina was a widower with 2 daughters and very handsome.. Don't fall for their lies!!!

I am talking with a guy supposed name is Jordan in Cyprus in Mediterranean Sea contract driller been living in States for 3 years originally from Liverpool UK. Lost wife has one child and his mum only. Gets angry and blames me because of his financial troubles. I feel stupid because I sent him money by WesternUnion to a different person than him because he was on rig and couldn’t leave it so his boss would pick it up and bring to him because he needed to pay his workers Then it was several situations he would try to get me to send to him. Finally he realized I wasn’t and said he wasn’t going to speak to me anymore. I have reported him to the proper authorities found out his photos he was sending me wasn’t even him totally stolen photos he was using.

Same thing . For me , what’s name mine is stuck in airport security . Still being stupid . Yes chatted on Facebook convinced to move to hangouts . People told me scam but it’s hard . But this one has team of players as well . Web sites for banker and transferring money from dormant account to account in my name . Huge scam . Supposed to be American but has Mexican accent. Smooth talker and yes nice pics but can’t read logos . Feel extremely dumb

Thanks for sharing. I know its horrible but we are here for support. I have a scammer I met online recently, Cupid. I communicate with him through WhatsApp. Hes pulling a similar scam. I dont trust him. He send me pictures but I don't trust him. I think hes a scammer. He has an accent also, sounds like African. But he says he have money. Hes a Fireman and photographer. But...Dah.dah Dah he needs a card. I'm not buying it. I never met him. He loves me so much. He wants to keep me near his heart. Nothing will happen to me.
Wow...wow I'm being loved by an actual guy I never met. Smooth taller, nice pictures also. He wants to make me his wife. I'm Not a fool

This is the same story I got from a guy calling himself Peter Kaua and he said he grew up in Brazil and has lived in Los Angeles, CA and now lives in Northampton, MA. Emailed me after 9 months threatening me about saying lies to the bank's fraud department and if I want my money back I should keep quiet.

Did he say he had a 6 year old daughter and his wife died of cancer because I’m experiencing the same thing with a guy who says he’s American, lives in Australia and works for a crude oil company.

This sounds very familiar and I have been chatting with someone similar but says he works for United Nations

This sounds very similar to my experience. It was a crude oil shipment and of course he was on a ship. Trying to make me feel guilty because I wouldn't send the money. There appears to be a legitimate shipping company involved also. They have a website but the correspondence isn't quite right. There are at least 4 people from the site sending correspondence.

what did he look like

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