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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: • Federal Bureau of Investigation: Learn more at and

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

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I understand what you mean. I have had a similar experience. You still want to stay open because you thought you will listening to your heart. The name is probably phony as well as his email. I place this whole thing in God's hands and I ask that the truth come forward and you be blessed with profound healing and miracles! God bless you!

My problem is that I transferred money from his checking after he gave me all the info to send "tuition" to his kids school. After refusing several times. He was very convincing. But last night there were one too many red flags & I am doing the moneygram. What do I do with the money? I called the credit card & they can't reverse the payment. If I pay his bank back, then he decides he didn't authorize the transfer I am screwed.

Someone in the army says he's in Afghanistan. Asking for money in different ways. Pleading for me, I have not sent money. I'm still not sure of him. He says he has a security box in another country he needed my help to get by a letter. Not sure about it. I have been reaching him and can't find him. A little unsure.

Please do not send money! he is a scam artist. I learned that if service members need money they can get it where they are stationed.

This sounds like the scammer I dealt with. He too had a security box in some other country. Was in Afghanistan. Couldn't phone or video call. Robbed me of thousands of dollars. Ruined me. He goes by name Tony Freeman from Dallas Texas working for US Army special forces. Have pictures of him participating in Mollys 5k run in Virginia along with his wife or girlfriend and another couple. He did a video call only ones with me therefore I know the pictures are his. Now he disappeared because I don't send him iTunes cards and apparently he can't connect according to him which is a lie. I wish I had read these comments earlier.

please help me many poblem

Has anyone encountered a man by the name of James Hudson, Paul Hudson, James Guggisberg?

I come across these all the time, but they aren't doing it just on online dating sites. I have had them friend me on my Facebook messenger. I've never send any of my personal money, but I sure do got requests to pick money from western union under one name and resend it to the supposed friend/love interest through a different store or site using western union. I did it once and never will again. I watch for those who my show a picture in their profiles, but have absolutely nothing else listed even after you've friended them.

So you have came across a man by the name of James Hudson, Paul Hudson?

Seems most of the scammers are out for women. I am a male, relatively new FB user and have had two attempts by women trying to rip me off. Sounds like the same MO though. Oddly enough or maybe not I am a recent widower and they are good, almost had me, until the money (iTunes card) surfaced. Like to Whack all these soulless monsters.

A scammer pretending to be Johnny Depp ask me for an iTunes card. hahahah. Blocked.

Tiger44 what was her name Kate Merle

Asking for money is a SCAM. An honest person will NEVER ask for money.

OurTime has a lot of scammers too.

yes it is ....I got scammed by a very good looking guy named Anthony James I met on Ourtime.

Protect God from scammers.Thank you

POF is packed with scammers!!! They r all foreign and their English on the phone isn't very good. Their written English is full of grammar errors. I got hit with 8 in a row!!! Ask for their number, then google it
If its a LANDLINE in another state, u got yourself a scammer. They will.try to groom u before they hit u up.4 the ITunes card. They always work for themselves as " engineers" . One even told me he worked at the Syrian AF base that we recently destroyed lol!!! They have no friends in their FB profiles. They will promise u the moon. Always google their names and number. If u find nothing its cause they r fake!!!

I thought I knew better. We met on Bumble and I got lured off and surprised he got deployed. I got suspicious when he asked for an itunes card for $100. I did it by making a copy of the codes and we have been chatting via an app. Then he needs cash for internet use. He gave me his SS# & bank info. It's not just the Nigerians they are getting more elaborate and sophisticated. He got mad when I called him on it so I am reporting him. I just want the guy he is impersonating to be aware of the photos. What a fool I was.

Has anyone been scammed by someone claiming to be Sheikh Hamdan Crown Prince of Dubi?

He is trying to scam me right now

Yes! Through Twitter

Hi. I think I am being scammed to donate money via WU to his charity for the orphanage in Africa. Does this sound familiar to you? I refuse to send anything.

I have been talking to a man that fits everything described. Widower, has a son in school, works out of country, unable to access his money, I have continuously refused to send money. He gets upset, not mean, then it seems to settle down and then starts up again with the request or a different issue. We have talked on the phone twice, but it was through an app. I have researched everything I can with the information he has given and questioned when things are off. I’ve even told him if I need to prove anything by sending money, then he can stop contacting me. He has not gone away. I’ve ignored his messages for a bit, but yes, I like talking to him about other things. Would someone say he’s a scammer?

He is a scammer. I have the same thing going on with one right now that won't go away.

probably...i'm in the same situation. the guy i am talking to video chats with me. He is very good looking but because i did not give him my credit card number to transfer money to a friend of his- he tells me that i broke his heart. I am still chatting with him because i cant believe the nerve of this guy... his name is Dr Jason Brown Simon

My daughter has just been scammed by someone who claims to be a physician who goes by the name of Thomas Simon. She is out $40,000.00 and about to loose her home, car, and lost her job. Be cautious!

How r we as woman who r being scammed but not one of us has wrote or said there name of the men that were doing this... I knw i just meet somebody in military and havent meet want same stuff ... Does Anybody knw this name... Richard Helseth from N.Y.

Has anyone been involved with a man named Andrew Mark says he’s in the army??

Mark Andrew has been texting me.he is supposed the uncle of janney Rodriguez or janney Andrews. Who knows right? If they ask you to invest in bitcoins, tell you they had an accident and lawyer holding their license, or maybe they living in a tent , car or church...RUN..don't look back!stop all contact with that person. Heck if anybody you never met asks for money drop all contact with those idiots. They are grooming you to take every cent from you they can get.

I had previously listed a blog on a man named Christian Buchanan, who at first, I thought was a romance scammer. I became scared thinking that I was being scammed out if money, which I didn't send, and quite honestly, forgot about the blog. It has been a number of months since this post, and Christian found himself on this forem. It was not fair for me to post if I was not sure, and I will work hard to have the blog deleted. Christian is a lovely man and father who does not partake in the scamming industry. Sorry for postin on a blog when I had no real tangential evidence.

I was scammed by the best rogue on the planet.He is on Facebook and now I cannot find him, fake name, fake address, fake job, fake country and fake mom dying of cancer. I gave him $25K over a period of 3 weeks. I am so duped and dumb.
How can I get help?

You can report him to Facebook and to the bank or wire transfer companies you used to send money. Call the Western Union Fraud Hotline at 800-448-1492 or the MoneyGram Customer Care Center at 1‑800‑926‑9400. You can report to the FTC at

The information you provide to the FTC goes into a database that law enforcement agencies use for investigations natonwide.

My scammer uses the name Jacinto Oliver met him on OurTime and reported him. He has a fake french passport and uses the screen name Newtownfarmboi. He has also tried to scam others as there are posts on the blog. He claims he is in Dubai and needs money for Drs. bills and has a daughter names Helena 18 and a son Erik who works in Japan and has 2 grandkids that are homeschooled. He is a smooth talker and sends relevant and current pictures when asked. Please beware and report him ASAP.

What about a "friend" who asks you to change your phone service provider so they can buy phones and accessories so they can purchase THESE with their mooney that's supposedly frozen at the bank then sell them and get cash after reselling and shipping the phones to said purchasers.

Recently had a guy tell me he is a surgeon from the U.S, currently based in Syria, I started getting suspicious yesterday with some of the things he was saying. Sent me lots of pictures, asked me to marry him after less then a week, then proceeded to ask for Itunes cards so he can update his phone. Of course he told me video chat and calling is disabled for security reasons. Has a son being raised by a nanny, wife died 8 years ago. I googled his name and did not find anyone matching any of the stuff he has told me. I did not rush out and buy the cards as I was very skeptical and decided to look up iTunes card fraud before I did. Very thankful I found these stories and info before I lost out on money I can’t afford to spend

What was his name please?

Has anyone heard of a scammer by the name of Robin Slot Jim? His business is Slot Construction. He claims to have been in Cairo Egypt building a new highway & bridges.

Robin Slot is Dutch, wife from England died, a son Michael in college in Michigan & a young son Alex who is with him. They had been living in US. Alex is American. Claims he owe Egypt a Clearance fee of $48,000, but does not have it, so they detain him in Egypt.

I gave him $57,000 and flys to Paris & gets detained because he owes Workers Union $60,000 to pay workers. He & his son have been in Customs Detention Center at Paris Airport & they want him to go back to Egypt to serve 3-4 years in prison.

Now he is asking for $35,000 to pay Workers Union & another fried gave him $30,000. Does this sound like a scam??

  • This story has many of the warning signs of a scam. The person claims to be a professional working overseas, travelling on business.
  • He says he is a widow with young children, and the children live in the US.
  • He has a sudden emergency related to work a needs money.
  • Although he is a professional, he has no one to help him, and his company won't help him, so he asks you to send him a large amount of money.
  • Then he has another sudden emergency related to work or personal safety or health.

Yes I would say this is a scam. This is currently happening to me. Of course, I fell for it. A person by the name of Carl M Abbey claims to be a veterinarian surgeon in Yemen. Says he's from Brazil on a six-month contract in Yemen treating service dogs with other Physicians. Says he will return to the states in April at which time he will reimburse me and would love to meet me for a full-on long-term relationship. Says he has two kids in boarding schools and his wife passed away 6 years ago. Not even 3 weeks into our communication via Facebook Messenger he all of a sudden wanted me to transfer $3,200 to a bank in Turkey to retrieve a personal box on his behalf because the security company was filing bankruptcy. He asked me for my phone number email and address, of which I reluctantly provided. He says he's been living in the states in Missouri since the passing of his late wife. However, I am unable to verify any piece of information he has given to me so far.

So now that I have wired through my bank $3,200 to this Bank in Turkey. They are claiming that they have not received the funds. Now this is as of today, they have not asked for additional funds just yet, but I fully expect that to be the next step.

I enjoy speaking with this guy we have become very close. However, he claims to be unable to send current pictures and is unable to communicate via phone. The only source of communication is either email or messenger. He has a normal Gmail account and the security company has a website it all seems legit but I'm pretty sure this is a fraudulent scam unfolding as we speak.

I have definitely learned the hard way. This is the first and only time I will ever entertain a handsome face on an app..

this sounds like a scammer who is also posing as robert haul.

I was scammed out of thousands of dollars by a man who was supposidly in Turkey. What I know now, I was used and all of the money I had is gone. I almost lost my home because of this.

What was his name?

I recently met a charming man via online dating site, he is Ukrainian and lives in NY. Name is Scotty or Scott Morgan. We communicate regularly and he is yet to ask for money or ITunes card. Believe me I'm more clever than he is as I research everything, so I'm just sitting back waiting for any type of scam flags. If it happens he will totally hear the worse cussing words ever. If not and all goes well I can say possibly I am that 5% of the real deal. Until then I've got my eye on him and ears wide open. I will keep you posted on how it goes, stay tuned....

Yes he ask for 5000.dollars supposedly for his son. But I didn't send it. He said he was in the Navy.

Thanks for replying but I believe we are speaking of 2 different men, he doesn't have children.

May I ask did Scotty send you pictures if so what distinctive feature do you notice about how he looks I want to know if it's the same guy?

Yes, I did my research you see their big mistake is sending pictures so I did a Google reverse picture search and Boom! Scott Morgan is a scammer most likely Nigeria. So ladies and gentlemen please shut off your hearts and turn on your brains. Hope this helps someone out there don't become a victim.

I was recently scammed. Thank goodness it was only a small amount. I was on the sight pink cupid and started talking to a woman Kelly Johnson who said she was deployed in Afghanistan and needed money so we could talk on a secure line. I naively send some and then she asked for more because it wasn't enough. That's when I got suspicious and realized I was being scammed. I feel stupid and heartbroken. It's hard to move on from this. Lesson learned I guess. I wish there was an online site full of pictures that could be searched to see if the ones I was sent were the same.

I met the nicest man in the world, born again Christian and the whole nine. His name is Michael Steve. He is an Engineering Consultant who lives in Lagos, Nigeria. In the beginning I thought he was a scammer as soon as he said he lives in Nigeria. He assured me he was not and asked that I not condemn all Nigerians. (made me feel bad about it)We developed a very close relationship over a period of 2 months. Everything was perfect until he said he was awarded a Government Contract. The government only gave him 80% of the $950,000.00 contract. The job was to be completed in six weeks. After completion he was coming to visit me with the other 20%. He mentioned that he would soon run short on the money and needed more to complete the job and possibly needed to get a loan. He made up some story about the bank not being able to give him a loan because people were not paying their loans back. He then asked me to get a loan for him and he would pay me back after the job was complete. I told him only a scammer would ask me for money without meeting me in person first and I ended the relationship, but I'm sure he's going to succeed with the next person because he is REALLY REALLY GOOD AT BEING A SCAMMER. I really liked him. I thought he was my Soulmate. WARNING!!!!!MICHAEL STEVE WITH A GMAIL ACCOUNT...ENGINEERING CONSULTANT FROM LAGOS, NIGERIA...BE AWARE

I have been affected by a few perpetrators over the past few years, and they are all after everyone's money, and you get nothing in return, but heartache and lots of grief. Stress, lack of money and independence, your health and well-being isn't worth these to anyone to deal with. Being incarcerated because of the bad deed someone did to you, is not justification. I empathize anyone that has had to go through this and it takes so much to be able to trust anyone. I am so torn by actions that men, as well as women have taken someone to the cleaner, just for their own personal gain. It's illegal and it needs to stop!!


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