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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: • Federal Bureau of Investigation: Learn more at and

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

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I also met a Polish guy. Who had me real fooled & I was suspicious, then he asked for money for his I phone. Can't believe it, these lies they. Said he lives in US &works overseas. Anyone with similar experience recently?

Yep. Lives in Alabama.

In Mississippi

Stephan Speaks German on a Oil Rig off south US coast .
needed 1000 to get his materials to finish his contract . was a engeneer.
NY telephone .
said he just moved to OR in a town near mine .
I did get him Itunes card but knew better then sending 1000$

Is his last name Duff and does he say he is a petroleum engineer?

How about Mike Conner. scott Kufus. Or Scott Stapley

No but I was contacted by Maximillan Jacob Walber of Walber inc German man from Berlin who lost his wife 9 years ago. Asking me for money . We met on mindful meeting. Feeling stupid n sad!

Unfortunately, an occupation such as: anything to do with oil industry, especially works on an oil rig, military stationed overseas, dr working overseas... are scammers favourites. I'm guessing they use these because there's a lot of money in those & they think it will attract women & because they're overseas, they say they can't video chat. They do that because they steal photos off of other profiles & websites (in uniform, scrubs...). They don't want to video chat because you would immediately know they are not who they depicted

I avoid any profiles that list any of those occupations & if they lost anything that could be connected such as engineer, contractor... I ask if they work on an oil rig. They usually say yes because they think it's a good thing. I block immediately.

Scam! Is his name Paul? I called the card company and they told me DONT DO IT. YOUR BEING SCAMMED. I STILL HAVE JIS PICTURE

Yes! Paul Collins Bujar with a florida license! Same story.

I think I am being Scamed by a guy who was on a rig in Hawaii. I paid him back to Denmark. Now he wants money to go back to Hawaii to sell his Company. His Name is JUSTIN Robert

Hi do you have the photos of him as I think he has tried to scam me too and it would be interesting to compare pictures

I have pics of him he has 2 younger children and his wife died 3 years ago from cancer

I am talking to someone, who told me the same story. Do you have a photo of him. I want to know if his is the scammer.

Oh my gosh this is the same thing I heard except he lives in NJ he is on a ship in Turkey his name is Sammy Joe. I would love to see his picture

Does the guy say lives in NJ and has a mom and a little dog and his name Chris

I just to talked to someone like that please compare pictures with me

Does this guy have an accent?

Can you share photo with me? Very similar to someone I have been talking too.

I’m talking to aman his name is Tamas he has a Hungarian accent same story he just asked for money and I did it give it to him and he said he was testing me to see if I really care he claims he lives in Philadelphia and his mom is in Arizona . The picture I have of him is him on a boat and he caught a big fish...

Hi talking to engineer 68 now 69 has 12 and 15 year old l has in bording school he is in Ireland on rig
Widow 5 years.lots romance panic need money to get kids birthday and Christmas the kids call me mom. Sound familiar

I am interested to see a photo too. I have been approached by two different oil rig engineers recently and would love to expose their scam.

Can I get your pics sent to me, as I think this Paul is scamming me right now I met him on zoosk dating site and

I can’t seem to send you a picture

I'm talking to a guy who lives in Manhattan NY and is working on an oil rig off the coast of Germany. His name is John Wilson Benally. He did ask for an iTunes card

I have been talking to a Paul who is asking for money to obtain contracts to finish a job on an oil rig in the gulf. Wander if it's the same person

German orthopedic surgeon. In Somalia needs money for package. Then more money to come home. Pictures are of a model. His name is Tom Gilbert lost wife to cat accident. Has 13 year old daughter in boarding school.

Works on oil rig.Romantic messages religious. Please phone this company for me re a package. Phoned for him and he wanted it delivering to my address which they wanted and my phone number. Wife died.daughter in school .s.america. need Itune card $300.. Did not.send now threatening naughty pics going on internet.

Spelling errors / grammatical errors are their biggest giveaway

how can you exchange pictures here of a scammer ? some one please let me know.

I was scammed by a guy calling himself Peter Kaua Sullivan, my fiance. I met him on and he scammed me all my savings over 2 years period from Western Union, Moneygram, Walmart to Walmart, ITunes cards. Just as you all said he was stuck abroad, his son had cancer and he owed taxes to Istanbul, Turkish government for job done there. He also had the money forwarded from Kenya or so he said. I was at the airport waiting for him to arrive several times and he never showed. he had an excuse each time of an emergency.

I had almost the same exact thing. His name was Mathew McCleary that was from Australia but talked with a Spanish accent. He was coming to see me but his crude oil shipment wouldn't ship because he had to pay insurance. Supposedly he all ready paid 37K. He was telling me he was in Istanbul Turkey. He needed 4710K.I told him repeatedly I had no money. He tried to make me feel guilty because I couldnt send the money.

I was talking to someone on Plenty of Fish. He had a European accent and told me he was from Sofia, Bulgaria. We spoke for a long time and he told me he was on a ship heading to Australia for business in shipping. That’s fine and he never did ask me for money, just an iTunes card. Eventually he did ask if I would accept a check that a client owed him. I said no due to scams. I did think about it and said I would accept the check but I would not deposit it in my account. He didn’t like that but too bad.

I went to the bank and asked them to check if it was legit. First of all, why would someone ask a stranger to accept a $4000 check? I can steal it! The check was deposited to a new account just for that purpose. The following day the bank told me the check was fake. I also requested copies of the check. I was able to contact the supposed sender that lives I Maryland. He was an elderly man who told me that he and his wife had identity issues and he never heard of the third party bank the check was cut from. The bank was legit, just not his bank.

I called the sender of the check and told him it cleared but I was keeping the money. Then after much fighting, I took pictures of the check that the bank had stamped and told him it was fake and that I spoke to his client that never had an account at that bank. Anyway he denied all and had accused me of stealing his money! What nerve!

similar here, do you think they will really do something on you like spreading out the message between you and him coz i think they know your network through social media and show up at your address?

I would love to high five you for your intellect! Also, for putting that jerk in place.
Thanks for the tips...I believe that I am in a catfishing situation. It's so hard to get out of the web they weave. They are truly master manipulators!

I wish I had been smart. I wish I had seen this before July!!! Andrew Perry took me for $32000!!! I should have been more careful!! I hate myself for what I let him do. Now going through bankruptcy. It has changed me and my life. I can’t afford anything anymore. All my credit cards have been closed and paycheck garnished for the next 5 yrs. I’ve told no one but the lawyer.

Hi ladies watch the name of Eren K David’s he is very handsome, on his Facebook profile .

OMG, master manipulator, you hit the nail right on the head. And so hard to tell a heart to stop the nonsense. You are smarter than this!!!
How do I get myself to start thinking with head and not my heart. I feel like such a fool.

I met a guy on match. Com and he said that his son needed $5000 to pay for his field trip. I almost fell for it. I ask him if I can call the School and I will charge it. He said, I needed to wire him money and my gut feeling said” don’t do it” I told him I cannot do it and he completely disappeared. Thank God I didn’t get scammed for $5000. I got a text from hangout 2 days ago telling me that I am the one that he is supposed to be with. I never answered back.

Was his name Roy Jason?

I think I,m in too ,his name is Andrew perkins ,he told me he used to live in Buffalo US ,his mom American,His father German ,he is working in rig ,he has 2 daughters and 2 grandsons,his wife died of cancer 7 years ago.we met eachother on dating app ,then I gave him my phone number, he said to me he lives in Toronto and he has his company. He signed a contract with British petroleum and send me the contract papers ,he went 2 times to London England and the day we had to meet for the first time ,he told me he should go to west aquarius rig for 4 months contract .He said he can't talk on video because his phone is not supporting video on WhatsApp and he will order a new phone and then when after a few days he said his phone camera is broken and he couldn't get a new pictures, he gave me even his bank account in Berlin passwords and everything seems real .He asked me to give him my account information for wiring me money,I told him I cannot do it and asking for his agent phone or email,he ignored me. Then asked me to go to the rig to be with him and sent forms from Seadrill company through my email ,the company asked me to get my helicopter flight scaping license and I should send them money as bitcoin but I didn't accept ,then he asked me wired money to his aunt ,it didn't go through and I didn't accept to go there and ignored him,then said his machin for doing his job is broken and it was $52000 to pay for renting that tanks from a rental company in Texas .long story short I sent 2 times money ,I got his cell phone as Christmas gift and I paid for custom and then he asked me send it for a cook works with them who for vacation was in Nigeria and I was disagree he forced to send it and then the cook couldn't pay for the custom there I got back the phone.Now he said my job is finished and I should pay for helicopter and fly to Toronto ,because he is paid on his account in Berlin that he does not have the second password and I can check his account there is money in his checking account under his name,I don't know still he is real or scammer ? If you hear from him please help me .

I uave the same story but different place. He is from UK. His name is Aleksi Edwin Churchill. He invited me where he was working. He have the same stpry like the man you dealt with. He gave me bank account number PIN and everything.

I was an idiot. I was mesmerized by his words. He would always tell me he loved to pray, and got my trust by always talking about worshipping God. I sent $ to an Australian contact and to a company in Florida. I'm so ashamed for trusting him, I can't tell anyone. Is there an agency I can report these addresses to?

I believe we are talking as with the same guy I have a copy of that contract on my PDf the address in miami does not extist
since I just to live in miami before, we can share some information to see if is the same person

Do you still have the name of the Australian contact. Thinking it might be the same one I have.

I have been speaking with someone who is Australian. His name is John Sanders. He claims to be in Nashville. Sound familiar?

I'm sitting here reading so many accounts of getting involved on line with these creeps. Sadly, I did the same; I am forever changed for my stupidity. I can't explain it to anyone except other women who have lived the same experience. To make a long story short; I'm in debt almost $40,000.

Don’t beat yourself up. I suffered too...twice. Never thought possible that I would ne had a gain....suffered between the two “romances”over
$50,000. Never thought possible! Just never trust someone asking for money!

I feel I'm being used by someone on a oil platform who only wants google gift cards for his phone, am I being scamme

I am just experiencing the same, lost a BIG number of amount. I feel so sad and hopeless, so stupid. How come I believed the scammer! I wish I could see this website before the nightmare happened. But now, I do hope more people can see that news about the scammer, stop losing money!

He told me that he is relocating his own oil rig drilling company from the US to Korea, and after few weeks of contacts, he said he needs to fly back to the US for his biggest contract application, then he got the contract and will take 3 weeks in Turkey. After the contract, he will come to me, but no doubts never ever happen. He has many excuses for unexpected accidents on the oil rig platform, asking money to complete the contract; payment of the workers, and even to save his life. He made everything as natural and made me feel guilty if I refuse to offer help. Finally, I trapped in his love messages and believed him, and lost my money!


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