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It’s Valentine’s Day and love is in the air. You may think you spend a lot on flowers or chocolate, but losing money in a romance scam would cost you even more. Last year, people reported losing $143 million to romance scams – a higher total than for any other type of scam reported to the FTC. And, according to a new FTC Data Spotlight, reports of romance scams are on the rise.

What do we mean by romance scams? We’re not talking about the person you thought was “the one” but ended up being a dud. We’re talking about people you meet online, who lavish you with attention … and then ask for money. Usually they want the money by wire transfer or gift card. They might claim they need it for a medical emergency or to come visit you. Then they take your money, but there’s no surgery and no trip.

Romance scammers are hard at work wooing people on dating apps and social media. They may lift photos to create an attractive profile or even steal the identity of a real person. Just like with real romances, it may take them some time to gain your trust, but the scammer’s payoff can be big. Last year, people reported a median loss of $2,600 from romance scams.

How can you avoid romance scams?

  • Never send money or gifts to a sweetheart you haven’t met in person.
  • Take it slowly. Ask questions and look for inconsistent answers. Check the person’s photo using your search engine’s “search by image” feature. If the same picture shows up with a different name, that’s a red flag.
  • Talk to someone about this new love interest. And pay attention if your friends or family are concerned.
  • If you suspect a romance scam, cut off contact right away. Then, report to the scam to the FTC at Notify the dating site where you met the scammer, too.

For more information, read Online Dating Scams or watch this video:


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Just playing Words with Friends, this guy starts a conversation. I was suspicious right away. After a bit he says he is a widower with 3 kids. He messed up big. Next he says he has 2 kids, just barely making it. I told him he was a moron.

that seems to be the big story or that they are divorced with children. For a while, i was getting a number of messages via social media. Most of them claimed to be men in the military or doctors working abroad. It's crazy the lengths people go to scam others. I even had someone request an iTunes gift card so their sick daughter could sell it to go to the hospital.

Ladies/Gentlemen all I can say be very careful of these internet romance. Especially those International ones. I met one on tagged from Cyprus, Turkey. He was white man first then after 8 months I found out he was an African. They all scammer and I fall victim and lost Thousands of USD. Be careful of all those dating Apps. When I found out he was an African I still talk to him because he shows like he was loving and caring but he was a real scammer. He scam me for 3 yrs but I have learned my lessons. Hes Still scamming women in the USA so you all be careful. Hes not bad looking, speak with a soft voice and only call u baby. Easily get mad and always want large sum of money. He cries at all times and said he have High Blood Pressure. I start curse him out when I really realized that hes nothing but a scammer to supply him self and his families. I was gathering so much evidence on him and he don't know all what I found out. So I'm going to start work with the FBI and EFCC in Africa to get him. So please be careful of these International romance scammers.

Hi your story sounds very similar to mine and the person is also from Cyprus but sounds like an African man. Do you mind emailing me to compare evidence?

Same here, can we email to exchange information ?

I think this guy has been trying to get money out of me

The man's name is Derek Bendon I want to show you his pic. Text me

Hey I got someone going by Neal Rogers says he’s working in fahti instanbul turkey someone let me know let’s send pictures this guy messaged me for a friend looking for my grandma the guy was talking
To her and she was in the hospital dying and he never went away said
He is working left the state’s 3 weeks into our talks.

Has any of you heard of a James erkan, whose deployed in iraq? He did sent me pics of him at home and of his dog and son. He only asked for money once, he knows I'm broke but we keep talking. Real or fake?

I got same pics! This guy contacted me first on fitbit app and then on WhatsApp. Goes by Mark W now

Orthopedic Surgeon in Yemen with 16 year old girl in Africa boarding school contacted me on Facebook then whatsapp then google Hangouts. Went by Walter Anthony from Texas. I confronted him about this and he couldn't answer or wouldn't. Blocked him. Soo glad I saw these.

i was laso found on FB by a doctor working abroad, he asked me to talk to him on wats up then on hangouts, he sais he lived in Huston TX and working by contract untill april. Can I send you his pictures? I have a lot of his

Can you send some pictures? I think the same guy got to my mom

i am quite sure my mom is being scammed. her guy says he is from north carolina, has a couple of younger kids, is a doctor working independently acquiring ventilators in foreign countrys . he says his name is doctor perry or somthing

I started to online date with a Dr. Surgeon in Yemen who is under contract who is also widow has a 15 years old child. He asked me for my mailing address to send me his valuable things.

Can You send some photos? Facebook acount? I have a contacy with a similar guy..

Lol this guy just liked my photos. Thanks for posting

Hello, could you please send me pictures of this guy to compare to the ones I have. Could be the same guy. Appreciate your help

Have you heard of Jeffrey George? Please let me know. He's a doctor in Badhdad, has one son and a golden retriever. Thank you

I met someone like this and he is currently now living in Istanbul, turkey and he is trying to ask me 8600 so he can pay his lawyer to make tax clearance for the funds that are now held in the Turkish bank and the amount awarded to him is 620k. He said he needs total 30k, and he managed to get a friend to help out with 10k and all heneeds is 8600 and the balance will be deducted from the 620k and he will wire me the loan of 8600 once he has access to his funds within 30 days and he will leave Turkey to come down and start our lives together. I met him on Istagram in Feb 2019 and he is very convincing..Yes, he only address me as baby, sends me many love songs from Youtube. He claims to have high blood pressure and had been admitted to the Hospital in turkey and he couldnt pay the hospital bills and asked me to help me. Part of the payment came from his friend, Jayden and the other part, i sent him via ppal. So i am just wondering if this is the same guy, he sends me pics and i made a tint eye search, but no results. Are you able to send me a pic of this person. He calls himself Jeffery James and he said he is american, widowed with a son and lives in CA. Thank you, i will appreciate receiving the pic.

Sounds like the same person who contacted me. He need to pay his taxes on an oil deal. Sent youtube romances. His name was David Anderson and lived in CA.

Where can I see these pictures everyone is sharing?

beware of Jayden they are a scammer Has anyone been exchange chat with Nathan Smith claims to live in LA about 57 maybe more years old Short haircut dark rimmed glasses and tatoos

that sounds just like a guy i meet on words with friends he is from Africa but lives in Indiana but right now he is working in Dubi and he only talks to me once in a while now because i would not give him any money. his name is William Chapman

My friend at work I think meet the same man do any 1 have a pic ?He is asking her for money something about his son got in car rack and need 1,ooo to started his surgery.He also sounds like a Africa she chats with him on hangout. tks

It sounds exactly like a scammer I talked too. He had a 12 yrs old daughter at home but had a 17 yrs old son living with his sister. They were in a head on car collision and he wanted me to send him$1200 for the son to get surgery. He said he couldnt cause his wallet was in his car when he went to church and it was stolen. If it's the same guy I think I still have his picture.

Hi Karen, I had the same scenario and he showed me pictures of the kids and him. He said he is a surgeon in the military. I met him on Bible app. He messaged me and said wants to communicate on email and hang out. Then he started opening about his son had an accident and needs operations. Need 1000usd to perform other procedure. Sounds so the same as your description here. He says his name was Mark Daniels. Is that familiar?

Hi Mary, I have the same story, do you still have a photo of him?

Gorgeous man with a 14 year old. Needed to apply for a vacation & I had to apply fir his approval to come to USA. 4300 US DOLLAR To use fir travel fees. Amount was sent on a letter from the United Nations. All similar to the above stories. Great manners. Well spoken & even though the position as a surgeon was great he had no access to his funds... wanted a x mass gift from iTunes. Very odd. I said 45-59 & he said NO. 100-200. Lol.

Hey , did your guy go by the name Chris Dc. Or Chris Cross , he Sounds like I guy I was talking too wanting steam cards though to help with his internet connection , then he started talking about a vacation but then he wanted me to pay for it, But I didn’t

Can you send photo. I think I’m being scammed by same person

I have been scammed out of thousands of dollars by a scammer claiming to work for Exxon I have his picture. Someone please contact 3

Only once it was too late, I’ve realized I’ve been scammed. I’ve lost thousands of dollars. And now going to be homeless.

Met a man on Zoosk, he claimed to be on a project for Exxon in Alaska. He stated he was widowed. The worksite lost internet connection and he asked me to wire money to his supplier from dis bank account. I made one wire transfer. The next time I tried to wire money for him the site locked me out. He stated the bank required him to go to bank I. Person to unfreeze the account.

This guy told me he was not allowed to leave the job site. I immediately felt responsible and horrible for locking his account. He needed to pay for freight fees for the supplies for his project.

He had his accountant email me a copy of a wire made towards the freight fee, from this guy’s account. The combination of feeling responsible for preventing him from being successful and what I thought was proof of this guy using his own money towards the freight fee, caught me with My guard down.
I actually panicked to make it right and wired thousands of dollars to an account located tiny Turkey. I feel so stupid because , obviously not thinking, the supplier was supposedly located in China.

This guy is very smooth, we Skyped twice, constantly rings and texts me. Has had his “friends” show proof of helping his cause towards the freight fee. Has a dummy Bank website that makes it look like I was making a wire transfer, with his credentials, from his Bank account.

This has all happened in a matter of 5 weeks. Does this sound familiar to anyone?

A month ago widow surgeon contacted me while working in Yemen...skipping the love stuff...had me in account and sent orders for medical equipment...then needed me to send another but bank would not let transfer funds shipping that was at the dock...he begged to help with $8,500 and would pay me double...I am disabled but even if I had it would not happen...I have lots pictures would like to see if the match others ...

I have a man claiming to be a doctor stationed in Yemen. He is asking for $1000 to bring him home to my place so we can be married. I have pics we can compare. Please contact me

My sister is being scammed by a so called doctor in Yemen has a young daughter wants to marry her she was dealing with him earlier this summer and I know she sent money even after we had pictures of men from Nigeria who were doing this. Sorry but I am looking for the picture of Giovani I dumped everything after I thought she came to her senses but I guess not. He has hooked her again!!!!

Hi I like to send you pictures of the man I have lots of pictures of him he like to send the money for replacement for card to took to my

I would like a pic as well

Can u send pic cos I have also in yemen keep in messaging me and a lit of promises

Please post picture

A man of the name Henry Wheaton claiming to be on Yemen under the UN

Send a picture

My sister in law may be scammed by the same “doctor” in Yemen. Pls provide a pic do we can compare.

Can I ask the doctor’s name, sounds like the same guy that found me in FB

Yes I have the same scenario a doctor in Yemen wants to come to my place to marry me but needs money

Please send me pictures, and l will send you mine. I had the same scenario

How can i contact you? The story sounds similarr

I would like to see pictures. I had the same

Please I need to see that photo.

Is he good looking blond guy?


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