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It’s Valentine’s Day and love is in the air. You may think you spend a lot on flowers or chocolate, but losing money in a romance scam would cost you even more. Last year, people reported losing $143 million to romance scams – a higher total than for any other type of scam reported to the FTC. And, according to a new FTC Data Spotlight, reports of romance scams are on the rise.

What do we mean by romance scams? We’re not talking about the person you thought was “the one” but ended up being a dud. We’re talking about people you meet online, who lavish you with attention … and then ask for money. Usually they want the money by wire transfer or gift card. They might claim they need it for a medical emergency or to come visit you. Then they take your money, but there’s no surgery and no trip.

Romance scammers are hard at work wooing people on dating apps and social media. They may lift photos to create an attractive profile or even steal the identity of a real person. Just like with real romances, it may take them some time to gain your trust, but the scammer’s payoff can be big. Last year, people reported a median loss of $2,600 from romance scams.

How can you avoid romance scams?

  • Never send money or gifts to a sweetheart you haven’t met in person.
  • Take it slowly. Ask questions and look for inconsistent answers. Check the person’s photo using your search engine’s “search by image” feature. If the same picture shows up with a different name, that’s a red flag.
  • Talk to someone about this new love interest. And pay attention if your friends or family are concerned.
  • If you suspect a romance scam, cut off contact right away. Then, report to the scam to the FTC at Notify the dating site where you met the scammer, too.

For more information, read Online Dating Scams or watch this video:


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I recently had someone approach me in Instagram suuuper handsome man grey hair orthopedic surgeon in the UN working in Yemen. Born in Brazil moved to Houston to study then Miami then recruited to UN. Wife widowed has an 8 yr old daughter. Said he had royalties from some family in Yemen that they gave him for saving their son. That he’s getting transferred to Iran and can’t take all his things plus $900,000 cash that he wanted to send to me via a secured logistics! We have FaceTimed it is him from the pictures he’s absolutely mesmerizing but hell no I’m not stupid! Maybe it’s the same man.

Mine was an ortho surgeon working with the UN in Afghanistan, daughter in a military school in Arizona...starving to death...plz Western Union her some money!

New development, he’s madly in love with me and wants me to write to the UN to release him to come home for vacation. He sent me exactly what he needed the email to say. I never sent the email but yesterday I received a reply from them telling me how much money to pay at particular locations so he can return to the USA to come marry me. Then I received a document that looks real but when I zoomed in, it’s dated 2017 and signed by the UN Secretary from that time frame!
What should I do with it? Who can I turn it into! He urgently wants me to pay the money that I have repeatedly told him I do not have!
H E L P!!!

Whatvis the name of that person can you tell me I think my friend and you are talking only one person . Do you have a picture of him?

Same here can you tell me how name and do you have a picture.

Please I need this guys picture
He's so handsome said he's a surgeon in UN Yemen
Son John
Pictures on Instagram
Can't find any Google to match him
Says he's James Grimmett
I blocked him now but I'm scared

Omg! This is identical to what im dealing with! He claims to be a doctor in Yemen with the Unitednations. He wants me to send him $2750.00 for the UN so he can get his vacation or leave. He will not take no for a answer. He says to me "do you want me to die here? Please please help me i dont want to die. I want to come to the US and marry you baby please help me. I am going to die here. What about ken who will take care of ken? I absolutely dont have money like this by far! He calls me, and the conversations take place on hangouts! He has sent me pictures of himself and also does video chats. He says he is from Egypt, he didvslip up the other day and said Turkey then denied he ever said Turkey! Im so interested to know if Dr SAMUEL VEIDER IS THE ONE THATS SCAMMING YOU ALSO. He gets very angry if i mention him as a scammer! Please comment... HE SAYS HES IN YEMEN. FROM EGYPT, LIVES IN MIAMI FLORIDA, HIS SO CALLED DECEASED WIFE IS FROM SPAIN, HIS SONS NAME IS KEN, ALMOST 15 YRS OLD, HE SENT ME A PICTURE AND THE KID HAS BLACK ALL OVER HIS FACE. HE IS SAYING HE WANTS ME TO BE HIS NEW MOM! I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR BACK..

Has anyone had any contact from a girl in Davao City Philipines, she hadnt ask for anything substantial yet but i have doubts she is legit and a couple red flags have appeared like her facebook profile disappeared and opened under something else and she wants all conversations in whattsapp now!!!

I am scammer free as of a few minutes ago. He is in the Military. He is not but the picture he is using is a real Staff Sgt, in the military. He was a facebook for one day. Stephen Towns is the name he used. On the uniform it read MidKiff James. From NC now stationed in Kabul Afg. widowed has 2 children living in Spain with their nanny, wants to marry me. Ask for Itune card, wanted me to pick up money to send to Nigeria for his friend that got stationed there. Now wants money for a flight to come here to be with me. I heard that (do you want me to die here) since December 2018. He sounds like the same scammer. Get rid of him. Good luck Carollee

I also have been communicating with a so called doctor in Yemen who now has a need for cash. Similar background information. I'm wondering if all is same person.

I got scammed on POF. He is extremely good looking, he asked to go on Hangouts right away. The scam goes like this: He is in Yemen, goes by the name of David Hunt, works for UNICEF as a brain surgeon. He works for 5 weeks abroad in Yemen but lives in the US, raising his 7 year old daughter by himself because his ex is a drug addict. Same bs: after a few days he started the intense messaging, he loves me, video calls, etc. Got very angry when i told him he is a scammer. He said he needed money to get home because it is not safe there but his accounts and CC don`t work there. I knew from the very beginning it`s a scam but wanted to know how far he would go. Please everyone: if something is too nice to be true, it it unreal!!!

I'm more than happy to share photos My guy is in Australia and a 12 yo daughter who is in Ghana with their caretaker but he lives in Virginia where he was raised with a black mom and Indian dad. Cute as hell and mild manner. We text,

I have been talking with a guy from Australia for a few weeks with a similar situation and background. Can you share his picture..

The guy I have been chatting with on hangouts is also from Australia widowed with 2 kids. He is in Iran right now and needs money. I just keep telling him I don’t have any. I have pictures of him and his two kids. I feel sorry for the real person in the picture

Hi. I think iv been scammed to with this man. Can we exchange the information pls.

I’d also like to exchange info. I have been scammed as well

Can you share a picture?

This is the first time someone ever did me like this, I am still in a state of shock I can’t believe this happened to me, but should have seen it coming, he did put up a lot of red flags.

Hi, I’ve been talking to a man that says his name is Steve Robert, but on Instagram says his name is Steve June. Some of what he’s been saying sounds realistic, says his wife died in a plane crash and that he has a son named Kyle. Says he’s a rig engineer at the UN. Thoughts?

Let through dating app: Hinge Name: Alvin (Ryder)? Went to Whatsapp Number: +1 (267) 571-3520 Email requested for vacation leave to: Commander.leaverequest@ Story: Surgeon working in Yemen for UN. Widowed four years ago A daughter
From Dallas, Texas with Greek background. Called me daily for weeks and started telling me he loved me and missed me and pushed me to say the same. Claimed since it was Yemen he could not tell me much nor send photos from there. Progressed to asking me to send a leave request. I reported him since I worked out it was all to far-fetched and a UN administrator would not have a gmail address.

Same here I've chatted a doctor in Yemen under NATO, and had a son 15 year old whose in Dubai boarding school. Has a tutor there and said his own son lost his cp that's why the tutor asked me to buy cp for him so that we can communicate with his son always.Coz he said his son really likes me to be his mom. And now this doctor Andrew James wants to visit me but he can't have his vacation leave without the papers and some Secretary named James Baldwin chatted me to pay for his papers worth $1255.Unfortunately I don't have that much money that's why I've said I'll not pay. And that Andrew James cancelled his flight coz I didn't pay his paper he said he will pay me back when his here in my place. So sad I have been scammed. I lost my money to buy his son cp, then he asked for sim card after we chatted his son on WhatsApp and then his son asked for Itunescard. That's why I've uninstall that app and did not talk to that doctor in hang outs.

Has anyone chatted to a craig brandon an orthopedic surgeon in Yemen?

Ok so I’ve been talking to this guy that I met on Facebook ..he sent me a message via Facebook messenger he gos by the name Scott Jeffery Alan or Jeffery (Scott) Alan he says he is a is military pilot Air Force Im assuming when we met he was in Yemen parents died in car accident a while back has no family is on secret mission but says Hes back in Libya never asked me for money but I offered to get him k tunes card due to his account being inactive and his phone doesn’t have international service and a local forgein I tunes card won’t wor since he’s from New York west New Jersey New York to be exact

The similar thing w/Amazon cards because he needs them for connection to internet & calls? He is at sea in Anatolia & can’t get his money? I’d like to see the photos you all have??

I've been dealing with someone by the name of William Stanley, who sent me a FAKE Texas Drivers License and has a son named Daniel in Boarding school. I sent him Amazon cards and now he's telling me his son needs $$. I'm not even giving in to that LIE. Also, he did get angry and upset when I told him he was a SCAMMER!! I can live with the fact I lost $200, but some of these women have lot WAY more $$$ than that!! It's a SHAME people are out here Scamming Folks out of there Hard Earned $$$.

I have been scammed to the tune of 15,000,. He is a marine engineer, born in Netherlands, divorced from 20 year marriage (she cheated) 1 son in boarding school. On a ship in Black sea off Turkey. Need Google play cards for internet use,etc. different times 500.,200. etc Getting large sums of money being shipped by Treasury Bureau,6000. need money to ship, then need money for customs, then a Royal stamp at border being held etc
Showed paper from US and National Geographic for expedition
would receive 9 Billion Dollars, was at end of Expedition but can't leave ship or get paid until he replaces, whoops first need 1500. to get a part to fix, but then he broke it and cost him 100, replace machine , he raised all but 15,000 and he needed it immediately. When I told him I was broke, he said use use 401 K or IRA savings.. My financial adviser refused to send the funds. All along this way people I was dealing with , bank personnel ,financial agents kept telling me it was a scam.
He was so sweet, sending me love notes every day ,phone calls,
I had really fallen for him, I didn't believe until the 15,000 and my financial agent saying if I insisted to send the money that I would have to close all my accounts with them.
Part of the reason I did not think fraud he gave me access to an International bank, signed into his account, (so he could prove he would pay me back), showed he had 7 plus millions dollars and he wanted me to transfer 1 million to my account. Of course it never happened, the code..Cost of transfer COT just did not come to finalize. So girls learn by my experience. I am a reasonably ,smart ,conservative, woman that fell for all the logical reasons, even against my own better judgement.

Do you hand a picture of Jeffrey Scott??

Sounds like the gentlemen that tried to scam me. I asked where was he from, because he texts in broken English. Said he was born in Germany, but lives in Tampa Fl. The he wanted me to send money for his luggage, which was in ....YOU GUESSED IT.....TURKEY! Was to wire a money gram to someone by the name of Aashir Ijaza. The money was to be worth millions, but once he arrives here it would be smaller. He goes by the name of "James Raphel". He lives at "Hangout" if you type in jamesraphel83@ he will surely answer. Oh and has a 5yr ol son named Terry who wants me to be his mother. He's in boarding school, while he Works on a Oil Rig called Turmoil, which doesn't exists.

How do we out pictures o. Here or check them out on line. My guy was Turkey and Germany also

Can you post a picture

I talked to a guy For four years.He worked on an oil rig he was an a engineer He was from Ohio he said but was on a ship in Nigeria He asked for money but I told him I didn’t have money to send to anyone .We talked quite a while His wife died giving birth To his youngest which is a girl he also has an older son . I finially did send money but only once in a while I told him I didn’t work and had no money So let’s say in these four years I have probably sent around 3,000 all together He was good he sent me his passport picture he sent me pictures of his friend and him He sent picture if his daughter and son of a birthday party At his house for one of his kids Showed me pictures of his mom his sister everything he or someone talked to me everyday on the phone but would text 5-6 times a day and talk said he loved me couldn’t do without means that he loved me forever more He was good at what he was doing . Then he wanted me to open a bank account for him he wanted to use mine I said no to that Stupidly I did open one a couple of months back I put 25 in it to start well it was fine Then he got to asking for the I tunes or google card a Sephora card all kinds he never said anything about the account but kept demanding I get these cardsWell I got a letter from chase bank I owed them money I called them I told Then I didn’t send any checks in to look and see
If I had gotten checks I never order checks They cancelled out the order gvv

My guy is in Yemen. His name is Larry Roberto. He has a son named Jason, he’s 15. Larry claims he will die there. He wants to come home. He’s from Italy and his wife died i horrible car crash. Is this guy a scammer?

Yes. Definitely a scam. I am currently talking to a very similar one now and trying to get him to the point of asking for money so I can report him. Italian with 13 yr old son. Wife killed in car accident. Works for the UK medical services. It’s all crazy. Took me a few hours to figure it out but been stringing him for a couple of days now.

Yes it's a scam and as soon as you send money they will come up with another excuse to why it's needed more. You will get stories such as I had stuff stolen, my son is need of surgery or fake Larry will need one...Send money for those reasons and next you may get another email/text stating Larry has passed away from anything they create just to get more money out of you. So sad there are predators out there just looking to cashing money from innocent people.

Hi I have been chatting via email to a so called Doctor in Yemen for a few months. He claims he is working under the United Nations and is from New York. Recently he said they were attacked on the way back from a clinic run. He said he lost all his cards and laptop in the incident. Later he asked me for $1600 to get his flight ticket saying that he will have his debit cards sent to me as it will take 4 weeks for him to receive them. I told him I dont have the money then he says "do you want something bad to happen to me here". He is aware now that i am sure he is a scammer. He is using the name Dr Christian Nelson Mateo.

Ok. This is identical to what I'm dealing with. Except he is a dr in Germany, with an account tied up until January. Asking me to deposit 1000 usd into a LLC acct through the UN. The letters received in the email dont have a letter head. All communication are on hangouts.

I have been talking to a guy, claims he lives in Oregon but from New Jersey. Says he is on a mission in Yemen. No family that he talks to. Calls and texts everyday. Sounds almost Arabic and his English is really good both spoken and written. Has similar humour and grammar. Loves me, wants to marry me blah blah blah.

I had a notion I was being fooled and I spoke to someone at a scam agency. She did a quick check and found that all of the pictures were of a Russian man with a different name. He never asked me for money and when I mentioned that my mom was worried about me because of the special she watched on W5, he demanded to know what I tell people about him and his job and then told me he loved me but needed some time.

Fast forward a week, he called and said that we are over. Because of me, he was forced back to the US and his mission is cancelled. I violated government intelligence. He blocked me...

Dear how did you find him on internet.please advice me.i am in same situation.

I too found out that the person I was talking to was using a Russian man’s pictures with a different name. I would like to compare pictures and share stories to see if it may have been the same person.

My friend is involved with a scammer that sounds like yours. He says he’s on an oil rig in Texas. He is using a Russian musician’s pictures. He claims to be a widow with a college age daughter. Can we compare pictures?

I also am talking to guy who is using a Russian guys picture because he says he was scammed. Would like to compare pics and names. He is bugging me for money for food and it’s getting tiring . I did send him $300 last October but not one dime more. He has tried numerous times begging me for money and he will marry me and buy a house. Fat chance of that.

Hi your guy sounds very much the guy that I am currently talking with , he friend requsted me on face book, and i found out he was using a Russian mans ID, he gave me the name of Scott Parker, apparently lives in Texas however i have reason to believe he lives in Turkey, widow of course , works as an investor but needs $9000 to confirm a contract.
sends fake photos , wont face time as his phone is broke!! born in and from Switzerland calls me baby , sweetie, im playing with him at the moment as he does not realise I know he is scamming me , I have no intention of sending any money!! do you have a photo we can exchange please??

Where can we compare names and pictures. I would be glad to because I am done with him. He got 500 for me and no one else will get a dime. It was hard lesson to learn.

Aw24 If you look under FB for Alexander Sosnin that is guys picture the guy who scammed me was using. Plus I found about 23 other names using that same picture. The name he was giving me was Jackson Joseph but he’d or others working with him would get first and last name mixed up at times. Jackson said he was a sailor for PIL. That’s what info and hope it helps someone else not get taken by him.

I've blocked several people on a game site - one name is: Alex Sosnin ...

Please let me know how to get the real info about the picture. I tried google image search but no luck. Please info on the scam agency name

This sounds very similar to a man I met on Mutual by the name of Joseph Dickson from Michigan. I did request a leave from the UN for him, he told me exactly what to say. The next day they told me how much it would cost. He was in Cyprus as an investigator then in Paris. He got angry when I called him a scammer, however I saw his picture and profile twice on Mutual with a different name and profile. I reported both incidences. These men have no conscience.

dickson Joseph has been writing to me for about a week. I assumed it was a scammer and have been telling him about my cars and waiting for the bomb to drop. He is using decent technology as face time looks legit from a far. The words dont line up with the mouth movements so you can tell that it is tec driven... still he gets a b for efforts. His story gets weird as he forgets things he has said hence the change of name from what is his first and last. He also forgets his daughters age and when he is out of town he boards her... i think he got confused with his pets...

I've been contacted by a US doctor supposedly working in a dangerous situation in Yemen. He hasn't asked me for any money yet but says he is going on a dangerous mission and may be killed. Do UN doctors go on dangerous missions? I've looked him up online and the person he says he is appears to be a doctor but one involved with liposuction not the UN! Has anyone else been contacted by this guy?

I am in similar situation. Same story line just different name and place.


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